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So, my girlfriend made a new male friend. He's a new volunteer at community center she regularly volunteers at. Now, my girlfriend has male friends. But these guys she's known for years, back from high school and some even from middle school, and its never been a problem for me. But this new friend. I don't know how I feel about him. They volunteer together on Saturdays, and they exchanged numbers and they text all day, everyday. To be somewhat fair though, my girlfriend texts a lot of people all day long, she's social af and always on her phone. But still....
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There's a decent chance you'll get cucked, judging from this evidence 2bh. Adult men and women aren't meant to be friends, no matter how much people pretend it's fine. There will always be some attraction, unless they grew up together and see eachother as family, or keep enough distance and are just 'couples' friends that you meet with your partner now and then.
>>17161651
Honestly this is a very touchy situation.
If you confront her about him you might make her feel like you don't trust her.
I say wait until you have something incriminating about their relationship first before you panic. However, you could ask her about him... You know to pick her brain about him..
>>17161651
Why does she need to have his number?
Why does she need another male friend?
Respect yourself more OP, You are the last male friend she needs OP. You can work without people without being their text buddy. Confront her on this OP.
Hey adv. 21 F here,
I just made myself throw up for the first time. I've always had a problem with my weight. Sometimes when I eat I feel like crying and I feel really guilty. Sometimes I'll starve myself on purpose as a form of self harm.
I looked up some symptoms and apparently I'm at risk for bulimia nervosa. I just want to be skinny and happy but I honestly see know results when I eat right and exercise. Throwing up made me feel better but I know it's not the way. I'm afraid that this'll get out of hand.
I'll ask two...
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>>17161639
if calories out>calories in
you will lose weight. that is all there is to it
>>17161639
Seek. Professional. Help.
>>17161639
The fact that you are asking for help either way makes me believe this is some sort of research exercise for varying opinions on eating disorders, that or a troll.
pls help
what do i tell someone who doesn't have a will to live and doesn't want to keep living
don't tell me those stupid normie bullshit advice
"THINK ABOUT YOUR FAMILY DON'T BE SELFISH "
"IT'S NOT WORTH IT"
pls help me
>>17161629
id simply call the cops and get them to their address.
then distract them til the cops got there.
Tell them you love them and they're important to you.
If you care enough, that should be true too. Whether it's family or romantic or platonic friend. Get them professional help.
make them go to places and do things that are worthwHile and bring back the spark of life in them
i guess its not the words but the actions and intentions behind them that matters most
don't be sucked in the frame
also professionnal help for sure
My boyfriend is super shy, so I want to use sexual conditioning to get him out of his shell, are there any guides on how to do this? Do you have tips?
pull his pants down and suck his dick
seriously, not that hard
>>17161601
>sexual conditioning to get him out of his shell
What does that mean? What would "improvement" in him look like?
>>17161622
>suck his dick
>not that hard
That might be the problem.
Here's the back story
> Meet girl
>My first hug
> First holding hands
> First kiss
Pretty much first everything but here's the thing I'm none of those things to her.
The only time I thought I could have my first is through sex but now she's saying she doesn't want to have sex until she goes and finishes university.
She will probably end up loosing it there to some random fuckig guy.
What do I do /adv/ please help me
>>17161597
move on.
>>17161597
Forogt to mention she's my girlfriend
>>17161615
move on.
I'm uninsured, had to go to the emergency room, and now I cannot pay the bill. It's well over 2k. and I can barely afford to buy cigarettes let alone pay that!
I have no credit due to being a NEET. Can I ignore the bill or will this hurt me in some way? I have nothing to my name. I don't even know what credit is or if I have it. Can this effect future credit? Can they take jail me?
I didn't even want to go, but the assholes took me there. This is making super anxious! What do /adv/?
Aaaaah, America. Gotta love it.
>>17161571
>can they take my to jail
no. if that was the case half of america would be in jail.
it will effect your credit. your credit is essnetially a number that indicates to companies whether or not they can trust you.
for instance, if you want to buy a car, you dont pay for it all at once. you make small monthly payments. but if you cannot pay back your hospital bill, then that means you cannot be trusted to pay your car bill, and it would NOT be in their interest...
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>>17161571
It shitty that you're in this situation.
>Can I ignore this bill
Doing so will destroy your credit, but if you can't pay you can work out a payment plan with hospital/caregivers. They'll do anything to avoid sending it to collections or writing it off.
There are also regulations that limit the interest on medical bills, so don't be in a hurry to pay them off.
I think 4chan has ruined my ability to get a job and integrate with society.
What do?
Don't blame a website for your personal shortcomings
>>17161549
It's the websites fucking fault
If this place wasn't so fucking despicable and amoral I wouldn't be in this position
>>17161566
You sound like the kind of person who would sue Mcdonalds for making you fat.
Hi /adv/. I have an obsessive and perfectionist personality. When I was a baby, my parents say I'd watch the washing machine, play with water all day, shit like that. I had many friends growing up (even though I sucked with girls), I was smart and I had an overall good life. There were times I was a shut-in faggot and there were times I was outgoing, funny and charming. And usually I'm kinda awkward and I fuck shit up, spilling spaghettis. I still can't overlook the fact that I was displaying the signs of autism when I was little. How do I know if I have the autismo...
