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What are good (or at least okay) jobs for people who neither have good social skills nor any hard skills or talents, let alone discipline? I'm not particularly good at math, clumsy, a bit awkward and impolite with people I don't know, physically weak and to lethargic to learn anything useful. Additionally, I'm a night owl and seldom able to sleep before 1 or 2 AM. The only thing I'm relatively good at is writing (in my native language, at least) but since I hate journalism in my country I don't see any ways to make money out of it.
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>>17153950
You listed a lot of shit qualities. Instead of trying to find something that accommodates your shit qualities (spoiler: you won't find anything), you need to work on correcting those bad aspects of yourself.
If you didn't suck at maths, I would suggest going on a training course to become a croupier; people will occasionally talk to you, and you need to interact when necessary but most of the time they will focus on gambling/socialising with others.
Every single job out there requires some form of social interaction, so you need to suck it up and try your best. Over time, your social skills will improve, and you'll end up wondering why you ever worried.
>>17153950
You might do well as a mail room worker, warehouse manager, security guard or a public servant in a position of authority! Hmmm...
Just keep going.
>>17153783
Put in your two weeks?
Just do something else when you feel the need. I've been clean for a couple years now.
i've got Spanish exam Friday>What do?
kill urself
>>17153774
Spanish is my native language.
Ask me anything.
study
>24
>never had boyfriend
>All friends in relationships, married or live with each other
I feel inferior to them, I guess because I am. But how do I stop comparing my life to theirs?
>>17153676
Drop social media.
Focus in other aspects of you life like hobbies or health.
I'm 27 and I've never had a girlfriend
you get used to being lonely after awhile
>>17153676
You are inferior in some ways, but superior in others. Focus on that. Or, get a bf/gf on Match.com, or some shit
Hi. I need some serious help.
My gf and I fell in love 4 years ago, but we lived 1000km away from each other. 2 years later we managed to move to an appartment, and lived together since then.
During this period, I step by step realised that she had some kind of mental disease: she gets mad for dumb stuff, she is constantly stressed out and anxious, and at the same time very intimidative and authoritative. As I am a rather submissive person, I tried to get over it, thinking that I could deal with her anxiety, because I love her.
Sometimes, shits got really bad and she threatened to leave me or to commit suicide many times. In these situation, I tend to panic, I remain totally silent because I fear her reaction. I know my attitude does not help this situation, but I feel so powerless when she gets mad.
Even worse, as I enroled an exchange programm, I currently live 1000km away from her (once again) since January. Even though we managed to spend some days together (approx 1 month overall), her anxiety and depression seem to get worse since I left.
Last night, she tried to commit suicide twice, while we were on Skype (we are always "virtually" together). I did not manage to convince her not to do this. Hopefully, she failed (I think she is trying to kill herself with some medicines).
This situation is slowly breaking me appart. I feel quite depressed, I do not go out, I did not make any friend in the place I currently live in order to virtually stick by her sides, I stay in bed all day long... While mentally suffering, I also physically suffer, as I got a rather bad disease due to stress, and I have still some problems because of that since then.
I know it's a horrible thing to say, but I feel like maybe if she succeeded in commiting suicide, I would finally be at peace. But I do not want to. I love her. But I feel helpless. So empty.
Even if you do not have any advice for me, I'd be glad to know what you think about this issue... Thank you.
>>17153639
This is not "anxiety" or "depression".
It's likely BPD instead (borderline personality disorder).
She's abusing you and you need to break it off for your health and sanity.
Tell her parents that she is suicidal.
She is not making your life any better and unfortunately for her, the dice she was given weren't the best.
She may have a psychological/emotional imbalance.
It's not her fault. Or, maybe she just wants to make your life miserable. You really need to sit down and talk to her and be honest and don't hold anything back. Speak your mind and tell her to speak hers honestly. If she gets mad, you need to leave. You tried your best. But, in the end. It's your life.
>>17153653
Yes, I do think she is bipolar. Actually, she even told me she believes she is.
>26
>married
>want to try sex with other chicks
>getting girls online is hard in maryland or maybe just for me
Halp what do
>>17153620
Chicks in their 20s still have that pious naive streak. If you were in your 40s this'd be much easier.
Don't cheat.
