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i wanna kill myself. give me your advices. it should be painless and fast. i don't wanna hang on myself cause if my mom sees me she can't forget it forever.
A bit short sighted, worried your mom will never forget when your aim is suicide
>>17161472
I'm not going to aid your death, advice is for improving life
>>17161472
Immolate yourself in a farwaway place. Or put on some cement shoes and drown in an ocean.
Or crash into a hard surface, so it seems like an accident.
Lostallhope is also a good resource.
Those methods I listed will make it difficult to identify/find/verify suicide.
Of course, I know you really don't want to die, and are just waiting for someonw to ask the obvious:
>Why would you want to kill urself anon?
>You got so much to live for!
And that's true. If you look hard enough. Short of being a veggie, there's always a way to have a quality life.
Hi guys
I'm 22. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, she's my highschool sweetheart.
I "won her" while she had a boyfriend in highschool, by being a persistent, loving and manly motherfucker.
When I got her, she was leaving her boyfriend. And thus started our relationship with a really good frame, which is that she viewed me as this awesome guy, which deep down I know I am.
Over the years, I started Oneitising her. The worst part of it is that she set the frame of our relationship from the start. She didn't want us to be "together", and I accepted to be in a kind of "open relationship", because we wouldn't want to lose each other over relationship issues. Buddhism, non-attachment and all that
But my past with girls was really fucked up. I had always been friendzoned, and oneitise'd the girls I thought I was in love with.
I've been a chode all those years, meaning, that I've been a passive motherfucker and ended up : not having sex with any other girl than her, while having good opportunities which I choded out, out of fear of being a man, out of 'respect' for her..
Our relationship was great, she accepted me wholly and literally gave me the shit in bed. But I never felt worthy, I have lacked self confidence and self esteem, and I ended up being the neediest motherfucker in bed. We then completely stopped having sex and I wouldn't want to adress the issue because of my insecurities. I felt deeply in love with her, and I made her my purpose. I didn't set the frame, didn't affirm myself and did all the things I thought she wanted me to do. I ended up being the fucking female in the relationship. She made plans to go out, I followed, to please her.
Now, a few months back, she started affirming herself more and more, and I, as a good gentleman, would let her passively do whatever she wanted. I did not step up. She wanted to move in with me next year, and I was scared of that, because I never worked, am still studying in college. My purpose in life was very clear when we met, and it became foggier and foggier. I completely lost myself in a codependent and needy way of being. While she completely emancipated herself from the viewpoint of me being the man. Because I gave her all the reasons to.
Now, she has met a guy over instagram, and when this happened, I was completely traumatized and reacted by rejecting her and crying alone in my home thinking about how unfair all this situation is.
I love her and want her to grow, and she had set the frame from the beginning that we were not together, because I was "so valuable" that she didn't want a starting and ending relationship. I ended up being friendzoned, and we were sleeping in the same bed for months without having sex. Let me mention that before her, I only had sex with one girl, which was a friend who got into me and liked sex, that's how I lost my virginity. I didn't "take" her, she was all up on me and I didn't know how the hell to be a man. This behavior has poisoned our sex life, and my girlfriend ended up forcing herself to have sex with me, and this built up resentment in her I guess. I'm quite ashamed of myself as of now.
And I've been rejecting her from my life, justifying this because of the fact that she didn't want me in bed, and wanted to see other guys. Which she did, at the time when I was literally waking up and going to sleep crying because of her stepping up and wearing the pants and starting to affirm herself.
I am lost now. She's disrespected me several times by calling me 'egoistical asshole' and saying she felt like the man in the relationship when I went up to see her with my sad needy feelings while she was completely void of any emotions and starting to work and getting her life together without me. I have asked her for help to cure this sadness, which actually made her resent me real hardcore and I think, I fear I have broken what made us such a great couple. Couple that I feel I never had a chance to actually cherish, because I always felt insecure. She's a wonderful, caring human being, intelligent, fun and sexy, and she said that she would actually like meeting the girls I would fuck. But I have almost no interest of fucking anyone, because I feel like the biggest chode who fucked up his relationship and sex life. I have met other girls, but I don't feel like they are worthy of my time, because I compare them to my girlfriend and they aren't as cool as she is. Altough I'd love to fuck them, but I don't feel capable of leading the interaction towards sex.. I am, today, feeling wonderfully lost. I stopped waking up crying, but I still feel a big void inside me.
