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My girlfriend is going on a vacation trip to Los Angeles for 2 weeks next month with her friends. I'm scared she's going to cuck me. She's never shown any behavior that has made me suspicious and I trust her, but something about her being 1500 miles away for two weeks, going out with her friends makes me a little worried. How do I get over it?
Unless she's shown signs of cheating then relax. It's like a natural thing to be nervous, but unless she's done shit in the past, comfort yourself with the knowledge that your worry is (for now) baseless and irrational
I wouldn't worry unless she is going to drink alcohol. Never, in my life, have I EVER met a girl who doesn't get slutty when she drinks alcohol. I mean literally never, not once.
I believe there are plenty of women out there who are completely faithful to their partners, and have no intentions of cheating and never would. But something about alcohol brings out the beast in women.
>>17236646
I should've mentioned in the OP that her friends are big party freaks and like to go clubbing and do shit like that. I sometimes go clubbing with my gf too and there's always at least 1 guy that tries to go up to her until they see that she's with me. Now her being alone, in a club, in a big city, idk. I still feel like it is irrational but I can't get over it.
>>17236669
We always drink when we go out to bars or go clubbing. But she's with me. I'm not even sure if she's gonna drink there.
over the past two years I have been feeling really tired, im never able to concentrate and get constant headaches which is starting to affect my education. the best way i can describe it is almost the exact symptoms as post concussive syndrome (I don't think I have ever had a concussion).
does anyone here have any idea what it might be or feeling the same way.
Do you wear glasses/have you ever gotten your eyesight checked? Might be time for a new prescription
>>17236629
Maybe depression.
All I want to do is sleep. Sore/weak limbs, cold breathing, decreased vision, foggy urine, headaches, no true emotions. Someone needs to kill me goddamn it
>>17236631
I got my vision tested recently with no problems, pretty much perfect vision.
>>17236633
I have been feeling pretty depressed but I think that is more of a side effect. I don't really feel sad and nothing really bad has happened in my life, it just feels more like im in autopilot.
hey /adv/, I have a complicated problem
So this girl and I have been talking a lot, like for months and we've even hung out a few times. About a month ago one of her really close friends who happened to be a friend of mine told me that she was attracted to me, and wanted to be "more than friends". So this was pretty good,we kept talking though now we were flirting with each other as well. Then,this other girl began talking to me a lot and I found out she also, had a thing for me. Girl 1(who I had started to develop feelings for) obviously got jealous, and would act visibly uncomfortable every time I brought up girl 2. I ended up blocking girl 2 in hopes of just focusing on girl 1, but I unblocked her bc I felt bad. Well, girl 1 found out and got kind of salty, but I reassured her I had no feelings for the other girl, and now today I find out that girl 1, doesn't "want to ruin our friendship" so she's not attracted to me anymore.
What the fuck happened /adv/?
Yo got greedy. Did you really unblock girl 2 because you felt bad for her or because you liked the attention she gave you? Girls can get guys easy, so why should girl 1 stick with you when you showed that you can't focus on just her? If you knew she was interested in something more with you and you liked her too then why did you even entertain anything with the other girl
>>17236612
You're right.. I fucked up. Abt advice for what to do now?
>>17236623
This is coming from a girl who just went through something similar with a guy who was talking to another girl.
The fact that you talked to girl 1 about girl 2 kind of confuses me, especially when you knew it made her uncomfortable. Was it to show that you were in demand? Whatever reason, the fact that you waved this other girl in her face and then went back to talking to her doesn't look too good on your part. she probably thinks that you can't commit and if you actually went further with your relationship that she would have to deal with you talking to others and not holding true to your word. So she probably broke it off because even though you made it clear there was nothing between you two, she didn't see you as the type of person she was looking for a relationship with.
The fact that you unblocked her and tried to defend that there was nothing going on with a girl who was interested in you is where you really messed up. The guy I had this happen with tried to play dumb too when I confronted him too, but the girl he was talking to didn't know he was also talking to me so I knew everything he was doing. that made me trust him a little less and I have him the option of talking to him and her. He chose to keep things with me and really apologized for it and made a big deal to show that he was stupid and liked the attention that she gave. And although we still hang out, I lost some trust and respect for him and don't see a relationship coming out of us anymore.
So basically there is still hope but you have to own up to what you did and really show that you mean it. The fact that you actually talked to her about the other girl can actually play in your favor since it shows you weren't exactly trying to hide anything. But keep in mind that even if you do manage to patch things over its probably something that she'll have in the back of her mind or at least change how she views you.
How do I stop masturbating? It feels so damn good but my arms are getting uneven. I do it usually once when I wake up and once before I sleep.
Get an onahole or fleshlight.
