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I have a nearly 4 year old nephew that lives with me, my brother uses me as free babysitting and works nearly every night. So I get to put him to bed some nights, other nights I'm not alone but the nights I am alone I have lots of time to observe his behaviors. Here are a couple points that I think are most important.
Note: I understand the nature of raising kids is subjective and usually is influenced by personal experiences. Please keep things civil.
Observations:
>the child will eye me periodically before doing something he isn't allowed to, such as throwing a toy or trying to climb on top of something.
>when asked to do something he will often just say no, shake his head, or laugh. If I move towards him he runs away screaming no and laughing at me.
>if he does something bad, throwing toys, hitting, or being 'mean' to the kitten he gets irritable and starts being mean and screams no while growling.
>if we ignore his bad behavior he will constantly try to get a reaction from us, by screaming, hitting, throwing stuff and my personal worst...slamming doors, opening them and screaming no. Then repeating.
>if we try to get him to do anything he does the opposite, if he has sticky fingers and we ask him to wash his hands, and not touch anything he instead touches everything at least once before playing with toys.
>other stuff. I asked him to put a pullup on for bed, then got a bedtime book, I turned around and he stared at me without touching the pullup and slowly spit onto the carpet. Before sitting down and screaming, singing and giggling out 'sit' which I assume means he can't make the sh sound and that I am also going to have to have a talk with whoever taught him that word.
Now the pediatrician said that some children are unruly until 5 or 6 but I don't know if I can handle his rude, mean, and often dangerous behaviors.
She also recommended spankings if he gets worse which we have tried, sparingly.
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>>17141684
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Spanking didn't help, if anything he didn't care and still acted the same. Some kids spankings help, some it doesn't.
Apparently he does nothing.
I have been babysitting, giving timeouts spending hours trying to get him to bed. Putting up with hours of him yelling at me. Saying he hates me, telling me he is a bad boy, saying he doesn't need to listen to me or saying he wants to kill me. I can't handle the constant stress of him being a sweet boy who likes iron man,...
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>>17141684
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Opie can't you stand up for yourself though? Your brother is USING you. To take care of a kid he doesn't want.
The child probably knows this and also knows that you aren't his real mom and is taking frustrations out on you.
How soon is too soon to go on a date with someone after a breakup?
Long story short:
>be me
>long term bf cheats and we break up
>I hate him but I still want to reconcile
>be two weeks later
>guy with mutual friends asks me to dinner
>said yes
>today is the day
Is it too soon?
>>17141681
highly advise you to not date ur exs friend, unless u want revenge. eventually ur friend will value the guys friendship than ur relationship
>>17141752
The guy who asked me out isn't mutual with ex but with other friends, probably should have specified that
you should go for it.
two weeks is long enough, plus he cheated and you hate him.
move on and worry about your new relationships.
How do I get my neighbors to arrest me?
>>17141680
are your neighbours cops?
in any case, walking up to them and punching one of them in the face should do the trick. or taking a crap on their lawn in full view.
why do you want to do this?
also fuck you just a bit for posting that pic and making me want to play with glitter and sparkly things like the faggot I am.
>Break into their house
>Shoot at their house
>Kill one of them
>Steal their car
>Shit in their lawn
>Climb on their roof, don't leave
>Almost kill one of them
>Barricade them in their house
>Set their house on fire
>Steal their TV
>Sneak...
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>>17141705
Don't know their jobs but I don't think they are police
Had an argument with parents and I want them to arrest me because of that
Sup, /adv/.
I had a date with a girl last week and while I feel that it went well, I don't feel attracted to her BUT I would like to be friends with her and she seems like a pretty cool person.
What would be the most elegant way to go about this?
Both of our profiles say (so yeah, online dating) that we are looking for new friends or a relationship so I presume that there is a room to slide that way.
>>17141664
Just tell her "hey sorry but can we just be friends?"
Just be straight up and say that you dont feel a sexual connection but you do feel a friendship one
why
Any natural tips for concentrated, effective studying besides Adderall and this stuff?