She used to love coming to my home, we spent all our time together in cherish mode, and I let myself fuck up my studies, I let myself forget about my life purpose, because the feeling of being with her was just enough. Now she said she's afraid of coming because of my behavior... I was content, and I stopped caring. I stopped leading. Not on purpose, but I really got confused, because the lack of sex in our relationship hit me hardcore, and I talked to her about it, and talked, and talked, and nothing coming off from me would reignite her desire. I literally digged my own grave and the grave of my relationship with her. I feel like a fucking moron.. I blame myself all the time, and yet take no action to change things. I used to smoke marijuana, for 6 years, and I've recently stopped because of the emotionnal turmoil it causes me now to smoke. She used to smoke with me and when she stopped, I was still hanging on to the drug and feeling wrong around her because I was insecure about her having stopped so easily and saying things like "I can't believe I smoked so long there's really no point in this fuck I lost so much time", and she is right, but man I felt so judged
Basically, I feel like an emotionnal wreck now. I feel disconnected from my core, and from her, and this is causing me great trouble to live, because I can't think of anything else. In my room, half of the shit there was put there with her by my side. She used to make me feel like the boss, and now, when I see her, I want to cry and tell her to hold me in her arms and comfort me, and to prove me that I'm still her man. And she tried, for a while. But my passive-agressive-needy-chody behavior got into her, and she changed completely her way of seeing me. I feel alone, insecure. I have stopped seeing my friends over time, I closed myself up onto myself and onto the relationship.
What is the true actuall point in life other then the get a job get a wife get a car get a house competent with other so people think you are better then them
hunt that orgasm that'll give you a hearth attack so you can go off in style.
I hate these type of questions.To be happy and not hurt people along the way of finding it I guess
>>17161396
to do what you want. preferably in a way that doesn't hurt too many others.
for me, i have a passion for telling stories. so my spare time is devoted to writing stories. books, radio plays, animations, web series, etc. it fulfills me and i love watching myself escalate and get better while also just putting my feelings into work that others can appreciate. it feels great when you get the one off comment saying 'wow that made me cry'.
but everyone is different.
Girl trouble (again).
I'm 21, going on a date with a 26 y.o.
She's way more experienced than me and can't really see her angle on how she likes me. From the sounds of things she's had her fair share of sexual encounters whereas my sexual conquests are pretty limited.
Am I right to feel emasculated by this? Or should I just man the fuck up?
Man the fuck up.
I met her on the phone at work and been talking to her all week so know her reasonably well for a stranger. Any ideas where would be a good place to take her?
Would a cliché date be terrible?
>>17161393
>am i right to feel emasculated by this
define 'right'? you have the right to feel whatever you want. many other men would feel the same. many would not. shes a sexual conquest kind of woman so its likely you are another conquest, the cute young puppy new to the world of sex. not saying a real relationship wont be there, but shes into you because you are young and new.
enjoy it?
I know this girl for about six months, but I immediatly got along with her when I met her, to the point that we became close friends within few days. She told me about her depression, her problems with her boyfriend (we were both engaged), with her family, really everything. I helped her to get out her depression.
During these six months we both broke up. Fastforward, a month ago. I got rejected by a girl, and she supported me a lot. Like, a lot. She got rejected too a few days after what happened to me, and I did the same for her. And after that, I feel attracted to her. I don't know why.
We spend a lot of time together. We often go to the library, we hang out, we text each other. She also wanted to help me to try again with the girl I liked, she was sure that if she helped me to "polish my image" she would have changed her mind, haha.
But. I'm sure that I'm not her type of man she wants. She's not sexually attracted to me. And that's okay. She's bold, confident, restless. I'm shy, calm, friendly. She actually enjoy a lot my presence, she always said that I make her more relaxed. Since the last rejection, she talks a lot about how she is single, and unlucky because she can't find a boyfriend. We're in the same situation, and we joke a lot about it. She had a lot of unsuccesful stories, so did I.