Just imagine your mom when you're about to. Either you stop or you're fucked.
Delete all saved porn material and links to such, replace computer chair with standing keyboard and monitor arrangement, be outside as much as possible, don't go to porn sites, and resolve to break your addiction to sexual release altogether- don't expect to ever have sex either, and stop fantasizing about sex.
In my experience its the first 4 weeks that is the crucial transformation period- if you get through that, it will be like nothing tempts you anymore, you still desire physical affection but are not at all desperate/needy about it, you can enjoy just looking at beautiful women without trying to talk to them or feeling frustrated you can't touch them.
When you wake up with raging boner- Don't masturbate
When you have trouble falling asleep- Don't masturbate
When you find yourself slipping and look at porn- Don't masturbate
If you instinctively put your hand to your dick and start rubbing, stop immediately, and don't masturbate
If you see a girl walk by with almost her whole boobs and ass hanging out, don't masturbate.
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tits or ass?
both genders can answer
>>17236546
Whatever tits really. I prefer a shapely ass. A flat ass looks much less appealing. Panty lines look all fucked up on no ass.
>>17236546
Ass> tits
As in: your tits should never be bigger than your ass
How should a guy dress (with pictures)? I have no style, I want a girls opinion most of all. pic unrelated.
Uh, post a picture of yourself. How the fuck are we supposed to know what's going to look good on you if we don't know what you look like?
Hey. Part of my asshole has been stuck inside out the past two days. It hurts so bad, every time I clench my ass it hurts worse.
Will this go away on its own? I swear it's happened before and it's gone away on its own.
>>17236496
Go to the emergency room. This is called rectal prolapse, and it can be quite dangerous.
Who's 9incher did that to you?
>>17236543
It doesn't seem that bad, won't it get better on its own? It's not like it's absolutely debilitating pain. It's only part of my ass and I've tried to stuff it back in.
Is it too early to think about kids? I'm 22 and iI think i don't want to be a mom (but I would love to be an aunt or help take care of a kid. I have something genetic that has a chance of being passed on and i just can't stand dumb kids). i think the guy I just started dating ,who's 26, really wants to have kids someday. is it to early to think about this now or should I let it go?
There were some annoying kids in front of us earlier. They spilled shit on the ground and were blocking the way. I said under my breath to him 'God i hate kids' slightly jokingly, and he looked at me sort of surprised but not in a good way. He asked me if I really did and i just clarified 'just the annoying ones'. He's mentioned offhand once before about 'when he has a future kid' (not to me, just talking about in general).
But it is extremely early in the relationship and i first met him 2 months ago. I've just never been in a relationship before and don't know if this is a wise idea, because he's 26 and unlikely to change his mind i feel?
Try to volunteer in a place with kids. I have hear of free arts for abused children, but that might not be in your areaz
>>17236480
i might try this, to see if I can really make up my mind. i've babysat kids before and i never had a total demon spawn. The kids were actually quite nice. But if I think about all the work that goes into it (diaper change, potty train, drive to school, parent meetings)...
Also, I deal very badly with stress and i can't imagine having something fucking growing in my stomach for 9 months, especially with no way out of it. I don't really like abortion
bumparooni
As you can tell, I met a girl at orientation. I'm not sure if she sees me as just a friend or more than that, but either way I have her number. So, I won't see her again until mid August. Should I text her and try to more into the potential boyfriend zone, or will that just screw me over?
>>17236402
Give her a call and just hang out, if there is chemistry it will happen. If not don't take it personal.
>>17236402
What do you have to lose, arrange a date.
Ask her if you can take her out for dinner. Take the lead and then set a specific time and say you'll pick her up. Just hanging out or meeting up is more of a friend thing. If you take the lead and set up an actual date it sets the tone and makes your intentions more clear. Don't pussy out or beat around the bush. Girls like confidence and guys who go after what they want. She might be nervous about it or unsure but you have to stay confident and go for it. She'll either like you or won't, but at least you gave it a shot. Being scared, indirect, etc only puts you into the friend zone. Just my opinion... I'm a girl btw
>Be a lesbian in a Christian school
>My best friend/girlfriend moved away
>We talk almost daily for 5 years. We become very trusting and loving to each other.
>She randomly tells me today that "She's scared of losing me, but she's scared she'll grow bored and run from me.
>I act chill and tell her to just say if I get boring.
In the back of my mind I'm hurt... Like I just don't know what that was about. I heard this song on the radio today and cried. No idea why:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=caAObyzfqcc
What do I do? Why do I feel like shit after those comments?
>>17236397
I don't mean to make you feel worse, but what kind of friend says something like that? If anything it says a lot about them...
>>17236397
Literally stop being underage you stupid bitch.
Maybe if you stop being an abomination and convert you may be saved in the light you carpet eating witch.