>>17153620
I hope your wife will cheat on you too, with some black cocks
I've been with my boyfriend for little over 6 years now. Because of my body image, in average we would maybe have sex 1-2 times a week, which was a problem to him (a problem he mention to me various of times over the years) and I kind of always looked over it, hoping the problem would go away on its own (bravo me). A month ago, I found text messages, of him flirting with a girl online. I cried, bla bla bla we didn't break up because I don't want to break up over flirting. And PUFF, like something clicked in my mind - I'm a sexual person again. I want to have sex everyday, I want my man to be happy. I lost weight, I started feeling great.
But he started being cold to me. With me asking for a month "what's wrong?" he would just say he's not an emotional person (which isn't true, he treated me just fine in the past) and just a few days ago he admitted he feels empty inside. He's unhappy with himself, with what he's done ("look what you made me do" were also his words in the mix) and that everything is flat for him. Nothing makes him happy anymore. When I ask him would he be happy if we broke up, he said no. He loves me and "us breaking up wouldn't make it easier". When I ask him "do you want to be happy?" he answers "I don't know."
I don't know what to do. I fucked up, I admit it. After years and years of him telling me what is bothering him, I decide to change only when something pushes me hard. I'm soo angry at myself for letting this happen. But I'm not happy and I don't know what to do. I wish he would say "yes I wanna be happy, I wanna make it work" but all he does it treat me like somebody who is just "there" and doesn't seem like he wants to be happy with me. This is bothering me everyday, but talking with him about it is like starting another war. I don't want to break up, but I don't know is it worth fighting for? (part 1)
Am I a bad gf if I abandon the ship on the first big problem, but on the other hand I don't want to "try" and maybe, just maybe, one day he'll be "normal" again (which he told me he can't promise me he'll be).
I'm 24. I don't want to "waste" years of my life trying to make him happy again just so that he could one day say goodbye to me when he's had enough.
I know I fucked up and I'm not looking for a magical answer. But I need advice. (part 2)
>>17153526
>Because of my body image, in average we would maybe have sex 1-2 times a week, which was a problem to him (a problem he mention to me various of times over the years)
He chose to stay with you and was attracted to have sex. That should have been an indicator to you that your body was fine. The fact that he talked to you about it and you brushed it off was pretty shitty on your part.
>"look what you made me do"
No. He did it himself. If people flirt/cheat, they will try blame the other person as a copout excuse. They drove him to cheat. They didn't actually. There is zero excuse for cheating. Zero. I've cheated before, revenge cheating when I found my ex fucked someone behind my back. While the reason for me doing so was spurned by revenge, it was me that ultimately made the decision to stick by her, and me that made the decision to cheat. Not hers. The same applies to your man. If he's that unhappy, he splits. Not trying to have his cake and eat it.
As for advice, you sit him down and talk about it. And if he's not willing to work at it, you break up. That's all there is to it. Both of you are expressing things, but not actually taking on point whats said. At first it was you about not having enough sex, although honestly, 2 times a week having been together for 6 years isn't all that bad. Now it's him generally jumping all over the place.
You're in an emotionally abusive relationship and your boyfriend sounds depressed. Good news? You lost weight and are comfortable with sex, replacing him will be a snap. Hop to it.
Quick story:
>Moved out of parents house.
>Living by myself.
>Slowly buying furniture and shit.
Anyway, my next buy will probably be a mattress, however I've been thinking that for centuries humans have slept on the hard floor and only recently we've develop the fancy matress with springs made out of virgin blood and shit so, is it worth buying an expensive mattress?
It is worth buy a few yards of thick fabric, about 3½-4 lbs. of cotton batting, a needle (large), and some hefty thread.
>>17153442
it's worth it if the mattress is actually worth the money, and if you plan to use the same size bed for the next 5-10 years. personally I would not recommend going out and buying THE most expensive mattress. but like most things, a cheapo mattress is going to wear out way too soon. you might luck out and get one of those rare good cheap mattresses. but personally if it were me, I would go with something mid-range.
make sure you do your research and read reviews and product ratings before buying. if you go to a mattress store, they may try to upsell you. but if you decide beforehand how much you want to spend, most reasonably polite salespeople will respect that (though they may try to sell you, say, a $375 mattress if you tell them your upper limit is $350).
if you're on a budget and/or you're still not sure about a mattress, maybe consider starting with a futon and see how it goes. some people's backs work better with less padding, some with more. a futon is cheap and versatile so it's not a bad investment anyway. if it works out, great, if not, start saving and researching for a good mattress. you spend 1/3 of your life in bed, might as well get something that's not going to kill your back.
no one's going to fuck you for an extended period of time if you don't have a mattress. buy used, throw one of those water-proof matresss covers on it. will block any of the undesirable stuff from the mattress from ever coming in contact for you. or drop 800 bucks for a saatva /casper (online retailer) and get ten years of use
Long story short my gf did the big reveal on some pretty serious shit, happened when I asked her to move in with me to a new place. We were already living defacto where she lived before she met me. I want to know what I can do.
