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Anybody on /adv/ have HIV?
I think I might have it because of my promiscuous past and sex with all those prostitutes. I never got tested because I'm a coward but I finally set up an appointment for later today and I'm really fuckin nervous. I'm just wondering for people who do have it how their life has changed after the diagnosis and anything you could possibly share that would be of any help if I do indeed have it.
>>17154695
Nope, don't have it. I've had one relationship before my marriage and it was a bi guy. From time to time I'd get nervous about having HIV too, because number one the guy was gay, number two he was batshit crazy and number three he wanted to get back together and I didn't want to forgive him for cheating so he swore revenge. But after a few years I was pregnant with my first baby so I got tested automatically. Everything fine.
>>17154695
If you can afford medication, you have nothing to worry about. Medicine is good, little side effects, and ALL people who catch it early live normal lives, with most living to be 80+ (there's a meta study somewhere that showed this)... Only thing that changes is I guess having to announce it to people if you go to a restaurant or something.
I had a scare once after I had sex with a girl, and later learned she was fucking a bisexual guy with prison tattoos that did time for heroine
About more than a year ago I jewed myself out and made a video of myself spazzing out on camera so a company would send me a pile of goodies.
It was all well and good at the time but now I cringe at the video. It's the first thing that pops up when you google my name, in big, bold letters and I fucking hate it.
I've tried contacting the company through email, Facebook and YouTube, with no answers to date.
I just want this shit deleted. What can I do?
I'll need to see the video to help you fully
Make and post something else out that you like.
post link
So I just got out of highschool at 19 because I started school late. Parents dislike me for being bad at remembering things, IE school work and responsibilities. Currently have no friends of GF, no car, no job, and no place to sleep as my parents just kicked me out of the house with my bags packed. I've got all my stuff (mostly clothes) and I can carry it relatively well.
Where's the magic tree that grows money or the nearest and easiest way to kill myself?
Pic related, it was my "last meal" from my parents, a ginger ale and pretzels, my favorite snack. Thanks mom.
>>17154542
Can you go to college?
shelter/church. find a temporary work office. go to library and google.shelter and church will get you food. at night you can sleep by church/shelter to avoid rules plus if you have a tent. get a bike.find a gf at a shelter some have cars and will help you.keep busy by going to the library. talk to a couselor and they will probly help you get housing may take a while
OP got btfo
I have been toying with the idea of having a mmf threesome with my fiancee so I can have a ffm with her.
I am not the biggest guy down below, about 6.4 and 4.25 inches thick. I can fuck her pretty good but we bought a huge dildo that is 6 inches in girth and as long as me. I used it on her last night and her eyes rolled in to the back of her head. I could tell she LOVED it but would not admit it.
She admitted it felt amazing being filled up and lightly stretched after I made her orgasm with it.
I am a little heart broken but I know there is more to the relationship than the size of my pecker. Now that she has had a taste of a bigger dick I am wondering if we should have a threesome with a bigger guy so a real dick can fuck her instead of a dildo.
She has told me the idea of a threesome is hot but she does not want to fuck another man. I am not sure if I should push the issue or not. Watching her be fucked buy another guy is not a turn on for me but I want her to feel amazing.
Anyone been in this situation? I am not sure if it is a good trade to be able to fuck another woman. She has a 41 year old friend with massive tits that I would try get for the ffm.
You're a cuck
>>17154502
lol you idiot. You keep spouting sperghetti like this around her, she's gonna get tired of your cuck shit & leave you for another man - regardless of his dick size.
I just want a nigger dick inside of we guys.
Even if the baby comes out black il just tell people I'm 1/8th negro.
Ex-gf just texted me 'Hey' and I don't wanna respond what should I do?
Guys I want to take a shit but I'm not sure if I should go to the bathroom? What should I do ?
Guys I'm thirsty but I don't know if I should get a glass of water what should I do?
Guys my eyes are getting very dry and starting to get very watery, I need to blink what should I do?
So it seems like my coworkers are avoiding me, ive been interning for about a month and it seems like theres been a change. Ive been reassured that I'm doing well, but recently my coworkers have been acting less and less inclusive as time goes on. We usually all eat lunch together either at a restaraunt nearby or in the office, but the last couple of days they havent been asking me to come with. And today they ate in a different office away from me. I cant help but worry that this means theyre planning on getting rid of me at the end of the internship rather than hire me on full time like they said they would initially. Am I being paranoid or are these clear warning signs?
why would they be avoiding you?
