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I feel like there's nothing left to live for. I have no friends and no family. Nobody to care about me, nobody to motivate me so I'm just an apathetic sack of shit. I avoid changing my life because as I said, I have no motivation. I'm at the end of my wits. What should I do?
>>17170460
Clearly you do have motivation since you want something to happen. Unfortunately, if you're going to keep avoiding changing your life nothing's gonna happen. Things don't come to you if you just sit around waiting for it.
>>17170465
I understand that. But it doesn't have an effect on me.
>>17170489
Well, that's too bad then. Guess you're just going to have to accept your life if you're not willing to do anything about it.
How do I calm down and shut my stupid mouth when something political comes up?
Today I was with my father and world politics came up and 45 minutes later I am still blaring on about how I think X, Y and Z should work and insisting it should work. For example, the topic of welfare came up and I was saying it would be better we cut it off and fix our culture and aim to emulate other countries with much lower crime and much higher levels of education such as countries in east Asia.
I know its stupid but, I find its a good way to vent frustration over the things...
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Don't stop caring. Find people who want to talk politics. Not ur family
Can you think of another activity that would help you vent your frustration? A sport, perhaps?
>>17170407
Realize your opinion doesn't matter and nobody cares. Also talking about politics is rather cringey unless you're a politician or a political science major.
You're just piss in the wind. What helped me is realizing how stupid everyone on Facebook sounded when talking about politics.
Why do I always procrastinate? It's so bad that I just give up and never do what I'm supposed to. Whenever I think about doing something I get this feeling in my gut that basically stops me. And I'm very lazy. What can I do about it?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU
It's a very informative and entertaining video. Tell me what you think about the grid in the end.
>>17170365
There's no easy way out of that cycle. When you do get your shit together, be very vigilant not to let yourself get into old habits again.
Why does my mind immediately convince me not to do something even though I know I have to do it? It makes no sense to me.
Hey /adv/
After a long period of work I have reduced my weight from
105 kg (231.5 pounds) to 83 kg (183 pounds).
Even though I am not very muscular I think I appear at least trained.
I hoped that getting in shape would increase my self esteem and
further more would give me the self confidence to finally success
in making friends, maybe even get a gf.
Jet I still feel self-doubt and it did not help a tiny bit in social matters.
What do?
>>17170341
does anyone have an idea?
Self confidence/esteem does not truly comes from exercise. People often mistakenly think it does, but it comes from accepting yourself and who you are.
Congratulations on the weight loss! It probably feels great to have achieved that, but you've still got plenty to do. Learn to love yourself and unabashedly be who you are, and the rest will come.
Losing weight and body fat percentage is purely for your own self confidence, you're right about that. The next thing you need to do is put yourself in a social situation where you are in your element about the conversation topic so you can exude confidence when you speak to somebody. Start by joining some clubs with topics that interest you or you know a bit about and just practice talking to people.
The greatest advice I can give you is that even if you don't think you did well in a conversation with some strangers, YOU NEVER HAVE TO SEE THEM AGAIN. Take...
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I like a girl from college, we have a great relationship but I dont know if she likes me back, sometimes it looks like she does, but other times it just looks like she is a friendly person to anybody.
I want to be with her, but I dont want to look desperate, how should I sort this out?
dude, why don't you just ask her?
"hey, i know this might sound weird but i just need to ask, do you like me?"
that's it
>>17170326
Well you could try straight up asking her out. Chances are, she hasn't fully decided how she feels about you. A date could be a good way to sort it out.
>based Kate
I think that asking her straight out would put her in a complicated position, specially if she doesnt know what she feels about me yet. Asking her on a date would be a better thing, thing is she has declined hanging up with me twice (once because she was sick and now because she is busy with study).
Thing is, she sits with me in class, even if Im alone, and she has invited me for lunch in the past. Im confused as fuck.
Last fall me and this guy had a falling out.
Since last month though we started talking again and everything seemed to be going great. I don't care if a relationship happens or not, I just like having him as a friend again.
Last night I asked if we could hang out in person someday since i'm currently unemployed and I spend most of my day in the house applying for jobs, he doesn't give me a straight answer and he just keeps trolling. It's kind of sad because I just moved back to Houston after college and all my friends are spread out over the...
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Part 2 of convo
Part three of convo
I like him. Tight game.
Is it harder for a guy with darker skin to get an Asian girl? Specifically Chinese, Korean, or Japanese women? I'm Cambodian and have the same skin color as Rihanna, but I hear that a lot of Asian women are traditional and won't date guys who have dark skin. Where can I find fresh off the boat ones that aren't close-minded?
You're SEAsian, not black. You'd have a much harder time if you were black or Arab.
>>17170289
>I'm Cambodian
Have you met many Korean, Chinese, or Japanese women? You're talking about people from a very racist society which places extreme value on pale skin tone. Its absolutely going to be harder for you, especially for girls who are fresh off the boat.
>>17170297
what about latinos?
Ik am 25 my ex boyfriend is 28 almost 29. He was my first boyfriend for 6 years. We lived together and he wanted to buy a house with me. I suddenly did not feel like settling at this age, plus after an abortion our relationship changed..no I changed.
So last week I broke up, without showing any tears and the next day he wanted me to leave. He blocked me on WhatsApp and we did not talk anymore after I broke up. I miss him and I wish I did not break up like that. We talked a lot already, but I wish we could have talked a bit more. I want to talk to him, we were together...
