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How do you deal with transgender women being more feminine and pretty than you
They always looks like dudes, no matter what,
>>17169170
They really don't
>>17169163
They changed. You can too, and you've got an advantage over them in that area.
Someone started this board on /b/, I've decided to take it here because /soc/ has you people on it:
>Why don't you have a gf yet?
>>685535478
I don't know how.
I'm not really sure I want one anyway. Yeah, I'd love to have a girl to hook up with but I'm pretty happy on my own. She's not going to want to do anything I want to do, or like anything I like and even if she did like I said I'm cool by myself.
I do need some pussy though, and I'm not sure how one goes about that. I'm not a virgin, I've paid for a couple escorts but they were way too expensive for me to see more than once.
I actually went out for the first time in years last night and tried to talk to some girls. The first few stubbornly ignored me, and one even literally ran.
Any advice /adv/? I'm already an hero in my heart BTW.
Because I'm delusional. I believe she's the one, when she's most likely not.
I'm a fuck up, a dick, or a boring asshole to most woman and I'm fucking fine with that. Looking for the one that's gonna accept me for who I am is gonna be like looking for a needle in a haystack
because I'm fat lol, i had this girl who literally (and sincerely) declared her love for me, but i'm so disgusted with myself that I don't see me with anybody for that reason, so I rejected her.
I'm going backpacking with a cute girl. How do I find a way to destroy her tent so that we need to share one for the night?
>>17168867
Poopoo in it.
That's rapey you creepy fuck
Okay guys I'm gonna greentext my problems
This is the hardest situation I have ever fucking been in so please help
>been with boyfriend since we were 14
>now 18, pretty good relationship, about to move in together
>chilling at my friends house
>oh yeah anon he cheated on you with his ex
>"a month after you got together"
>"just kissed"
>go back to his house and confront him
>he cries and apologizes
>"didnt tell you because i didnt want you to leave i liked you so much"
>"I haven't thought about it for years"
>"i'll do anything to make it up to you"
>forgive him
>next day see messages from him to his OTHER ex
>also from when me and him first got together
>saying he'd fuck
>packed up all my shit and walked out the damn door
But did I make the right choice?
Our relationship's pretty good, he's my best friend and I love him
And people change so much since they were 14, he was really emo and scene then and now he's not at all
He's called me like 20 times, left voicemails, texted me, messaged me
Do I go back or is our relationship fucked?
He i
You're a woman right? You'll be fine.
Someone will be your sugar daddy sooner or later.
>>17168489
I don't want a sugar daddy :(
People do change but I'd say this is ultimately down to how you feel. Do you think he has changed? Can he change? If not, then fuck off from him and find someone better. If yes, then take your chances.
You know what to do!
Be mine
I'm yourds
Be true
This girl i love has a boyfriend with a relationship im pretty sure is gonna fail. She likes me quite a bit. But i get hella fucking jealous of him. Do i fucking wait for their relationship to end.. fyi theyve never met pure internet relationship ..
My neighbour got her house because her brother came into a lot of money and gave it to her.
She spends her child benefits and dole money/jobseekers allowance on partying and she palms her child off to anyone she knows because the verbally assaults them when they say no.
Pretty sure she's in the adult entertainment industry because she said she's a "model" but she does nothing but drink and take drugs so I'm guessing she's an escort or an amateur porn actress.
For fuck sake, why can't my neighbours be a cute elderly couple who spend their time fixing up their garden instead of this druggie whore who's legs are open more than her fucking mouth. I feel sorry for her kid.
It's not even like this is purely speculation because it's always outside my fucking door. She's either telling her mother to go kill herself for being a "useless cunt" or she's partying until the early hours of the morning.
This shit is so stressful.
JUST DO IT
http://www.clickhole.com/video/fathers-reaction-his-son-coming-out-perfect-4409
Try this
>>17168457
Stop being a white retard with nothing better to do than sit on the internet and complain about your stupid fucking first world problems
Hitler was right
I want to fly her out from Germany to California. But not sure how to deal with paying for her flight.
I wanna book her tickets to come over.
What do?
come on guise
IF YOU NEVER MET THIS GIRL IN REAL LIFE DO NOT PAY FOR SHIT
>>17169118
Why?