I would realyl like to hear what works for you.
It's not about how long you study, but how many times you retrieve the material. Instead of memorizing for an hour straight, study for bursts of 20 minutes.
You can't passively look at your notes, and hope that it will all stick. Studying is an active process. This is why I also advocate taking notes by hand. Not only does writing encode the information better, in order to take written notes, you have to actively process the information, and sort out the relevant from the irrelevant information.
Make connections. When you're going over information,...
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>>17141778
Thank you for your really helpful post.
Really appreciate that one.
>>17141816
I'm guessing that's what you're having to memorize?
I really need help figuring out if I'm gay or not /adv/ so here it goes
>be me two days ago
>be in a boring ass play during school with my good friend
>we will call him weeb for now
>sit right next to him
>a couple of days earlier when we were in gym running he tells me he is bi
>big surprise for me as he seemed to be REALLY into anime girls and lolis
>pretend...
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>>17141651
You either like dick or don't. Judging from green text that was hardcore gay.
>>17141659
I agree with that statement however I can't explain the feeling I had and I don't like dick so what did all that mean
>thought once I got a job my parents would quit bugging me to make friends
>got one
>now fully functioning productive American
>they won't let up, still get bitched at all the time for spending weekends on my computer
I won't have enough saved for me to move out with a comfortable amount of savings for half a year...
How do I get them off my back?
Ignore them and wait half a year?
>>17141622
Explain yourself clearly to them. They're just worried. If not follow ignore parents route.
just explain to them that you are more happy being on the computer than socializing with people. Some people are like that and it's okay
where do lonely shut ins go to talk with other lonely shut ins in a cam format? Is it still tinychat?
should i ask /soc/
>>17141616
omegle video chat
idk any other cams
>>17141616
Probably. I head there when I'm really drunk
>TL;DR: 4 year old stumbles upon hardcore porn and watches it. Is he gonna be mentally scarred?
>Be me, 2nd brother of 5: (21, the rest are 24, 16, 13, and 4)
>Lurking
>Everyone's at home, but no one's paying close attention to 4 year old brother
>He usually just watches tv and plays with blocks, so there's usually no reason to pay close attention anyways
>Suddenly, everything...
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>>17141581
He probably won't remember it. It's not like he's being heavily exposed to it.
It's really no different than a kid walking in on mom and dad doing the dirty, which most of us have probably experienced.
There's plenty of shit that can fuck someone up, and you'll never know what it's going to be, but people are pretty resilient.
>>17141581
Maybe if he remembers, talk to him about the situation. It's very confusing and scary because lol look at porn from a non sexual view
>>17141581
Don't know why you decided to remake the topic. Your reactions to this, including grounding him in your room, will just confuse him and scar him even more than him finding out the porn. Sex is a natural act after all. Also since he's 4 he'll probably forget about it the next day like every other snot-nosed hyperactive kid.
Just pretend like nothing happened and treat your little brother normally, do not shame him for stumbling across the porn.
Posting here, because well...I don't have anyone in real life I can talk to about this.
A little background first. I'm a married mid 30s guy. Professional, doctoral level. Wife (K) is a late 30s teacher. 3 kids. Married a dozen years. My wife's best friend (L) is early 30s, with 1 kid. L is in a pretty miserable marriage. My wife and I started talking about an open marriage a couple of years ago. We didn't pursue it too heavily, until my wife had a conversation with L, and L let it be known that she would like to have sex with me. Even though my wife thought she would be cool with this, we actually decided not to do it, because it just made her too uncomfortable. So a few months pass.
Somehow, me and L just start texting. It started with innocent flirty sexy memes at first. Long story short, (too late), we're having a full blown affair. Wife and L are out together tonight having a girl's night. I'm at home watching the kids.
I don't know what kind of advice I'm asking for. I know I'm fucked. Because I have feelings far beyond just wanting to have sex with L. We've talked nonstop about how to keep this quiet. We've setup ground rules on how to do things together as low risk as possible. We've tried to break it off several times, but we keep coming back to each other, almost immediately.
