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How can I meet people?
I'm quite tired of being alone
Most of my interests are solo interests
here
give me your email
>>17165816
>Most of my interests are solo interests
join a rock band
>>17165842
I appreciate it, but online friendships just don't make me feel any less lonely anymore.
OK, I don't know how I knew, but when I started messing around with my girlfriend, I imagined that she would squirt the first time she came. Wasn't wishful thinking or anything, just the image I had in my head.
She was very inexperienced and had never actually cum before.
So I fuck and finger her and bam, she squirts fucking buckets.
So I'm thinking "well it shouldn't happen every time, just if you get too worked up".
But no, since then I've tried fingering, fucking and a vibrator to make her cum and every time she...
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I'm asking partly because it smells like cat piss. It's not her, I've noticed it with others too....
>>17165801
a towell or dirty sheet?
im gay, and we cant have sex without lube, and lube is messy and sticky and i dont want it on my bed but its impossible just to keep it on the dick. plus sometimes the cleaning process isnt so great and a tiny bit of shit gets out, or my cum leaks out of his ass or what have you.
so we have a dirty old sheet we get out when having sex, and put it away when done.
ruins the build up to sex but eh
>>17165810
>ruins the build up to sex but eh
This part I can relate to. I put a towel under her, doubled-up, and she soaks through it. So then I change the sheet and put a towel under it and it soaks through the new sheet...
Give me one logically sound reason not to end my life.
because you are seeking one.
>>17165788
That's not a reason. Somebody considering buying a great new set of headphones might be checking out if there are any good reasons not to buy them that he hasn't thought of, that doesn't mean he won't buy them anyway.
>>17165786
You haven't paid me the money you owe me.
>19
I don't know about you guys, but honestly being social has brought me nothing but trouble. I hate my job, and I'm pretty sure i failed the only community college class I was taking.
And honestly I'm lonely and want a relationship. However my coworker tells me that being Unhappy with yourself and trying to get into a relationship will end up bad, no matter the scenario.
So I'm thinking that maybe for the next few months I'll go back to being a hermit, and just do the following
>wake...
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>>17165763
your co worker is correct.
if interacting with people brings you trouble, and NOT interacting with people makes you lonely, then the problem is YOU. you are not the kind of person you'd like to spend time with. otherwise you simply would.
hanging out with friends is a good idea if you like them and enjoy it. you should be enriching each others lives. if you arent, and you dont see it going anywhere let it fade out.
try new stuff this summer. things you think might be fun. if they arent...
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>>17165800
Could you elaborate more on how I'm not the type of person I'd spend time with?
How can you tell? And is there a way to improve it?
>>17165820
>could you elaborate more on how I'm not the type of person I'd spend time with?
>how could you tell.
you literally said so. you get lonely . and don't worry, we all do to some degree. but the way you say it and in the context of the situation, you're implying that you dont like to be alone most of the time. if you were the kidn of person you'd like to spend time with, you'd be fine spending time by yourself.
if...
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>girl gives me her number at work
>we text for a while, go out to park to walk our dogs together
>she seems really cool, though she tells me shes celibate and super religious, im kind of put off but still interested
>also mentions previous drug history and tumultuous relationships
>go out again, hiking and then to resteraunt
>shes is really moody this time, it like comes out of nowhere
>shes talking about the end times and how shes saved but other people arent
>she keeps saying that im probably a huge slut even though Ive told her ive only been with like 6 people
>go out again, hiking, and have a REALLY great time. no awkwardness or negativity
>we're both really flirty and touchy, I feel so comfortable, and happy
>go out again today
>walking her dog at the park again cause its nice out
>things start out ok, but then get negative again
>she starts getting mad cause i keep scratching my eye
>its like really making her mad, like im doing it on purpose
>I ask her what the problem is but she says "dont play dumb, you know what you're doing"
>literally talking to herself about crazy jesus shit again
>walk her back to her car and shes just berating me at this point
>say ill see her later and leave
Im not sure if this chick is bipolar or paranoid schizo. But she seems to be a legit crazy person. I have a BA in Psych but I dont know if its worth it. It sucks cause before today I really thought she could be like my next gf.
Im a pretty patient person when it comes to relationships and am always looking to work to solve the problem, is it worth it if they're mental?
