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Hey /adv/isors I have a bit of a problem here.
I am a 19 yr old female in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who's 20. We've been dating for 10 months now and I've noticed that whenever I bring up sex or wanting to masturbate with him, he reacts / behaves strangely. We both are into the same fetishes and kinks (BDSM, torture, dom / sub and related) and he's never had a problem telling me about his fantasies.
However, I'm always the one to bring up masturbating or being in the mood. A couple times he's gone with it and masturbated...
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>>17155888
Just tell him to come over for a weekend to fuck.
You have to just try talking to him. Be calm and considerate but be firm. A couple needs to be able to communicate in order to work out as a couple. If this is going to be a problem it has to be addressed.
>>17155888
>Our relationship is rather lacking in this aspect.
You're long distance, of course your relationship is lacking sexually.
Maybe he just doesn't feel like webcam fapping because its weird emasculating. Its not really strange for someone not to want to do that.
Shit, I wouldn't.
I'm going into college for computer science, and I want a good GPA
Any tips on how to not fail out?
bamp
This is obvious advice, but put in enough time, do all your assignments yourself and make sure you understand everything. Don't be afraid to ask professors or classmates for help.
>I'm going into college for computer science
Okay, good so far
>and I want a good GPA
Change your major right now. If you need somebody to tell you "Study and do your homework thoroughly" then you're not fucking cut out for CS.
All you're going to do is drag down the programs even further than they already have been, making all the actually informative classes senior level.
How do I tell my girlfriend I like feet?
She's a very open minded person and she says she's open to "anything" and while I've told her that I think her feet are cute I can't bring myself to say that I want to play with them so more.
When and what is the best way to tell her?
>>17155824
My girlfriend said the same thing "I'm open to anything" and I literally just said "I have a slight foot fetish" and she said she thought it was sexy and likes it when I lick her feet. Literally just say it. It's a lot more common than you think. Like. A LOT more common than you think. And at the very worst the person just says 'no thanks' (like my ex in highschool who spread it around and had everyone calling me names. Naturally I dumped her for being a bitch about it)....
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>>17155957
I meant "unlike my ex..."
Most girls I've been with seem cool with it, even when they don't seem to be it's because they aren't sure if their feet are cute or not.
i start work at a summer camp in the U.S in less than 2 weeks
they've made it clear that they do random drug tests from the start of my application
i've timed it so that when i'm at camp for my first day i'll have been off weed for over a month and off ectasy for over two weeks - this is all well and good if the test is a urine based test
however if it is a hair follicle test, i will test positive to both drugs
tl;dr has anyone been tested for drug use via hair follicle at a summer camp or do summer camps only ever test urine?
thanks!
I've been drug tested many times and it was always by urine, you should be good. Oh and be aware weed is gonna be EVERYWHERE at that camp, try to be smart.
>>17155841
Thanks for the reply mate.
I'm coming all the way from Australia to work at the camp and as tempting as it will be to smoke, I'm gonna refuse simply because if I get caught the camp will get me deported. That'll ruin my post camp holiday plans.
The camp I'm going to work at appears quite conservative. It's not a Bible/Christian camp but it does have a "Jesus-y" vibe about it. Will people still have weed at a camp like that?
>>17155813
hair test is more expensive and almost no one does it.
What does it mean if eating pasta after a long day gives me a serious buzz?
What kind of pasta?
Maybe low sugar? Im under the impresion that pasta gets turned into something like sugar when you eat it. Like slow burn energy.
Someone else who knows this stuff chime in please. Either way google it.
>>17155771
Pasta is a social construct. There's no evidence that pasta is real. Either that or that wasn't oregano.
So one of my best friends is genderfluid and believes in all the "more than 2 genders" but the thing is, I find it extremely stupid. Like I think its one of the most retarted things. But she always wants to talk about it and I don't want to say something that would end our friendship. She is a really cool person but she thinks that I am someone that believes in that stuff. And since I'm friends with her, I get introduced to people like her. I don't know what to do.
Start distancing yourself from her.
You won't be able to change her opinion until SHE wants to entertain the idea.
There are plenty of people in the world that agree with you. Find another friend.
Tell her the truth when it comes up. Be kind about it though, she is your friend after all.
>>17155756
Stop being so nice to people. Speak your mind and confront your friend on how mentally retarded she is by believing on that new age fluid bullshit that kids these days like to call it. She is a slut and wants to get it from both sexes, calling it anything else is just a bunch of horseshit.
If you're really her friend then you'd say something, otherwise just cut her off.
I feel like something horrible is going to happen to me but I don't know what
How do I calm down
>>17155679
Accept that it will. Why? Because in a way it has already. Your body is already reacting to the trauma created by you obsessing over it.
Just accept that you'll die a horrible death being anally raped by dogs while watching your cat being tortured, or whatever the worst of it is. Then just be grateful for every day that doesn't happen.
Enjoy!
Breathe in deeply through your nose, hold a few seconds, exhale through your mouth.
Repeat.
If there's not a specific worry and just a general "something horrible is going to happen", it sounds like an anxiety attack. Focus on your breathing.
>>17155679
What gives you that inclination?
