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I'm starting to worry about my standards... like im now at the point where i will probably take any girl I can get that has no distinguished abnormalities and is not incredibly overweight.
Any of the men on here had this problem in there life? Like im pretty fucking clean, maybe on the skinny side but extremely healthy, sporty and i look nice and average but my slanders are plummeting even tho i keep myself to a high standerd... why?
Do you guys feel like this? Btw pic semi related, I almost sent this and yes i should kill myself for contemplating it.
>>17164341
Everything you mentioned in physical. That is your problem. Your personality probably blows dicks. Girls care far more about how you speak to them than what you look like. The sooner you stop thinking girls are like you, and are looking for similar traits that men look for in women, the sooner you can start to realize the things they want out of a guy.
>>1716435
So girls are after intelligence over looks? Like I'm pretty retarded but no go fuck you're self.
Also I keep hearing my personality sucks from people here so let me elaborate, I usually let people walk all over me and am not a yes man but keep my mouth shut and try to see other peoples point of views, now I don't think Im entitled to anything for being a straight edge cunt and being positive to everyone around me, I believe I should atleast beable to pick and choose when it comes to the other gender to a...
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>>17164375
Nope not intelligence you god damn fool. about charisma, personality confidence security etc~
How the fuck are you meant to sleep like this in regards to your non-hugging/off arm (the pic's right arm) if you're the guy?
Most positions (behind me or in front of me) will just lead to shoulder pain the next morning, and having he lie on top of it in any way will lead to numbness
>>17164327
Your left arm under her or the pillow. Comfy as fuck.
>>17164327
That's good for a few minutes of cuddling, then it's get the hell off of me, you sex octopus, roll onto my stomach, and sleep.
It hurts to sleep with your arm just above her head? Is that normal? I always sleep like that...
So, I recently found out that my S.O has received naked photos from someone on an art website. There is nothing serious going on. He gave her some site currency for an explicit picture that isn't on her profile. She never shows her face in the pictures and doesn't seem to want anyone who views her page to know who she is. I'm getting the impression that she does this all the time and it's strictly business.
Honestly, it doesn't seem to bother me because it looks like it was strictly for porn purposes. However, I can't help, but feel like...
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>>17164311
Who is sending who the lewds? You lost me.
>>17164319
A girl on an art site sent my S.O. a nude pic for site currency.
>>17164351
He paid a girl for nudes when he has you for that? That's shady to me, regardless of how "professional" it was. Porn is free, and he should be coming to you with his urges anyway.
How to know if someone is into you romantically? I'm really bad at making first moves, and I'm having difficulties knowing if someone likes me or not, because I learnt not to trust people.
There is this girl I've been going out with for the past three months and I really really like her. We spent all the time together when we are at dorm and uni during the week. I feel like I want something more, but I'm really shit at starting something...she doesn't go out with anyone else but me and I can obviously see that she likes me a lot, but I don't...
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>>17164268
You ask them out.
If she rejects you, she doesn't like you.
>>17164274
What does asking out means? We go together every day to our favorite place just two of us...
>>17164274
Pretty much this OP
I'm in the same situation but even worse (she has a bf) so making the first move is even more difficult
If you don't know what to say, just tell you have feelings for her (regarding the countless hours you spent together) and see how she reacts
If yes you're in
If no then you can move on
If she doesn't know at least she knows you're an option
So stop acting like you have something to lose ! Go for it OP
I am 26 and know very little about expressing male Heterosexuality. I feel so uncomfortable expressing sexuality to women. It always feels inherently predatory and weird or creepy. Like it doesn't feel natural to express it. I realize I am heterosexual but expressing it is the problem.
I feel like women are so free when it comes to this stuff but I as a male who doesn't want to cause anyone trouble... Have trouble expressing what should be natural.
What is the appropriate way to show male heterosexuality? Is it even possible?
>>17164200
Do you watch porn a lot?
Try to love someone before having sex with them, it wont feel creepy or forced. If a girl loves you or even just wants to have sex with you, she will let you know and you will feel welcomed.
>>17164225
I do watch a staggering amount of porn. Like a lot...
I try to lay off it but can't because naked females sooth my mind.
I just hate how telling a woman she is pretty could make you seem hella creepy. No body takes compliments anymore. I don't think any woman has liked me more than a friend. What a weird feeling.
Really interesting problem you got there. As that guy said, watch less porn. I also think that spending times with females you don't want to fuck might help you, for some reason.
Something porn might have taught you is that sexuality is often "serious". Most of my sexual relationships (which means like 3 different girls, I'm not the best guy here) were full of laugther, fun, and awkwardness, and it was perfectly okay. You have to let yourself go and have respect for your partner, I guess.
