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>be 26 year old guy
>have a job managing punk/alternative bands at a big record label
>girls that are alternative "models" always throwing themselves at me to try and get to the bands I work with
>learn to ignore them after a while and learn they really aren't dateable
>go out to one of my up and coming band's shows at a big festival pretty far from home base
>meet an 18 year old girl there and start chatting
>she's hilarious and just seems so much more real and interesting than the girls I'm around a lot
>hot as hell but not in the trying too hard way
>we follow eachother on Twitter and part ways
>been talking every day for over a year
>vent to eachother about things, joke around, skype usually 3x a week
>never tries to get info about bands I work with or access to shows
>things have gotten sexual too but not overwhelmingly so
>hinting from her that she has feelings for me and wants more
>don't know how to react so just play dumb and pretend to not notice
>she's 19 now
>yesterday she point blank asks me if I have feelings for her because she does for me
>saying that if I don't and its one sided then she should start dating to try and move past it
>want to tell her that I want her to be my girlfriend and that if she dated it would make me ridiculously jealous and eat me up inside
>instead just say distance is a bitch so she shouldn't get her hopes up and to start dating other people instead
>she's obviously hurt/disappointed but doesn't push it
>drank myself into oblivion
how do I fix this? if I see that she's starting to date I think it would kill me. but I don't know how to make an LDR work, but I can't let her go
Damn. You got yourself into some sticky shit.
Its entirely up to you, you can try having a LDR and see how that goes, break up with her whenever you feel like it isn't working out or maybe let her move in with you if she doesn't have any problems with that. Worst case is that she uses you for your money or cheats during your LDR.
>>17170727
Another thing is that the fans of the bands I manage are kind of "obsessive" to put it nicely, and mostly young emotional girls. I don't want to have our relationship put under a microscope and picked apart and have her dealing with a lot of bullshit she shouldn't. and people being judgemental because I'm seven years older than her I guess. I don't want to hurt her but I don't know if it'll work
>>17170703
Hey, I fucked up, I actually do want to try something even if there is a bit of distance
Should I buy gold, a gun, or an HTC vive?
VR is a gimmick and a waste of money, so anything but the Vive.
Hookers and blow
HTC vive so you can watch vr porn and don't have to worry about getting STDs from hookers
Okay calling all guys, I need opinions. I will answer questions as well if you need more info.
I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and known his best friend (which is also one of my best friends) as long as I've know my boyfriend. The past few months or so the best friend had issues with his girlfriend and they broke up. He's been complimenting me more and has always made direct eye contact with me when we talk. We also have hung out one on one multiple times in the past and nothing ever happened but I feel this energy around us. Don't know what to think of it. Thoughts?
If he has no loyalty to his friend he's not worth dating or fucking.
Are you attracted to him? If so you need make sure the boundary is set in stone. Sometimes you have to be direct with people to disengage them. If you feel him getting more aggressive you need to tell him you're not interested or tell your boyfriend about it so he can tell him to go fuck off because he's not really a friend of his at all.
>>17170693
He definitely is loyal to his friend, I don't think he'd ever try anything and I don't know what his intents are, if there are any.
An example of my confusion is, one day I was wearing a crop top and he asked if my boobs have gotten bigger. Or he will say that a dress looks really good on me, or that my boyfriend and I have "model potential."
I've never thought of him more than a best friend, but he is good looking. I respect my relationship enough though to not cross that boundary
>>17170693
This
Don't think he'll be loyal to you if he isn't loyal to your best friend.
Has his girlfriend (or ex now, I guess) always been there with him when he was around you before they broke up?
So I went out on a "date" with my crush and her friend. And my crush ended up paying for our food withour saying anything. So i texted her afterwards that Ill cover her next time and she said no its ok, then I insisted and she replied saying again that it wast necessary.
What does this mean? :/
A girl who was interested in you and versed in seduction would agree to your suggestion. But it's hard to say. She could just be weird.
Yea thats what I thinking, I feek like fucked up some how and it sucks because the only thing I can do is wait.
>>17170665
>So I went out on a "date" with my crush and her friend.
Pfft. That wasn't a date bro.
She paid for the food as a friend.
You trying to reimburse her will only come off as you being uncomfortable with someone picking up the tab.
