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how do I get over being ugly? I wish I had a strong jawline.
>>17174889
stop breathing through your mouth as it will only make it any worse.
as for combatting ugliness, there is a lot you can do. most igrls arent all that hot but they work at it. men can and should do the same thing.
you just dont have to tell people about it cuz its considered faggy, but whats worse, the occassional person thinking you are faggy if they find out, or being ugly all your life?
I dye my hair cuz i look better blond. i went on accutane cuz i looked bad with acne. i use microdermabrasion...
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>>17174889
>>17174900
as for simply 'getting over' its as simple as not caring. you can force the change or you can't but theres no step or step guide that makes it happen.
if you still want to date, go ask out ugly girls. try to find osmeone with a good personality who still can entice a boner out of you. a lot of really ugly girls are desperate and will settle for any guy who will just treat them like a girlfriend.
>>17174889
The Habsburgs had a strong jawline, and nobody would call them beautiful.
You don't even know what you want.
I take an unusual amount of time to orgasm when she's giving me a handjob or a blowjob.
Both feel amazing and looking at her doing it really turns me on, but it takes a considerable amount of time to make me finish.
Most of the time both of us grow tired of it and that would be it...
What to do?
wtf are you talking about? lasting longer is good
>>17174740
Stop jerking off
>>17174740
Same here. I usually have to fuck her right in the pussy to finish. It's good foreplay at least. You can finish in her pussy, right? I don't think it really matters if you can still get off by doing that.
I'm just getting myself together at 25(26 in june)..Is it too late? Am I beating myself up over nothing?
>>17174664
>Is it too late?
no
>Am I beating myself up over nothing?
sort of, but you have to realize a part of your life is over and you need to adapt to that.
>>17174664
Is this the real Brandon?
>>17174664
too late for what?
define 'getting together'
probably beating yourself up over nothing and being melodramatic. depends what your ultimate goals are
How should I deal with this? Curiosity gets the better of me and I look through my gfs phone. She's been texting her sister about this cute guy delivering mail to her work and this "gorgeous" guy in her friends bridal party. I don't think she's cheated on me but it makes me feel really shitty. How do I bring it up without sounding like a creep
>>17174661
Start by stop doing creepy things.
She is allowed to find other people attractive, even when within a relationship. So are you. You don't magically stop finding other peopel attractive when you enter a relationship.
The root of this problem isn't that. It stems from your insecurity, and possibly a lack of trust. Her finding other people attractive does not negate your attractiveness, either. Just because you a variety of foods doesn't mean that your favorite isn't still your favorite. She is with you right now. She wouldn't be if she didn't like you. Be confident in that,...
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you cheat on her
How exactly do I stop this?
Its getting on my nerves. Everywhere I go its ugly or ugly hambeasts that approach me.
I just want a nice girl for me, not somebody thats disgusting.
How do you guys deal with this exactly?
Try not to be so shallow
>>17174652
lol
ugly is ugly anon, its not that I am shallow.
Date a hambeast and exercise, diet and lose weight together
So it thrns out my gf is pregnant and were now planning on getting an abortion, most likely with medication.
I feel pretty bad about this, bothfor causing it and having her have to deal with this.
Anyone have experience with this? How traumatic is it ganna be for her? Its only been like 4 weeks since conception.
fucking traumatic. depends on how you two handle it and how it happened
Thankfully, unless the clinics botch it, it is unlikely to be traumatic. Note that because of the shaky quasi-legal grounds abortion is on in a lot of states, a lot of clinics fleece the vulnerable women.
Read up on the different methods of abortions, particularly including the method of abortion your girlfriend is to undertake. Make sure to be there for her every step of the process as feasibly can. Botched abortions are a very real thing, and it can danger your girlfriend's life.
It is also important for both of you to confirm with each other every step...
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Abortion is not without consequences. It will affect your gf far more than you and far more intensely and lengthy than she might realize
seriously /adv/
1. wife is not home yet, AGAIN and I've already found recent calls to ex-partner that she denied making on her iPhone
2. have her iCloud credentials
3. have the XFI LOCATOR APP on my droid
4. have searched everywhere but can't find answer to my question:
Will she get notified when the iCloud is signed in to the App?
I get notifications sent when anybody logs into my iCloud from a different source, so yes I think she will.
>>17174588
oh bummer
talk to your wife and get her to have an emotional breakdown so she can go into the bathroom and start cutting herself and you can move closer towards your inevitable breakup
I have a super sensitive friend who gets pissed when I don't wanna hang out with him, and deal with his bullshit.
I can't tell him to fuck off were not friends anymore because that with mess up our group of friends.
wat do?
>>17174533
Quit being an evasive shit and own up to your feelings.
>>17174572
First post best post
Why are you so afraid to tell them exactly how you feel, OP? Why can't you be straight up with your feelings? Are you afraid that showing how you feel is "gay"? kek
You're not going to hold on to any kind of worthwhile relationship, platonic or otherwise, if you can't fucking communicate.
Work on your abs
I go to one of the top 40 unis in the world for a science degree. But I'm thinking of dropping out and going to a trade school. Is that stupid? I heard its easy to get a qualification in trade and they earn a lot of money.