Also, I don't want to sound like an asshole, but...
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So i won an item that is listed as free shipping, but at checkout it wants extra for shipping.
This bullshit? Ive read with tracking china post loses shit anyway
Any ebay experience?
>>17164189
Usually it's a certain type of shipping that's free, just message the seller and see what's up with it.
>>17164232
I did,and this was his response
>>17164244
Yeah I wouldn't pay and just find another seller to get it from. Demand a refund if you have paid them anything.
All of my friends have moved back home, so now I go out by myself. I manage to talk to people and have fun, but most other dudes aren't interested in making new friends when they go out, and I end up getting too involved talking to other dudes and I don't talk to the girls.
Only had 2 partners in my life, one was a longterm crazy fuck buddy, the other a fat girl hookup. I feel like a failure. I've had sex a hanful of times, and not in over a year, never had a girlfriend, and I'm in my mid 20s. Whenever a girl is interested in me, I drag my feet and...
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Nobody answered you, fuck people.
I'm younger than you so I might not have a lot of answers for you. I can think of one thing that one of my best friend told me, that became kind of my "motto" in life: At some point, the fun stops coming for you. You have to go for it, sometimes create it artificially. It's weird, but that's how it is. Start to read philosophy, get a really great body, go vegan, star in shitty commercials.
About your love life, I feel a bit close to what you're feeling. As cliche as it sounds, I think people are right...
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>>17164180
Thanks for responding. I really appreciate it!
What I mean by staying optimistic is exactly that I do things still. I am eating healthy, read a shit ton of literature, exercise, play classical piano at least 1-3 hours a day, work on research even though I didnt get in to grad school, keep my apartment as clean as fuck, I go outside a lot, all in all I stay busy.
But it's starting to feel repetitive without someone to share with. I'm living in a foreign city, and though I speak the language,...
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>>17164247
I see. By reading your message I felt like the love life was not the main problem: it seems like it is.
Well, I always thought that being a foreigner was the best way to meet people, especially girls. Almost anything you do in that city will be new for you, that's an opportunity for new experiences. It's a bit sad that your friends left. Maybe you should just hang on to the few friend still here and meet their friends, who will introduce you to their friends, etc. Or you could get a hobby that introduces...
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What can you do about having literally the shittiest fucking neighbors ever. Every single fucking day there's some douchebag mowing a lawn at 10 am. Every single fucking day at 7 am my retarded neighbor starts up his motorcycle and just sits there and stares at it as it runs loud as fuck. On top of that all of my neighbors have annoying barking dogs they leave outside all day.
How do I get these retards to fuck the hell off
>>17164079
Grow up and deal with it. Why aren't you up and starting your day by then?
>>17164079
>10am
Wake up earlier you goddamned lazy piece of shit. That's an entirely acceptable time for outdoor work - even late by most measures.
>>17164079
Check noise bylaws in your area.
Help me /adv/
I'm bored of consuming media, i want a hobby, suggestions?
I sucks at music, and drawing.
>>17164054
here are some options that i can think of
- working out/martial arts
- reading and writing
- sports, i would say football but i have no idea what country you are from
- cycling
- woodwork
i dont know if this will help at all. my main hobbies are reading, and working out/boxing.
>>17164054
Those are both things you can improve with a silly little thing called practice, for one.
Secondly, start looking up things related to the media you consume. You likely enjoy things related to the things common there, as there's a reason you consume them.
Start practicing. Nomatter what you start on, you will suck at first. Accept it and improve.
>>17164069
yeah this is true. >>17164067 < this is me and i was shit at boxing first. you need to stick at something to get good at it.
I just broke up with my girlfriend whole I loved and still love. She had done awful stuff behind my back that I heard from her friends and I knew I needed to break up with her so I did it. When I did it, I made it seem like I didnt hear any of that bad stuff that her friends told me. Anyway, she is super hurt and broken n stuff and I feel like a total asshole. Idk what afvice I'm asking for I guess I just need a reminder that it was the right thing to do
She is crying because you left her, not because of what she did yo you. She had no remorse, you should have told her what you know.
>>17164053
Thanks anon that helps a little. I dont feel like I should tell her what I know or really explain anything because I feel like shes not worth the explanation. She doesnt deserve it
>>17164063
Umm, do it for yerself, not for her? Shit aint that hard. And make sure you let her know it was said for your convenience, not hers. You obviously need this as some form of closure
Hey guys I'm have really bad anxiety. At school the other day this dude slapped me and so I punched him in the face then we started to fight. At the end of the fight my face was sore. Now people are saying that I got beat up and I know i did. Now feel depressed about what happened. What should I do?