I guess I just need some encouragement to quit for good.
>having an open relationship when you have 3 kids
Ew. Fuck this world
>>17141552
Lol you fucked up, hope the kids understand that lying and cheating are not good ways to live
>>17141552
It sounds like the relationship with L isn't the real problem. Your marriage is. Why did you feel the need to cheat in the first place? Even though you have an "open" marriage, this is still cheating since you're lying to your wife who expressed she specifically did not want you to see this person. I'm not being mean, but you really fucked up your marriage.
Your wife deserves to know that you're being unfaithful.
I want to tell her what I feel about her.
I've talked to her yesterday by messages and I won't see her until 2 week's for the last class (not sure if I will see hee) .
Shoulders Of tell her by messages to-day, ones after talking to her? Or wait until I see her.
I don't have any hopes, she already has someone but I want to get it off my chest, I never confessed to anyone before. I don't know what's to do.
>>17141520
Just tell her in person. She might have feelings for you too, but she might be hiding because she doesn't want to get hurt also. If she doesn't well dam, but it's better to fail and try rather to never have tried at all.
Just initiate a conversation. Be all like "o shit, waddup?"...
Seriously though, More context is needed here. Have you talked to her before?
>>17141567
I would have to wait 2 weeks and I don't want to pussy out by then.
I don't think she has feelings, she 22,I'm 19, she has some one since 3 or 4 years who is my opposite physically. He's very tall and she doesn't like short guys (which I am). I am very different from her bf I think
I just want to let that go, I don't want to have regrets but I never confessed before
>>17141570
We are in both college since 2 years, the...
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Hey, guys and gals.
The Doctor is in, so if you have a question about your health, your body, or what that green shit under your toes is, I'm willing to answer and put your mind at ease.
Thread theme for today is Nosia's Groundhog.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yTeE2Jeu5Kk
So what IS that green shit between your toes?
>>17141503
when I eat pork it causes diarrhea and cramping but bacon and other cured pork products don't. What's up with that?
>>17141553
It's any of a number of kinds of fungus. Athlete's foot is a catch all term for any kind of fungus that gets there.
Your feet sweat, and if you keep sweaty socks on for a long time, anywhere that doesn't move too much, like your toenails can end up with an environment that fungal spores can hitch up on.
Any athlete's foot gel or powder takes care of it. However, I have seen one case where antifungal powder didn't do anything. Turns out he just had sock lint stuck under his toe for like 3 weeks.
Im scared that i'm going to kill myself right now. I have 8 hits of ecstacy and im home alone.
>>17141485
DO IT FAGGOT
don't.
>>17141485
Lol eight ekkies.
That's a fun night for me.
Okay guys, I seripuslt need your help, this is starting to become a serious fucking problem, I don't really remember when or how it started, I'm introverted, but I am not depressed, or suffer and other mental issues at the time (which I am aware of, that is), I'm a hardcore /fit/izen, work out daily, people constantly complimenting my physique, but for a while now, I've been mutilating my toenails to the fucking point of this. HOW IN THE HELL DO I FUCKING STOP THIS SHIT? (Pic related, nail 1)
Pic 2, nail after I let it grow, so far I've only managed to get one to grow by focusing more on the other.
>>17141457
Looks like skin cancer, you might need to have that checked out. (Hope I'm wrong)
>>17141481
It's me picking at it dude, not fucking skin cancer. And I'm way wayyyyyy to young to have fucking cancer.
There's been a burning question I've had for awhile now. I'm a dick and I can make guy friends easily because of my dark and asshole humor but meeting girls is really hard because whenever I talk to them I come across as a
weird dick. What do?
>>17141446
don't be a dick in person, save that shit for the internet. Learn to be a socially acceptable dude in public.
>>17141453
But I'm boring when I'm not a dick
Same fucking problem, I can get girls to like me but I feel like a boring loser.