>>17154494
Only one way to truly get to the bottom of this...ASK SOMEONE THERE! You can speculate to yourself into a fit, and still manage to be wrong...
>>17154511
No idea, thats why Im asking
I just bought a used road bike for $660 and had it under a month and enjoyed it very much... Spent a lot of money and time on adding parts, gear, etc. Spent over 1k in total. I locked my bike at a superstore bike rack with other bikes there, it was a busy time. I came back after 15 minutes and it disappeared... filed a police report, etc. detailed description, I'm looking at kijiji and eBay daily if they will sell it... I didn't record the serial number yet but I'll visit the guy I bought off of and pray he has it.
Any idea what I should do to better my chances? Can any experienced bike thieves help me? It was thinking only thing that made me happy.
There was no camera in the corner where people park their bikes apparently but they will look at the camera facing the parking lot... this guy is good and was probably waiting and watching beforehand. Cut through the chain and left nothing.
They gotta make money with these stolen bikes somehow, but I imagine it's too obvious if they try to do it kijiji or something. Any idea how they will sell it? where?
>spending 1k on a bike
You fault m8
Obviously you cannot totally prevent theft, but you can decrease the likelihood your bike will be the target.
Spending the right amount on locks and locking correctly is part of it, the rest is location and the final bit is just fucking luck/timing. 15 minutes is a very short length of time for anything other than an opportunistic theft which would suggest to me you locked it poorly. For my own curiosity how did you lock?
You need a decent chain which cannot be defeated except for bulky croppers for the front wheel and the frame and a decent D or U lock for a second point of attachment, ideally rear wheel and frame which cannot be defeated except for a hydraulic jack and/or severe leverage.
The leverage aspect can be negated by positioning the D or U lock high up off the ground meaning you can't brace anything against the floor and hydraulic jacking can be made difficult by positioning by either filling the D with pole/frame/wheel/rear triangle/crank arm or using smaller U locks which provide little room to position a jack.
It is very unlikely an opportunistic thief will carry both tools as they are expensive and bulky and it'd be time consuming to bust both even if you don't position them in the best manner. Your bike wouldn't be an easy target and an opportunist would move on.
It is possible your bike was specifically targeted by a more informed thief, but 15 minutes is bold as fuck, usually they'd wait for a better window of opportunity or keep an eye out for an easier bike to steal.
Of course nothing will stop someone who really wants your bike, they'll just use power tools or violence to get it and you can't really lock against such situations, it is a numbers game really to dissuade 99% of opportunistic thieves.
I had two nice bikes stolen and police immediately told me prime suspects were people who know me and the bike. According to them random theft for a well secured bike is so rare usually someone with knowledge of my movements planned it.
Im a happy man, i have a girlfriend and we have a kid. life was perfect. And then this woman came into my life and because of her my idea of perfect was not so perfect anymore. My girlfriend became "the thing that is almost the thing that i want...but not quite". Needless to say i had an affair..She was the one. She was my soulmate. I Just knew it.. My girlfriend found out so it had to stop. she forgave me and takes me back...i promised not to hurt her again and im keeping that promise til present...its been a year since it happened...i kept my promise...but all the while i loved the other woman..though it was short i know she was the one..and i let her go because of my responsibility to her and the kid. Im dying inside but i dont want to hurt my girlfriend anymore. I figured its better for me to be hurt longing for someone else as my girl frined had sufferred enough...how do I let go of the "one that got away?"
Your poor kid
You're a fucking piece of shit.
You're worthless, she was stupid for letting you back and not collecting her child support while she has a real man in her life.
How should I respond to my girlfriend? She is self hating, depressive, etc. Maybe not on a dangerous level because 80% of the time she is fine (at work, when we do things, etc.) but very often in the night she starts crying about how awful her life is, etc.
For already one year I'm telling her to find a therapist but she always tells excuses. I'm not sure if it would help her to threaten her of breaking up if she is not going to do something against it. Obviously it is pretty stressful for me as well. Any advices?
You can't force people to help themselves. If she isn't ready for therapy, then that sucks. If it's too much stress on you, I'd break up with her. Whatever she does as a result has nothing to do with you and isn't your fault.
