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I'm a 22 year old male who had severe depression since age 14 and schizophrenia.
The only reason I live is for my families sake. I don't want to hurt them. I've been living on sheer willpower for the last years but I don't know how long I can last.
Whenever I think I must live another 40 years or so I feel daunted.
How to stay alive?
>>17165430
Move out. Get a job.
Take the burden of your mental illness away from your poor family, they must be sick and tired of you by now.
>>17165447
I'm moved out but can't do a job. It took me 8 hours today to wash a single cup.
>>17165430
Hang in there man. Maybe a change of environment could be good. The other anon is a bit harsh but there is truth in his words. It can be very stressful for a family to cope with a mentally ill member.
You can live your life. Depression is something that can be fixed. Schizophrenia can be managed. Maybe you don't like the idea of a psychologist shoveling meds down your throat but you could still visit a counselor and seek advice from them. Talk about things. They've trained and seen people like you,...
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Subject sums up my life. 18 yrs old and kissless virgin. Never had a girlfriend. Barely spoke to girls throughout school.
Feel pretty depressed because I don't know if I can ever find someone. What advice can you give me to find a girl that I can enjoy being with?
I'm overweight and have been for several years, so the crucial years where I could have been socialising with girls, I spent hiding from them ashamed of my body, but too lazy to fix it.
Now I am trying to fix it but it will still take a long time. I am 95kg and 6ft.
Also I am an...
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You need to become confident in yourself. Getting in shape, doing well in school, and enjoying a hobby are great ways to build confidence. Women don't like men who aren't confident in themsleves.
>>17165432
Do I still even have a chance though? Most of my friends are not virgins and have had at least one girlfriend in school. I feel like I made a big mistake by wasting that chance
>>17165440
If you a really believe that you are fat and unattractive, then start getting in shape. I'm 6'3" and 190lbs. You wight 15 lbs more than I do, which isn't really that much. The fact that you are 6' puts you way ahead of other men.
Do you have any questions? Do you do well in a certain academic subject?
So I'm a virgin and planning on losing my virginity to my boyfriend. We actually tried the other day, but it turns out my boyfriend is HUGE. It's 8&3/4 inches, no joke. It just hurt too much. Any tips for making it not hurt as bad.
>>17165345
I also have a large penis and several girls had trouble handling it and they weren't virgins. The best advise I have is to go slow and focus on having fun and not just on having intercourse. Get your bf to make you orgasm using fingers and tongue and make sure you are very wet and relaxed (difficult when a virgin). You will become more relaxed with more experience in the fun side of sex so when it's time for intercourse you're not stressed out over all the other aspects (like being naked together or...
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>>17165345
Do you still have a cervix? break that first and let it heal for a couple of days then try sex.
You need to relax your pelvic muscles first. So HOURS of foreplay. If you manage to cum first it will be much better for you.
In my experience it was 200% less enjoyable than I thought sex was gonna be. Just dick back and forth, very boring, the friction is just annoying at first. Then you learn to ignore it.
>>17165437
>Do you still have a cervix?
>break that first
my father died 1 week ago.
I didn't see him for 15 years, he abandoned me when i was 13... never talked since then.
at first i was... "sad"... but then nothin else. it was just like when you spill water on the floor.
i took some days off from work because i thought it was the right choice. but couldn't be able to feel sad.
Now i'm "normal" but at the same time i feel like i can't completely enjoy anithing else..
everytime i'm at a party, playing, making love, drawing there's this voice telling me "he's...
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>>17165314
It sucks that your father died. You'll never have the chance to establish an adult relationship with him or tell him to "fuck off" if that's what you wanted to do. You probably feel that loss.
On the other hand, he hasn't really been a part of your life. His death actually isn't going to affect you any way. People expect you to feel a loss that you're not going to feel. Ironically, some people start feeling guilty because they don't feel bad enough.
Don't.
Grieve...
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>>17165314
Can I ask what you are angry about?
First of all, sorry for your loss.
It eventually gets easier to deal with as times goes on. I'm 30 and I lost my dad at 26. We were really close though. Frankly I haven't been the same since that day. I couldn't enjoy anything for the longest time. I stopped talking to a lot of my friends. Stop pursuing relationships and didn't care too much for sex anymore. In the past couple of months I've slowly started to become the person I used to be but it's still kind of awkward because a lot has happened in 4 years. So even if I didn't have...
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What should I change so I look better (other than smiling, working on that)? Am I actually alright looking or am I delusional?
>>17165311
(edited out a nasty ass zit on my chin)
Facial hair.
>>17165316
As in grow it out?
Like a stubble or full beard?
I'm Swedish and in my senior year at a small private high school that was supposed to be good. It wasn't. Teachers suck, I hate my class, there is 0 fun, etc. I hate everything about it.
There is this large public high school closer to where I live that's really good. Inspiring teachers, great people many of which I know, lots of clubs, nicer building, good reputation etc.
I wish I had chosen that school instead. I fucking hate myself for not going there. It's obvious now that it's better in every way but I was dumb when I picked school....
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Most people mourn those years. They feel they made bad choices; they relive the "if onlys" over and over. You're overthinking it. The other school would not be the glorious experience you imagine.
Most people stop thinking about highschool almost immediately after starting something else. It's really not a big deal.
>>17165304
But my school really fucking sucks and that school seems to be better in every way. In fact it is objectively better.
This school made me depressed honestly. I can't imagine it being worse in that school.
I'm 23, halfway to 24. This is my facial hair on my cheeks. Ive been using castor and coconut oil. How long will it take? Will I have a good-ish beard by 24-25?
All your doing is clogging your pores with that shit.