>>17174508
its a meme
It depends on what you plan to do with your science degree vs what you plan to do with your trade cert.
Since you have already sunk in a lot of time and money and effort on this science degree, it is not too late to go back to trade school after you finish this, or heck, even take evening classes (a lot of trade schools run on evening classes because tradies are in apprenticeships by day).
>>17174516
Shit, I was a afraid of that. Do u have any proof though
I will be buying pillows for the first time later today. I need advice on picking out pillows. Are 50$ pillows twice as good as 25$ pillows? Are any pillows worth seeking out or avoiding? Anything I should know? I intend to shop at bed bath and beyond but could go to Walmart if Bbb only has overpriced pillows. Pic unrelated.
Start mid priced at walmart and see how you like them. Has always worked for me, but if you don't like you can try something else and not be out too many $. Can really only figure out through trial and error since a very personal preference. For example, I personally love a soft lumpy pillow, some people hate them. Good sheets/pillow cases just as important for comfort.
>>17174494
There are pillows for different sleeping styles. Do you sleep on your side, stomach, back? Do you like soft, mid or firm pillows? Price has more to do with the material they use in the pillows.
25 to 50 dollar pillows will have little difference in quality. Try buying 2 $25 pillows with different fillings and pillowcases. This is basically how I found my perfect pilllow
One that you did not like is now pillow for a guest!
Hey guys, help me think of a rap name
3pac
>>17174457
Fag torpedo
what's your name?
Is there a step I need to take from dating to actually have the titles boyfriend/girlfriend?
I know we are both exclusively seeing each other and we both want this to be long term but she didn't specifically say I was her boyfriend when asked.
Also, I don't think her friends like me so I want to do a fun group activity with our friends, so what are some fun group dates?
that depends. how old are the two of you?
>>17174450
Cevapi i takva sranja
If you two are together you are her bf but if you're just dating then you have to make the step and tell her or well ask her to be your girlfriend
In lots of countries dating as going on dates isnt exclusive and a relationship on default
>>17174471
I'm 22 recently graduated from college and she is 20 in her last year of college
I've been a huge cunt to my boyfriend recently for no good reason. Stress and stuff would just be an excuse.
I was having a worse day than normal and just exploded, calling myself a bitch and I don't deserve him and he deserves someone better than me. I wish he'd just dump me already and get it over with, but he still sticks around.
He even got mad at me for calling myself a bitch. He said not to use that word and it's disrespectful. Who even does that?
How can I get him to rip the bandaid off already? I really don't deserve someone...
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Here's an idea, rather than put the responsibility of dumping you on him, why not just stop being a cunt or end the relationship yourself?
You're being pathetic. You know what you're doing wrong but don't possess the commitment to try and fix it. You know you're just going to be as much of a cunt to future partners unless you actively attempt to change your behaviour, right?
Apologies for being short, my partner has been on a similar "woe is me" campaign and it really annoys me. Your boyfriend is with you because he loves you...
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Break up with him. That's what you want to do, stop lying to yourself. Trying to get him to break up with you instead is spineless and unfair to the guy who is actually TRYING with you. Do him a favour and break up with him, since you're doing your hardest to sabotage it without saying the words yourself
>>17174442
>>17174446
I don't want the relationship to end. He's understanding and patient and lifts me up.
I just know he's going to leave me sooner or later. I'm a bad person so it's going to happen. Might as well speed it up.
>Reconnect with old high school friend
>We talk for a year
>Both in our early 20s
>We get strangely attached to each other and talk daily
>Both feel isolated and can't relate to most people
>Finally tell my parents about her.
>Big problem, we are both in different colleges and our parents are a bit over protective
What do? I mean do I pursue...
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>>17174413
No you're no out of your mind. Have you been in a relationship before? You might want to wait on having your first one be long distance, but if you can work logistics out, go for it. Summer's coming up, why not plan to meet up and see how things go in person more.
>>17174432
We both dated before and well things were never good. Which we sometimes get to laughing about awful ex stories. Hell she made a painting of me for her art class. I'm just scared of sounding immature.
>>17174413
Nobody cares
>stressed out at work/social obligations
>the prospect of playing video games seems awesome
>promise myself I'm going to have a lot of fun
>think about doing creative stuff, writing and reading up on interesting subjects
>a billion ideas gush up awaiting follow-ups
>finally it's the weekend
>only want to engage in passive shit like wasting time...
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>>17174387
you are human. and you are comfortable. consider just getting up right now and doing one of those things. tell us what it is, then come check in when you have made substantial progress.
>>17174387
OP mannnn if you didn't just describe my fucking weekend.
But what I've learned in therapy is that this is a sign of depression. You've gotta muster up the motivation to reach those goals you created during the week so you can feel good about accomplishing something. And keep going at it.
Once you become passive, it just eats at you.
I chose not to go to the gym this weekend and it just made me kinda shitty overall.
Get up, get out, go do.
>>17174408
wanting to relax in off time is not a sign of depression.
4chan, especially boards like /adv/ give you really easy gratification. making it seem not worthwhile to do much else.
doesnt make you depressed, but if you use it too much you should obviously scale back.
not everything is going to be about depression