>>17165744
>has a B.A in Psychology.
>doesn't follow rule numero uno, don't stick your dick in crazy.
>>17165749
Ive dealt with 'crazy' chicks before but not to this extent.
I also have a tendency to get attached quickly.
So here's the deal. I'm engaged to this guy (were in our early 30s) but,i don't know, i just don't really feel happy with him. It's complicated though because i feel like i really need to settle down before there aren't any men interested in me.
I've gotten some flirty vibes from a couple of his friends and i even had a little fling with one of them(Jamal) a couple weeks ago.
My fiance is a nice guy and all and not that bad looking its just he's kind of a man child. He pretty much bends to my will about anything, always asks...
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>jamal
bait
Haha get outta here with that cuck bait shit
>>17165735
for shame anon, you didn't even try with this bait.
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I have a junk car. It runs nice and I'm completely fine with it. I don't care what others think about it because it gets me where I want so I have 0 complaints.
So today my mom says if I want a new cheap car since I've had that car for a year now.
Is it wrong for me to not be excited? I mean I didn't really care because I don't care for these kinds of things and she got mad for not really caring.
To be honest, I'd rather have the money instead of getting a new car. I drive a 01 chevy prizm. Windows aren't even automatic.
Nothing wrong with it, your mom's being weird for getting mad for you not wanting a new car.
In my opinion being frugal like that is definitely good
>>17165715
If it ain't broke, it doesn't need to be fixed
>>17165715
What would you use the money for instead? Maybe she's upset because you're not like a normal dude who wants a sports car, loves sports, and dates stacies. Maybe she's upset because you didn't show enough gratitude? Maybe she's menopausal? Who knows?
So, I slept with a co-worker two nights ago. This girl is the girl of my DREAMS. She's giving me some mixed signals if she wants a relationship. Dunno what to do.
Last night I stayed the night at her place. We kissed and fell asleep next to eachother (like pretzel mode type cuddling). There's so much more to this story, but I'll keep it brief.
Today we were texting. I told her how meaningful that night was to me. She didn't really reciprocate any feelings, now I'm over thinking it. Should I just lay off and let her figure things out herself?
>>17165702
Back off for now. There's nothing that can make it worse than smothering her.
Don't push it on her. But give her time to think about it and if she continues sleeping with you and not reciprocating any emotions then youre just fwb and you should move on and keep looking. If she does come around then grest job much spagett to you. But seriously don't push your own emotions on her.
So, did I fuck up by telling her my feelings? I wanted to make it clear that it wasn't really a "hit it and quit it" type of night.
I'll back off. Sounds like a good idea.
So I've been on Wellbutrin (Bupropion, 300mg XL) and Paxil (Peroxetine 20mg) for roughly 12-13 months.
Now, I've begun the process of tapering off of this shit, basically because I don't want to take this stuff anymore. So far, my doctor has prescribed me with less Wellbutrin (150mg X) and completely stopped the Paxil. It's only day 4 so far, and I'm still feeling generally miserable, nauseous, tired, and weird.
How long do these withdrawal symptoms generally last for the average person? Anybody have similar experiences and stories?
a...a-anybody?
>>17165687
cannabis may help. do some googling, read up a bit on this. not trolling, not dudeweedlmaoing. check local laws and ordinances for legal status.
Shit, you're trying to be naturally happy?
I would say give it at least a week. That's how long I was grumpy for when I took a break off bud.
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For Australians. What's the best way to get rid of HECS? Is there anyway to reduce it or workarounds?
Thinking of joining navy (seems easiest of three) and getting tax free dollars to pay it off.
>>17165683
It's called getting a job, grafting your arse off and earning money son. That's literally all there is to it.
>>17165683
mfw they took away the ability to remove it by moving to another country a few months ago
>is there anyway to reduce it?
Yeah...by earning enough to pay it off. Sorry you chose an arts degree.
>like girl at work
>we talk a lot and she laughs at the shit I say
>tell her I'm going to play Pokemon cards at an event a couple weeks ago
>she wants to come with and watch me
>we have a nice time
>we do it last weekend too and even grab food afterward
>she acts weird this week, kinda cold and dismissive
>still wants to...
