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Anybody here have any experience with inducing an abortion or miscarriage through natural methods? We're not in trouble here, but just in case. My girlfriend's been taking a lot of Vitamin C for health anyway, but that's a bonus, but she wants a more sure (and cheap and easy) pill or herb to ingest. Apparently chamomile and ginger work well, can anybody confirm? Thanks.
The ol' 'eyedrops in the drink' technique should work quite well
>>17171315
No no no, she fully knows about this. We're just looking for more options. She'll just take it as a pill or make chamomile or ginger tea. There's no need for me to sneak around. I don't need anything special or powder or in liquid form.
If you actually mean eyedrops, like Visine, that's poisonous as shit.
>>17171298
That sounds fucking retarded and dangerous anon, you dipshit
![bday-card[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/93h7OSg.jpg "bday-card[1].jpg")
Tell me how retarded am I.
I met this awesome girl in work. At 1st I just tought shes qt but then we started talking and she turned out to be rly smart and we had common interests. We talked more and more, I started driving her to work everyday, then we started eating diners together or going for cofe. We became good friends. Recently she had birthday. I decided it's time. I wrote a birthay card, where I wrote down best wishes shit and I said in it that I fallen in love in her a while ago. I droped the card on her bday morning and I still haven't heard from her....
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halp
Kill yourself to confuse her into falling in love with your dead body
>>17171622
i would if that would help, but right now I doubt it will work
>I have literally no libido.
I don't get horny, Never masturbate, I find other girls attractive but never pursue or want sex with them.
>I can't enjoy anything anymore
I end up trying it and go "fuck this" within less than 10 minutes and just can't do it. If I force myself I just can't enjoy it
>I hate communicating and I am angry or sad 99% of the time
>I cry like a little bitch about the stupidest fucking shit
I...
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I think you most likely have clinical depression. Also, you might be asexual.
>>17171279
WebMD gives you a serious case of BPD
Who are you quoting?
>need to go to doctor
>check my favorites doctors homepage, to see when she is available
>see: Please excuse the inconvenience, but we can not take any more patients
What did she mean by this?
Is it just like long term patients, can i still come in for a quick checkup?
Can't you just go to the surgery and ask? then if she can't see you they can just give you an appointment with the best one available?
>inb4 third world country
>>17171271
>surgery
wat
>third world country
WHAT
I have no idea what you are trying to convey.
Ill just call her tomorrow and ask whats what.
My gf and I have been together for about 1,5 years. We stopped having sex about six months ago. No big deal since we both are asexual to some degree (I fap and thats that). Anyway, today we talked about this and we both look at this the same way:
>both love one another
>but somehow on a friendly (ish) level
>we live together in my apartment in the city
>we didnt break up today, but we talked about it and it sort of feels like we broke up, but we are still...
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If you're both asexual, this wouldn't be the outcome. Seems like there's some underlying issue.
>>17171251
Yes well sort of. I dont miss the sex per say, but I miss the intimacy of sex. My gf says she miss having someone she wants to have sex with (but not me), but that sex isnt everything either.
>>17171265
>inb4 cuck
So your asexuality is part of the problem. Are you guys romantic, do you take her out on dates and do lots of things together?
>if you want to get a girlfriend or have sex, you have to stop caring and go on with your life, it will happen
>if you want something really hard and apply yourself, you will get it.
How to solve this conundrum, /adv/? I want to get a girlfriend and lose my virginity (24 years old) but a lot of times people say that you have to stop caring and that it will happen. But how do I achieve something if I don't care about it and don't apply myself?
>>17171240
girls are attracted to confidence and security. If you are confident with yourself and secure with your life, girls will find you attractive.
If girls think you need a girlfriend to be happy, they will not be attracted to you.
Focus on achieving everything else first, make getting a gf/losing your virginity your lowest priority. Once you've established that you don't need a girlfriend to be happy, girls will take notice.
>>17171252
that's the point: I have to not care
Maybe I can learn to simulate my not caring.
But for example: when you are in a group of people with girls in the group, if you talk about "that beautiful girl you saw the other day", would it be considered needy or alpha?
>try hard or not care
Neither, go out, have fun, don't be boring and don't expect to get laid. Just wait for it to happen.
Can a psychiatrist not tell you the truth about your condition?
I'm asking because my psychiatrists tell me that my diagnosis is autism (not assburger - I mean more severe autism), but I find this diagnosis to be hard to believe in, and too good to be true.
My dad told me that I don't understand it because I have autism.
But what if all of this is some schizophrenic delusion, and I actually have schizophrenia, and my doctors are hiding that maybe I'm in fact schizophrenic from me as they think it would be too shocking for me? How likely is this?...
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>>17171230
If you had schizophrenia, they wouldn't sugarcoat it or lie to you. It's a serious mental illness that requires a full disclosure of information for safety reasons.
You're just autistic.
>The thing is, I have a very good memory in some areas (memorized a few hundred digits in an hour and recited them to my parents), and can do very large mental calculations rather fast, and this seems to be just too good to be true.
Is that not the definition of autism?
>>17171230
>Get someone to throw toothpicks on the floor
>Count them in 3 seconds
If i don't wash my hair every single day i look like a bum who wasn't able to wash his hair for more than a month.
what's up with that shit guys? is there anything i can do about it?
>is there anything i can do about it?
shower.
Stop washing every day. Excessive washing cues your body to produce more oil from your scalp. You'll be gross for a couple weeks but your body will adapt.
