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Quick question:
How do I get my girlfriend to be more independent and give me more space?
I don't want to hurt her feelings, but she hangs out with me more than I feel comfortable with tolerating, and want her to find happiness beyond being around me.
>>17168019
Sit her down and say that you need a bit more space. Put your boundaries. Let her know that you still care about her, and you don't mean it to hurt her feelings, but you need more you time.
Or just start declining invitations to do things. But give an honest answer as "I'm just not feeling it today. Tomorrow though?"
Don't be afraid to be up front about it.
>>17168065
Thank you, will do.
It's hard to do this though. She gets all mad and pouty.
I'll just not put up with it anymore.
>>17168137
Good to know you're gonna do something about it. I've known too many people that are afraid to say anything and then bitch every day because their significant other is smothering them.
I took a course last year with this qt girl, and then never saw her again. We never spoke to each other actually, but I had a crush on her.
So, I found her profile today on facebook and added her. I want to talk to her, but I don't know what to say. Something like "hey let's hang out" won't work because i'm horrible at things like that. So I just need to know if I have a chance with her. If I didn't win her with my face, I won't win her with my personality.
If you talk to her, you'll have a slim chance of winning her over. If you don't talk to her, you'll have no chance at all.
There's literally no downside. I'm assuming never see this girl irl currently, so there's no awkwardness to deal with if she rejects you. Take a chance and message her.
>>17168011
>option 1: anxiety wins
Keep posting on 4chan. This way you won't spill your spaghetti all over the place. You will remain like the sad bird on your post.
>option 2: beta orbiter
Add her on every social media possible. Start texting her with nonsense. Then watch her slowly fall in love with other dude as the time passes away.
>option 3: that guy who tried
Add her on facebook. Make sure you utilize...
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>>17168031
>>17168039
Thanks, I really got nothing to lose since if I don't talk to her i'll probably never see her again. I'm not afraid of being ignored, and if I strike a conversation, i'll be able to notice if she's interested or not.
The problem is: How do I start a conversation? "Hey, we took a course together last year, remember me?" won't work because we never spoke, and I didn't even know her name until recently.
How do I become a prostitute?
23/female btw
charging for sex
>>17168006
Hilarious.
>>17168000
Start stripping at a club, it's inevitable that you'll become a full-blown prostitute after a while.
How do I deal with the fact that my partner tried to put it in my butt when I told him less than 2 hours before that I didn't want him to try anal unless he researches how to do it properly?
He didn't ask me or warn me that he was gonna do it. I told him he could rub it on the outside but I never said to put it in. He put it in and it hurt so bad. He said he "read the situation wrong" and he says he's really sorry. I forgave him but now I don't know if I can trust him since he ignores boundaries that I set beforehand. He says he wants to...
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>>17167998
Tell him he should go to a gay bar and not come back.
Or tell him if he wants to make up, he has to let you fuck him in the ass with a dildo for as long as you want. (don't use lube)
>>17167998
You're being too nice. Make him get on his knees and lick you out until you're satisfied. You deserve at least that much.
>>17167998
Dump him.
Good people don't stick a dick in someone's ass without consensus and lots of preparation.
How does one go about figuring out what kind of porn they like?
I want to rub one out and I literally have no idea where to start.
you want us to jerk you off too?
Goto xnxx
>>17167856
Dutch rudder action..... Alright!
I think i know why my relationships never work. I think it's because I try to hard. I always want the girls i'm with to know i will do everything i can to make them happy, to always be there when they need me. Growing up i never had anyone there for me. Constant abuse and arguing from my parents.i always said to myself I never want someone to go through that with me. Problem is if this is the problem how do i fix it. I don't see a middle ground. It might be if i don't care enough i'll start to care to little. Advice and opinions?
Kinda same here, basically the solution is to care about yourself first and stop acting beta and introvert
>>17167908
I hear ya.It's just sucks when caring about someone pushes them away.