Where did you meet your partner and how?
I've been going to various spots and I've been tricked into going to places because I was told I was going to me somebody. (That was a load of bollocks).
How do?
>>17168166
I'm talking partners and relationships. etc.
>>17168166
My gf and I met from working together. Pretty lucky too since we're both gay girls
Used to work together in different departments, met properly at uni though.
Is it wrong to push people out of your life because you don't want to become more like them?
I always feel like I'm being terribly judgemental when I do this. I worry deeply a lot that other people are going to do the same thing to me and it eats me up inside.
i've been debating this myself
one of my very good friends basically has made no effort to make his life better whatsoever and keeps fucking up. he now has pretty much no one except me. he feels sorry for himself more than anything and won't just pick himself up by the bootstraps. i'm realizing more and more that he only cares about himself.
i've been debating for awhile whether to drop him. i think i am going to. because being around him drags me down. i don't have time for that shit. i'm in college and trying to work hard and make my own life better. meanwhile all he wants to do is get high/drunk and wallow in his own self hatred.
ain't got time for that shit, m8. i don't think you do either.
Surround yourself with people you like, and who like you, get rid of everyone else, and don't feel guilty about it. If you are incapable of doing this, figure out why and fix it.
>>17170325
>>17170327
I think I'm actually on the opposite end. Wallowing in self loathing, like your friend. Thinking bad thoughts about others is just how I express it.
At work there are tons of people that I absolutely refuse to deal with because of thoughts I have about them. Most are petty, irrational and terribly maladaptive but I cling to them as some sort of "defense" against outside stress. My substance use makes it harder for me to actively manipulate the way I handle things.
Why am I not eating? I'm 21, tall, not depressed.... just can't eat. it's been like 2 weeks now and don't know how I'm even still alive. It's causing me a lot of damage and I can't handle my job but I just cannot eat.
this happens to me too, anon
i don't know why it happens, but you need to force yourself to eat. eat small things frequently. soon you'll get back into the swing of it.
good luck
>>17170185
>Why am I not eating? I'm 21, tall, not depressed.... just can't eat.
Anorexia nervosa is one of the classic eating disorders we hear about among models. and there are a couple of other eating disorders with their own suffixes.
But just plain "anorexia" -no suffixes- also happens sometimes. It sounds like this is what you may have, though we are not qualified to diagnose. My wife gets this in winter: I'm under standing orders to not allow her to eat less often than once a day.
>it's been like 2 weeks now and don't know how I'm even still alive.
The human body can survive some 3-4 weeks without eating. It's not good for you, but it's doable. I'm assuming you're still getting water.
Start light: at this point, you'll make yourself sick if you try to start eating normally right away. Ease back into it. Doctors have a thing called the BRAT diet that they often recommend for people recovering from severe digestive trouble: Bananas, Rice, Applesauce, and Toast (I find that graham crackers work well here too). Strictly speaking this is probably not a digestive problem, but these foods were picked for easy digestion, so they should work well for recovering from a long fast too. Start with maybe one banana or a large graham cracker a day, and work your way back up.
If you can't even make yourself eat a banana, try drinking it as a plain banana smoothie: chop a banana into one-inch pieces, throw it in a blender with 6 ounces of milk and some ice, and blend it up. You seem to be able to drink things, so this would get you some nutrition: I don't recommend doing it for very long, but as a stopgap measure before moving on to solids, it may work.
See a doctor and he'll give you an appetite enhancer.
I'm dealing with this little scar on my leg.
And it really looks bad. I need help /adv/.
Prevent exposure from the sun (a band-aid suffices for this), and put ointment on it. You might want to pluck the hairs immediately surrounding the area/area covered by the bandaid.
There is one thing you can apply to this scar
>time
Cigarette scars wont heal and scars that required sewing
Chad here, just kidding it's a frequent joke at my school that I may shoot it up, regardless not why I turn to you for help.