No matter what anyone says. You defended yourself, win, or lose. You stood up for yourself and your inner man won.
Behave like a child and you will feel like a child.
dude, who fucking cares that you got beat up?
like, why does it matter other than the fact that you're injured?
who gives a shit about what assholes around you have to say, you defended yourself! don't be upset with yourself op. it's ok.
Hi /adv/, this a story I posted a month ago on /b/ (was kinda lost, and needed to vent) please read it.
But now, things are getting critical with the girl and I need you... In a month didn't have the occasion to speak to her face to face, didn't learn that much (except she argued with Dick again) but also yesterday I made her meet some of my friends and she casually talked about him like "Oh you're playing the guitar ? My bf loves playin too"
So after a while, I made up my mind :
>the truth is
>what she needs is a friend like me
>who'll tell her that if she wants to be happy
>if she wants to stop being emotionally dependant/unstable
>she must leave Dick
>she must travel, meet new people
>(that's what I wrote her along with the painting, except the leave Dick part)
>because she never speaks to anybody about her problems
>but there's one thing
>I don't want to be that person
>I don't want to be her confidant
>I don't want to be her friend
>I want to be her boyfriend
>Have my exams next week
>plan.exe
>after exams
>invite her to restaurant
>go to good bar to get some drinks
>go for a walk to a romantic spot
>tell her THE truth
>this will be a huge relief
>mainly 3 ways out
>all sorta positive
>she says she feels the same
>fuckyeah.jpg
>she says she doesn't know
>at least, I'm an option to consider and not a friend
>she says no
>then I can forget her
>'cause she's a bitch that's been toyin with me for a whole year
What do you think /adv/ ? Is it the right way out for the two of us ?
Here's some replies I got on /b/
Was undecided for a while... Was wondering what she wanted from me but I think I got it right now !
You sound like some beta retard. Move on faggot she's just messing with you because it makes her feel important.
I'm probably the only person who actually bothered to read your shit story
My bf treats my like crap but I hate being single more, nobody else is interested in me.
Women are such whorish children.
I have been single for 25 years. Some guys here even more. I would rather wait for a good girl than settle for a slut.
Get some fucking priorities.
>She says without posting a picture or location
Sucks to be you then. If only you had a vagina, you might have had a chance at finding another guy.
>>17164000
They aren't interested for a reason. You dont convey a feeling of stability and cant offer them happiness because you cant like yourself.
You should work on being a better person and gaining self confidence. The first step to that is severing ties to this guy who makes you feel bad.
I have trust issues, had them for a while. Anyone else here that have the same issues that revolve around your partner and such? Trust issues and overthinking is a devilish combination, and I need serious help.
It's sad cause I don't want to trust anyone, I don't want to trust my girlfriend. I don't want to get hurt. It's happened twice already.
>>17163983
>having trust issues and don't trust anybody
>having a gf
when will you kys?
>>17164400
soon.
Write a list of your insecurities/ things you don't trust your girlfriend about. It doesn't matter how irrational they are, make a list with every single one on there and add more as needed.
Now go through it and come up with logical reasons as to why those things are not true/realistic and can't or won't come to pass. If you can't think of reasons for it on your own talk to your girlfriend about your project/insecurities in non-accusatory ways, make it clear these are your own hang ups that you're trying to get through and that you want...
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Basically, I've been with my fiance for 3 years, I love him to pieces, but his family is awfully rude to me. I've never really figured out why, I've never done anything to deliberately upset them. This is both his intermediate family and extended family. They make fun of personal things that happened in my past even though they know it's a sensitive subject, they say he's too good for me, deliberately try to hurt me. They will go as far as to make fun of my friend's suicide.
I obviously can't tell my fiance to stop being around his family,...
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>>17163958
Have you tried articulating any of this at all to your fiance? It could be as simple as getting him to chastise them.
Sometimes families aren't supportive of a relationship, and when that happens sometimes you have to break off connection with them for a while.
My mother cut off all contact with her family after they refused to show at her wedding (because she married a jew). It took them a while but her sisters came around pretty quickly once they were out of their mother's house and her...
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>>17163961
He tells me "what am I supposed to do? They're not going to stop if I tell them to, it's how they are."
I find it so odd that's he's related to them, they're nothing alike (he was always a nerdy shut in growing up.)
He also says that's their way of joking around, but i know it's not just joking.
>He also says that's their way of joking around, but i know it's not just joking.
It probably is though. His family sounds very similar to mine. Very tight-knit and slow to welcome newcomers. Fortunately, hubby could take it (and dish it back). It took awhile, but they eventually came to like him.
