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Okay, so I generally feel sad alot nowadays. I'm doing poorly in my major, my best friend doesn't like me the way I like her which bothers me, I don't enjoy things much anymore, I feel like i'm never good enough, and I really don't know what I want to do with my life or where I should guide myself. What is wrong with me?
>>17166153
>>17166176
Not trying to sound like one, I really just feel sad all the time, and I usually just want to sleep.
You are depressed my friend. Try taking a 10 minute walk through your neighborhood, admire the present and avoid losing yourself in the past and the future. Go to a park, exercise, run or stretch. Do some physical activity to get your blood pumping and your body warm, this will make you feel alive and good. Also, if you are masturbating a lot, I suggest you cut porn and fapping for a week and see how that makes you feel. Change takes time, so remember to not overwork yourself, if all of these things are new to you then take it slow. Hope everything turns out well for you, anon....
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How can I entertain my partners?
I've been into multiple relationships where the sex was good, but outside that, everything was really boring and bland. My ex always complained that I couldn't entertain them, that I was always too quiet, and I won't deny it. It's true that I never talk. But what can I talk about? I ask them about their day, they are like "was ok", and then... what do I do? If I talk about my interests or what I've seen or idk what, they just go like "ah", and it stops there.
The same is happening in...
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You gay nigga?
>>17166132
This. You've got to clear that shit up, because if you're entertaining a man or women the game changes entirely.
I'm a straight woman.
Hey, /adv/; how can I make my very reserved and private boyfriend more comfortable and open with me?
We have great communication when it comes to our relationship and other important things, but I want to get to know him better without feeling like I'm bombarding him with questions.
So, reserved /adv/isors, what makes you feel more open/comfortable to talk to someone? Or for other anons with private partners, how do/did you get to know your partner better?
Play drinking games. Or just sit around and get plain old drunk with each other.
Alcohol: Bringing people together since forever.
>>17166152
Personally I'm not much of a drinker, but sure, I could give that a shot! (ba dum tss.)
>>17166123
i have no advice for you that doesnt involve some variety of intoxication, but i kek'd audibly at your image. so thanks for that.
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>23 year old gril
>Dating (dated) 31 year old man for 2 months
>Broke up 3 days ago
>Get drunk 1-2 days a week
>Will have a beer or two a few other times a week
>Guy doesn't drink much
>Says he doesn't trust drugs and alcohol
>Says he's been cheated on in the past
>Asked me...
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>>17166099
Why you dranking so much?
You ever consider that maybe he's not trying to be controlling - you two are just incompatible?
He's not only at a different stage in his life (quite the age gap), he wants a different lifestyle altogether. If it's only been a couple months with him, as you said, I would let it go.
>>17166103
I like beer - it's not like I'm getting trashed more than once or twice a week
How do you lose cheek fat for that sexy James franco smile?
I'm down nearly 100 pounds but my cheeks are still thick as fuck
lose more weight. There's no tried and proven way to only lose weight in certain spots.
>>17166048
What exactly are you talking about?
>>17166057
This.
Lose more weight but focus on losing fat and gaining muscle. You can't just "exercise your face" or some other bullshit like that. You might find that you have a fat face or oddly shaped cheek bones. Shitty genetics, but that's your hand. Play it as well as you can.
How do I politely tell guys I'm talking to that I'm a lesbian?
I'm not out-and-proud, and I guess I pass as a straight girl. I don't get too much attention from guys, but when I do, it's really hard for me to tell if they're interested in me, or if they just want to be friends.
I don't know how to mention I'm a lesbian without making it all about me or attention seeking. But because I always just hope the guy isn't interested in me, I've "led on" several guys, and a creepy boss, who I guess assumed I was...
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I just tell them when it comes up (that is, a guy is asking me out).
Some guys pick it up when I comment on cute girls or they see my phone background idk
>>17166042
>comment on cute girls
I like this one. Thanks!
My problem is that, alas, most of the guys I attract are not macho men, but more sensitive be-friends-first types. They're great to talk to, not so much to fend off. Like, with one, I thought we were friends up to the point that he kissed me. And with my creepy boss, I thought he saw himself as like my uncle until his hands were all over my hips.
Often, when something like that happens, I feel so stupid and guilty...
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ow do you know if someone is lesbian? dont worry they will tell you
I want sex, but every time there's a chance to get some I get scared that I'll change my mind at the last second and the guy will flip his shit, and the thought puts me off so much that I don't want it anymore. And yet I keep wanting sex.
How do I make it stop?
just go have sex
then you'll be over your stupid worries
>>17166037
I can vividly remember just how bad it feels to be pushed in dry. I still get a little phantom pain about the sensation and it's been years since I've been fucked last.
>>17166044
Don't fuck dry.>>17166044
Hi /adv/. Here's my problem.
I'm about to turn 26 and I feel unfulfilled.
I work a lot, and got nothing in return.