Leave it alone or you will come off as weird.
How do you stop going from 1 to 100 for literally no reason at a second's notice without any prior warning at any random time of the day?
I was feeling completely fine literally 10 minutes ago and now I want to shriek and drive off a bridge because of a minor inconvenience that does not even inconvenience anyone, I get no tangible benefit of learning a minor detail that I do not have the access to figure out and now I want to stab myself in the leg with kitchen scissors.
What do you think is the source of your irritability?
Try doing things mindfully, that is, pay attention to what you are doing at that exact moment. Might help with anxiety.
>>17170675
There literally is no real source. The source is arbitrary and changes every day.
This one day I was hanging out with a friend and helping her bake a pie. It was my job to peel the apples and halfway through my work I started feeling so fucking ashamed because I was sure I was somehow doing it wrong, that I can't even fucking peel fruit right, and my friend asked me if I'm allergic to apples since my face got completely red.
I could live in a state of literal perfection and still bump into some minor fragment to feel like torture for. Literally everything in existence is horrifying and stressful and everything I fail with is always crucially important regardless of how insignificant it is.
>>17170662
This sounds like me, I get mad for the smallest reason. Sometimes I get outraged for meaningless shit, minor inconveniences.
Don't know whether there's something actually mentally wrong with me, or if I'm just a very irritable personality type.
Maybe you're very stressed/depressed/anxious anon. I know a lot of problems can turn people into shitheads.
>25
>been single for a year
>new gf
>find out now I can get very very hard at first but can't maintain it
>often cant keep it up through foreplay
>have sex with new gf 5+ times a day but often it's vigorous thrusting with a 3/4 chub and fear of going soft
>sometimes go totally soft while in her, especially in later rounds, have to stop or have her blow me
>still get very hard, almost painfully hard, erections at night and in morning that last a while
what do I do? I should also mention that I've had mild urinary retention for years (fq, incomplete voiding, straining, but hasn't been bad.) I dunno if I have some kind of chronic prostatitis or I'm just burned out on sex.
What about porn?
The stuff about later rounds is normal though.
>>17170649
seriously, is it normal to have sex five times a day? wtf. can you get anything else done at all?
>>17170655
this
my sister is adopted and recently I have had really vivid lucid dreams about her. I've always sort of admired her but I never tried anything because, well, she's my sister. deep down I have always wanted to have some kind of sexual experience with her.I don't know what these dreams are telling me and I feel like I should talk to her about it. How should I go about it /adv/? pic unrelated
Don't, you'll fuck everything up.
There are other women out there, like literally billions of them, even if she isn't blood she's still supposed to be family.
>>17170683
you're right, thanks
>>17170683
Yea this, dont let your hormones control you
Hey guys. Bittuva' long winded one, but fuck it.
So a few months ago, some buddys of mine were at a local gig when one of my best friends who I've know for years (lets call her May) says she thinks the guitarist is cute, so I start teasing her, and nudging her towards the stage "Ha! May likes a boy!" just harmless stuff like that. Any way, joke ends, we have a bittuva' laugh and the night continues as normal.
The day after she says she never wants to talk to me again because I embarrassed her an "lay hands on her".
That's super out of charecter for May, so I try to say "Slow down, lets talk about what's wrong." but she refuses to talk to me anymore. Keep in mind she's never done this before, and this is the first time she's ever even been upset with me.
Anyway, I ask some mutual friends what they think about it and they all seem to agree the way she's acting is crazy. But when I ask them to talk to her for me, they always say "yeah sure, maybe" but never do. I think they're more interested in remaining impartial than actually helping me out.
Fast forward to the 19th of this month, and I turn 21. However, "coincidentally" May has invited pretty much all our mutual friends on a 3 day weekend to her holiday home (She rich as fuck) and everyone's gone. Leaving me entirely alone for my birthday.
What do you guys think? Do I just have shitty friends? Do none of them actually care about me? Have they just chosen May over me? Or am I taking this too personally? Maybe it's not their problem?
Help me out, /adv/?
Fuck May. Fuck your friends. Fuck the King.
Get all your friends together including her and fucking talk it out. She can't hold a grudge on you for a harmless joke.