I'm 23 m and Australian. Living in Sydney and working as a security guard.
This last week has been horrifying. Everything makes her upset, I'm walking on eggshells
She recently got her provisional car licence so she has been driving my car to get around.
>threatened to kill herself
>refused to talk after I'd calmed her down
>drove to a friend she knew from high schools place to play n64
>got very high
>drove home an hour later
I was out at the shops about a 5 min walk away, I got a text telling me she was gone and I said where I was. so she decides to go out again to give some drugs to her boss.
>Calls back an hour later hyperventilating
>got into a minor car accident, sideswiped on the back left door
>said she would leave soon, I had had 2 beers at this point so I couldn't go get her
>hour later she isn't home
I get pretty worried
I try to call her roughly every 5 min for an hour (22 calls)
Picks up one very confrontationally asking if it's OK to call back in 5 min
>I wait an hour
>she calls saying she is leaving. It's 11:30pm at this point
>gets back at 12:15 (15 min journey normally)
Obviously I demanded she talk to me, I was scared all day at work is have to come home to a dead gf.
>no, just lashed out and told me how I was controlling her
I took the keys with me the next day.
>return after work to an absolute meltdown
>blubbering about how I had put her in a cage by putting stipulations on how she drives my car.
>I told her it was uncomfortable to consider the risk of someone in her situation driving, explained that I had to make assumptions and act on those assumptions
>I understand, but still feel like I'm in a cage.
>sigh ok. Continue consoling her
Continued.
>>17153426
breakup with her if you're not happy. You can't fix someone, and if she has mental issues that she isn't willing to get treated, then you're only going to end up getting hurt. I watched my brother go through something similar
>>17153426
She and I loved each other, it is at the 6 month mark. Older gents and ladies be kind about that, it's a long time to someone our age :)
I'm definitely not as bummed out about the abuse as I thought I might be. I had started practicing mindfulness about a year ago, and was already a chill kind of guy anyway.
But when someone you really care about like that says all of those really awful things about you it is very hard not to feel hurt, I've also said hurtful stuff back although I never yelled it at her.
It's really starting to get me down too. I suggested this morning leaving for a few days to give her space and coming back on Friday (so 3 days away Tue wen thu, back on Fri night after work).
This was met with her crying and telling me to not come back until Monday. I told her no, that situations where she asked me to go she asked me to come back like 10 min later. Told her id stay.
I got home at 6pm today and there was a civilly worded note saying she had covered a shift at work for a sick friend, and for me to go back to my folks for a bit.
So here I am sitting in her/our room. Waiting for her to come back. I've parked my bike around the corner, so she won't know I'm here until she comes to her room. No idea when she will be back. Probably late.
I've been reading "I had a black dog and it's name was depression"
It's been a big help.
Here's a YouTube link to the video by the same guy.
https://youtu.be/XiCrniLQGYc
>>17153436
I feel trapped by my strong feelings for her. I don't want to leave her when she is going through a hard time too.
It's just that this is something that happens every 3 months (once before) and otherwise it's a very pleasant and healthy relationship. She different flip out like this and I'm not sure what is going on with it all.
>In college
>Meet amazing girl in club
>Literally into all of the fun things Im into
>Enjoy spending time with
>Incredibly cute and sexy
>Spend every day of a week together right before finals
>hanging out in cafeteria
>Some guy comes up to me and says he sees me with that one girl all the time
>proceeds to tell me about how much of a slut she is and how easy she is
>literally feeling sick but hes like "dont fall for her bro"
>She sees me talking to him and pretty much guesses why
>says that he hates her and that I shouldnt listen too much to him
>doesnt deny accusations about slutty history, just changes subject.
>tell her that I need time to think
>dont talk to her during finals week
>now that classes are over shes asking if we should hangout again
Why does this happen to me. Im pretty sure this is the first girl that Ive really liked too. Like it makes my previous girlfriends all seem like I was settling. But then she has this repulsive history and I just cant be with her. Its like being cucked.