I love a lot, and got nothing in return
Also, as a male, the lack of a proper sexual life drives me insane. It makes me want to kill myself but in a literal way. It makes me feel like a loser, like I'm way less than the others. It makes me feel like I'm missing out of the best feeling there is (in fact, I'm sure this is the best feeling there is because I'm not a virgin)
I have this feeling like I'm going...
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bump ;_;
>>17166023
what is your job?
I've been addicted to video games since 2014, is there any way I can get over this addiction without giving up on video games forever?
>>17166010
>addicted
>video games
dude you need to just go outside.
I've been playing games since 1990. I'd say I got addicted around 2000 with Counterstrike and Diablo 2. If I had to guess I put thousands of hours into each game, literally thousands.
I've had a pretty normal life otherwise. Been working for 15 years. Went to college. Been in 7 relationships. 3 of which lasted 1-2 years. Have a social life. Point is you can play a ton of games and have a normal life still.
I don't play as much anymore just because I can't find games I enjoy anymore. I did sink a couple hundred hours into each of the Dark...
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It's also a problem when you can't stop thinking about them and you dont see your friends often.
What are some fashion tricks to hide your ugliness?
>>17165999
wear a niqab
man or woman?
Actually, it doesn't matter. guys can use makeup to great effect, too. Also, another piece of universal advice is to dress your age and wear clothes that fit.
>>17165999
Get ripped, lurk fashion forums.
Look at casey neistat, ugly ass 5'9" goblin looking motherfucker, and he could probably still fuck all the pussy he wanted
A chick just recently moved out of the house I'm also renting, and she hasn't returned to clean her room or the bathroom she used, I've got my own shower and toilet and don't share the one that she used. The carpet needs vacuuming and the shelves could do with a dust, there's also shower scum on the shower doors, the landlord lives away and wants me to organize another person to move in. We were both house sharing and there's no lease that we signed.
It's not my responsibility to clean her room, should I just text her to ask if she's...
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Is it just those few things you've mentioned? Would probably be faster for you just to do it yourself than to even contact the girl and sort out her coming back to do it. Do you like your landlord? Then maybe just do them a solid. Might help down the line if you miss rent one month or something like that.
On the flip side, no, doubt you're obligated in any way to clean her part if you really don't want to.
>>17165986
How about a mexican clean lady? I swear to God my appartment has never been cleaner.
>>17166149
I looked at the bathroom and I can see marks where she's tried cleaning the mirror and shower doors so I won't need to bother really, it's just a sharehouse, not like it's getting put on the market.
I'm 21 and I'm just now realizing I may be schizoaffective. How does one manage it and how or what can I do to help?
Many of the symptoms seem to fall in line with a lot of what I've experienced. I never really considered the possibility until I tried some acid about a month ago. As I started peaking I began getting paranoid which quickly turned into fear and I got stuck in a bad trip. Afterwards I always felt something was off about me.
My parents exhibit some features of schizophrenia so genes might be a factor but they've never had a proper diagnosis...
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Go see a doctor
>>17165981
This. Self diagnosing is almost always a dumb as shit thing to do. Even if you're trained to diagnosis this stuff, it's still stupid to try to diagnosis yourself.
>>17165977
This is the first time I've heard of schizoaffective disorder and according to the symptoms it sounds a lot like me. I should see a doctor. You too, OP.
Met a new girl, been dating for a while.
I'm 26, she's 19.
How do you guys think I should go about introducing her to my kids? (2 and 5), both girls.
I'm pretty nervous about how and when I should do this,
I'd like to move her in to my place as soon as I can.
Should I introduce her, then have her move in? or just introduce her as as she moves in?
How do I introduce her? As their new mother?
>>17165959
PS: don't know how I forgot to mention, their mother passed. That's why I am single.
That also complicated things for the older daughter
So, she will be a kid taking care of your other kids?
>>17165965
Why post if you're going to shitpost?
Don't worry hun, you'll find a man, just as soon as you turn 40 next year
ough* bitch* cough
I have been called "unapproachable" on more than one occasion, likewise I have been told I have a aura that says " I'm better than you".
How do I fix this?
Decent looking dude.
On the thinner side, but not a stick, I have some muscle, but not even close to being jacked in any capacity.
How do I stop intimidating people? I don't want to become some punk bitch, but I don't want to needlessly drive people away.
>>17165925
Embrace it.
okay
>>17165925
listen to people
don't excessively talk about yourself
smile
listen to people
be genuinely nice. you sound far too concerned with your physical appearance and seem like a very vain person
I'm a 24 year old girl and never had a relationship
I've passed my prime now though, right? I'm depressed about that, I'll never get to experience what other girls experienced in their younger years
How do I stop feeling so depressed?
>>17165857
Get a boyfriend.
>>17165857
there's no such thing as "prime" you dumbo, you're a woman. You'll always be "in your prime".
Do you believe you've passed your prime? You also shouldn't worry about what others are experiencing because regardless of what you may believe they're all different. Go after what you want, nothing is stopping you but yourself.