I don't want to ruin our friendship because of me. So I tought that my best bet is to let her know that I'm attracted to her without saying it. But I'm pretty bad at flirting, sadly.
I'll see her tomorrow, and saturday too. I want to create a chance, if possible. If not, I'll gladly move on; but I wanted to know what do you think, because maybe I'm not really thinking clearly right now.
About my look: I'm pretty fit, decent looking, but ugh, I'm about 5'5. Maybe I should work more on my look, I'm the type of guy who often wears the first thing he finds.
So, what would you do if you were me? Feel free to ask me questions.
>>17161390
You've already crossed the line. You are attracted to her and that can only end in a relationship or heartbreak. It cannot be avoided. So go for it. Tell her the honest truth about your feelings and see what happens.
>>17161390
If you're not good at flirting irl then do it over text or something. If you have good English and can think of words then you should be Ok with this because you're not physically there with her so any awkwardness is avoided because you can take your time to calculate you replies etc.
As for knowing what to say in these texts, a devil may care attitude is best imo. stuff like "what do you wear to bed" has a whole avenue of potential flirtaciousness. Similarly, getting her to subconsciiouslythink of your junk will start tipping things in your favour. for example, if you're texting, take a 15 minute break and tell her you're going or a shower and her sub conscious will have you naked in her body.
whatever the fuck other people say, boys and girls are meant to go out and not be "friends". even on the most innocent level, there's a masculine protectiveness to protect female friends which is a metaphor for possession.
If you keep hinting at the sexual, you'll change her mind about wanting to be "just friends" because that's the way males and females are meant to interact.
One last thing...
You talk about sexual attraction. For girls this means something a lot different than for guys and, as I'm sure you've heard or read before, how you look doesn't really matter. She already knows you care for her, just just doesn't think of you in that way, so soften her up in texts and hint at your intentions before winding up to make your feelings clear.
subliminal sexual messages.
That's the moral of my advice.
ahh, the not-so-elusive friendzone.
Best way out of it every time is to read about how to flirt and then lay it on thick. She'll either go for it or she won't but either way, she'll start recognising you as someone she could date rather than her bestie that holds her hand through her troubles.
Ladies, how far does good dick go when it comes to men having power over you?
Women are weak so if you got that 9in you can do whatever you want
Virtually none
Good dick as in size? Or good dick as in good sex? Because size means nothing to me. Good sex is definitely an influence, but big size =/= good sex. I'd take skill with oral over big dick any day.
Looking for advice on starting intresting engaging convo's on tinder. I get matches, just don't know how to start convo other than saying hey
u up?
>>17161340
advice
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
>>17161377
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
>can't function without meth
>meth getting too aspensive
>have to give up meth
Damn, dawg. What do?
You said it yourself.
>Have to give up.
You just want what you already know coming out of someone else's mouth.
>>17161313
give up meth. preferrably through a legitimate rehab. its damn near impossible to quit on your own. and thats okay. just get help man.
socal?
>>17161313
Give up meth. Get treatment.
Seriously, it ain't worth it.
Why do people even start meth? I can see where you start with other hard drugs but meth is the 1-way ticket to fucked-up-town
Hey /adv/. I can't climax without bending my feet. Is this normal? I haven't been able to cum while standing up and I always need to bend my feet while cumming.
Do any of you have this and is it normal? Any ways to fix it if it isn't?
>>17161273
we all have kinks. for awhile i could not cum without testicular stimulation. good stuff.
its probably becuase you are used to jacking off, and bend your feet when doing os. i had a similar issue where i had to be sitting / lying down to cum. could not cum stnading.
keep trying to do it anyways?
Sometimes when I jack it I can't help but grab my pants and pull them up and down. Jacking off is a personalized experience
>>17161273
For years I couldn't bust a nut unless I tensed up the muscles in my legs as tight as I could. Don't think I took any positive action to change that, it just kind of went away as I got older.
I'm feeling the urge of blocking an ex on whatsapp..
She ignored me for like a year now came back but still avoids me sometimes.
I'm thinking if i block her maybe she'll miss me and want me more? Does that work?
>>17161269
you are retarded.
>>17161269
If she's been ignoring you for a year, she definitely doesn't want you now.