To the guys who have been in my situation before. What did you do and did you regret it. Were you able to be happy and in love at the end?
>>17153399
First rule in college and work
Don't believe everything you hear and dont trust people who are biased
A guy in my group was trying to get laid in hs with a girl who's now in the same college, he spreads rumors of her being a slut and fucking guys around
She's sweet and okay to talk to and doesn't go around guys that much
We didn't know he was into her until she told us.
He denies it but is really pissy on the subject and she hates him
Who do you trust?
Nobody
If you like the girl go for her, guys and girls talk shit all the time and its especially true for work, mind your own business but keep your ears and eyes open
Id go for the girl, i wouldn't go for her if a person who truly knows her and if im friends with thst person, and i mean good friends, really good
>>17153399
Sounds more like that guy tried to use her as an easy fuck but got rejected, so now he's spreading rumors about her for revenge. If she was really that slutty, why would she bother hanging out with you like a normal person for so long? Sluts would just lay it on heavy and want a quick fuck. Like above anon said, don't believe everything you hear.
Spend more time with this girl and get to know her better. Her character will tell you everything you need to know.
>>17153411
>>17153403
Nah you dont understand. I talked to her about it and she tried to brush it off as a thing in the past and that the details didnt really matter. Its unlikely hes lying.
Ladies, how far does good dick go when it comes to men having power over you?
>>17153246
Don't care. Orgasm is what matters. If his dick can do it, great. I doubt it can, but go for it. Oral is always the more reliable source of orgasm. If a guy can make me cum, regardless of method, I'll gladly submit to him.
Pretty far until she's accumulated a bit of experience. By simple word of mouth, younger women quite often seek out popular men.
Once they're all done with the raw pleasure aspect, they start caring more about the actual person.
>a man having power over me
Is it possible to have sex with a girl who's in unrequited love with you, with the least emotional mess possible?
>>17153196
So she loves you, you have no feelings for her, and you just want to get your dick wet with no consequences?
No, you cannot exit that situation without causing her emotional harm. If you don't give a fuck, go ahead. If you have a conscience, don't touch her.
>>17153196
men like you are the reason I think about dipping my knife in warm water and shearing dicks off before I fall asleep
Obviously. I'm sure they wouldn't mind being used at all. People LOVE being used as human condoms.
>1 year away from getting bachelor's degree
>college suddenly decides my family is too rich for financial aid and only pays 1/4 of it
>have to acquire $15000 by August to even pursue it
I'm not even sure how to articulate how pissed I am, but what financial alternatives are there for funding college? Are there bank loans that work like financial aid, in that I don't have to pay them until graduation?
I know scholarships are another route, but they are way too low-chance to be considered viable.
As for info about me, I'm 21, white, living alone, parents unable to support me, and barely make $15000 a year (retail job). Good credit, volunteer/management experience, and pursuing CS. Clueless about obtaining $15000 in 3 months.
It's called taking a year off, saving up, and then finishing next year.
>>17153178
Loans faggot. Apply to scholarships too. Save up. Take a semester or two off if you need too.
>Wah no more free shit.
Welcome to the real world spoiled bastard.
>>17153178
>Are there bank loans that work like financial aid, in that I don't have to pay them until graduation
Yes, that's exactly how student loans work. You do not accrue interest until you graduate, at which point you are expected to pay the loan back.
Take out the loan(s), and bust your ass hard your senior year to get a paid internship/career, so you can start paying those loans back immediately.
Sucks, but this is what most kids have to do.
I'm almost 22 and I have this fear that I will never have sex with a skinny girl. My current gf is a bit larger.
>>17153151
So fuck a skinny girl.
What's the problem?
>>17153151
cut her in half
then you can have sex with two skinny girls
>>17153163
I'm in a relationship and I don't want to cheat.
I just don't want to spend all my youth with this girl.
I have found my one true soulmate. We get along extremely well and I love her but there's one problem-my family won't approve because she's not fully white (she's half-white) and I must admit that, I too, would prefer someone my own race for the sake of children and genetics.
We are not fully committed to each other just yet so I can still change my mind but...I can't imagine myself living with anyone else. This is really stressing me out. What do? Does everyone have to settle on something when it comes to life partners?
bait harder
>>17153127
>one true soulmate
>do I have to settle?
You have no idea what as soulmate is, and you have no business being in a serious relationship with someone when you are so blatantly retarded.
>>17153127
Just dump her, she is not pure enough.
