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He's a complete mess, and has been for a while. Very bad alcoholic. At his worst when he was living with us he drank a 5th of cheap, nasty vodka every single day. Then he went to rehab and has hated us ever since. No idea how much he's drinking now, but after getting back from rehab he managed to break two separate gas stoves here without even living here. The first time he was coming down from meth and was mad at me so he threw a chair. Second time he was over here with his gf while I was in class. His gf calls me crying and I left my lab early to go over there, and the cops were waiting. Neighbors called I guess and there was broken glass and a huge mess.
One night he showed up cut and bleeding all over and I had to take him to the ER. His gf stabbed him and he made me drive by their place to see if she slashed their tires like she said she was going to. It was horrible.
Then he lets us know a few months later that he needed surgery because he "cut himself picking up broken glass". Turns out a tendon in his wrist was cut and he now has permanent nerve damage in his dominant hand. I bet she stabbed him again but we'll probably never know.
His gf is just as bad, if not worse. She's a crazy fucking bitch and they hoard animals while chainsmoking in their tiny apartment. Air quality is terrible and I feel so bad for their several cats and dogs.
Neither of them can keep a job, and I have no idea how they're managing to pay rent or anything. He won't listen when we try to talk to him about any of this. He's on this awful spiral of self-destruction and his gf just feeds into it. From the way he looks I'm pretty sure he's back to using meth and I know he's drinking a lot still.
It hurts. Hurts me, hurts my parents. Hurts him of course. We don't know what to do. We want the best for him but there seems like no way to get him to listen to any semblance of reason.
I check the newspaper everyday to see if he's been arrested recently (already has 2 DUIs) and worry about him dying.
realizing now that the image i picked is not really appropriate for thread. just picked one at random :/
does anyone have advice for me?
is it not possible to bump your own threads now?
Thoughts on uncircumcized cocks, ladies? I am debating if I want my future son to have the mark of the jew or not.
>>17232563
Don't circumsize him unless he has painful phimosis.
1) Sex is better
2) It looks better
3) Your son will not lose nerve endings which are supposed to give him pleasure
4) why cause damage and trauma to a goddamn infant of all things for no reason?
I live in a place where it's not common for a guy to be cut. I don't understand why you'd do it if you're not religious and there aren't medical reasons to do it.
>>17232563
Why would you let someone mutilate your child?
What is with this board becoming so bitter recently? We use to have the odd dick but it seems like lately we are being taken over by them.
all the boards are being shitted up recently because the summer kiddies just got their allowance money, wait a while
>>17232430
It seems like every thread I go to help these people shit it up. There answer to helping someone with sevre mental disorders is "stop being such a bitch". I feel bad for the people coming here they prob do not open up about their disorders and ate trying to seek proper help and do nor know how to go about it and these dumb fucks are settin them back in progress by making stupid uneducated posts. I want to nuke them.
>>17232424
>We use to have the odd dick but it seems like lately we are being taken over by them.
This is not your imagination. We are being raided by /r9k/ and /pol/ (mostly /r9k/).
Is it better to have a shitty tattoo or Remove it and have a shitty tattoo scar?
Maybe cover it with another.
>>17232443
I don't think I really want another tattoo.
What is it a tattoo of?
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
How inappropriate would it be for me to ask a girl with big breasts to feel them? I just really love big breasts -- I could care less about sex -- and I would imagine a girl would enjoy being appreciated for being genetically selected FOR instead of AGAINST.
>>17232399
*couldn't care less
>>17232420
That's what I needed to hear. I used to ask black girls all the time, but now I want to ask white girls without being accused of rape.
I know i know... he killed a bunch of people, but... what do you think of him? im fascinated by his Manifesto(i just finished reading it), i feel just as he does, im 18 atm, im scared to reach his age feel as pathetic as he felt.
>>17232357
rip sweet prince.
Mixed-race children do not cope with reality unless the world panders to their needs. Without an ancestry to have resonate in their soul, they require external validation to feel inherently valuable, and in Eliot Rodgers' case, he had people talk down to him rather than boost him up, like other successful mixed-race individuals.
If you are white, I suggest lifting, getting an understanding of esoteric traditionalism and Hermeticism, and focus on the self.
If you're non-white, I suggest joining a gang or whatever blacks and Mexicans do to feel validated.
>>17232357
Just don't blame others. I had a similar past but you can't blame others, it's no one else's fault how your life turns out. That was his problem, his entitlement and blame instead of looking within. I was fascinated by his manifesto too though, but 23 now and never any homocidal urges, don't turn into a rageful cunt because of how your life is.