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>>17165665
Ask her simply if you did something wrong
>>17165668
I guess I can do that. I think I got too overeager and may have fucked things up. She's really introverted. She told me that she really likes her alone time, but that she still likes hanging out with me. I don't know what to do.
>>17165679
If she already told you that, she's probably more of an upfront person. Just be honest with her and keep it easy. Don't talk too much or backtrack, think before you talk, y'know ?
I graduated high school in 2010, went to community college on and off for a couple years, and had been NEET since.
I got a job at the start of the month and have been losing weight and looking into going back to school to finish things up, but I'm absolutely mortified at the 3-4 years I completely wasted doing nothing but ordering pizza and browsing the web, taking full advantage of my parent's affluence and lack of desire to kick me out. I'll be graduating college in 2019 at the earliest. That's kinda hard to swallow.
Will I get over it? I'm...
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I don't remember making this thread, but it is so relevant to me to the point where it is spooky
>>17165615
where are you working and what do you wanna study
are you annoyed by how all your coworkers are high schoolers, or dumb mexicans who nonetheless work a lot faster than you
>>17165620
Oh I'm not working, but everything else matches up. I'm going to do general ed for now and it's depressing because of how much time I've had to think about this. People ask me what I want to do when I grow up and I almost say 'kill myself'.
So yeah I can't say I can give you advice. I hope this stuff works out. Sorry to hear about your colleagues
Ever been in love with a friend's gf? Has it ever been reciprocated? How did you deal with the situation? Stories and advice welcome.
In high school my bf's best friend and I fell for each other. After he confessed, I was straight up with my bf and broke up right away. I definitely took the band-aid approach, but felt that it was best to be brutally honest.
It was a rough transition and most of our friends ditched us for a while, but we've been together ever since. Married 7 years now.
The moral here is, if you're going to make a move on your friend's girl, you better make damn sure that what you're feeling is the real deal, and be prepared to lose some friends forever.
>>17165641
I know what I'm feeling is the real deal. I don't think she knows what she feels desu.
My main concern after hurting him is getting ditched by all my friends. I'd be interested to hear more about your friends reaction and how you picked up the piece afterwards.
>>17165641
And also the what goes through the head of a girl who falls for one of her bfs best friends? You could give me a great insight into how she's possibly feeling. Maybe how I can help her process this or deal with it.
Please read up if you train football (soccer).
If anyone here plays football (soccer) on a competitive level, they would be perfect for answering.
Long story short, I'm 19 and have barely played football throughout hs. Before that I kind of played regularly with randoms, but that was it. I never trained in an academy. Now, I'm not super bad but I'm not that good either, I believe it isn't because of lack of a talent, but simply because I just haven't played it that often, especially recently. Now (yes now) I want to try and fulfil my lifelong...
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You need to play against people as soon as possible, have you any friends that would have a mini match?
I would play to your strengths when attempting to get into a team. If you can't dribble well then don't, just play a nice pass.
To improve your ball skills a tip that was given to me was to have a ball at all times. For example In the house foam ball, take a jog in the park whilst controlling your ball all the time. Even take your ball on a walk to the store.
Use your toes to move the ball
Sidefoot passes
You don't need to be able to shoot but, toes under the ball always will net you a good cross, which is more important.
Just incase you don't know, a cross in is where you're to the left or right of the pitch near goal and you pass it overhead to a player on the opposite side of the pitch
>>17165585
That's great advice, thanks. I'll start doing that. Don't really have any friends that play football though, had 7 guys in my class, rest was girls, couple guys were "girlified" and the rest just plain uninterested.
>>17165600
Thanks for he advice dude, appreciate it!
I have two free weeks until my summer job starts and I have literally nothing to do. I only have two friends, one works often and the other is undependable as shit.
What social things can I quickly get involved in in the next couple of weeks if I am starting out with functionally 0 friends?
>>17165449
games
>>17165449
can we have some background on your personality? Like are you a total fucking dweeb or can you hold conversation and not be awkward?
Also, is it friends you want or girls? 'cause the two ain't the same my friend.
>>17165545
You mean sports or vidya? How is the latter social?
>>17165553
Friends to your second question. For the first, I'd like to think I'm decent in conversations but I am a bit autistic. I hide it well with causal acquaintances.
