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Why do women keep falling for the short hair meme? Do they not realize how utter shit it looks? No guy wants a pseudo dyke.
Because some of them look good, but its reaaaaally hard to pull of.
If a beautiful girl cuts her hair really short she becomes stunning and unique, if an average girl do it she becomes just ugly
>>17233584
>>/b/
Why do men keep falling for the man bun meme? Do they not realize how utter shit it looks? No girl wants a full on hipster.
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Posting here because /vr/ is slow as shit.
I was storing an original Xbox and Dreamcast, some games, and controllers in a big plastic bin I got from Wal-Mart for $5 for a few months. Just took them out and was immediately hit with a strong chemical-life odor when I opened the lid. Now both consoles, the games, and controllers all smell strongly.
How the fuck do I get this smell out?
Things I've already tried:
>wrapping everything in newspaper
>leaving them outside in the sun to air out for...
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I don't think keeping that stuff with you is very healthy, 'strong chemical life odor' is almost never a good thing.
You can try dismantling and cleaning it
>>17233566
I meant chemical-like, not chemical life, but yeah it doesn't smell like it's something I'd want to breathe in much. I'm throwing out the plastic bin but I really don't want to throw out my consoles.
I'll try dismantling them today I guess.
That's just the Smell of all that plastic. Perfectly normal and not dangerous at all.
For some reason I'm the one that everyone hates and ignores and doesn't bring anywhere.
Why? How do I find out? Is it the way I talk or what?
being ignored is different from being hated
if you are ignored chances are you just need to meet different people who connect with you better
if you are hated by everyone you're probably a huge asshole
Start changing things about how you behave, talk, dress, etc.
Just look it this way
>the way I'm doing things is causing X, let's slowly changes things and see what is causing it
For me at least, it was how I didn't look people in the eyes and wasnt' expresive enough
OP, this is the wrong place to ask that question. None of us know you or know anything about you so obviously we could never answer that question.
To find out, you need to talk to someone who knows you and ask for their brutally honest opinion
I'm having troubles with my fiance's past - she's the type of girl who thinks promiscuity isn't a bad thing, and has had around 9 sexual partners, whereas I've had just two (including her) - I know a lot of people are going to just say "it's the past let it go" or "so what sex doesn't matter" but it does to me, and I've tried to think these things, but it keeps bugging me, and it keeps pulling me away from her.
I think about it like this - if someone had been married 9 times, I would think "gee, our marriage...
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As you say, she's not the only one you've been with either. How do you reconcile that without hypocrisy?
You're right OP, people who don't get it right the first time are basically worthless and less than human. Practice and experience are made up words.
>>17233545
>>17233553
Nice samefag you've got going there, but even though I know you're not reading into the story, but instead flustered for whatever reason I'm still going to spell it out to you - There is a fundamental disconnect happening when one partner views sex as an amusing recreation, and the other as a sacred and commitment action - it's not about "getting it right" it's about your whole attitude towards it - she has stated promiscuity...
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Wife's birthday is in two days, money is tight because I just changed to a commissioned job, limited on what we can do because we have a 10 month old. She's not the type to get pissy if I don't do something swell for her birthday, but what's something swell I could do for her birthday?
>>17233515
MAKE a card. Take some paper and some crayons or pens or whatever. Write some shit about how much she means to you in it, go outside, find a leaf or a fucking flower and press that in the card with some books or something (bitches love nature) and use your kids feet to put little footprints in it, too.
Costs nothing.
Super "thoughtful".
You're welcome.
>being married if you are poor
Why
>>17233515
Get her a small trinket and give her a nice massage, let her relax and take care of the day's errands for her
I have two questions:
1st: I've never done any hallucinogens but sometimes stuff I am looking at starts to move in an unnatural way (e.g. the pavement running like a river under my feet / the hills coming onto me like waves). Am I crazy ? Should I seek professional help?
2nd: I cannot maintain small talk even with my relatives. I would not start talking to no one because I really don't have anything important to say and whenever someone tries to talk with me I am just listening and giving a short opinion thus ending the conversation. This really fucks...
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I feel the same, and I am afraid there is nothing you can do but living with it.
Get chekek'd forMS
>>17233494
1. Sounds weird, I used to get this but I used to drop LSD a lot a couple of years ago so it might be flashbacks. If you go to the doctor expect it to take a long fucking time to get a proper diagnosis because hallucinations can be caused by all kinds of shit.