How do i become that fun guy girls want to be around
show them your pic related and they'll be impressed by your selection of quality 3d images
>>17232288
Be less gamer and do more outdoor activities
become funguy
In my 5 years of not having friends I've gotten into the flat endless earth, Mandela effect, Jews ruining the world and the we wuz kangz theories.
My mother moved us all away from our family, I got no way of meeting anyone, my life's just empty. Plus virgin in my 20s and live with my mother.
Get off 4chan.
>>17232239
Guess I would be here
Realhistoryww.com
>>17232480
>Realhistoryww.com
thanks for the link anon, this is really intresting
I grew up in a female-dominated divorced household where all of my relatives, including extended family, are girls. The family has a history of severe psychiatric problems, especially bipolar, and even before starting puberty I was repeatedly emasculated and humiliated.
However, unlike movies, I didn't become a deranged paraphilic psychopath because I'm too good-natured. What has ended up happening is that I'm extremely terrified of being in a personal relationship with women and of having sex in general, and being the only son in the family I'm feeling an extreme amount of pressure from my father to start dating now that I'm 22.
How am I supposed to learn how to not be afraid of girls so late in life, where everyone else has had a solid decade of real social situations over me? Not only that, how do I explain to a girl my fears without sounding like a weak failure?
22 isn't even that old yet.
You can still date a few 18 year olds who are late bloomers and experience a first relationship together. It's not until your 24 that dating 18 year olds gets creepy and the only girls available will be expecting a lot more experience.
>>17232205
I'm on your boat.
I have zero idea what to do, how to do it, except I came from a highly sheltered upbringing and it really hasnt prepared me
I think you're being hard on yourself. You call yourself a weak failure but it's not necessarily true, it's not necessarily how others will see it. However it is what they will think if that's how you describe it. The first step is to not put yourself down. You need to respect yourself before others can respect you. Don't describe yourself as weak, don't describe yourself as a failure, don't equate a lack of experience with an inferiority complex. Explain the situation fairly and let others decide for themselves if you are indeed a weak failure or if you are someone who wasn't given a fair chance in life.
>We talk daily on the phone before bed.
>Last Summer we'd talk for hours and hours
>Last two weeks she'd hang up really abruptly
>Just simple stuff like "Oh it's 10 bye" *Hangs up*
>She went off about her lack of confidence and how people want her to model now.
>Didn't bother asking about me just talked about her life and how people now find her attractive.
I don't get what she's trying to tell me. Things just feel odd. Like my stomach gets in knots when she hangs up like this. I know we both love each other but I can't explain her odd behavior lately... I tell her I love her and that she's beautiful but she still seems to be insecure...
>>17232204
She's cheating on you. Drop her ass.
>>17232544
This is the truth
>>17232204
Who talks on the phone for hours at a time? Are you in grade school? Chances are she is looking for a reason to end the conversation because it is getting boring.
>met a girl month ago
>we meet once few days
>talk to each other
But it has been a month and I have absolutely no clue if she is interested in me or not. I am definitely getting over if she tries to keep me as friend and start searching for another girl so my question is. How to ask her subtly if she is interested in me or not? Our compatiblity was pretty good.
Why would you be subtle?
You need your intentions to be clear or you'll land yourself in a "friend" date and look totally retarded when you try to make a move and ruin the day.
Just ask her out bluntly.
If she says anything other than "Yes", take it as a no, laugh it off, and change the subject; don't be an asshole.
Simply because it is easier to answer subtle question. If I ask her bluntly she will probably say that she needs time to think about it and stuff like that.
It would definitely ruin the day. I want to ask her subtly, not directly..
>>17232365
Not this guy: >>17232216
But what are you even doing? Why do you need to be subtle about it? She will respect you more if you just ask it and get it out of the way instead of playing games with "subtleness"...You're afraid of getting your feelings hurt but get over it, you barely even know her.
I've thrown ever ball I can at this guy, and he just won't respond to me. I know he's single, he doesn't drink, he doesn't smoke or do drugs so he's kinda boring, but he's got these amazing blue eyes and he's a great actor and I saw him OHKO a big black dude who tried to bully him, so I know he's not a bitch. But I've done literally EVERYTHING I can think of to try and get him to ask me out:
-Wear cute/revealing outfits and ask his opinion on them;
-Ask him how he's doing, what his plans are after (college) classes during the week;
-Complimented his looks or something he does;
etc. etc.
I just want to date him so badly, I hear he's a virgin too, so it would be great to take it from him, but how do I convince him to ask me out? I think I'm laying it on too thick. It's getting to the point where now he's avoiding me and refusing to say hello. But how else am I supposed to signal I want him in my pants?!
If you're so interested in him, just ask him out. Some people don't catch on to hints at all, so just put it out there
>>17232108
>get him to ask me out
something is wrong here
>>17232108
He's just not interested.