>>17154440
Tell her how her state is affecting yours and that you're very concerned but that she really needs to deal with her problems. That's the thing--they're HER PROBLEMS and if you let them seep into your head, you're really in trouble! WARNING: If you play the "I'm going to leave you if you don't get help" card, you better be ready to follow that through, OP...once she hears those words, the relationship is at a crossroads and you may have to move on! GL!!
Buy her this book off Amazon- it's 6 dollars. Feeling Good by David Burns
Tell her "I need you to read this book. It's been so terrible seeing you like this, and I just want you to be happy. I need you to read this starting today, this isn't a joke" If she doesn't take you seriously, tell her you are considering breaking up with her because her behaviors are so stressful for you.
This book is so profound, and if she reads it and takes it to heart, she can actually become a totally different person emotionally.
Femanon in black, myself in green. This is my best friend's little sister, we've been flirting off and on since thanksgiving. I called her bluff concerning a date, and she got mad at me or something (this was several months ago). Saw her last week, and she just texted me last night.
When will you be back in wny next
>Depends on what's going on I guess. Why? Anything good coming up?
Nahhhh just thought we should chat it up
>Memorial day weekend?
I'll be in Atown maybe but for sister stuff and going out in Etown for my friends bday then maybe the beach in Btown on Monday
I just feel like shit's mad awkward
>what's mad awkward?
My last text was sent at 11 last night, haven't heard from her since. Should I be patient or should I press further?
>>17154402
That conversation is over, don't try to continue it. Instead, start with a fresh new one.
>Hey! I did xxx today. Kinda cool.
Or whatever.
Why, this just makes no sense to me. She pretty much ignores me when Im around.
That is literally the entire conversation, and it was completely out of the blue
She wants the D but she wants to let you be a man and try to woo her, go fail miserably and come back asking advice on how to win her back.
Also stop flirting with your best friends little sister you little rat fuck.
Recently I've had a long string of badluck as have the people around me.A childhood friend recently went to prison, another friend is currently homeless, another went to rehab, another has got robbed at gunpoint recently and another had their house broken in and had $17000 stole from them. As for me Im now jobless, single, and dependent on drugs to feel normal. My ex broke up with me out of the blue and the girl I was trying to date doesn't even reply to my text. The power in my house is currently off, anywhere I apply to doesnt want to hire me, and to top it all off I have to pay off a drug debt by the summer. How can I start changing my circumstances?
>>17154302
stop taking drugs immediately. if you relapse even once, go to rehab. once you have handled your shitty addiction, then you can focus on getting a job.
getting jobs is rough. real rough. it takes time to figure out how to play the system right. advice helps but at best it just gives you guidelines that you still ened to fill with your life. keep applying. its not 'bad luck' to not get a job right away. personally I would not hire a drug addict. and yes you are an addict if you need drugs to feel normal. and yes, people can tell something is wrong with you.
>my ex
>this other girl
you dont have electricity. stop worrying about girls. until you can take one on a date without missing out on the fucking power bill, girls no longer exist for you, capiche?
>friend went to prison
dont do drugs, and you'll avoid this
>friend had money stolen from them
dont do drugs, thereby not racking up debt, and you wont have this issue either.
>jobless
not a good time to be doing drugs.
>ex broke up with me out of the blue.
you are a jobless in debt drug addict. it wasnt out of the blue mate.
>girl wont text me
probably cuz you are a fucking loser.
>no place wants to hire me
if at first you don't succeed, lie, lie again. lie on your resume. and place that needs barista service? claim you worked as a barista during weekly chairty dinners in highschool. they iwll teach you how to use their machine anyway. on top of that you can just google 'barista trianing video' and see how to make coffees.
apply this logic to every 'entry level' job thats seeking some sort of experience.
>>17154316
Thanks anon. I needed to hear this. Ill take this advice with a grain of salt and get my shit together
>>17154327
>with a grain of salt
without a single fucking grain of salt, what is wrong with you? you knwo what that means do you? it means to take it with a sense of skepticism, or at the very least not literally.
every single thing i said was absolutely 100% on point. dont figuratively stop takign drugs. dont figuratively check into rehab if you slip.
LITERALLY.
Taking a girl out on a date on Friday. I'm already nervous as heck. I feel unreal. Me... girl... date... what? Social phobia, that shit makes me shaky. It distorts my thinking. My mouth gets dry and my face freezes. I have nothing to talk about. I look weird. I sound weird. I am weird and awkward.