2. You need to practice more, talk to people more and learn to 'link' answers to more questions. Read 'Models' by Mark Manson, it's a pick up book but has answers for your problem
So that's it, I just travelled across the country to be with a girl and cheat on my my partner (with a girl Ive known online for years, this was our one chance to meet and act out a romance we had that never really died) and am currently on the train home. Obviously she's none the wiser.
What happens now? I just pretend it never happened? Any tips for a cheater?
>>17233489
Live with the guilt until it consumes you or tell your partner and destroy your relationship. There are no other alternatives.
>>17233499
Or just keep shamelessly cheating because you have no empathy then turn it around on your gf to make her out to be the bad guy when she finds out.
>>17233489
Are you gonna move out there and be with this internet woman long term?
Was this just a one-time fling?
Do you plan to keep fucking around with other women?
Just go back to your life and pretend it never happened. Whatever. What she doesn't know won't hurt her.
Also, you're a bad person.
So, my crush has had a bit of a nervous breakdown due to overstress and work, going through divorce, etc. She's needing time to clear her head and is very on edge. She's also moved about 3 hours away to get a bit of seaside relaxation.
I'll probably arrange to see her on weekends, not sure how often.
She feels anxious and worried around lots of people. So what sort of things can I arrange to do with her?
Ideas I have so far:
Picnics
Walks in parks
Maybe a bit of boating
What else are good ideas?
>>17233383
Shes clearly insane
>>17233565
Fuck off /r9k/
Op do not listen to this guy we have been flooded by them non stop. People deal with stress differently. Picnic sounds like a nice idea. Check to see if you can have a fire on the beach that would be nice. Maybe biking on nature trails if you both have bikes.
>>17233570
I'm not sure how much I will get to see her, but I'll try my best for it to be often.
But yeah, something like that sounds good.
I am the girl from >>17232784
I can't help but think he values the friendship less than I do and I don't even know if he thinks of me as a friend anymore.
I feel really let down at this moment. I am starting to feel like I wasted all my time befriending him as now he does not even want to meet me, yet deep inside, I know that I will miss him as our relationship is "brotherly-sisterly" (maybe).
Should I reconsider my friendship with him?
>>17233386
Well, anything useful?
Should I even ask him if he thinks of me as a friend or what and be honest about how I feel?
hey
Look its not easy for guys to keep a friendship with a girl, we fell in love really quick and its confusing at times.
Its obvious that he has feelings for you and its mutual from what i see.
Now the problem is that he is to young, simply put it he is afraid.
The reason he doesnt want to tell his family about you is because he knows they will not understand why this is happening.
Ask your self, imagine you are a mother and your 18 year old son comes to you and says an older woman from germany is coming to meet him for the 1st time.
He...
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>>17233398
>Its obvious that he has feelings for you and its mutual from what i see
I confronted him about this and he said that it is all platonic
>Right now i imagine that he might be suffering trying to coupe with the decision of wanting you to go or not.
I know, but still, what a fucking bastard!
>all friends who don't have phone talk to via FB
>Now FB is forcing mobile users to download stupid app I hate.
Is there no way around this or am I doomed to talk to them only on a computer.
I've tried setting my browser to desktop mode, but FB tends to load the feed the more I scroll down.
>>17233331
They forced this months and months ago didn't they? I hated it too but seriously not worth griping about.
>>17233354
Did they? It was working fine yesterday.
>>17233378
I was forced to change to the messenger app at least 6 months ago, the facebook app refused to let me use the message side anymore.
I have a pretty new phone with all the stuff that entails though, so maybe newer phones are forced to upgrade sooner? Or it's a location or OS based thing.
Hey adv,
So today I had a dream my dad died, woke up because my tears were everywhere, got up and I was still quite shaken. My mum cheered me up and said aww and then my dad got home. So I went to hug him, but after a short hug he pushed me away and I was still standing there shaken from the dream and he started talking about something else.
I am 18, and today I realised my dad never hugs me. Mum hugs me sometimes but I never get an I love you either.
I was just thinking why does my dad push me away or refuse to hug me so I googled the possible answers but all...
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>>17233287
Some people are just like that. Nothing wrong with it. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Don't force this on them.
>>17233315
But he hugs other people, that's the thing
Stop being a fag
I need a neutral opinion on this turn of events, I need someone from outside.
