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I know you guys presumably see hundreds of these daily, but I have a question... why go on? Like, why go on in life? I don't have it too bad in terms of wealth, or anything material, but ever since about last year, I haven't had much of anything to look forward to. I have no one to love, no one with whom I can share my feelings, I have very unloving, impersonal parents, and I have never been liked at school, I have always been the type of individual to sit down in the back of the cafeteria with my hood over my face until lunch was over instead of socializing, so what do I have to live for? To look forward to? The only thing I ever find any joy in, staying in my room playing video games and browsing self-help forums, is tearing my life apart, and with it comes more apathy than fun nowadays. Listen, guys, I'm 14, I could certainly do without the lecturing, and 'underage b&' posts in this thread, I've browsed this site for years, and I'm just one of you, looking for help. I don't think I want to go on living a life this pathetic anymore. I come here today finally testing the function of this board. Please try not to disappoint me. Feel free to ask personal questions, I'll be here all day, without a doubt, again... :^)
>>17176918
>but ever since about last year, I haven't had much of anything to look forward to
Time to add to your life, shake it up somehow can be anything from starting a buisness, to a new hobby you were always interested in, to moving to a new place.
Specifics will vary for you but you need to shake things up and start moving forward.
>>17176918
The only alternative is death which is inevitable anyway. So, might as well do the whole living thing than take the shortcut to oblivion, yeah?
>>17176927
I've tried to find things to actually look forward to, to no avail, alas. I've dabbled in piano since, and creative writing classes, but everything I actually get into always ends up sending me back to where I began. Piano, for example, the sadness of its history, and what it's most known for, the players and music style. The inability to fulfill its prime objective of making you relax with beautiful music and culture, and its inevitable stress causing in playing professionally, or the scary fact that you'd be shunned and booed if you were even to screw up on one note. Or creative writing, which causes me to dive deeper and deeper into my conscience, causing me to reassess and overthink my own life more and more, in turn causing me to sink deeper into my depression.
Broke. Got $7 left pay day is in 8 days.... starting to feel a bit depressed anons.
Ive got some rice, carrots, breakfast cerial and onions along with a little pasta. Hopefully it'll be okay.
Some times i have to wonder whats the point though. Struggling day to day. No hope of a better future.
>>17176914
>Ive got some rice, carrots, breakfast cerial and onions along with a little pasta. Hopefully it'll be okay.
Damn, you got it good. Today I sucked a dick for a piece of celery.
Point is OP, someone's always got it worse.There's always hope for a better future if you work at it. Have you actually put effort into improving your living conditions?
>>17176925
Been trying keep failing job interviews. Slowly getting broker and broker. Now im really broke nothing left to sell.
I dont know how to help myself and i have no family or support network. Dont know how to fix things alone. Starting to keep more depressed the more my efforts fail.
>>17176937
Desperate times call for desperate measures. Sell blood if you need to. Pawn unnecessary possessions for cash.
As for a job, you might have to lower your standards. Find a construction site and just ask if they need a spare hand. Do yard work for people. Look at bulletin boards and see what people need help with.
At this point you're not looking to start a career - you're looking to survive. Once you get back on track then you can look towards the horizon. Now you just need to worry about getting out of the mud.
everytime after i masturbate i start crying. why is this. how do i stop feeling sad after masturbating?
loneliness. you need more human interaction, maybe a handshake or a pat on the back could ease the sadness.
when was the last time you got a hug?
>>17176863
what!? why!?
>>17176863
There's a Latin quotation (Google it) that means "All animals are sad after sex" After the high of an orgasm, there is an inevitable sudden drrop in energy and intensity, which can feel like unhappiness but is really just not-as-happy-as-I-just-was-ness.
If, on top of that, you feel disappointed that it was just masturbation and not the real thing, it can be even more depressing.But a lot of people feel that even after perfect sex.
I feed this fish three of these pellets twice a day. Is this the right amount of food for him? He was already in the pond when we moved here so we have no experience with fish.
>>17176814
going by your pic, 3 twice a day seems about right.
Me and my dad built a pond which now has about 30 goldfish in it. We always went by the rule of 5 minutes. If there's any food left after 5 then it's too much, if all the food is gone well before 5 there's not enough.
