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What can I do as a career ? I messed up my education so even after I graduate I'd probably only get into shitty community colleges. I'm awful at math and I'm ok at writing / English related subjects. What could I even do?
join a military service
If you can add and subtract ok with a little multiplication and division you could do accounting.
>>17235952
If you cannot do anything other than shit in the correct toilet, then the military is your only hope. If you can do anything, anything else, you can do better.
Adv/ pls wut do? Been seeing her on a basis of once every 3 or 4 weeks for half a year now
>>17235874
you tell her the truth
>>17235874
How do you feel about her? Write that.
>>17235874
Where you from, OP? That chick looks like my boss's daughter.
Hello /adv/, I have a dilema. My heart is telling me to become an engineer but my mind is telling me to become a doctor. I love mathematics and science and I am afraid that I will forget my knowledge of mathematics if I become a doctor. That being said doctors are much more successful financially. Any advice???
Which of your heart or your mind has a track-record of better long-term decisions? Use that one.
>>17235869
Being a doctor is a lot of dedication to school. Being an engineer will take far less time.
Definitely become a doctor. Because the only thing you heart should be leading you to, is me
So far the people I'm around makes me feel like I am shit that will never be anything but an anti-social moron.
Whatever I do to change, they view it as raising the bar for the highly functioning retard, throw me under the bus for two chuckles and continue with their day.
Recently I open myself to other shit like listening to different genres of music(acid jazz, instrumentals ect).
Still getting earshot of their shit talk. "He thinks music will change shit about him."
Listen, I don't actively pursue these people showing anything I do. They usually come around just to see what I am up to. Usually to mock me or something.
I experienced this a lot at the job as well, people only look to criticize, not make friends.
This really gave me a bitter heart toward people, but my social life is at stake.
Thoughts?
The way to be liked is to be vulnerable. Be yourself, show what you're about. People who like the sort of person you are will notice, and there are people who like every kind of person.
Truths about you lose value as weapons against you if you distribute them freely. If showing your colours gets you thrown under the bus by pricks sometimes, that teaches you who the pricks are.
Ignore shit talk for what it is. Only the insecure need to pick on someone—it's such a difficult way of finding entertainment that they must not have much else in their life. That kind of person is invariably unproductive to hang around anyway. You won't learn anything from them. Kill them with kindness. There's no need to feel bad about someone else not yet enlightened.
>>17235814
Have you tried not being a huge faggot? It seems to me that you are, in fact, a huge faggot.
>>17235886
It really is difficult to understand this concept, but at the same time I really never challenged myself this way.
I kinda fooled myself to wait til I met more normal people, but really just people no matter how long I waited and it's been a long wait.
Killing with kindness makes me feel like I'm being made an ass of in the end, but see your point that it won't make me bitter like it currently did.
I'll keep this in mind. To be honest I was given coping skills for this exact subject and completely abandoned them because they didn't feel like they were working.
I think i'm living with a verbally abusive step father. Ever since i can remember my step father would sometimes offend me and make me feel like shit. I'm really trying to get my shit together. but in the meantime i'm usually locked in my room 24/7. I can never be myself around him. I always get nervous and feel like crying. today i was helping my mom cook some chicken wings and i was in a rush because we were all hungry. I've never really prepared chicken wings before so i was just winging it and he comes over and starts to explain how to cut properly which was fine. then he tells me that i should control my emotions because i was rushing therefore struggling.It wasn't like i didn't know wtf i was doing but fine whatever. later on he tells my mom "don't worry, it may take till she's thirty to learn".I didn't get it he was talking about the chicken or in general but i felt bad.I'm getting the understanding that, he teaches me by making me feel like shit. Other times he will yell. i've heard him say a few times that moments like this will stay in my head forever so i can learn. But really all it's done is traumatize me. There are times when he treats me well but other times he would offend me by mentioning my failures. I remember being little and him asking why i get bad grades compared to my cousin who gets straight As and is a genius. Maybe i'm just a failure at life and deserve to die.
I think you need therapy for yourself to learn skills to stand up to him or learn to ignore him, and as soon as you are financially able to, save up and leave the house.
>>17235733
thank you....
>chicken wings
>winging it
Kek, i think you should probably bring it up with your mom or some shit
Hey /adv/. So I'm currently studying Computer Science at uni and I'm halfway through my graduate studies. I've done one internship that was basically all technical writing and setting up meetings and I'm currently interning as a software engineer.
The pay in this field is amazing and the mobility is crazy for how much you could move up the pay grades, but I'm finding I really don't enjoy programming and I'd much rather be talking to people, presenting materials, or scheduling meetings with others rather than sitting at a desk cranking out code.