>>17161306
correct
op is a fag
Hey adv, ive got a long story. So here is how it goes. I met my first girlfriend ever here at my university roughly 2 .5 years ago, we began dating like 2 months after we met and despite it being rushed a little we stayed together for all this time. We never really argued because we both agreed to be completely honest with each other at all time. And so we shared a ton of great memories, we were always honest and loyal to each other and were always willing to be open with each other about anything, everything was good. So let's go to about a month ago, out of the blue she told me she caught feelings for a dude she hung out with along with a bunch of friends one day when they all had free time. She asked me for us to go on break , and I said no because I didn't want to sign up just to probably get cucked I gave her some time to think(a week) and eventually I told her I need an answer as to whether or not we were gonna work on this or not. She chose the latter, and so we broke up then. I wanted to ask what do you guy think about this, and do you guys think she may come back later, I assume she wont but what bothers me the most imo was how easily she threw away 2 . 5 years that we made together just because they had freetime to kill, we were both each others first and im just surprised this happened even with all the things weve done.
Being each other's first doesn't mean shit. On top of that, the time doesn't really mean anything either. There are folks that divorce after 20 years and 2 plus kids. Any relationship either outlasts your lifespan or doesn't. Sorry about your breakup, but you should use this as on opportunity to explore thee world of other women who may better understand their emotions. Good luck man.
Move on, she is done with you. Get your closure and cut contact.
This way in ten years you can look back on the time with her fondly instead of with pain and regret.
your biggest problen here is thinking
>throws it away so easy
people break up at all stages of the relationship. two weeks in, two months, two years, two kids, two marriages.
thats a fact of life. it sucks and she sucks, but yeah, time to move on. dont let her back in when/if she comes back.
truth be told you were a first relationship so bound to fail at some point. you got together out of absolute convenience, the first time you two had something that could line up.
relationships gotta be built on more than that.
My SO (of over a decade) and I had a bit of a rough patch a few weeks ago. We agreed to stay level-headed and discuss it like grown-ups, if for no other reason than the kids.
We agreed to give each other space but to also at least make an attempt at fixing whatever was broken every day.
She has chronic insomnia, always has, but lately (about a month ago) she discovered ZzzQuil and it seemed to change her life. She was getting 6+ hours a night (solid) when her previous average was maybe 3 (total) on weekdays.
The ZzzQuil started waning in efficacy and she upped the dosage a little. Still she was waking at 2-4am and couldn't get back to sleep.
She then tried 5 htp, which has worked wonders for me, it worked (sorta) but again, lost effectiveness.
A few nights back she had 400mg of 5 htp and 2Tbsp of ZzzQuil. She's a small girl, and has recently lost weight (summer body maint. time)
It's been a few days now and she's been talking to the air, making exaggerated hand gestures and staring off into space for hours on end. Worst of all, she's ignoring everyone. Me, the kids, everything.
She told me yesterday a voice is telling her lies and taunting her. She also told me it's been going on for about 3 weeks or so (I now recall seeing her laughing at nothing randomly for the pass week or so, but just thought it was the rough-patch affecting her) the voice isn't telling her to do anything violent, just lies and other things.
She is normally very rational, non-religious and non-superstitious, but she believes 100% that some "energy" is attacking her, constantly, and if she loses focus it'll hurt us all. I've shown her info on diphenhydramine overdose and overuse as well as possible seratonin-related side-effects from taking too much 5 htp. She just says I don't believe her and I'm not supportive.
cont...
>>17161248
cont:
It's gotten to where it's affecting my work. I'm the sole earner in the household, she's a stay-at-home mom (it's been our arrangement since about year 4) I've had to rush home to her and call-in as well and I don't know how long it'll continue because she simply refuses to go to the Dr. (I'm not being supportive, I don't believe her, etc.)
We have zero family or friends as we're in an area thousands of miles away from all family and we're both pretty much homebodies.
Thankfully my boss is understanding, but I absolutely have to go in tomorrow and Monday and I'm afraid my wife won't even be capable of taking kids to school or feeding them. She'll just hole-up in our room and call me and ask me to make the 1hr drive to do something that's down the road from her.
How long is this going to last? What the hell can I do? She absolutely will not listen to reason.