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>>17170235
Time to grow up OP. You stagnated for 6 years. It's time to move on and change
My feelings and respect go out to your ex.
He placed his faith in you and wanted you around more in his life and you responded by breaking up with him. You shattered his trust and disappointed him after getting his hopes up.
Wait 2 or 3 weeks and write a letter or send him an e-mail apologizing and asking to meet up for coffee. Don't beg for him back or call it a date.
I met this girl recently and things have been going okay but the last few days has been a bit of a struggle to communicate. She usually says she's going to work and then nothing for the whole day. I don't know how to approach this situation. She agreed to come out with me again but I don't know if that will happen.
/adv/ I'm bad at this and I just want to be reclusive again I think
Don't contact her so often. Save the talk for when you see her.
>>17170213
Yeah okay that makes sense. I feel like I'm going fucking crazy. I think the full moon has gotten to me
Yeah quit being an obsessive wank
Is it normal for some girls to not like clitoral stimulation?
If they're a post op tranny or overstimulated.
It is not. What is your situation?
to not like direct stimulation seems common to me.
stimulation in general? can you really dislike that?
I'm done /adv/. I can't handle it any more second. This chick is killing me.
Met her few months ago, been talking ever since, went out few times, had a drink, played 8ball, eat something, me going to her theathre play and so on. Everything seems fine up to the point when I've been fucking around like this since I met her, nothing special, nothing romantic. She comes and goes, been with few guys while talking to me and whenever I started distancing away she'd come back and somehow break-up with those guys. She is giving me mixed signals as fuck. Stopped...
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>>17170180
Being straight-up about this is a good idea, and IRL is better than text. Just remember tact, and you'll be fine.
My one piece of advice: don't mention how long you've been crushing on her unless (and until) you're in a relationship. Pining for someone for a long time is creepy, but it's easy to forgive when you're in a relationship now.
>>17170261
That is what I intend, but I dont know how to go through it, plus I dont know if it is better in real life, in some quiet bar having some lemonade or shit or via text message
>>17170540
Tell her you're interested in her but not interested in chasing after someone who's so flaky. Stop talking to her.
See how hard she tries to keep in contact with you. She'll probably start off light with a "hi" or something similar. Ignore it. If she works her way up to confessing feelings, then you can start talking to her again. If not, she was never as interested in you as you were in her.
A few months is long enough for her to have developed feelings for you; if she hasn't...
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I try not to ever say it but I have depression, but I hate thinking about it because kids these days think depression is something that happens when their iPhone battery dies and they're upset
That makes the word meaningless and I just feel like a faggot for saying I have depression
I'm already on meds, I used to see therapists, and now I'm having often suicidal thoughts and I've basically given up.
Do I just do it? Or do I actually try to get help. I feel like at this point no therapist and shit can help me. I think im beyond saving
No edge btw
>>17170166
why are you depressed though, is it because you're unhappy with your life or is it a case that you should be happy but are not? i was depressed and became a neat for about a years, once i started actually doing shit with my life, i started to get happy.
>>17170166
The first thing you should understand is that your view of reality is actually distorted due to a chemical imbalance. Continue seeing a therapist and changing medications every ~3 months until one works.
>>17170170
For years I've been in this state
Hate my job, can't get a girlfriend, have no drive, every time I'm interested in something I make excuses or I just lose hope
I really do think Im in a slump I cant get out of, this really could be the end of the line.
I don't know what else to do
>Inb4 HUR git fit brah smdh tbqh :^)
>Inb4 HUR go outside more
I do, I did, it didn't help.
Hey folks. I am a restaurant worker who just broke his leg and will not be able to do any serious walking for 9 weeks. Since I obviously can;t have zero income for that long what are some good side hustles for a cripple? I should be able to drive again within several weeks and am somewhat experienced with selling things online. Also, I am in athletic shape, does anyone have some advice for doing gay for pay?
>>17170163
Try part time job in a shop, till work is perfect for cripples and potatoes
>>17170163
Unemployment?
>>17170176
I'll be returning to my old job once i am healed and I will have a hard time getting hired for just 2 months. Thank you though.
>>17170181
Student fag living at home here so not really eligible
So i got a disabled sister you know cerebral palsy and epilepsy. Been feeling like shit lately. Not being able to help at all is killing me from the inside. Is there any way to feel better?
Why can't you help?
OP here. Not earning money yet. Epilepsy is making unrepairable changes to her brain while CP requires expensive rehabillitation. Everyday she gets worse. I don't know if she can recognise me anymore.
This is why I support abortion.
No really as the sister of an autistic brother, like literally legitimately mentally retarded and not that high functioning, this is why I support abortion of those folks who will have a shit quality of life from the very start.
My brother has no friends whatsoever. He will never experience girls. He never gets hugged or kissed. He will never get married. He can't drive. Can't read. Can't read. Can't wipe his ass. He's adept at telling you what he wants though. Is the life you'd want to live? Fuck no.
It...
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I've had the flu for the past 3 days, I'm getting pains in my right side that have stopped.
And pains in my chest around my heart that are continuing.
What do?
I have some penicillin at home if it's an infection.
Sounds like one.
>>17170151
Now think real hard. The flu is caused by a virus. Penicillin kills germs.
>>17170590
Localized pain and flu symptoms are typical of infections.
OP should see a doctor.