>>17170650
Yeah, see that's what I think too.
But is it worth losing all my friends over? Hell are they even my friends? Shits cray.
Long story short: GF, mid 20s, recently got into Instagram. She had a private account at first, only with a ~100 actual friends as followers. Got featured on some modeling page, and blew up. Over last two weeks, has gotten over a 1000 new followers, 99% thirsty guys. Her insta is now a zoo overrun with "omg ur perfect" and "so beautiful" on everything.
This irked me at first. But most of these guys are halfway across the world. If it's just admiration, it's fine - she'll get it naturally as an attractive girl. I am worried about all the attention changing her overtime. I'm also worried about wtf they're DM'ing her - I'm sure they're constantly hitting on her. I voiced that I was NOT okay with anyone getting her snapchat or number, or her communicating with local dudes. She asserted that no one had added her on snap or gotten her number.
Today, she posted a picture. Last comment is from some random dude saying something like "snap me again!". I was livid. How should I confront her? What should I say? Clearly lied to me.
>I was livid.
>Clearly lied to me.
So break up.
Post a picture of her so I can get a clearer understanding of the situation.
Leave her ass for a nice 6 or 7 who will appreciate you.
Advice welcome on how to keep a girl interested/pining after you in a relationship.
I have this serious problem where I go hot-and-cold in a relationship, which does drive my girlfriends wild for a short-time, but eventually makes them fed up with me. I'll do something romantic with them, but then I'll go cold and distant a few days afterwards. I guess I'm scared to open myself up fully and I consciously fear driving them away with intimacy.
Outside of this I try to live my own life outside of the relationship, stand up for what I believe in, not put them on a pedestal (difficult when enamoured), and just generally try to have a fun time with them. I've been reading online about "spinning plates", but I'm not sure this is for me (although I could do it).
Thanks.
Sounds like you're doing everything right so that can't be the whole story.
>>17170563
>Advice welcome on how to keep a girl interested/pining after you in a relationship.
Be a good partner. Stop acting like a douche.
/thread
>>17170572
Obviously relationships end for a lot of reasons, but I've had it explicitly told to me I was too "wishy-washy" and inconsistent when I went into my "cold" phases by two of them, resulting in the break-up. I dunno, I just feel like I don't want the excitement and mystery of the relationship to die or they'll find their fun elsewhere.
I'll go NC afterwards and some will come back, but my gf the love of my life at the moment (I think she knows) and I don't want to go down this same childish Red Pill shit and derail it that way, but at the same time I don't want her to get bored.
The relationship is great atm, but I've read too many LTR horror stories which are fucking my shit up.
Why girls text like this?
Why do they text first but never say much??
youre acting like her friend lad
do you want to have a relationship or be her friend?
be clear in your intentions
>>17170511
Not OP
How do you text to have a relationship then ?
Girls are lousy entertainers. It's up to you to make something out of the conversation.
>Just cleaning and doing some laundry.
>Cool. Come do mine when you're done.
so this is probably a lost cause for me.. I dated this girl for three years. she was my best friend and my only friend. i went out of town for one week and when I left she acted completely normal and when I got back she met someone and says she likes him.. she is still fucking me but doesn't want to be with me anymore I feel. trying to put me back into the friend zone and I can't fuck with this shit. i tried to hangout with her last night and she ditched me at the last second to go see him.. she's seeing me today and I'm going to tell her that if she chooses him over me it's basically her loss.. what do you think I should do? and she still treats me like he boyfriend. got mad at me for going to hangout with one of my friends when she ditched me.
I've been there for this bitch every fucking second of these last three years and she lets her one week old lust for someone make her throw away someone who would really die for her and do anything to make her happy.. is that what I should say to her?
I am disgusted at the fact that this bullshit has happened for 3 years and nothing further has happened. I am not surprised she is trying to move on and crowd you out with someone else. It sounds like at one stage at the very least, she was willing to perpetuate it in order that you would come to a decision about it. You missed the window, as far as I can tell.
