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>tfw almost 25 and still live my parents
Is suicide the only remaining option?
How about you try moving out first?
>>17151703
Who cares? If you can't support yourself or you get along with them there's really no need until you're married. Different cultures have different values.
>>17151703
How about you start by losing the gay pink slippers, faggot?
>gf studying abroad this summer
>asked to open up our relationship for that time
>said she's not planning to hook up, but wants to be able to "act freely and party like other girls her age
>however loved me as strongly as ever
I broke up with her on the spot. She's been trying to call and text me the last few days and it's been incredibly difficult to not reply. I'm afraid that I still won't be over it by the time...
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>>17151702
Good job. This man is an alpha.
>>17151702
You did the right thing. You would end up more hurt if you stayed with her.
Well done.
Got raped and now I have chlamydia.
How do I stop feeling so depressed?
>>17151688
File a police report.
>>17151688
Treat the chlamydia
>>17151693
>>17151699
and then get some therapy, in that order.
I spend most of my free time on 4chan. It's pretty much taken over my life. How do I stop coming here?
>>17151496
You simply stop, or are you that much of a wimpy bitch who just keeps coming for more abuse?
>>17151496
You don't. You are here forever.
(Maybe start doing something else, like reading books from >>>/lit/)
Just stop? You can quit cold turkey. It's a psychological addiction, not a physical one. Just need the strength of will.
If you don't have that, take your computer's power cord and hide it away from the computer, so whenever you want to surf the chan, it's a reminder that you're trying to stop, or at least slow down.
Other than that, get another hobby to take your time. I paint, and in highschool went on walks, grabbed a branch, and whittled it into a tiki looking totem, then stuck it into random people's lawns I was walking past when...
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How THE FUCK do you learn to play guitar or learn a new language? Hell, how do you even learn to draw? I don't get it, people make it seem like it's just so damn easy to do these things.
I just want to learn something in a linear and efficient way. Maybe I'm just the type who needs to be in a class or have a teacher..
How do I learn to play the guitar?? Or Spanish???
Start small.
Keep practicing.
Get a guitar, learn some chords or fiddle with it every day. Then pick a song you like and try and get it down.
Doodle in your spare time. Make a comic. Post it on the interbutts for feedback. Improve where you fell short.
Pirate Rosetta Stone and learn some damn Spanish. They teach the simple stuff first. Just be sure to actually use often enough that you don't get rusty or lose it.
>>17151446
You can learn a language completely by yourself or with online courses
If you want to draw check the /ic/ sticky and buy some books
To play guitar i do think you should go to a professor, i started playing guitar as a kid with a teacher and i never had any problems, 10 years later i bought a bass and started learning on my own and then i went to a teacher to get some extra help and i realized that while teaching myself i had developed terrible finger technique and it took a long ass time to correct...
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>>17151446
Maybe you're looking at it as a one-two thing. It's a process; a long one, and it's not easy. When learning an instrument, you don't just go from "I'm ass at guitar" to "I know how to play it" without a gradient.
I'm 19. Girlfriend is 18. Her ex is twenty fucking four.
We've been together about 3 months now. They dated for a year and broke up shortly before we got together.
Their break up was odd. I was her best friend while they were together and when she dumped him she was absolutely livid. Yet they remained in contact, very light compared to how much they used to talk. She was going to slow fade him out. Not respond as much, refuse attempts at reconciliation, etc. I know he was trying to get her back the entire time.
Recently, and by that I mean within...
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She's insisted she has no feelings for him and there's next to no chance they'll get back together.
Anyway, the problem at hand. Last friday, the 13th, we went to a cafe at the end of our date to unwind. It's a nice place, relaxing atmosphere and local musicians perform on the weekend. As luck would have it, he was the musician of the night. I chose the venue so I know for a fact this wasn't some elaborate plan.
After a few songs he noticed we were sitting together and changed the style of songs he was performing. After a rendition of "Sweet...
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You're about to become a cuck my friend
Stop going out with used his and get your life together
![galaxy-nebulae[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/FBG7TsM.jpg "galaxy-nebulae[1].jpg")
How does one overcome this? And don't say "wait" like a smartass.
I mean, I honestly get sporadic panic attacks from simply being aware of my mortality. Being stuck in an overall shitty position with no apparent out only makes it worse, since I feel every day is wasted time being miserable when I want friends and hopes and maybe a lover, who knows.
Anyway, it's really eating at me, but I can't even so much as beat being stuck at home alone, nonetheless the end of all things itself.
>>17151154
We all die--but what we do before that time is what counts. Being in a lousy job can be causing your panic attacks, or at least contributing to them. Depression and stress are tough, but not unbeatable! You may need to make some positive changes so that you're too busy improving your life--and possibly others lives as well--and not leaving yourself time to dwell on this. Refocus and live! GL!
>>17151154
Belive. It doesn't need to be god. You can belive in eternal return or multiverse, reincarnation. Just think how ridiculous is the fact that universe (as we know it) is 15 billion years old. Our earth is something like 5 billion years old, life is 2 billion and just now you are alive and aware of your existence. It's ridiculous. But if our consciousnes is nothing special and we just get born and reborn (albeit with no memories) than it is nothing special that you are alive now. You were always alive (maybe...
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>>17151154
Hey OP, currently suffering from thanatophobia, here's relaying my experience:
It's good to pin point the cause of this anxiety, ask yourself why you are afraid of something you've never done before? Maybe you're not afraid of dying, maybe you're afraid of losing everything you've experienced in life, maybe it's a pride thing? Its the time of the year where a lot of high school kids graduate, or college kids graduate, are you moving to a new chapter in your life? Could that...
