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are double standards across different sex relationships okay?
is it ok for me to have a main squeeze and a couple of old girls who are friends but not liek dat at the same time actively seperate her from ever going near another man again?
If I deciphered your message correctly, then no, it makes you a massive hypocrite. Don't impose standards on others that you don't hold yourself to.
>>17163954
but im not here, you're saying standards are objectively universal? im suppose to be my own girlfriend? sounds like a mental illness.. if i was my girlfriend id expect this, so how is it hypocritical?
>>17163957
It is hypocritical because you have expectations of her that you don't meet yourself. No, it is not universal, but asking something of a partner that you don't want to do yourself is not fair. You CAN ask it. Maybe she has no issue with not having male friends and it works for the two of you. But expecting it or not taking no for an answer is not fair.
I'm gonna say my high school graduation speech tonight in front of a group of hundreds. I'm not naturally nervous but I'm getting a bit more nervous as the time gets closer. Any tips on not getting nervous?
Realise everyone is excited, nervous, busy and doesn't give too much of a shit about what you say. You'll do great and probably won't remember the night well as will no one else.
>>17163913
Dude, congratulations! That is pretty awesome to tell a speech in front of that many people! What is your speech about?
Picture everyone naked. Especially your parents.
This is my scalp /adv/ what is it and how do I make it better?
All advice appreciated
>>17163875
Bump
looks like it might be psoriasis
go to the derma if you can
if not, lush makes really good shampoo that could help you. it's pricy but it lasts awhile, and it smells kind of weird, like a campfire, but it's worth it imo
here: http://www.lushusa.com/Soak-and-Float/00101,en_US,pd.html
also rinsing your head with some diluted apple cider vinegar MIGHT help
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Use Nizoral with Ketoconazole shampoo
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I am the only member in my family who isn't obese.
How do I convince my family that I don't have an eating disorder?
>>17163855
Why do they need to be convinced? Are they forcing you to be interned in a hospital or something?
>>17163857
No, getting gaslighted about it just makes me lose my mind.
Your family is disgusting and you are normal, they should be ashamed of being fat cunts.
I'm really done guys. I need help with my acne and I don't know what else to do.
I thought all the measures I've made were enough and I did make great progress but it's not fully gone and it is pissing me off. I occasionally still get big zits. Other than that I have many, many very small ones which I could handle. I was fine with it before but I just want it entirely gone already, because it just makes me feel gross whenever I get the big ones again.
What can I do?
I already removed a lot of things from my diet such as diary products and just so many other specific things that I've proven give me zits. I eat a lot of vegetables. I always eat fresh. I avoid red meat. I wash my face in the morning and the evening with antiseptic face wash. I wash my hands regularly. I use salicylic acid every night. I wash my bedding weekly.
All of that helped me a lot, but it's just not enough.
What else can I do? Except using antibiotics by the way.
Please help
do you smoke?
and do you have an oily skin/skin that sweats easily in general?
>>17163852
I don't smoke and yes my skin is oily at some parts. I also sweat easily although I'm thin
ive been there, tried all the advice and 100% of it is bullshit. seriously, save your time and money and go to a doctor right aw-
>Except using antibiotics by the way
never mind, keep trying your placebo methods for another two months.
TL;DR: I need a name for a new college.
I work for a company that's starting a private college. We are all brainstorming to think of a name for this thing, but we aren't getting anywhere.
The boss doesn't want to name it after somebody or somewhere that's totally unrelated. The town, city and province it's in already have institutions using their names, so we can't just name it Cityname College.
What would you name a college, /adv/?
>>17163829
Think of something that rings well with two or three syllables and add college.
ex: Harvard College, Dartmouth College, Boston College...
How about Threadwork College?
>>17163829
Something meaningless but impressive sounding
Academy University
College of Life Studies
East Southwestern A & M
Frankenstein University?
Gf is an aspiring actress and may eventually have to do kissing/sex scenes with people that aren't me. I don't like the idea at all, wat do?
>>17163814
Why don't you like the idea of kissing other actors/actresses?