As almost everyone on this site I am shit at speaking to girls, but in my 10th year of high school (sophomore for ameriafags) I really hit it off with this girl, lets call her Katie. Any who Katie and I really worked well together but I never really felt she wanted to date which was fine with me despite the fact she was giving me all the signals. we went to the movie one night with a group of friends and we did the whole cliche yawn, put arm around shoulder, thing which she was totally fine with I didn't think anything of it but when I got home there was a whole string of messages saying shit like
"we're just friends"
"don't think anything of it"
"don't take it the wrong way"
too which I went "K" didn't really care but her last one was;
"don't think i'm putting you in the friendzone i'm just not ready for one"
which at the time I brushed off but looking back at it I realized
(check pic)
moving on the end of that year showed up and we were still chilling and it was her birthday so I went around her house with her cringy group of normie friends that tried to talk to me about band camp or something fucking stupid and I just played with her dog and spoke to her dad. (super cool guy) the night comes to a close and the dads allocating bedrooms so no per-marital underage sex happens under his roof and I got nominated the couch so meh. everyones asleep and she sneaks out and crawls onto my lap (like a cat but bad analogy so just roll with it) and we just sit there drifting in and out of sleep. Now this is where shit starts happening. I know for a fact more than once I woke up to her kissing me. Even if it was a peck that shit still happened and in my drowsy state I wasn't comprehending it.
next morning swings by and I do the whole
"thanks for having me had fun seeya normy fags"
and I get home expecting more
"just friends"
Cont:
but behold there was none we just chatted as normal.
now go easy on me here guys cause I know I fucked up big time, I knew she was into me and was ready to date and what did I do.
Nada, to pleb for my own good.
kicking myself over that now.
moving on, life continues everything is happy.
find out she's on the verge of suicide and cuts herself.
know you can care for someone, like I care for my beta bros and make sure they get home after a party or something but I knew at this point I love her and am ready to even face death, change my whole outlook on life, work a 9-5 minimum wage job if it meant going home to her at night.
So i got real protective and helped her through it and our bond got even stronger (imagine playing the sims but 21 green pluses come up above their heads)
finally get her out of that state after many long nights chatting to her to keep her busy and once even catching a taxi to her house to check on her, everything is right in the world and I finally realize I really want to spend the rest of my life with this girl (note this is now the start of year 11, once again junior senior for amerifags) \
then it hits
Cont:
She just drops off the face off the earth.
sure I attend school with her but totally different classes and the few times I see her she either does not say much or is chilling with a low level chad (spoken to the guy once where he described a 2 hour skype call with another guy, actually I take back what I said about chad more beta than myself)
getting a lot of
"k"
"dunno"
"mmmhmm"
hour long conversations are brought down to seconds
bring it up, ask if shes okay and whether the depression is coming back
not even a "i'm fine"
just a
"nah"
fast forward 2 months we stop talking completely
really cut up about it
get real angry and develop a short temper.
begins the destruction of my teenage years
grades drop
lose job
drug/alcohol abuse
wake up most mornings ready to end it because I know i'll have to go to school and see her but not talk to her.
my bro Jack has army dad, colonel in australian army real top notch dude.
sits me down one day, gives me speech about how I need to get my shit together.
my dad did the same thing but I respect colonel more so actually listen to him.
Channel my hate. start working out and eating healthy. stop the drugs and goon sacks
( to give you an idea i went from 60kg beta to a 86KG toned alpha with women troubles)
still see katie but does not hurt as much, usually shrug it off but still stalk her facebook from time to time.
find new female friend
5'2 Russian 3/10, 6/10 with glasses cause of cuteness factor
Cont:
Life starts looking good again
year 12 now (senior)
/F/it, find a new job in IT which pays good, got a CERT 3 in IT with them and grades are up on high B's low A's
now dating russian girl but hearts not really in it cause Katie.