What to do? Run before it's too late? A beer or two to make things easier?
Pic related. Please help me, /adv/
Realize this girl shits and farts just like you. You're also just a homosapien on a rock orbiting a star orbiting the center of a galaxy. This is petty on a cosmic scale so grab your nuts and shut the fuck up.
>>17154290
I know. I just can't realize it. I know I will fail.
>>17154358
Get your head out of your ass and stop feeling bad for yourself. Everything will be fine as long as you think so.
So everyone's graduating with their masters and jds and phds. Meanwhile, I can't even figure out what to do with my life and I've been working a simple desk job since graduating with my bs two years ago.
I go to the gym, play vidya, haven't been in a relationship in 10 years.
How do you all get what you want? And how did you figure out what you wanted?
>>17154264
By identifying what you want, first of all. What makes you happy? What is your dream? What are your goals?
Then lay out the framework for how you will get those things accomplished. It may mean more school, or moving somewhere else, or joining a rec sports team to meet new people, or going out once a week to a different club to have a good time. Whatever you like. You know you, I don't. As with all things, you learn and grow by doing/trying. So start doing and trying. All things.
>>17154281
>By identifying what you want, first of all. What makes you happy? What is your dream? What are your goals?
This has been ultimately the most difficult thing for me. Even my therapist has asked me to take a break from sessions for a bit for introspection. I simply am into too many things to pinpoint the one thing I want to do.
I do a lot, but don't have that one thing that makes me happy.
>>17154287
I dunno what to tell you, dude. You know exactly what you have to do. This is a "you" problem. You gotta buckle down and find the focus to separate casual hobbies from real passions. Only then can you figure out how to turn your one or two true passions into job goals, relationship goals, etc.
Maybe you guys have already heard me, i've updated this story quite a few times either on new threads or in ask opposite gender threads.
Anyway i don't really have a question, except maybe how do i react to this ?
Story
> Went to a party, met qt girl, she looks at me a lot, laughs at my shit, but she leaves early
> i add her on fb
> we start chatting, she's pretty cool
> hey we actually have a lot in common and she's REALLY cool
> ask her out
> she says she can't
> we keep talking, it's better and better
> finally she asks that we see each other this week
> says that she likes me, even when we don't have anything to say
> overall she's pretty flirty/sexual most of the time
So we were supposed to see each other tomorrow.
I just asked her about tomorrow if she was still okay.
She answers yes, and out of blue says "my boyfriend might be there too, is it okay ? :/ "
Holy shit. She had never mentioned a boyfriend before.
I tried to play it cool and answered with "Oh, i wasn't aware of that". She seemed more embarassed than me. I saw her typing a long answer and then she stopped (She told me she had low battery earlier so she will probably answer tonight)
So, like, what's going on ???
I don't even feel mad at her, i just feel really stupid and a little frustrated, to the point it made me laugh. We had good chemistry and she clearly showed interest.
How should i even react to that ? Was she an asshole for doing this ?
I really don't wanna act like an asshole and insult her or stop talking to her or whatever. I wanna tell her it's okay and we just got confused and that i should have been clearer about my intentions, is that correct ?
Also should i keep talking to her ? I mean she usually initiates conversations and i'm pretty sure she'll keep doing it after that. I don't mind talking to her but now that i know it'll never go anywhere...
Man what a shitty day, i feel stupid
>>17154239
>she had a boyfriend
>who looked like a girlfriend
>that i had in february of last year
>>17154239
there are a lot of women that are incredibly oblivious about these things, for some reason. I wouldn't waste too much thought on it
okay what the hell she just told me that her boyfriend won't be there and she wants me to come so we can talk about it
Oh hell i'll go, i got nothing to lose now anyway
I've been groping the girls in my highshool for months. It started with creepshots then is escalated
I've stopped now but today I got a really strong and sexual urge to do it again.
>>17154210
You're so lucky no ones told, seriously, you could get expelled for doing something like that because you're literally sexually assaulting them.
>>17154210
I'm not sure what advice you're looking for here, but I'd advise you to seek counselling or something because there's a high chance you're gonna get stuck with a sexual harassment charge at some point if this continues into your adult life.
>>17154225
How do I stop the urges?
