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This guy and I talked for two, nearly three, years and we talked all the time, sometimes taking breaks when we would get busy, called a few times. He even gave me his address to send him snail mail. I eventually realized I liked him more than a friend so I built up the courage to tell him and he just stopped talking to me. It's been two years since we've talked and I miss having someone to laugh about everything with. I've had a lot of bad shit happen to me the last few years (raped, more unrequited love, family members dying). I feel like I'm at a stand...
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>>17172549
So you need advice with what exactly? Didn't see a question anywhere.
>>17172711
How do you move on from all of that?
>>17172549
does he know how you feel?
ive been where he is. and there are two sides to the story too.
did he even like you back? do you still live in the same town? did you send him a letter or visited or called or txted etc? as far he knows you hate his guts because thats why you are ignoring him.
i think its long overdue for some snail mail to check that his address is still current...
>graduate 2008
>Go to community college
>Fuck around and nearly flunk out
>drop out, spend 3yr doing shitty jobs
>fuck this shit, spend 2yrs finishing my transfer degree
>Get accepted to a university(same one mum went to) for Comm. Major
>Friends shit on me, saying it's the most useless major ever next to art and acting.
>They...
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>>17172455
search for an internship in a federal position. unlike art/acting degrees yours is actually useful and necessary.
>>17172455
I didn't know Starbucks offered internships.
>>17172455
stick it out and apply for a masters in something more prestigious like an MBA
>be me
>18 years old, avarage looking and chubby
>i have a girlfriends for more than 2 years
>(no normal friends i can hang out with beside some dudes i know from the internet)
>she is a pretty qt 6,5/10 avarage looking girl with the same interests as i (Gamining, anime/manga, drawing etc.)
>she is also very clinging, wants to skype and do stuff with me everyday
>I...
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>>17172393
Kys.
Your a peice of shit, kill yourself
Living in a city with ~200k people in midwest U.S, and yet I still see the same people everywhere I go. I was born, raised, and have lived here all my life. And I'm honestly so sick of this place. I want to leave and never come back. Start over somewhere else. I have $500k in inheritance. Where do I move? Somewhere in the country. I was thinking NYC, but I feel like it's too expensive.
>>17172385
Seattle.
>>17172401
Anywhere but Seattle.
Expensive 200mile suburb.
If even hipsters are leaving it's like rats leaving a sinking boat.
Houston
Hi. I am a 20 year old girl, I am very autistic.
I have a boyfriend of 5 years and I do not wish to leave him.
But as luck would have it, I am far, far more attracted to other girls. (He is honestly the only man I feel attracted to).
There are dozens of girls in my life who I would kill to simply be able to confess to, and I clearly have to repress the lesbian side of me for the sake of my boyfriend. That side of me is far, far stronger than the straight side. As stated my attraction to men starts and ends with him.
Even then, after all this, I still dream...
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You got together at 15. This is not a mature relationship where you are both fully grown adults who have been "through hell and worse together".
Break up. You're not going to make it work when you're not even decided on a fundamental as large as which gender you want your partner to be. Don't waste your or his time.
>>17172379
I've had issues with homelessness. He has had issues with the police and multiple suicide attempts in public. We have tackled psych wards together and its been incredible. My father was physically abusive. He was raped. To say we find comfort in one another is like stating grass is green.
We simply cannot distance ourselves from one another. We have both tried.
It's sad my sexuality works this way however.
>>17172373
You don't have a "gay side" or "straight side"
You're either bi/pan or a repressed lesbian, it's that simple.
If both of you find it threatening to your relationship, then it means it's serious.
These are not the kind of feelings that will go away, waiting it out will only make it an abscess.
I think you should try one of those relationships that you crave, with someone else. This is hard because you're relying on each other for basic survival, so I can...
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im at an impasse
basically i just finished community college and have been accepted to SUNY Albany and SUNY Buffalo (but not for my major? I'll elaborate if someone asks).
Which school should I go to?
>>17172323
A L B A N Y just don't explore the scary parts of albany
>>17172350
what are the "scary parts" of albany?
>>17172372
I only went in 09 but it was stressed to avoid the arbor hill area and its surroundings. They said it wasn't as bad as some big city ghettos but it's still not somewhere you want to walk around alone at night.
This isn't much of and "advice" post, I guess it's more of a flatout help me out or tips on where I can succed on my quest.
As a kid, I used to watch cartoons, and i'm rewatching them now, but my memory is failing me on episodes and shows. Do any of you guys remember some show where two kids(boys, probably), go to a walk, stumble upon a grass maze and in the end of the maze there's a house. In this house, lives a clown or a joker or something, and he messes with the boys minds or some shit.