I'm stuck living between two incredibly loud neighbours. One of them used to play loud music early in the morning, before going to work, often waking me up. It got much better after I told him about it though, and there are no hard feelings involved. The other guy though, he is piece of shit. He is basically a unemployed Arab chav who does fuck all whole day and mostly comes alive during the evening or when his 400 family members are coming over. Almost every night it's the same thing. Him and his friends being super fucking loud or him having the television on on max volume. One night he was actually calling me names from the garden, so I know he is fucking with me. I just pretend I didn't hear it. He actually waits until I go to bed and then starts to make noise, often randomly moving furniture at 3 A.M. I know confronting him will only make it worse and I know he won't stop until I'm gone or something. So how do I deal with this shit? I know I could go to the police, but they can't do much as long as he isn't doing shit when they are actually there. I could go to the firm that rents out these appartments but they are not exactly known for their involvement and don't really give a shit as long as you pay the rent. This fag is driving me crazy and I don't feel comfortable living in my own house anymore. I hear him go at it as I type this. So, how do I solve this? Pic unrelated
>>17155677
>hey, I got this issue but I don't want to do these obvious things in an attempt to solve it
Your post embodies the soul of /adv/.
>>17155703
I feel like I'm being bullied and I already explained why the steps I could take probably wouldn't work. This is a social housing project in The Netherlands. He'd only get evicted if he'd stab someone or something. Besides, I don't feel like snitching, even in this situation
>>17155764
It's okay, bruh. You and a thousand others are looking for the miracle cure.
Hi.
Maybe you have any good tips about flirting ?
I have no friends except these at work...
I just opened Facebook after few years, im adding new friends and i want to find some fuck buddy...
For last three years i was totally offline...
>>17155676
Stop using "..." at the end of your sentences. Little things like that make you come across as unsure and child-like.
>>17155689
Thanx i thought the same.
>>17155699
Spell thanks properly too.
it is suffering to not have a girlfriend.
tell me the truth, does the suffering really stop once you get a girlfriend?
>>17155622
Lol how dependent are on others for happiness
>>17155622
Yes and no. Yes because if you have someone who is awesome and has similar interests as you, then it will be so good talking and hanging out together... the downside is that you always have a feeling in the back of your mind that she will go off and get picked up by any sexy Chad that walks by, or that she's talking to other guys and flirting and stuff.
Best way to deal with that is to realize that there are always people like your GF now (maybe without the flirting), and that you are great and can...
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Only if your only problem is being single.
Hello all,
My name is Theodore. Saturday, February 13th, the day before Valentine's Day, my ex girlfriend took her daughter to go shopping. They arrived home around 2pm and they were arguing while they came through the door. I turned around to greet them but instead of something positive I said, "If it's always going to be like this, perhaps you two need to consider moving out."
A month later she was gone. No fight. No argument until we went to rent the trailer the day before she was to leave. She became a huge bitch. Everything had been totally...
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>If it's always going to be like this, perhaps you two need to consider moving out."
Wow you're a huge dick and pretty much told her you're kicking her out and don't want her in your house anymore. And you're wondering why she became a huge bitch and doesn't want to talk to you anymore? If her arguing with her daughter all the time is an issue, did you even try to talk to her about it and get counseling?
Honestly you should not try to get with any other women as you seem to have deep seated issues...
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>>17155555
Yes, I have a savior complex. I'm also a non-violent sociopath. Deadly combination, because I play mind games. Even now I question if I want her and her daughter back or if I just want to get what I want at the moment.
They have always argued since the girl was old enough to react. Her parenting skills were not good. The child had far more respect for me than for her mother and the kid and I got along very well. It's clear there was a jealously issue because there were only problems if it was the...
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>>17155536
>Now she doesn't want to talk to me at all. As a very, very attractive woman, she's been pursued since the day she arrived.
This is actually your issue. You don't want her, but you don't want someone else to have her. Sleeping around doesn't help you because you don't "have" someone. They leave after, you don't get to feel like you have power or control over them. Is there anything you miss about her besides that she was attractive...
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how do i find people that play video games near my block
Hang out on the corner with a Nintendo cartridge hanging around your neck.
I'll tell you, but you have to answer which touhou character you would have sex with
Street pass
I am very delusional, paranoid and I have chronic hallucinations. What drugs can I do which won't worsen these things in the long run?
I don't even know why Im asking this because it was alcohol that gave me hallucinations every night, so what does anyone really know
Bump
How is this not a legitimate condition where the doctors can give you like "recreational but safe" medication because you're obsessed with altering your mind state with drugs.
The question is how to keep doing recreational drugs and which ones to do when you're already quite fucked in the head
Alright ill bite, i also suffer from delusions and paranoia; i exacerbated it by poly drug use, and to stop it getting worse i have gone teetotaler. Now to answer your main question - antipsychotics will lessen the emotional fall out from your psychosis but they also have side effects, but as far as i know there are no "good" psychotropics for people who suffer from delusions and paranoia as they will only make them worse. If your are looking for a doctor to perscribe you recreational drugs just go to a drug dealer you fucking tit.
how can i love myself? Right now im texting a girl who is sending me mixed signals and now shes ignoring my mesages. I feel so crushed and what hurts is thinking if I had of done something different she would be in love with me. She is the prettiest girl i know, kind and even plays video games. Any man would fuck her shes so hot.. i feel so crushed because shes not messaging me..
i feel like the real problem is in my head and i want to heal. I dont know how to meet girls and feel i really fucked this one
>>17155420
theres plenty of hot gamer girls to fuck dw
>>17155426
but how do i meet them? i felt so together before i broke up with my old girl friend..
We are forever alone my friend
Any gay virgins out there? I can kinda understand bottoms being hesitant about losing their losing virginity but is it weird at all that I want to keep mine(exclusive top, not a bottom)? I'm not even technically a virgin since I've fucked quite a few women.
what areu gay or somethin op gtfo
>>17155412
Hoe do you know you like guys if you've never had sex with one?
>>17155558
Because I pretty much exclusive masturbate to gay porn. And I messed around with few guys.