You can rinse daily without shampoo if you want
Most people shower daily so this doesn't happen.
How to deal with a narcissistic family member? Ever since they moved in with us they have thrown all types of insults towards me under the rug.
They appear friendly, but turn aggressive like night and day.
No matter what I do, they find something to talk about. I can't deal with his mind games. Confronting him on his shit only makes him
pissed and the situation worse. It's no peace with him.
What do I do?
>>17171171
>they
>him
Is it multiple people? If so, how much?
>thrown all types of insults towards me under the rug
Kick him/them out if they won't be grateful for you taking them in for whatever reason
>>17171171
The same way you deal with childhood narcissism.
You don't acknowledge the little brat when he acts up.
Narcissists try to put themselves in the center of attention.
Avoid letting whatever it is become a big deal.
>>17171181
Just one person.
>>17171189
I don't acknowledge the shit, but he still acts like it is a free card to do whatever he want. Gives me dirty looks at church today and in the mirror of the car while driving. Just seen it out of my peripheral vision.
Hi adv/
Messed up big time and I want to know if anyone has had any similar experiences. Me and my gf have been in a relationship of 5 years, it was great for the most part but over the last few months it has been lacking in the intimacy department. I found myself online trying to get some sort of gratification. Her friends caught me and now all of her family despises me. Have never actually physically cheated but in this day and age it is understandable that this has been viewed just as badly. I have received threats from her father and her mother has in the last 30...
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You fucked up, accept it. What'd you do, send and receive nudes from some girl on Tinder or something?
>>17171165
Nah not tinder, essentially yea that's what it was. I have accepted my fuck up but want to be a better person from it, just don't know if I'll ever get the chance with her parents in the way
>>17171170
Honestly? She might give you another chance, but her friends and family won't. In their eyes, you'll never be good enough for her, and whenever you fuck up again, this'll be something they bring up. If the two of you can deal with this, then you may have a future, but chances are you've ruined a long term future together. And if I'm being honest, if I were in her shoes, how you dealt with what you saw as a problem in the relationship makes you not worthy of being with long term.
I'm an 18 year old senior who basically has no friends, and I'm graduating highschool tomorrow. I'm going to a Catholic university in the fall and I thought I was the only one in my school going there, but I found out that some girl in my grade is going as well. I don't know her ar all, should I introduce myself, and if so how?
If you don't know her now, what's the point? She's no different to everyone else who'll be attending that school
>>17171134
Depends, if she knows you as 'that friendless guy' chances are that stigma will seep into any attempt you make at her.
Honestly, I'd go with a stranger. At least then any prejudice agaisnt you will be based on her first impression of you.
>>17171148
>>17171154
So I should just do nothing? It'll essentially be a clean slate there
It's been nearly a month since we broke up and I still can't stop thinking about her. She hates me because I was needy and I hate being alone.
I have no friends, no family and no life. What do
A month? That's nothing, you should learn to endure it for at least a couple years.
>>17171138
Why
don't worry too much about it, try going out, you could meet some new people, or at least you'll distract yourself a bit.
friday night I took a girl out to see captain america with me. on our way there i told her i liked her outfit and she told me she was cold. at the theater she gave me a cookie. she told me she had baked it at home earlier and I told her it was delicious. she liked captain america but said it was too violent. on our way home we took selfies together. when she told me she was cold again i put my arm around her. while we waited for the bus i put my arm around her and she put her head in my chest and rested it there. while I was walking her home while I had my arm around her she...
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She's busy with a family event. Come on man, this is straight forward shit, she clearly likes you and wants to talk to you but you're just starting to date and she has to attend this family gathering. She's saying no, but not in a bad way.
you dont "ask" a girl if you can kiss her
it just happens
>>17171119
Hey OP, whether you're underage b& or not, this story was very cute. You've got a shot with this girl dude and she's just busy with some family stuff right now.
Also, Captain America, too violent? Isn't it just fucking pg13?
How do I be funny? My ability to get people laughing is to make fun of someone/something, say something kind of strange (not autist strange), or some other shit. Looking to be more clever/witty
>>17171102
You can't force funny much less witty.
>>17171102
You seem like you already have the being funny part down.
Not from the image which is stupid. You can obviously stand those bottles up.
You just need to improve your charisma and reaction time to [possibly humorous event].
i.e. be able to see the comedy in something right after it happens and not the next morning in the shower.
>>17171126
and having the conversational skills to present what you think is funny about X in a fluid way that other people understand.
So I'm at my wits end here. Mums been an alcoholic for several years. I'm out the house. Now. My dad stays with her. She's the worst drunk I've ever seen, she yells sat the top of her voice in the garden. Speaks to herself, is so incrediably manipulative, lies, steals money. She hates my dad, hits him and constantly harasses him, even lies and says he hits her. She's had several suicide attempts. Won't last much longer this way and my dads going through a torture I've never seen anyone else suffer. Shell never stop by herself, she needs to...
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Sorry this is happening to you. Had a similar childhood. Eventually she recovered on her own after many years. Best of luck.
Cheers. Feel like if nothing happens soon she'll be gone. Fucked up man
My mother began drinking when she was 13 and is 59 now.
She was a terrible, terrible alcoholic.
Her relapses have gradually been getting further and further apart though over the past 5 years.
Not really sure why. Her medication helps.
In the US it's really easy to get rid of abusive parents.
I once called the police because she hit me and my father and they put her a shit ton of court trials and told her if she got even a single additional offense she'd have to spend 6 months in prison.
Only reason she wasn't taken away was because...
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