Can anybody help me? At first I thought...
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>>17172315
Debbie does dallas.
Can't think of any animated catroons, but that's a spot-on description of a comic called The Children's Crusade. Maybe look for adaptations of that, or things inspired by it?
>>17172315
Digimon.
>I have severe panic attacks
>one night 5 months ago I went through all of my girlfriend's phone during a panic attack
>found a conversation she had with her friend about the new guy her friend was seeing
>my girlfriend said she was horny and wanted to hear about it
>at this period in time I was housing my dad and we couldn't fuck for maybe 2 weeks
>my girlfriend asked how big he...
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Idk friend, i would ask her indirectly through conversation
>>17172202
I feel that it's such a specific thing, I wouldn't know how to go about that.
>>17172191
What do you think girls talk about when they go into bathrooms together? You think they're using the bathroom? Putting on make up? Not most of the time, they talk about things. The only real difference this day and age is that girls text things to each other.
>but that conversation keeps entering my mind
Seeing how your prone to panic attacks it's not surprising things replay in your mind. You should try to retrain your though process.
How does someone without a college education become rich?
Inspired by Martin Shkreli. He only had $100 in his bank account in 2009 and now he's worth at least $45M.
How do I do this?
>>17172171
And now he's in jail
Magic
>>17172171
Literally everyone hates him, even Wu Tang Clan.
That's not worth being rich.
How to meet girls after college? Work is out of the question as I work for a blue collar company dominated by 45+ year old guys.
I spend most of my free time (off work) doing things alone like photography, fashion, shopping, video games, and exercising. Is online dating my only option?
>I spend most of my free time (off work) doing things alone like photography, fashion, shopping, video games, and exercising. Is online dating my only option?
No
Go out, be social and make friends
Online dating is pretty much last resort
>>17172186
>my advice is to do that thing you are asking how to do
>>17172194
Realize OP said he does these things alone.
What are other ways of aborting a pregnancy and contraceptives
You again?
Fuck off man and go see a professional
>>17172105
Just entered the board my guy chill. This is my first time using /adv/
>>17172112
Go to a medical professional.
None in the area? Travel to one.
Can't afford it? Sell your shit.
How do I get a personality?
I don't want a persona, I want to have my own style, something that defines me.
Something that belongs to me and isn't a persona created for socializing with people around me.
>>17172057
>implying that your personality isn't shaped by the people you socialize with
>>17172057
inside influences out. outside influences in.
whats important is to distinguish between what you like and are comfortable with. versus what you like other people reacting to.
a lot of people appreciate the goth look. most of the people who do it simply want to be asked about why they look that way a lot.
simply think about what you ant to like and then do it, or achieve it, or whatever verb you need for whatever it is.
the big issue here is you are saying
>i dont want a persona
>i want something that defines me
a persona is that. you are trying to force a change instead of being who you already are.
you are already you. you already define you.
>>17172079
Well the reason why I'm asking is that I don't know what I want. My girlfriend dumped me because of my "bitter apathy and forced emotions".
And I don't really feel comfortable with who I am. To be honest I do things that are expected of me and I feel no drive of my own.
Guys how long does it take to get tinder matches?
>>17172055
Instant if you have good photos.
>>17172076
post your pics, lets see what you are working with. have you been swiping to all the girls you find even reasonably attractive?
I'm trying to find a way to accept my body but it's like I've had bad luck with every part of my body
Tits are saggy and deflated pancakes, pussy looks like a disgusting roast beef sandwich that makes me physically sick to look at, my hips are narrow and straight instead of wide and round, torso and legs are short. Yellow jaundice skin tone
I can't afford surgery any time soon
How do I deal?
Post a pic you could just have body dysmorphia. It might not be that bad and if it is I'll tell you.
>>17171989
Assume it is that bad
What should I do?
>>17171983
Also I'm a guy and saggy tits aren't a deal breaker or anything I actually don't mind. As long as you're not just butt ugly in the face or morbidly obese it's cool and some guy will like you. As for loving yourself you'll find a way in time. Maybe you're just simply too hard on yourself.
My doctor wants me to get electroshock treatment? Should I do it?
What is it for? Presumably he is prescribing it to you for a reason. Shock therapy is good for curing depression apparently.
Do they like actually shock you with electricity? Do you know if it hurts?
It is a legitimate treatment and it has shown to benefit some cases. But as a patient you are always welcome to request a second opinion, discuss your potential treatments, and weigh your options.
