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>try to be nice to people
>everyone thinks I'm a beta male loser
>try to be an alpha
>everyone thinks I'm an asshole/douchebag
Is it possible to find a middle ground? If so, then how?
You have to be good looking, of course.
>>17175501
this will solve all of your lifes problems.
>>17175500
>everyone thinks
This is where your problem is. You try to act according to what people think of you.
All those idiots over at /fit/ and other stupid bodybuilding/fitness boards think they're the most confident people in the world and call themselves "alpha", when they're just a copy of each other, and workout to be accepted in society. Once they open their gorilla mouths everyone knows they're as smart as a doorknob.
In all truth, a true alpha male is the one that is his own person. Not some fucking ape that needs to act tough and workout 5 hours a day to feel comfortable in his own skin.
In my freshman year in high school everyone thought I was a dumb flaccid cock because I mostly kept to myself and was nice to everyone. At the end of the year, everyone respected me because I had more knowledge than all of them put together and not only respected everyone but also helped them with their shit.
Instead of focusing on other people, focus on improving yourself. Workout if you want to. Take care of your appearance but keep it levelled with a good cultural formation. Do your own thing. At the end of the day, no one cares about anyone else so, why would you bother about that whole alpha-beta bullshit?
If you want to impress the girls, work on your charm rather than your muscles. Most girls I know would choose charm over anything else.
tl;dr covered in tattoos, need higher paying job
As a young man in my late teens and early 20's I was heavily invested in tattoos and piercings. I worked at a shop, was in the apprenticeship program and was 100% that this was the profession I was going to spend the rest of my life in. It was good money and while I was there I was gifted a lot of free tattoos and now I'm essentially covered (arms, hands, neck).
They're all tasteful, no skulls or blood or edgy shit, but as I realized at the time, it disqualifies me from a lot of typical avenues of...
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Go into sales at a motorcycle shop
Or a trade skill.
>>17175486
Did you not think of that before you got the tats?
Or did you just YOLO the fuck out?
>>17175486
Go into design, media, or tech.
I have an appointment for a consultation about surgical sterilization next week. As a 21 y/o female, I'm concerned that I'll be heavily discouraged from or even denied sterilization services.
Any ideas/advices are welcome.
If you are willing to pay, they really can't deny you.
Be strong and tell them it is your decision.
>>17175482
sure they can
>>17175487
That seems weird and not logical.
Tell them you have retard genes in your family and you don't want to raise a kid that is completely dependent on the parents and the government to survive.
There is a girl I have been messaging who I am very confident is as into me as I am her.
Last week I told her I was going to grab a slice of pizza and asked if she wanted to come with me. She couldn't because she had work (confirmed) and I couldn't reschedule because at the time I was only home for that weekend. Now I am home for the entire summer. Since then we've been talking every day and she has really grown on me.
Now I want to ask her out again proper (i.e. When are you free?)
Now for the stupid trivial question that's been bothering me.
What...
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Pint.
They have other drinks at your local coffee shop.
How about a picnic with some basic snacks and drinks?
>>17175479
You mean the bar? I was thinking that also but I haven't been to one before. I just turned 21 a few weeks ago and I'm still a littler nervous about that stuff. Dumb I know but I'd rather go the first time with a group of friends.
>>17175488
I don't know a picnic seems kind of, "old" for a lack of a better term. I have never heard of two 21 year olds going on a picnic when they haven't met each other.
are there ways to increase iq?
>>17175463
LSD
It depends on what you mean by IQ.
IQ != being smart
If you want to be smarter, read more.
>>17175470
You idiot you're taking advantage of the fact that smart refers to both natural mental abilities and knowledge.
Reading books obtains knowledge.
If you engage in an activity which benefits from a higher IQ you'll improve--and possibly significantly, but you won't be the best.
Also note that you may be very good at one thing, but very bad at the other thing.
Richard Feyman's iq was supposedly like 125 or something
Hey folks.