That was with fish flakes but I feel like it still applies
Goldfish a pretty resilient, if it's not enough food they'll just eat the algae or bugs living in the pond so you don't really have to worry
Told this girl that I thought her nose "was perfect" she said "it wasn't because it's got a flaw I can't see" I said "I can see it it swings to the right and is still perfect" she flipped out and got so offended what do I do?
>>17176799
Stop talking to her, shes unstable and not worth the trouble.
She kept saying "no no no don't worry I'm not mad" but then wouldn't talk to me all day. This girl is sweet and fine as they come in can't just stop talking to her over this.
>>17176818
>She kept saying "no no no don't worry I'm not mad" but then wouldn't talk to me all day. This girl is sweet and fine as they come in can't just stop talking to her over this.
See
>>17176808
Then you face the consequences, bitches who arent crazy dont do that shit thats the end of story anon and its something you need to be fully aware of if you continue.
20 years old NEET, What should I do ?
>>17176797
Kill your self
>>17176984
yeah but if OP is depressed I recommend getting high and masturbating first just to see if life feels a little better afterwards.
>>17176797
Get a employed, educated or trained.
Ok so in passing, my good friend told me an idea for an app that I thought was decent a few days ago but after thinking about it I realize it could have potential. I really want to make this app, but I'm concerned that this could be betraying his trust. What should I do?
>>17176761
Have you tried asking him what he thinks?
Of course it is, you're screwing him out of potentially a high income. You're literally stealing his idea for your own gain. Of course, you could let him into the fold, or I guess deal with the lawsuit later
>>17176764
Not yet, that's why im trying to get advice first..
>>17176766
Let me clarify a bit, he hasn't really written anything down it was just something he was thinking about. Also, I have been expanding on his original idea so I've brought new thoughts and material to it since he told me.
Is 22 CAD or 16.70 USD a hour okay paying job?
Yes. Also fuck that conversion, the Saudis must pay
as a starting pay? yes if its just a customer service job or a job that doesnt require a masters degree etc.
does that sum increase per year ?
>>17176779
don't know my friend is getting paid that much as an electrician
just 2 years of schooling
not sure if that is good pay or not :/
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I just heard my friend's father had a serious accident and had to have a leg amputated. What do I do? What do I say?
I had a similar thing happened to me. The best thing to do is not bring it up with him/her but comfort him/her if they bring it up. Just dont risk offending them or upsetting them by striking up the conversation with them yourself
>>17176733
"I just heard about your father. Is there anything I can do? If you have to go to him, I could pick up your homework/hand in your assignments/take notes/cover your part time job. If not, I'm a good listener if you want to talk about it."
>>17176733
Bro, I'm sorry about your dad. Here if you need to talk.
Alternatively...
"At least it will be cheaper to buy slippers for christmas now"
4 years ago I sold weed 3-5 times, I've smoked weed 2 years ago, did coke 3 years ago, shrooms 4 years ago. I have a bachelors in English and have been an EMT for 1.5 years. I'm 27. Is there any possibility of me becoming a police officer?
Also I volunteered at an elderly facility for 6 months.
I think it really depends on where you live and the legislation/policies in place that determine who gets cut in the recruitment/selection process...
I think the real piece of info that determines everything is, have you been caught and charged for possession and selling? If so, how long ago?
>>17176684
I live in California. I've never been in trouble with the law. I've gotten one speeding ticket 6 years ago and that's it.
>Fall for a great Asian girl
>She's 21, Christian, bright, bisexual, loving, fashionable etc. AKA perfection
>She moves for another college
>Some years pass we still talk daily
>She doesn't say anything about me to her parents
>She tells me her parents are over protective
>But she tells me they'd love that I'm "White and Christian."
>I ask about moving in with her, or her moving in with me... "Oh my life is too confusing now to worry about that."
What's with the cold feet? I don't get it Anons...
Are you even dating? Because it doesn't sound like you're dating
>>17176676
Well, she says she loves me...
>>17176681
So? I tell my friends that I love them too, that doesn't mean I'm dating them
Recently my gf has gotten heaps down about a neutral or even positive aspect of my personality.
I'm a very friendly and open person. I really like all people and I like to talk to lots of different people. I don't go out of my way to be like this it's just how i am. I tried explaining it. That said this is in her words.
I saw you there and you're so bubbly and excited to talk to them. I thought you were only that nice to me but I realize you are a nice person and treat everyone that way. I know this is stupid and I'll get over it, but it ruins the magic a bit for me.