Do some actual research on what makes hair grow healthy, you're probably lacking testosterone or something .
>>17165228
The good news is that by the time you can grow a beard, the cancerous beard meme phase that bro culture is in right now will be over and done with. They're so gross.
>>17165228
Nigger you will never have a beard, deal with it. Some people can't grow them. Don't try and end up with chin pubes, it's not a good look. Clean shave and low bodyfat works for everyone
What's life like in a UK prison? Do you really get raped?
>>17165218
No, we're not americans. It's just really boring, like most prisons. Avoid gangs and you'll be fine
>>17165222
Thanks for the reply.
Is it possible to get your own cell or do you have to share?
>>17165218
Got to share I'm afraid. 2 men a cell. Raping don't happen and don't trust (strongly mean this) the screws!
My relationship of 5 months ended yesterday.
I broke it off because I felt like I was more attached to her than she was to me. She was the first girl I've had sex with, and the fist girl I ever really had a relationship with.
My feelings of unequal attachment were amplified by the fact that she didn't want to open up to me, and that she still hung out with her ex, who she left me for.
I feel that my neediness and feelings of attachment and insecurity were the primary downfall of the relationship.
What can I do to prevent this from happening...
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>>17165177
Who she left for me*
>>17165177
It sounds like you did the right thing to me.
>>17165188
Thank you. I think we had different goals in the relationship. I think I wanted to be more serious than she did. I just can't shake the feeling that if I had developed feelings slower, and allowed her more time to open up to me, that things could have worked out.
Met this nice girl at my gym. She is 28, a bit older than me and has a master business or something. Just want to know how to handle them, how are they different? Women between the age of 25 to 30.
>>17165172
I like them way better. They usually have something interesting to say and flake less.
They're usually more interested in looking for a husband rather than just a lay, so they're more interested in your job, income and what you like to do for fun and less interested in how your abs look.
>>17165288
Is having lower education such a turn off for them? I never went to college but let's say my job involves saving lives daily. I noticed she likes well dressed men and I have never seen someone so devoted to a job (she is in entrepreneurship and literally goes at every convention/conference possible)
>>17165300
Forgot to add that I still live with my parents at 22. I am saving up some money before moving out
>be me, haven't had sex in 2 years
>girl I met studying abroad has been here for almost a year
>is leaving in less than a month
>has confessed she has feelings for me but I don't reciprocate
>been unable to control my horny level recently
>she lives alone in a single dorm room
>seeing her this weekend and may be able to hang out with her in her room
Can...
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>>17165112
>Might be able to hang out in her room
If you can do this,then it should be pretty easy for you and you won't need advice.
>>17165123
Problem is, I'm a scumbag and I'd be leading her on massively for the purpose of getting my dick wet. What's the best way to broach the subject?
>>17165157
Depends on if you want to be a scumbag and hurt someone or not.
Hi /adv/.
I'm feeling very lost. How can I meet people who like video games and anime without, who aren't also complete pieces of shit?
People who keep up with the bleeding edge of the internet and technology.
I'm so tired of expending effort on befriending people who are, for lack of a term that isn't cringeworthy, "normies." Yeah, I can easily put on an act to meet some Reddit clones, but that makes me sad. I want authentic friends.
I feel like the only chance for a fulfilling social life I'll ever have is online.
People...
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For starters you need to stop perceiving people as "normies" and non normies.
>>17165030
our type is too rare to realistically meet anyone like that in real life. thats why you will end up doing what most of us do: talk about the nerd crap here and hide your powerlevel outside. everyone wears a mask anyway, just make it a part of yours. once you really trust someone you can maybe let them in on some of the things you love.
>>17165038
I put it in quotes for a reason, but regardless, isn't it true?
How would not thinking like that benefit me? I tried rekindling a friendship with a normie friend of mine and he's into atheism now. I witnessed a cliche, stereotypical religious debate he started on his FB.
It's the fucking cliche behaviors that I can't stand, man. I have no passion or interest for stereotypes.
>>17165042
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I'm starting to believe...
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Generally speaking I'm a very unemotional person. I very rarely have emotions like anger, fun or sadness.
However, I have never loved somebody. I once asked out a girl back when I was a Chad. I thought love would come naturally if I spend a lot of time with her. It didn't happen.
Is there something wrong with me, or is love a meme. Do we start relationships only to overcome lonelyness?
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more
Professional help. You could have a chemical imbalance.
Then again, your brain might have developed that way.
You would make a good contract killer.
>>17164743
What does love feel like?
I suppose this conversation was fine. I did not do anything too stupid I hope?
>>17164720
You have managed to succesfully smalltalk OP.
>>17164723
Recently I realized something.
I have no ambitions or achievable dreams.
I just feel uncomfortable with what I'm doing, but if someone told me "well, do only what you want to do!" I would be confused.
I just don't feel any drive inside to do stuff any stuff. I don't have any hobbies, I just want people to think "wow, anon is so smart, handsome and funny!".
I lost my virginity only because I don't want to be seen as a loser. And I go to clubs almost everyday to get laid and be able to say "well, I fucked a lot of women in my life".
The thing that motivates me the most is seeing someone "cool". For example watching a movie with a big masculine dude as the protagonist or watching a harem anime.
My biggest dream is being famous. I'd literally become a Hitler of the 21st century to be a historical character.
>>17164696
If that is your biggest dream then get off your ass.
>>17164702
That's the problem.
There's nothing that interests me. I just want people to remember me and my name. I'd say personality, but it's a persona at this point.
I'd have to work my ass off to be famous for something I don't care about.
I came here for advice how to recreate my personality,
Welcome to the existential malaise of the lost generation.
You're not even close to alone.
Enjoy.