It was literally within the first two weeks of this current internship I realized I don't want to code for a living as I think I'd go insane. I really don't want to consider any jobs that would pay under $70k a year though, but I'm really having a hard time finding what I might want to do with my life. Thinking of staying in school to get an MBA and maybe try and find a career in consulting, but I'm worried about experience requirements for that kind of job and if I went into HR I don't know if I could live off the lower pay grade. Any advice in general for career moves?
Holy shit that picture is amazing.
What you do is you quickly do a few postgrad degrees or diplomas in management, and hop the code monkey tiers to become team manager or leader.
>>17235736
/g/ is fantastic for images
>>17235743
I've considered that approach. I haven't talked to my manager about how he got to his position before so maybe I'll ask how long it took.
I'm really more looking to barely even touch code if possible. I want something almost entirely human interaction (and to travel too if possible)
>tfw outwardly really confident and charismatic but still too scared to ask girls out
how do i fix this
Don't be such a dick, saving all that awesome for yourself.
Find a girl that deserves to be with someone as amazing as you.
>>17235585
xD
no really
>>17235577
I liken it to throwing yourself over a waterfall. Take a single small step that will put yourself in a position where you can't back out without also looking like a complete idiot. Basically, force yourself to follow through. That's what works for me anyway. My success rate on actually getting a yes is a completely different story, but at least I can manage to ask them out.
Anyone else have a thirst for pussy juice?
How do I convince my gf to let me have a long French kiss session with her pussy? She tells me she feels ticklish every time I try, and she only lets me have a few seconds at it. Am I doing it wrong?
>>17235519
Yes, you are. You probably go in too hard, while she is not aroused enough already and still sensitive.
this has been scientifically proven to raise the chances of throat cancer a lot if done regularly
>>17235724
*If the person being licked has stds
For the ticklishness, try touching her down there first before using your tongue. Pressing/licking harder with your tinge instead of light flicks should help too.
so i have a saliva drug test tomorrow for work, ill be clean for about 36 hours
should i be worried?
Depends what you did and the amount/frequency
>>17235463
dabs everyday for the past 2 weeks, just found out about the test tomorrow
You have a better chance passing a saliva than urine though so that's at least in your favor
Am I a faggot or really spoiled with Internet porn?
I'll drop the story if people want to hear it, don't wanna type a bunch of shit for nothing
hmu with the story senpai
If you're upset with sex in real life because it wasn't like porn, you're a faggot who's really spoiled with internet porn.
>>17235421
so you want people to ask you tell them a story? or something? what's your goal? actually, don't answer. stop posting, close the browser, kill yourself.
So i went out with this girl i know for 3 dates and then she broke things off because she was not into it. Told me we could still be friends and that bullshit. This was about 6 months ago.
Then i tried to be her friend but it was not working on my end because i was still very much in to her. So i broke off contact for some time, up until a few weeks ago.
Now we are texting daily and we hang out some time, like once a week. Im afraid im not so physically atractive, but im working on that(losing weight). Whenever we hang out she's laughing alot at my jokes and sometimes she gets touchy. Now im wondering if i have another shot at this.
Should i stay away and respect that she said no? Should i get fit and try again? What do you guys recommend.
>>17235360
Continue getting fit, drop hints occasionally, see how she responds. Whatever you do, do not give her 100% of your attention.
Getting fit won't change her mind. Did she say she was not attracted to you? If you got sick from food at a restaurant why would you go back? Work on yourself and other girls, don't torture yourself.
How do you know that the reason she rejected you was because she wasn't attracted to you?
I've been here with this boy for almost a year now, he goes off and on with me either we are dating, friends with benefits or we are just friends.Now I've been broken up with several times by this boy and him going back and forth with his ex and I've gone through hell and back with feelings and the saddest part about it all is i love him with all my heart and not once have i ever thought to myself i wish i had someone else. He always wants to be free thinking im trapping him but i never tell him he cant do something. One night he kept hiding his phone from and all his friends and me so i got worried and curious and i took him somewhere we could talk and i asked him what is he hiding, he freaked out and told whats wrong with me.. i told him i felt like shit about what he was doing and i wanted to know if i was overreacting or whatever he said i don't care anymore i said thanks and sat outside for a couple hours around 11pm outside my friends bday party. He never went to look for me or cared on why i was outside and well just he didn't care i was balling my eyes out.. in that moment i thought to myself is he even worth fighting for anymore.. to me and in my eyes he is a perfect guy for me because he can be pretty great, from paying for my food and driving me home but he can be pretty awful from wanting the option to meet another girl without me balling my eyes outside his window and his feelings change like the weather..