I tried bringing her around but nothing seemed to sway her. I don't really want her to "get over it" I want her to understand it's a fun thing and see that it doesn't interfere with how much I love her.
What should I do? I'm not sure how to bring her around to looking this part of me.
Anyone else has this experience? Anyone had a significant other like this?
Anyone like this themselves?
You need to treat her like a woman. Treat her in a special and romantic way, take her out on a nice date and afterward pleasure her. She just wants to feel like your only, and you are not doing that for her.
your gf has severe self esteem problems and isn't ready for a serious relationship anyways
there isn't anything you can do to make her like this part of you. she already likes it, she just doesnt feel special anymore.
congrats, you now figured out that she's selfish too as well as insecure
>>17176655
It's stupid, but i can kind of understand her feelings. The best thing you can do is just keep on being your happy self, and keep loving her. Anything else will probably be counter productive.
This is something she has to deal with on her own, and the best thing you can do is just allow her to do that.
what books would you recommend for someone who is trying to overcome anxiety, lacking motivation, and a very pessimistic view on life which I want to get rid of?
>>17176644
First absorb The Art of War learn how to apply it to yourself and your life and how you wish to be and the battles you wish to win, then absorb the Tao te ching.
>>17176652
The Way means Quality
>>17176666
Quads of truth sir
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Hi 4chan, it's the 23 year old with the abusive father again. It's just me and him in the house due to a divorce and my older brother moving out last week. That's a long story.
So I tell my Dad I'm going out for the weekend to sleep over at a friend's house as to whom I'm considering being a roommate of. I can afford to live there, it's just that my father doesn't think I'm ready.
So my weekend goes as this, I stay at my friend's for the weekend and then I drive up to see my girlfriend's graduation, in which my father has instructed me to break up with her, even when I have no intention of doing so. It's her graduation, and my presence means a lot to her, but little do I know that I'm breaking my father's rules of seeing her and he ordered just a few days ago that I was to break up with her for the sake of "being a man." To him, "being a man" is not being coddled by others and being on my own, in which he believes my girlfriend coddles me. This is not true at all.
So I come home today, and my Dad's making me steak on the grill, he asks me how I want it cooked, and then I go to my room to find ALL of my possessions except my light, my bed, and my clothes completely confiscated.
Apparently he found out about my whereabouts because he put a tracker on my car before I left. Now I'm no longer allowed to leave the house until I get a job, and that job is to be the only place I'm allowed to drive to in the future once I get one.
>>17176621
The worse part is, I don't even know where the hell I can get a job. I've had at least 3 jobs in the past after I graduated college, but neither of them worked out for me and each time I quit the job, my father abuses me and nearly killed me the last time I quit my job. I don't know where I should even begin looking because he has to know what I'm working as and only he can be satisfied with so few jobs.
The even worse part is, I am now convinced that my father truly wants me dead. Think about it, he wants to control me by forcing me to cut off ties with everyone else except for him and only him. He wants to control me like he did to my mother, and since the divorce, that's all he's been. I'm worried that now my phone will be taken away by him and that I'll be nothing but his slave for good.
I literally have no escape /adv/, any last resort ideas that I should do before I try becoming barbaric from all this bottled up rage towards all of this?
If you can afford to live with your friend what's stopping you from doing that? You're 23, your father has no legal control over you anymore..
>>17176621
Had an abusive parent this hits home, im not going to sugar coat anything and I cant know if youre just being an ungreatful little shit or omitting things to skewer the story in your favor so ill just take you at your word.
Leave now, be gone and out on your own asap I dont care what you have to say, your fears, or reasons they dont matter PERIOD.
If thats the level of manipulation / control hes trying to have over his 23 year old son theres something wrong with him and you need to leave by any means and if necessary cut off contact unless he respects you as a person.
You also need to learn to manage money so you dont need to risk going back or putting you back at his mercy again.
does it even count as losing my virginity if i didn't feel anything through the condom? i basically only came cause i was staring at her implants while she rode me. i still feel like i never had sex.
>>17176586
yes it counts. time to join the "shitty first time" club
No, you're not a virgin, but you are fucking retarded. This isn't something where you get a 'do-over' because "it doesn't count"
Technically yes, but virginity is 75% mental.