Fuck dude that literally same thing happened to me earlier this week. I'm with you, it's like:if I think about only myself nobody will like me because of how selfish I am. But if I'm caring I get too carried away and it's too much. Just can't win
Told girl that I'll be exclusive with her and that I care about her.
I fucked 2 girls and made out with 3 more since then (7 days ago) and really don't want to see "girlfriend" again.
How do I tell her to fuck off without hurting her too bad? I feel like a piece of shit (I know I set this up and it's my fault, please serious advice only).
I really can't stand to see her again feeling this guilty.
Please help me spare her feelings. She and I have plans to hang out in a few hours.
Op you are a piece of shit.
Just leave her a note saying you are a fag and never see her again.
You can't tell somebody to fuck off in a nice way. Either you change your ways (which you won't) or man up and dump her.
Okay can someone please give me what to write her? I feel like shit I just want to hurt her as little as possible. I just want to smoke weed and pass out tonight.
Hey I haven't posted in adv/ before, but recently my libido's changed quite drastically, I don't really wanna talk about it with anyone I know. I was wondering if anyone can give me some insight?
I'm gonna throw out some background!
>I'm female
>I'm mostly straight
>when I was 14/15 I would think about sex a lot! I would sext quite enthusiastically, get off to porn and stuff almost every day.. I was your typical horny teenager, more sexual than a lot...
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Do you feel anxious or depressed? Are you on any medication?
Also, you can and should go to the doctor if it's that much of a problem. I know it's tough as a 19 year old but you're not asexual and there are people who can help you out better than this shitty board
>>17167786
>this leads me to think it's a physiological cause but i cant exactly go to the doctor coz i'm 19
Yes, yes you can.
>>17167824
Nope! I'm just cynical. Plus a lot of depression/anxiety medications have 'decreased libido' as a side effect so I'm not sure that would help all too much!
Hey im 18 and gay, how the hell do I go out and meet other guys in st.louis on my own? I don't plan on being lonely every day of my life.
Goto the Grove.
It is the gay district.
Goto any of the bars there
http://thegrovestl.com/about/
>>17167788
Thanks I'll check it out
Me and this girl are having sex as friends , just to enjoy it, well its been 1 month now and im starting to actually like her, and everytime we have sex i have the feeling that we are kind of in love with eachother.
The first week we did it was just sex we finished and i left her home or she left my home, well this weeks we've been watching movies and playing videogames.
And she gets closer to me and kisses me and i dont know if this means that she wants to do it again or she is actually liking me.
And no, she does not have sex with other guys and i don't do that either.
>>17167780
That's good you don't have sex with other guys.
>>17167780
Well, what's more important to you, convenient free sex or possibly getting her as a girlfriend? Once you've answered that it's obvious what you should do. Anyway, you should know better than us if talking to her about this will make her break off contact.
>>17167780
If it happens again, ask casually if her kiss meant anything. See how it goes from there.
If it stays unclear, communicate, like you should. Here, I'll help you:
>We've been having a good time after sex often, haven't we?
>uh-huh
>Does this mean we're dating?
>have been dieting for 2 weeks
>just lost control and ate a fuckton of french fries
Should I make myself throw up?
>>17167750
No. You won't gain 15 kg just because you ate the fries. Go back to dieting tomorrow.
Everyone fails sometimes. Don't worry.
>>17167750
nope. depending on where you got them from you can simply calculate how many calories it was. if its less than your daily allowance, then simply only eat whats left of your remaining calories. still hungry? a full sized carrot only has 25 calories.
if you went over your daily allowance, calculate by how much. then run mile for each 100 calories.
still hungry? carrots only have 25 calories.
Everyone fucks up once in awhile on a diet OP, the important thing is to realize that you're human, you made a mistake, and that you're not going to let yourself hop off the wagon due to it.
Just get back to what you were doing, everythings going to be arlight.