Throuought my life, I've always felt like I valued friendships more than my friends and bffs did. Like it is always me initiating conversations on FB, WhatsApp, etc. Anyone else here have this feeling as well?
Nope, I'm the opposite. I like my friends and all, and I enjoy spending time with and talking to them, but I'm also completely content sitting at home and just playing video games or something in my free time, so I'm never the one to go out of my way to talk to them.
>>17236511
Is there something wrong with my personality then
>>17236608
You are an extrovert; you feed off of the energy of conversation with other people. You are very social and like to talk, right?
So i should break up with my gf by text? I'm getting nervous cause she's very obsessive and mad, she knows where i live, and the place i work, i don't want to get kidnapped or something
Break up with her in a public establishment, where she cannot physically abuse you without witness. Inform your friends and family about the situation and the possibility of future stalking or assault. Inform the police immediately if she does stalk you, or if she shows up at your door and refuse to leave. Document everything. If she can't get the message, get a restraining order. Good luck my friend. Abusive partners are a terrible thing.
>>17236337
Never do it by text, whoever does that has no self respect, lacks courage and responsibility. Be honest and most importantly do it face to face, calmly.
>>17236380
>whoever does that has no self respect, lacks courage and responsibility
Bwuahahahaha.
Or it doesn't matter to them, they're done, and they don't want to have to pretend to give a shit about the other party.
>SAY IT TO MY FACE
Why, so you can misremember the entire relationship casting me as the bad guy, tell me how awesome and special you are, and then lie to yourself that there's nothing wrong with you?
NAAAAAAAAH. I'd rather just text.
/r9k/ called me a liar so I'm here
The fuck happened to my life /adv/
>Have close group of around 5 friends
>All is great, live with friends for while at uni, all nerds, all enjoying life, golden fucking times.
>Especially my MTGbro, skinny little dude I had been friends with since we both got held back a year due to health reasons
>One by one friends all start getting in to tumblr one after each other
>Shrug it off, I don't really understand the point of blogs, keep playing MTG with skinnybro and doing uni work.
>A couple of friends decide they identify as trans
>Cool I guess, you do you
>One by one the other 3 each apparently realise over the next 2-3 months they are all trans too, some FtM some MtF
>Cool, what are the odds huh
>Friends start to make jokes about how "cis" people are trash
>Or how men should all be chemically castrated because they commit most rape or some shit
>Begin to feel uncomfortable
>Write it off as them making jokes to come to terms with gender shit??
>Never get urge to be trans because am not trans
cont.
>Friends ask why I never "explore my gender"
>Tell them I did, immediately realised its correct
>They say okay, sort of start talking to me less
>Still invited to stuff, we all live in the same house at the time
>Kind of feel like they stop treating me like a person, loudly discuss how cis people need to die
>Tell them this makes me kinda sad and uncomfortable
>They say deal with it "you have cis white male privilege"
>??????
>Ask why they are making our individual interpersonal problems about gender politics? Like we don't know each other and aren't friends or something?
>They continue to adopt terrifying views, seemingly coming from tumblr over the course of most of a year
>Pass out at a party one time
>Wake up to them trying to do makeup on me
>Freak out, no likey
>They all call me a transphobe
>Say I just don't like people messing with me in my sleep
>Friendships slowly peter out
>I miss my friends, especially skinnybro
>What happened to them? Where did they go?
Wtf happen
Slow second half, adblock fukd me
>>17236357
I was going to reply but them I find this thread pointless, they are fags why would you want to be around garbage... anyways >>>/r9k/
>>17236408
Because they weren't garbage to start with.
My friends were perfect.
But its like I'm in mourning, as though they all died and got replaced with different people.
One of them was my gf who then decided she was a guy.
Trips names this dog I just adopted. Will post proof of registration this weekend.
>>17236323
Fagga
Donald
>>17236323
Negro
I work at a retail store and there was an employee who was dating another employee. They recently broke up and the girl (who's a QT) has recently kinda been talking to me more, asking if I have instagram, if I have a ps4, etc. She even brought up the break up, although I had heard from other coworkers already. They both still work here.
So my question, can I go for it or would it make things really awkward? I don't do relationships or anything generally and I'm 19 so i don't know how it would go over with my coworkers. I'm fine with just a one night stand or whatever too, I just wanna try at it without everyone at my work hating me.
Dating coworkers isn't really a good idea. Don't have higher expectations than a short term thing and it's all good.
>>17236295
Yeah, I wasn't really plannin on dating really, I'm kinda just trying to fuck, I was just curious if it would make it awkward since her ex still works with me all time as well as her.
>>17236281
Don't shit where you eat. After she fucks you she will dump you and move on to the next coworker