Take her to get medical help. Call a psychologist, or if she's that unresponsive a hospital maybe so they can be sure she doesn't hurt herself or anyone else.
All my rules for how much I trust someone are going out the door if they're experiencing some sort of psychosis.
I'm sure you have some more, but man, this sounds like a serious case of needing to pursue professional medical advice directly from a medical professional. No matter what advice you get from here, keep in mind that it may help symptomatically, but not address what is actually happening to her.
Medical.Fucking. Help.
My gf and I have been together nearly 3 years. We made the promises to each other that we will always be together and I took it to heart. Started taking her for granted and being mean and pushing her away because of insecurities. Shit hit the fan recently. I have pushed her to far without realizing it.
We are still together. I made my apologies and have worked on everything I need to. I will not go back to the way I was. She says she wants to work through it and still loves me. But she isn't sure it will.
The uncertainty is killing me I hate having to sit here and feel like I fucked it up. If I lose her I don't know what I'll do. She is the one for me and I feel nothing will be the same.
>>17161246
>and i took it to heart
jesus christ, why? why are straight cis men so obsessed with disney princess movies? this is the only explanation i could find for why someone would truly believe that they will be together with someone forever when they've known them less than any of their friends.
>if i lose her i dont know what I'll do
what everyone else does:
>mourn your loss
>g et better
>live your life
>find other people
remember that a woman only makes you a 'better man' if you are still a better man when she is gone.
otherwise she only makes you a fraud.
You need to take some time away, and get a little bit of clarity. Take the day, go somewhere where you can be completely alone, outside of the house, and think some shit through. If she says she wants to make it work, it means she's not ready to let you go and its really just up to you to do some soul searching and be there for your relationship. You can repair things, just take a little break for a day and remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place. do something really special for her and for each other.
>>17161253
This is basically where it is at. Agreeing to work through it. But that uncertainty kills me and eats me alive. It especially hurts when I ask if it's going to work out and she says she isn't sure.
we are using a texting app (I suggested her this app), I thought we were talking exclusively here but then 2 days ago this happened:
>me: Waiting for bug spray to wear off so I can go back home
>her: 2 hours?
>me: Something like that
>her: I think I have a headache because I got wet this morning
>me: Really
>her: your cousin?
>me: what about my cousin?
>her: they live far away from me
>me: I don't understand, my cousin lives far away from you?
>her: sorry baby, I think you ask my cousin, nevermind
>me: why? I never said anything about you cousin
>her: I was confused
did she accidentally text me instead of someone else? or am I being too paranoid?
>>17161234
Are you talking to a southeast Asian chick? Her English isn't too good.
Also, how long have you been talking?
It's most likely nothing, but depending on how long you've been talking, you may or may not be allowed to have suspicions.
>>17161441
for a year
I was trying to fix the grammar mistakes but posted this too fast to even see my own mistakes
we were not even talking about cousins or anything else. she just said this out of nowhere.
Here's the conversation right before this
>her: I may sleep early tonight, I have a headache
>me: Okay, good night
>her: Are you angry?
>me: No just joking :)
>her: I care about you, please don't be mad at me
>me: that's fine, what are you up to?
>her: taking a shower, you?
>me: not much
So we were 100% not talking about cousins or anything like...
Two questions
What's a good dick size? (6.5 decent?)
And should I shave down there?
Thanks in advance
6.5 is fine. Shave if you want.
>>17161231
depends on the woman. men seem to care more about dick size than women do in my experience.
if you are talking inchest, 6.5 is decent. mine is 6.5 and all i ever get told is how big it is or how beautiful it is (though mines really perfectly shaped) so you should be fine.
>should i shave down there
shaving it bald might be some womens preferences, but the majority of women will find it weird. even if they did find it attrative they'd think you are gay. but the vast majrity would think its weird and pedo-ey or that you are gay.
if you want to trim it thats fine. mine bush grows in pretty evenly and ive gotten compliments. mostly from dudes, but never got any complaints from women. i dont think they care unless its so big that its getting in their face during blowjobs. as long as it isnt naturally extending to half the length of your cawk it should be fine.
>>17161233
>>17161235
Thanks for the input! I'm just a little nervous because I'm hooking up for the first time