>two friends had been dating for a few months
>recently she broke up with him because he was too pushy so to speak, was creeping her out and shit
>so here I am listening to him bitch and be generally emo and try to give him some encouragement, and just ended up just talking with her for a while
>after I had talked to her for a while I noticed I had started to develop feelings for her. I've had problems with telling people how I feel because of past experience, and I suppose I was afraid if I didn't say anything, that I might lose my chance
>so I bite the bullet and tell her, she tells me she started feeling the same way yadda yadda you know how this goes
>we both agreed though, we would wait to make this public until after our friend had simmered down from the whole thing
>after about a week or two I decided I would just have to tell him, he didn't seem like he'd be able to let it go and still seemed to think there was a chance left
>I knew it probably wouldn't go so well, and it didn't. He blows up in my face, starts yelling about being betrayed
>me and him argue for a bit and decide to just try and settle down, not get involved with each other for a while
>so this goes on
>but even when I have important (sometimes personal) shit to tell him about he just ignores it completely, like he just doesn't want to acknowledge me because maybe I might go away
>so I confront him about it, he goes off again, talks about how I shoulda have told him beforehand, asked his "permission" basically.
>shitniggerwhatareyousaying
>I'm the one blowing up in his face, start laying on the table everything he does or has done that was fucking retarded or childish, leave him off with telling him to grow the fuck up and learn to let go
>turn my phone off and grab a drink
Were we both in the wrong, /adv/?
>Were we both in the wrong, /adv/?
Short answer: yes.
>>17233286
You only waited 2 weeks dude.Would you jump in his grave as fast?
>>17233286
Keeping the secret until he had simmered down was the right move
(You) done goofed
I have been casually attracted to one of my best friends. We have a lot in common and have been close throughout secondary school.
Over the last 2 years, i have recognised that she holds a special place to me in my circle of friends, even if we no longer meet, write and/or talk as regularly as we used to.
>It is possible that she does not share my feelings, as she is the prone-to-accidentally-flirt type. Or i am misinterpreting signs.
These feelings usually come in infrequent waves (every few weeks), especially if i have a moment...
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Cannot be the first and only one.
>>17233280
Ask her out. She will probably refuse but will do so nicely if she's your best friend.
That also seems to be the best solution in your situation as you may be overthinking.
Just ask her.
Asianbro here dating a qt white waifu gf of over 1.5 years now we're both attending college.
Lately things have been falling apart. We used to have frequent intimate moments and intimacy together but lately she's been almost non-existent. She has since developed a chronic debilitating health condition in which she can no longer perform the common tasks associated with being a 2016 young, college girlfriend.
As her health condition worsens, it has been exceedingly difficult to even spend time together as a couple and it is getting harder and harder for me to cope with this. She can't have food as her health condition warrants only a select number of foods to consume. She can't do anything physically strenuous and she can't do extended activity for her lack of energy. Her mood swings and anger and mental state has since deteriorated more and more and it's getting harder to differentiate between the real her or her sickness.
It wasn't like this when we first met and things have been great until recently. It's taking a toll on me. Should I be the hero and stick through it all until her bitter end or call it quits now and save the heartache for everybody? I've invested so much into her and I just feel so heartbroken now. The logical thing is to find a more suitable mate- and there are plenty around. But I feel that would be too heartless? It's depressing and has since affected me emotionally at a level I can no longer function in a daily setting. She was supposed to me my wife, not sick. I might as well be dying too.
What's her condition OP?
>>17233283
It's a condition that's severely limiting her abilities to be the ideal girlfriend material.
She's recently been incredibly beligerent and even offensive and abusive in how she talks to me. I'm having difficulty differentiating from her anger and mental deterioration from her true self. Because she'd almost be bipolar.
Because of this I have been at odds of being alone for weeks on end because she's too crazy or too sick to be that girl that I fell in love with. I'm...
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>>17233340
Parkinsons?
Can I use Paypal as a "savings account" (MANUALLY transfer money from my bank account) every month and save up enough money to buy a big-ticket item?
Cons? Fees? Ethics?
>>17233233
Why would you do this? Why would it be unethical?
It's just pointless.
>>17233233
it's just dumb because you don't earn any interest off of it, it's the same as stuffing cash under your mattress
Yes, but it's a waste compared to just using an interest-bearing savings account.
Also if the big-ticket item is an apple product, consider instead using your entire next paycheck to invest in the most effective suicide method available.