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Any jobs I could get that don't require previous experience or talking to normalfags that I can get with a high school education
>>17151109
Kitchen staff
>>17151109
Work at UPS. Just say you're autistic and you won't have to say a word.
>>17151109
>talking to normalfags
That stuff is actually great experience anon. I worked in a convenience store (e.g. 7-11) and Starbucks. Starbucks was fucking awesome because I love the shit out of coffee and the people there were really rad (even though I'm a sad lonely insecure beta twat, I still enjoyed it)
I also worked in a computer factory, that wasn't so bad. So you could try that if you hate the idea of customers.
This is also a good shout - >>17151117 - I also worked in a cafe at an event one time, as the guy who cleans the tables and restocks stuff, it was busy as hell, good fun. I ruined a lady's dress and she made my manager pay for it, lol.
Has anyone used this and how did it affect you?
>>17151063
It's fantastic shit and works. Some people aren't respondents though so purchase a small amount first.
I fucking love it though.
>>17151780
Do you have to get a prescription to get them?
>>17151983
Do you have to have a prescription to buy codeine? No, but it certainly makes it legal to do so.
Modafinil can be ordered online though.
i really miss one of my friends but she cut me out of her life completely more or less.
Blocked me on all forms of communication, threatened me if i tried to contact her, and we don't live in the same town so we probably wont see eachother for a long time.
She flipped out at me over something thats been building up for a while. Basically im almost 100% positive shes bipolar, but she doesn't realize shes bipolar.
She will go into manic states where things that happened in the past make her super upset because she can't stop thinking about...
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Does she have supportive family? Or at least normal family? A circle of good friends? If you answered yes at least to one, then just wait till she unblocks you and bring up psychologist sometime later.
I'll come off as a sociopath, and i kind of am, but I recommend you not to bother hospitalizing her instantly. Unless she is b o t h suicidal and has shit social environment.
Btw, isn't it too much for you to bear so much responsibility on her well-being? Don't get that superman-saviour syndrome. You may convince her going, or may not, people can live with bpd.
>>17150935
i dont know if she needs to be hospitalized, but she definately needs to see a psychiatrist. I would bet that shes had thoughts of suicide, but she never has tried it i think.
Shes not very close to her family i think. Shes told me she is, but shes also told me that she never anyone else the stuff shes telling me because shes so embarrassed about it(a lot of the stuff is like definition of having BPD, i just didn't recognize it cause im not a doctor)
She doesn't have any friends that she reaches...
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>>17150871
Does she have any family or other friends who can get in touch with her? Ultimately she may need some kind of intervention, and you may not be able to provide that. Until she DOES get help, she will remain troubled and those around her will be affected. You don't have many options here as you lost contact with her, so the best advice at this point is to save your own sanity and consider this a blessing in disguise...she closed the door OP, so move on and move forward with your life. If you're meant to see...
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Hi /adv/ I have moved to a new place for work and I am in another state. I love my job, have a longtime gf, and love the SF bay area but I no longer have any friends.
Before I had close buds who I went to school with but it's been more than a year and I have nobody besides the gf.
I really need advice on how to make friends as an adult. It's very akward because I don't know how to meet people. Its really killing me that I dont have a friend circle and just don't know how to make new friends as an adult.
Please Halp
>>17150818
You don't have any co-workers anon?
>>17150818
the following advice was meant for meeting girls, but it works wayyyyy better for meeting friends in my experience:
so how do you make new friend? effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone...
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>>17150833
again, please ignore the little notes about women, and apply the advice to making new friends in general
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your...
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>tl;dr:
>Need haircut, not sure what kind to get
I'm wanting a new haircut. I've had the long, shaggy, messy hair for a long time now. I'm not sure exactly what kind of haircut I'm looking for, but something obviously shorter and more professional looking.
I was wanting to get some kind of side part that I can cover a bit of my forehead since I feel I have too much forehead real estate.
People talk about choosing a haircut that fits your face shape etc. and I have no idea...
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A lot more formal than I'd want it, but it's close enough
I can't pass my fucking written drivers test guys, I study the book cover to cover and take the online practice steps.
I'm 21 years old and I've never been behind the wheel before, how do I pass this written test so I can finally start practicing behind the wheel and get my license?
Also answer should be helpful to anyone who struggles with tests
>>17150676
Sorry OP. I really don't know how to help you since in theory it seems like you are doing everything you should be doing. Have a bump though.
>>17150676
what's stopping you from passing? i'm the same here and i'm 24. the questions i keep getting from the actual test are mostly bullshit, grammar-related designed to trick you and shill more money for a re-test, which is retarded.
gonna try again this week for the 6th fucking time.
>>17150676
Study the answers, it's way easier.
For all you depressed, social anxious and panic attacked fucktards out there:
These "illnesses" are 100% curable but not by the bullshit methods most of the scientists believe in.
Ask me any question, I know the truth behind all that stuff.
That Trump is pretty random, yes.
How do I stop letting anxiety affect my trust in my girlfriend?
>>17150584
while i agree, the people in these positions very rarely want to hear the truth, which is often 'get over it' with some basic tips on how to live their life. they want a magic button that makes it go away (or worse, feign wanting said magic button because they dont want to let go of this 'disability' that they use to define and excuse their lives)
>>17150623
What behaviour of your gf are you afraid of?
>want to quit fapping
>don't want to get rid of my porn collection
What do?
Get rid of your porn collection
>>17150489
It's the labor of years. It's not that big, but I'm incredibly picky so it's hard to find things I like.
>>17150491
But if you don't want to fap anymore, then you don't wanna watch it again, do you?
It's a sacrifice that you have to make in order to achieve your goals.