I am a 19 year old male. I have had sex a few good times with different people, but also turned down a lot of offers due to lack of stamina through the years. I have now gotten a girlfriend and sex will probably be brought on the table sooner or later. Problem is I don't know what to do when it's time. I have great ambitions of pleasing my partner and I find myself unable to do this because of the premature ejaculation that haunts me.
I have done kegel exercises and attempted doing the start-and-stop technique many times but without luck.
I have now bought a special kind of condom from Durex that should desensitize the penis using benzocaine and delay male orgasm. However I have tried one of these, letting it sit for a bit and then masturbated and I ended up cumming faster than a river flows anyway.
Do you guys have any great advice on this problem? I would truly appreciate it.
http://t2mh.com/esoteric/She%20Comes%20First.pdf
come on man are you even trying. in the words of tormund giantsbane, don't jam it in like you're spearing a pig. she should be wet as a baby seal mate
>>17175433
>http://t2mh.com/esoteric/She%20Comes%20First.pdf
I will definitely read this! Thanks man!
I think you need to stop focusing so much on lasting longer. The goal of sex is for each partner to have an orgasm and enjoy being intimate with one another, there's no rule that says YOU MUST BOTH CUM AT THE SAME TIME OR YOU HAVE FAILED. If you ejaculate quickly then so be it, so long as you don't immediately roll over and fall asleep. Use your hands, use your tongue, use a toy to make sure your gf gets off until she's satisfied.
It seems that many inexperienced men seem to assign some special kind of virtue to getting a girl off by just JAMMING YOUR DICK...
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Hey /adv/,
Not a hugely serious issue here. But definitely would like some advice or pointers. Here's my situation:
I'm an averagely antisocial person. I'm alright with public speaking or casual conversation, but I struggle immensely with thinking up conversation topics. This is where I need help.
I'm also really lonely. I've had many long (3.5years+) relationships, but never really had to branch very far to search for somebody. I'm very inexperienced with flirting and getting phone numbers in general, and there's this...
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Additional info: She may be SLIGHTLY out of my range, but not by much. So I definitely have to give it an honest effort to go anywhere with her.
If she's an 8.5, Im an 8 type of thing
>>17175406
>so i definitely have to give it an honest effort to go anywhere
this is where most anons are very sadly mistaken.
im not saying effort is bad or anything but what kind of effort can you exert that will make a woman say 'WOW I WANNA DATE THIS GUY' ?
think about it. you rarely have that reaction to a woman. its pretty much on sight they are attractive. if they are attractive, you might lose that with their personality.
the thing about girls is...
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>>17175417
Makes perfect sense. I'll try to limit it to just like ten messages back and forth I suppose.
How to I bring up another conversation with texting her (supposing I get that far), and how long should I wait?
Where is best place to stream Game of Thrones eps?
Sign up for HBO Go!
Watch on demand
The show is overrated anyway.
>stream
putlocker.is come on man do you live under a rock
sup /his/, past 2 summers I worked private security at concerts and football games, stuff like that but I quit so this year I'm looking for another summer job.
I need money but also need to start getting some experience on my field since in a year I'll be about to graduate.
What should I be looking to apply for?
>>17175384
woops, this isn't /his/ huh,well you guys might still be able to help out
>>17175400
>field experience
>history
If you work security you're either big and strong or big and fat.
If you're the first, apply to a women's strip club and get dem tips.
If you're the second, work as a muscle for the mob or private security and what not.
Ladies, what would you do to keep your man around if you didn't have your vagina?
>implying I need a man
I'd be just fine without one
>>17175386
Without Tinder to give you a false sense of worth then...
>>17175394
I don't use Tinder. My sense of self-worth doesn't come from men, or other people in general.
>be me
>20
>hangout with girls a lot
>gets touchy and flirty with them
>couldn't seal the deal
>dry spell for months
I just could not transit from flirting to sexual interaction, help me out brothers.
>inb4 pic not related
Do you hang out with girls one on one? What exactly do you do with them?
>>17175363
I have this problem as well