I'm very comfortable with this boy, i never want to have to lose everything we have... I wish he cared about me as much i care and love for him. I do some stuff for him to, i give him massages if his back hurts or if he needs a nice massage. I'd do anything for him and its makes me sad because i know loving him isn't warm and sweet, it feels like heartache and i don't know why i even stick around anymore.. i feel like I'm not even good enough in his eyes and I'm having bad times everyday and i feel like shit all the time, i get panic attacks, i stop eating sometimes i get so depressed with what he puts me through.. how can love be so fucking painful when all you want to do is make someone happy and you get tossed to the side like you are worth nothing.. sometimes he makes me feel like i deserve it. I am at the point where i don't want to be around cause i can't deal with it anymore but i don't want any other boy.. if it comes down to it, it'd take me long time to meet another boy because i have never felt this way about someone before, I'm still young and i have a whole world to explore and many people to meet just he was the first love that i fell hard for and i keep falling hard for him.
First off, it's bawling.
Secondly, he does not care about you - he cares about fucking you. DROP HIS ASS. You will not regret it. Leave him and never look back. You can do better. This kid just wants to fuck you and be able to go out and fuck other girls too. Don't let him use you like that.
>>17235299
Lol you fucking tool
You know what needs to be done. Why are you here? So we can tell you the obvious?
>Been friends with a girl for 3 years, she's pretty cool
>Ask her out for brunch, it's nice
>Invites me to random event she's hosting once
>introduces me to her parents
>Seems good and all but she actually appears a little disinterested.. barely responds to my texts. Always just the night before Or maybe it's an act.
>Say we should hang out saturday
>"I might not be able to, I'll let you know tomorrow though ;)"
>Never fucking responds
>two days later just says "Maybe I'm late... anytime after 9:30 is good"
PS: she might be muslim and after 9:30 might be a ramadan thing. But she drinks and parties too..
Is it worth it? Should I go out with her ? She fucking pissed me off to be honest. I actually liked her but I find that's kind of juvenile how she treated me. We're 22.
>>17235294
>>Been friends with a girl for 3 years,
Stopped reading there.
You're a cuck. Stop being a cuck.
>>17235294
Nope. Blow her off this time and wait till for her to ask you again.
>>17235294
>PS: she might be muslim
Drop it like it's hot
So this friend of mine is one of my two BFFs (we are a squad). He's a totally cool guy and has been for 9 years now. Only problem is that I and my other friend think he dress quite lousy and unstylish. I know I am not supposed to go too hard on my loved one's outer appearance, but I have soon come to a point where I find it somewhat embarrasing to be seen with him in public and on social media.
Loose gray jogging pants, old and unfashioned sneakers and t-shirts a size too small that goes just below his waist - I mean, you are not supposed to dress like this when you hit downtown on a Friday night or just generally hang out near college or the park. To be honest I would just wish we could go to a club one day and he would be denied access due to the fact his outfit wouldn't fit with the dress code, so he might realize that he must change style. He seems pretty confident about his clothes, but I am not satisfied with it.
How should I address this problem to him?
Get over yourself. Saged.
>>17235228
It's not fucking easy when your reputation around the campus depends on your clothes and my friend dragging me down really doesn't help. Bumped.
Talk to him about it if
I'm in a LTR of 5 years, which became a LDR 2 years ago. My GF moved closer 1 year ago, and there is another year to go, till will likely move together. My problem is: recently her behaviour changed; she's always been weak in communication between our meetings (which are 2-3 weeks away from each other atm) and we could go weeks without calling. she's always been quite nerdy and shut-in and had a hard time making new friends.but now shes visiting professional school and hangs out with her new schoolmates till late in the night and drinks. when i try to text her, she ends the conversation after 3 or 4 exchanges and says something like "we'll talk when we meet :)". this behaviour is not only out of character, she's also not talking much about her daily life, even when asked.
so her behaviours out of character, i almost know nothing and communication between our meetings is really scarce.
i already talked to her, that i would like to hear more about her daily living and she assured me, that she takes our future together for granted and she loves me, but she still doesn t call or initiates texting often. it s increasingly hard for me to cope with the LDR while she s hanging out with strangers so much, without talking about it with me. what do /adv/?
LDR's always fail for this exact reason. When one person finds other people they enjoy who are physically there - and not just a face on a screen - they realize how much better it is, and lose interest in continuing the long distance thing. This is why it is almost always a mistake to try and force LDRs. They just don't work.
Your girlfriend's coming out of her shell and becoming more social and having a life outside of you, and it sounds like you haven't caught up.
>>17235178
this may be the case, as my circle in university is signifanctly smaller but it exists. but the difference is, that i've always tried to introduce my friends to her or invite her to activities with them. she doesn t do this and never did. but before it wasn t really a problem, as i shared my local circle with her and she really hadn t had one besides from her school friends.
>>17235176
also thought about this, but we are currently 400 miles away from her hometown. and she s determined to return to our mutual home region next year, so i doubt that she intends to settle with her new circle.