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Seek professional help.
>>17161544
I had a therapist but she never mentioned it. She would if I had it, right?
>>17161537
I don't understand why this would matter to you. It's not like it's going to change who you are in any way. Seems like a waste of time to me.
I paid for my prom and luncheon but since I didn't do enough service learning hours by yesterday they're taking it away. They say there's no refunds for the tickets. Any way I can force them to give me back my money?
I'm 18 btw.....
Haha teenager problems
You should have done the shit you were supposed to do. Take this as a lesson for the rest of your life.
>>17161543
How about help me out anon instead of acting like you're over the age of 20
Tell your parents.
Am I an asshole if I think birthday parties for babies are pointless and a waste of money?
No, you're right. But early on they're more to help the parents than anything. So they don't have to spend as much on toys/clothes. It's for their benefit but you can do without really
>>17161514
Depends on who the party is for. Up until a certain age you should throw them a party or you're an asshole. Afterward, no one cares.
>>17161525
This is the opposite of true what
Hi /adv/. For a couple of months now I've wanting to get a new style. right now it just kind of long and shaggy (just below my chin). I want something like pic related but I get really nervous over shit like this, my appearance. I worry about what other people will say or think about how i look.
A part of me knows this will look decent on me because i have a similar face shape (minus the cheek bones) and near enough the same hair type. However, another part can't stop thinking about what happens if it looks crap.
What can i do to get over this anxiety and...
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heres another pic
and another. all are the same guy
>>17161506
Go to your barber (I always use a barber rather than a hairdresser, but whatever floats your boat) and tell him what you just told us. He'll know straight away what the best thing to do is.
Even if you do get the cut then decide you don't like it that's not the end of the world. You could get it cut again in to a different shorter style, you could shave it off (assuming you have a reasonable head shape of course), you could wear a hat, or you could just wait a few weeks and let it grow out.
Any one has the rest of this??
why would you want it? it's full of half truths and wont benefit anyone who actually has issues with women
>>17161501
So that's a no?
Don't have the rest
but check out real social dynamics on youtube
there's a shit ton of content in there
I just got out of a long term relationship with a girl who had serious intimacy issues. I'd been with her for my whole adult life, and we never once had sex.
Which, yes, is the probably most beta thing imaginable, please contain your memes, I'm aware.
Occasional hand stuff, but anytime we'd try to go farther than that she'd freak out and have to stop.
So now we're apart and I don't have a single fucking clue what I'm doing either in the dating arena or in the bedroom, despite pushing 30.
What the fuck do I even...
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>>17161486
Wait 10 more years and you can live like the movie. It all worked out okay for him.
>>17161486
>how do i make up for lost time
you dont. you are where you are. you go in not falling for that trap again, but this is who you are.
>>17161486
>>17161561
>An almost-30 dude with the dating and sexual experience of a 17-year old does not seem that desirable--I don't like my chances.
as long as you dont wear your button that says 'im a virgin, ask me how!' girls will have no reason to assume you are a virgin. no one looks at the 30 year old who just got out of a decade long relationship and thinks 'WOW HE MUST BE A VIRGIN'. by the time a girl...
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Hey /adv/,
There's this guy who basically bullied me a few months ago. He'd ridicule my ideas, spread shit about me, and ignore me. He also treated his girlfriend like shit, pushing her around and making her feel bad constantly.
He worked as an assistant high school teacher for a while, and I saw that there was a review of him on RateYourTeacher(s). To get back at him I posted a mediocre review (2 and 3 stars for most categories), but 1 star on the recommendation entry. In the review I basically described how he treated people badly, but I also accused him of making female students feel uncomfortable through "creepy comments and staring" (I was pretending to be a student). I don't know if that site actually means anything, but if it does, I suspect this could hurt his career.
Now I feel really guilty, like I did something wrong.
What do?
Maybe what you did isn't wrong, he saw it coming
But next time step up and get proactive at defending your opinion when shits happens in front of you, that's what you regret and that's what made you do this in the first place
What if he knows you did this ? Will you assume your action ?
>>17161492
I think your observation about the regret for not being proactive is a really good one. You're right, I do need to get better at dealing with conflict and standing up for myself.
There's pretty much no chance he'll trace it back to me. The way he's acted affected me, but I doubt I'm a significant person in his life. If he were to try and brainstorm the people who want to get back at him, I doubt I'd even come up.
Sometimes we have to be the cosmic force the fucks over bad people. Petty? Sure. But if not us, who?
Is it really not possible to just start as friends and gradually fall in love?
Steve Urkel did it. I want that to be my life.
That's how I got together with my girlfriend
But it's a shit plan if that's your goal from the beginning.
>>17161498
how long did you know each other before confessing your feelings to one another? how did she react? howcome you weren't rejected for being in the friendzone?
I was a friend with a guy for 5 years before I developed romantic feelings for him. 2 years later I confessed, and he felt the same.
But we never became a couple.