So Ive been with my gf for 2.5 years, Im 28 and shes 23. She is quite manipulative and controlling and does seem to like making belittling comments. Last night she said that I need to "grow up" and "i'm younger than you Im aloud be immature" and I could figure out why she was saying this.
The events before she was saying this we were simply just sitting reviewing our college work. After she said those comments she said that "maybe we need to break up, i might be to young for you and your turning into a kid brain" meanwhile she is the most immature person me and everybody around our relationship has also said.
For some reason I dont usually care what she says and let her decided what she wants for her life (after other things she has said and done in the past), im curious as to what her motives are I guess....just confused
>>17232106
She's keeping you in check by putting you below her so you don't leave her. She's projecting her shit onto you.
>>17232125
wow pretty powerful, any chance you could go into more detail?
>>17232139
Granted I'm just making assumptions, but I observed a very similar thing with my friend and his ex. He had (still has) his together: Going to school, making good money with two jobs. Good money. His girl was a bit younger than him, 19, worked the deli section of a market and didn't have any ambitions at all. She goes to work, comes home to watch Netflix and fuck my friend. Occasionally she would make the same exact comments to him that your girl is doing to you. Same exact shit, though she added in things like "you're lucky you have me I mean who else would want someone so immature?" Then she would flip the switch and get all lovey dovey at times.
Turned out she was cheating on him six ways from sunday. Now I'm not saying your girl is cheating on you though. Maybe your girl is ambitious I dunno. I do know she's insecure for putting you down like she is.
She cheated on me last year and I ended it. I got over her quickly and have been working on self improvement (lost 30kg, got a better job, started saving money).
Last night I had a sex dream about her and now I can't get her out of my head. Would masturbating to her be self-derogatory in any way or am I just being autistic?
Pic semi-related, looks like her.
no one cares what you think about while you masturbate. as long as you don't walk up to her and tell her that you were jerking off to her last night, it's okay.
How can someone be so neurotic as to actually ask this question?
Jerk it to her, don't, whatever man
>>17232032
Do what ever feels right to you.
Hey /adv/.
I have a daughter who is 16 years old. She's outgoing and popular around her friends. She is friendly to familiar people and is often described cheery and lively by my neighbors.
Now my problem is that every since puberty hit her, she no longer really cares for me. She used to be very sweet around me as I did my job of taking her to places (like Disneyland and other amusement parks) and bought her the necessary things she wanted. I have never once hit her or was negligent towards her, although I have reprimanded her due to education some times.
I thought that once puberty was over, she would at the very least, start showing her care for me and show some response when I called out to her. But that day never came. Every time I'm with my daughter, whether it is just us two alone or with the rest of the family, she doesn't talk to me or look at me. She never asks me for anything (in case she wants to buy something like a purse), instead she asks her mother. I have spoken out to her a couple of times regarding her irrationally cold behavior, but she would ignore me or avoid the conversation altogether.
In my opinion, I have done nothing wrong to make her this way? Where have I/she go wrong? How do I fix this? Please help me out /adv/. I love her but I don't know if I can tolerate this situation continuing any longer. I'm getting depressed and concerned for both me and my child and so is my wife.
>>17232025
Cant help you with that so have a bump and good luck man,dont get depressed.
You have a teenage daughter. This is how teenage daughters act. You're Cape Canaveral in 2030, she's a shuttle you're sending to Mars, and you're praying to God that she's going to make it there with all your preparation for her flight plans. But what's horrifying is that now she's launched, you can't do a thing to fix her problems, you can't get any communication, she's long and gone into that dark void, and your heart falls into your stomach because you're afraid all that work and dedication is going to be long and gone.
You've got to be at the control boards, waiting, praying, hoping that one day that shuttle of yours is going to send signals back that it's awake and aware and appreciative of everything you've done. But it's going to take years, anon. Maybe just a few, maybe several, but time will pass, and then one day, she's going to come back home to you.
This is your child growing up. If you did everything right, and you know you did everything right, just be calm and patient, and wait for her to come back home to you.
This is an unfortunate side effect of being a parent that afflicts some parents more so than others.
I don't know about you but when I was a teenager I was a little shithead. I'm 30 now and in retrospect I can without a doubt tell you I was a shithead despite my parents being incredibly patient, caring, and understanding and loving. I was terrible to my parents from about 15 to 19. A big part of it was the drugs, but that's another story. Anyway, point is it's a phase for some kids.
You can be there for your kids all throughout their upbringing but when they get to a certain age, the teenage years, they can lash out. A part of it sometimes is their social circle or really just their social life in general. As easy as life is, when you're a teenager you blow everything out of proportion.
You just gotta be patient and ride it out. She'll grow up in time. Just always be there for her in the mean time.
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