>>17163817
Cus I like the sensual/sexual parts of our relationship to be strictly between us only
She's an actress dude, fucking lighten up
my friends dont really do anything but play games. it has got to the point where they would rather sit in and play games than go out. i like games too but they can literally do both, they dont have to spend 24/7 playing games. we are all off uni for like 3 months too, i dont want all that time spent doing nothing but playing games. they said, during the their time off, they would do shit, like go on nights out, and plan events for the day but they have never suggested anything and if i suggest doing something, they make no effort. my group of friends go to a different uni, i...
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Go out and find a friend group that want to do what you want to do, I have many friend circles for alot of different shit man, expand your horizon
>>17163767
bump
>>17163781
how though? the only place i can really make friends is uni and i made friends with all the guys in my class. plus most people in general where i live generally dont do anything but play games or go clubbing.
How do I stop hating myself ? I try to put on a good show and hide it but it's not a good solution I guess.
Bump, I could use some help
Try and identify the things you hate about yourself and take steps to improve those issues. It isn't going to be an overnight thing, you need to change the way you see yourself.
We all have flaws and there are times when it feels like everything about you in negative. It's about self-improvement, committing yourself to this and slowly raising your opinion of yourself.
You're not a bad person, anon. Cut yourself some slack. Good luck.
>>17163798
This is what I 'm trying to do.
I realized that I' m someone afraid of conflict and very often hide his feelings. I tried to pass that by confessing to a friend that I loved for months (no success but at least I took a step)
I'm not very comfortable with my body so I decided to start working out at home and I try to eat more, and I 'm planning on going to the swimming pool each time a week.
I also have some kind of hate inside me, I can be hateful but I don't show it. I' m cynical and quite pessimistic, I don't know what to do about it.
But I feel like there are bigger issues with me, I can' t point them out tho
>Sex with girlfriend 3rd time, starting to figure her out, she says it's almost impossible for her to cum from penetration. Easy with oral though.
>I can feel her cum, we even do it together
>ohthankgod.jpg
>ask if she came
>"yeah! I mean it wasn't a 4th of July but yeah!"
>fuck it, I'm not letting that take this ego boost from me I did great
>fast forward a bit we're talking
>"I wanna cum together!" Then I say we kindof already have she says something like "well yeah but I wanna cum harder"
>is then confused and worried when she notices my face drop
I'm insecure as fuck. She knows it too, I've told her and she reassured me that she doesn't ever want to hurt me or make me uncomfortable but she doesn't seem to understand why I'm so worried about it.
It really depends on her vagina, there's not much you can do. I had women that came almost instantly, giving them multiple orgasms in one night by just wriggling my finger. And I've had women I had to keep messing with for almost an hour before they came.
I think it's more related to your girlfriends sensitivity than your ability. Women's vaginas vary a LOT. Some can't even orgasm in their entire life.
>>17163747
Why don't you try to please her like she wants rather than acting all insecure and offended like you're doing? You aren't going to give her what she wants by bitching. This is why I bought myself a clit vibrator and why she should too, if you want something done you gotta do it yourself.
>>17163747
Your insecurity is a huge turn-off and if I were your gf I would dump you. It's fine if you don't know how to please me right away but bitching is unacceptable. Shut up and keep trying and correcting your actions until you get it right without being an insecure whiny little bitch, a man complaining about his insecurity instead of being confident like he should be is fucking disgusting.
Hey people of /adv/.
Is it possible for a 20 something year old to learn programming on the internet? Also, I don't have any experience with it, maybe some css and html knowledge but that's about it when it comes to anything close to that area.
Is it possible? Or should I take classes?
Also, I'm a girl. So I can't learn that fast. HEHEHEH jk.
Thanks in advance!