Decide i have to forget and move on
unfriend
block all her profile links on my router and change the admin password to some 50 letter thing
finally ready to forget
spoiler alert: this does not work
keep seeing her and feeling like shit
russian girl turns out to be gay and leaves me
dont really care never really liked her.
oh well nothing can get me down move on with life.
year 12 prom swings around.
unlike most schools we have this whole dress up party thing where it's super unformal and nobody really cares
super hyped cause my new chad build gets me in with the cool kids
we leave school early that day and go to pre-drinks
I get pretty fucked up on vodka cause russian girl got me into it
arrive to prom and pass the "not drunk test"
boring as fuck night, mostly hang out at car with beta bros and new found chads.
im like the link between two worlds, awkward as fuck but still know how to act human
leave formal and go to after-party
75% of my vodka is gone at this point and so is whats left of my brain cells
stumble is smashed taking a final shot before crashing on the couch in the back yard
sit there laughing with bros for awhile but only have a 2 second memory span.
suddenly hear a familiar voice to my right
"you alright dude"
first time shes acknowledged me in over a year
super excited but don't know how to convey it
end up just throwing up a (pic related)
"alright dude don't die on me"
"I wont"
memory is wiped and forget about it go back to laughing at normies having their first drink and getting more fucked up than I am
Katie comes back again
"man you are so wasted"
"nah i'm fine"
"realllllly?"
"yeah yeah yeah perfect sober haha"
"hahaha"
she does this a couple more times but then
Cont:
You guys are the one pointing out how learning new languages are useless.
>>17168926
http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/17157189/
I am not even the one who said that! (and no, I wasn't samefagging)
You post the same thing 500+ times. That's why. Not hard to understand why people get annoyed.
>>17169886
DO NOT REPLY
OP is a mentally challenged child obsessed with a question she posts daily - why do people study useless" languages. She gets intelligent responses, ignores them and then posts the same question the next day - sometimes alternating with this one, asking why we get annoyed with her.
She ius mentally challenged, and attempting to reason with her will accomplish nothing. Move on to the next query.
>>17169900
Thanks!
Now I know!
So pretty much, I feel like a dumbfuck everytime i do something practical. I'm a teen and ive recently got a new job at a butchery. I can do 99% of my job but I keep consistently making "common sense" fuck ups that annoy the shit out of my boss, no less myself. this is only an example of of a scenario where i get some responsibility and make seemingly simple, but often crucial messups that make me look like a moron in the truest sense of the word. Am i being too hard on myself? I want to change because eventually i want to be someone people can rely on to get shit done on a larger scale than a shitty butchery
I've always felt very similar, my entire adult life. Fixating on tiny things I do wrong, as opposed to those I do right. I have a feeling everyone feels this way, but it shines out in different places. It's what makes us unique, anon. You'll find you excel at certain things you find easy and routine, that others struggle with, and vice versa. Keep your head up. You're doing fine.
pls respond
>>17169842
have you found satisfying work/lifestyle?
Tonnes of shit has just happened in my life and I feel like dying every day. I have three best friends who are very loyal, and without them I would have killed myself by now.
I'm going for a mental health assessment at the hospital on the 6th June. This means I may eventually be diagnosed with a disorder. I hate people who self-diagnose and they've been in my life all my life. This is why I'm taking this step.
>one girl went to the headteachers' office back in school after putting a pencil across her arm and pretended to cut herself, she's still exactly like this years later.
>another girl who is a bully pretended to kill herself gruesomely and now for some reason she has friends. This was a few months ago.
I've been like this a very long time. Excessively paranoid. I keep getting myself involved with sexual shit and the police have got involved. I keep doing impulsive things and falling in love with essentially very evil people. I've hallucinated for years, the delusions I have become more vivid. I can't stop having nightmares. I can't even show my face to my parents I have such bad anxiety. My weight is going up and down, I binge-eat often (I'm normal weight). I was in an abusive relationship that ended 6 months ago. I've lost the majority of my friends. I self-harmed as a kid. I keep thinking of suicide and I've attempted it about three times; the first time my friends came over and stopped me after I took about three pills, the second time I tried to overdose on my mum's sleeping pills but because she's also depressed they gave her "herbal ones" so taking an entire packet didn't work, the third time I was stopped again but I didn't go as far, but I had more of a drive to do it.
Tl;dr
>hallucinations and delusions
>paranoia
>anxiety
>cannot trust anyone
>alcohol
>self loathing
>suicidal
>sexual
>impulsive
>emotional
Anyways, how do I survive this appointment? How do you think they'd assess my mental health? What do you think the consensus will be?
They'll probably asses you as a female teen-ager. Maybe with some mild form of schizophrenia. Only they know what they'll say you have.
>>17169822
Yep, I'm a crybaby.