I dropped my phone in the bathtub about an hour ago. It was submerged for about a second before I could get it out.
I dried off the outside as best I could, then I took it apart and let it airdry for about an hour. I tried turning it on, but it won't charge past 0% battery.
Right now I have the phone in a bag of dry rice, because that's what was recommended by a few of my friends and some websites. Do you think it's going to work, or am I fucked? How long will it take to know? Are there any more effective methods that I should try instead?
Was the phone on?
Did the bath tub have anything other than water?
If so. Yeah your fucked.
It shorted out.
Try taking it to a cell repair shop. They may be able to bring it back. Maybe
I dropped my phone in the sea. And in a bathtub. And in the sink. Many times.
I feel somewhat experienced.
Leave it in the bag of dry rice for a while, at least 24 hours. It always worked for me. Don't touch it, don't try to charge it.
>>17167735
rice should have been the first thing you did. the thing about air drying is that its drying on the fucking tech, and while doing that its absorbing whatever it can. put it in rice asap next time. that being said, when this happens you can never truly save it. you just make it useable long enough to get a new phone at best.
time to invest in a new phone
So I have to start therapy again or I get kicked out of the house. I would be fine with this if not for the fact that that would mean I would be living in a trailer the rest of my life with my shitty minimum wage job. It's either I talk to this psychologist whore or I lose my education.
Every therapist I've had has tried to convince me that there is something wrong with me, despite my efforts to explain that I am fully satisfied with my life as it is now. My father equates smoking marijuana with mental illness.
TL;DR basically i have to see a therapist...
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So my question is, do I commit sudoku or waste about 25% of my free time talking to a fucking rabid cunt?
If you're even asking questions like "should I be a prick to her?" about your therapist, you should take Shia's advice there and fucking kill yourself. She's not the one giving you this ultimatum, you rectal disaster.
You probably do have something wrong with you. Not because you smoke weed. I'm not even saying you need meds, but therapy would probably be good for you. It can help a lot of people.
I felt "satisfied" with my life for years but had a lot of pain and frustration about what I though were other things. Eventually...
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>>17167711
Therapists want to help people. I've had some who were insensitive, and I've had some who were too touchy-feely to actually get anything done, but a good therapist is indispensable for a thinking person trying to navigate a dumbass world. They exist to make your existence less painful. Sometimes that means helping you compromise in ways that seem like total bullshit, but in the long run it's all about minimizing your suffering.
Why call someone like that a rabid cunt?
srs, if you...
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Hey guys...
I'm.... really scared you guys....
So I took MMDA for the first time tonight and basically I was an unadulterated asshole. It was my mates birthday and I've NEVER been an asshole other than tonight where I just put my head in my hands and fucking lost antipathy for everything and everyone.
And yeah, basically I feel like I've fucked everything up with my best friend and don't know what do. Anyone else had an experience like this? I'm in a really bad place right now
Also just spent the last hour or so lying on fucking dead leaves whimpering like an animal. Basically, I know my main post might have been weird and long winded but I wanna know if anyone else has been in an awful headspace like this and how they dealt with it. Ty
>>17167696
You apologize and say you weren't being yourself.
It's funny because I did something similar when I got super hammered on my pals 18th, then groped and chased his gf around his house.
That friendship ultimately didn't survive, but for other reasons.
Anyway just go say you're fucking sorry.
>>17167714
explain your situation to the ones involved, apologize like a motherfucker and try to set things right
Anyone know a website that will ship contact lenses to me in the US with an expired prescription?
>>17167646
I go to globallens.com. It's Canadian, so it's legit.
>>17167674
They don't ask for your prescription or doctors name?
In the usa. It is illegal to sell contacts to someone with an expired script.
They are medical devices and need a script.
I suggest if your in desperate need. Goto an optometrist with a sob story for a trial pair.
A lens fitting isnt that expensive. I did mine with out insurance for $100