>>17163743
Yes it is
You don't need theoretical courses to learn programming, just a lot of practice
Also, actual programming is very different from CSS and HTML
Start by learning Java or C#, they are common languages that can help you grasp the thought process of programming
It's possible if you have the discipline to dedicate time for learning. You have to figure out what you specifically want out of programming and develope a plan to reach your goal. You can learn everything they teach you in classes or college course online through youtube but books are also really beneficial as well. It's going to take lots of persistence, practice, and constant exposure to learning material if you want to be consistent and competent in programming. But if you're the type to lose motivation quickly when learning new things then it's not worth entertaining.
>>17163743
Don't know what language you plan on learning, but this is a good place to start https://www.codecademy.com
So how long until you stop being suicidal on anti depressants and mood stabilizers? I keep getting told I have to give it time but it´s been a year already
That's too long, should talk to them about changing meds
Whoa. I'd say 1-3 months. Get thee back to the dr.
>>17163733
>>17163738
Felt more numb at the beginning but these last few months I can´t stop dreaming and wanting suicide
He just tells me there´s nothing else he can prescribe besides Lexapro (escitalopram) and Tegretol (carbamazepine). Is he bullshitting me?
Won't even up the dose
Today is my 24th birthday
>still in college
>moved back in with my parents
>currently working a shitty part-time retail job
>no gf
Any words of encouragement or motivation? Have any of you gone through this yourselves or something similar? I'm feeling like total shit.
>>17163729
You have solidarity with millions of other young people in that situation
>>17163755
Is it really that normal?
One of my best friends is just half a year older but has a great job and owns a house. I guess I measure myself to her in some ways
OP, I wouldn't worry too much about what's going on with your friend, everyone is on their own path. After I graduated high school I basically sat around and did drugs all day while the people around me left for ivy league schools. Just about six years later and I'm graduating with my b.s. and on my way to graduate school in the ivy league.
Just worry about yourself and what you're doing. Work hard and you'll make it out and end up where you want to be. Life isn't a race to the finish.
What are some relationship red flags, things to look out for in a partner that don't bode well for the future?
I'm looking on a larger scope than the usual red-pill sexuality/fidelity stuff: career & finance, work ethic, cleanliness, habits, ambitions, health, sex life, that sort of thing.
Particularly want to hear from people whose (long-term) relationships didn't work out and can look back and identify the early signs/omens.
Each relationship is different, but ask yourself how you will handle selfishness, narcissism, level of cleanliness. You're looking for a person you can't live without, not someone you can bear living with. There are always going to be things to fight about, so make sure you are ready and able to put up with sharing your life. Good luck!
>>17163710
This
Also
Lying, to themselves and to you as well
The next girl who lies to me and catches herself in her own lie I'll dump immediately
My red flags:
Someone who doesn't know how to properly convey emotions.
Anger issues.
Unhygienic and messy.
Being very hard to talk to about any concerns or issues relating to the relationship.
Thinking that cuddling while watching tv is foreplay.
A porn/masturbation addict.
Any kind of addict.
Someone who calls sex lines.
Overly private.
Workaholics.
Poor eating habits.
Little dating/relationship experience.
Has many friends of the opposite sex. (one of the girls/guys kind of people)
Doesn't drive.
Unemployed....
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Have any of you had experience with shitty housemates?
I'm currently in a situation where my friend of many years has seemingly gone off the deep end and has physically assaulted my other housemate (dragged him around, punched him, foot on throat, all unprovoked) as well as decked me once or twice so he needs to go. We're all cosigned on the lease though. The police had words with him the other day and as of today he's been asked to leave but hasn't agreed to (he doesn't really have anywhere to go except home), his share of the bond was even going...
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That's beyond a shitty housemate. A shitty housemate is someone who doesn't do their dishes or tries to stuff shit into an already full garbage rather than taking the trash bag out.
You're not living with a shitty housemate, that's a criminal.
Was best friends with my cousin, long as I can remember. We moved in together for a year. He started dating a friend of mine early on. She dominated his personality. He and I got into some major fights. I moved out. They got married. We have talked twice since then. It's been 4 years.
Everyone says, don't move in with your friend. I cannot stress this enough, it is totally 100% true.
>>17163716
This. Eventually, one day, you WILL get annoyed about eachother and have a conflict and your friendship will be ruined.