You have to consider for yourself whether your very literal friends-with-benefits scenario is working out. Are you afraid of losing her as a friend? Are you afraid of losing out on the sex? Because from your OP post, it just sounds like you just want to indefinitely continue to string her along on this awkward bullshit.
oh and she used to dislike some things I did. she didn't like me not having a job, not working out and being a neet who sits on the computer all day. I've since gotten a job. started hitting the gym and I hate being on the computer now. i feel like I've really changed. I'm 19 in college and have a car and everything. and this other guy is still in high school just turned 17 and doesn't have anything.. he looks like a total and complete faggot.
How do you tell if you've ACTUALLY lost weight or if you were just dehydrated? How much does water retention etc even matter?
Generally they advise you to measure your weight while naked and measure it at the same time every day and chart it over several months before figuring anything out.
You won't physically feel the loss of weight, if that's what you're asking.
>>17170558
I'm not trying to lose weight, I just want to know what weight I *actually* am. I don't know if I'm normal weight or not if I'm 54 kg one moment and 57 literally 3 minutes later.
How much is it normal for weight to fluctuate? How do I know if I'm just always dehydrated? Should I be drinking a glass of water before weighing, and just see what it is with the water??????!
>>17170570
Your original post made it seem like you were asking a stupid question. Even in this post you are asking a stupid question. Of course your weight fluctuates daily if you eat, drink, and defecate.
my gf and i are white. ever since she got into kpop, she seems to have a fetish for asian guys. last night, she admitted to me that she masturbates to "cute" asian boys. should i be worried?
I would like post one million pics of BIGBANG or BEAST or something like that just to troll the fuck out of OP and go SHOULD YOU BE WORRIED but srsly what the fuck is wrong with you white people and your fixation on race to the point it must dictate your porn?
Weeaboos and Koreaboos will cheat on you or drop you the first chance they get if they come into contact with a cute Japanese or Korean guy.
When someone has severe yellow fever partners of other races are just something to keep them temporarily occupied.
>she admitted
Why use the word admit? You admit something when you reveal that you did something wrong. This is not the case. She revealed information about her masturbation habits. I'm not sure why you care. You've probably masturbated to asian girls too. For that matter, you probably masturbated to cartoons or all kind of crazy shit. It doesn't stops anyone from being able to have a meaningful relationship. Even if your girlfriend acquires a taste for asian boys that doesn't mean she automatically loses her tastes for previous things she like. If what you fear is that your girlfriend does not find you sexually attractive then ask her. Don't play guessing games, just ask her. "Do you still find me sexually attractive or have your tastes changed". That's it.
I've just about had enough of this shit. I need a fucking GF, I've followed all these memes and guidelines, I present myself well, I'm not a fucking autist or sperglord. I'm tall, dark and fairly handsome, nowhere near fat and yet NO fucking women take interest in me. I have no fucking friends, I'm literally alone all day playing shitty games and dreaming of the impossible.
I see couples every single day, every fucking where at it pisses me off. My blood boils at the sight of a happy couple because it's not me. What the fuck is wrong? Why the fuck don't I have a gf, how the hell do i get a gf?
Please help me before I an hero, I have no intention to die alone. I NEED GF
>tfw no gf
>tfw no qt agf
AND NO, THIS IS NOT BAIT.
pls help. i am furious hence the outburst.
>>17170467
>I'm literally alone all day playing shitty games and dreaming of the impossible
why would you want a gf when there's this problem to deal with?
Have you thought of what you would do once you got a gf?
>>17170474
I'd hang out with her, treat her right and do all the fun things i've always wanted to do with someone.
I'm not a neet, I'm a student. I know what I want to do, but literally nothing happens. Wtf
> alone all day playing shitty games and dreaming of the impossible.
Here's your problem
Hang out with people, do interesting stuff, etc
This is coming from a guy who hangs out with people and still doesn't have a gf.
I know how it feels to crave for a gf, but this shouldn't be your main goal.
Because if you're not happy with your life, a gf might make things worth for you.
You will have to be there for her, provide and all, and if you can't even do that to yourself, chances are you won't be able to do that to her
having a gf feels good, but if you're not happy with yourself, you'll become paranoid, jealous, always asking yourself questions about her. She'll see it, and slowly lose interest for you, then she'll leave you and you'll feel even worse than when you were tfw no gf
I know this whole thing sounds depressing but it's usually how it goes if you don't get your shit together before getting a gf
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