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Alright /adv/, so I've always been slim with natural muscle in most places and now go to the gym and have in the past, but there's one part of my body I can't seem to sort out. My belly.. In the past few years it seems to fall out unless I'm holding in (which I do unconsciously often) but it's doesn't look neccicarely like fat, more just like round and bloated out. My dad is like this so I'm wondering if it's biological? And if it helps I don't drink alcohol which I know gives you a 'beer belly' etc. I'm trying to gain size in my upper body and arms but this is a slow process and it doesn't help when I'm trying to get my upper half bigger than my anoying round belly.
Thanks, if anyone can advise.
Also sorry for any bad grammar etc I'm on my phone, if some shit doesn't make sense.
>>17231114
go
>>>/fit/
read sticky, maybe make a thread with a PHOTO of such magnificent belly and prepare for ignore / hailstorm of 100 replies where ~3 are actual advice.
Or just read sticky and wonder yourself what have you been doing all time without killing time in gym bulking and cutting.
Stomach vacuums and losing weight
But how about you actually goto /fit/ and read the sticky you Fucking faggot
So i recently have gotten interested in online RP and was wondering what makes good RP and how does one improve?
>>17231113
The biggest hurdle new role players need to get over is the drive to WIN. You don't always have to come out on top. Adversity breeds development. You're trying to work together to tell a story with other people, not cram how awesome you are down their throats. Relax, make a character that wants to actually be around people, not all brooding, dark and Shitty. Help advance the story, not your e-peen.
>>17231113
You need at least 7 charisma and 8 intelligence.
>>17231173
I see.
But what if the character is kind of a jackass,self-righteous, and overall cocky?
Also should i keep it short and sweet or write with full detail?
I'm kind of a bad guy or degenerate. Me and a bunch of my friends have had DUIs, do drugs (maybe like every other month), hook up with sluts, have been caught doing lewd things with girls in public. A lot of this is out there and I guess I've got a bad reputation. I want to be more responsible and the girls I want to date now are more introverted and nice. How do I shake my troubled past and grow up?
Stop doing drugs, stop hooking up, stop calling them sluts.get a job and volunteer for something. Become a man that a nice girl would want to date and show to her parents.
>>17230918
>>17230918
>How do I shake my troubled past and grow up?
Just ignore your past and start doing things according to who you want to be now. It's not harder than that.
>>17230953
>stop calling them sluts
>deny factual evidence
Quick question. My brother is in a abusive relationship (wife hits him and threatens him with calling the cops saying that he beat her, gone girl style) and I wanted to make a police report or something along the lines of that without any legal action. Is there any way I can make a record of her hitting him without them knowing? I dont want my brother to go to jail in a year or when ever she decides shes tired of him.
TLDR:
>Brother gets physically abused by his wife
>Wife says shes gonna tell the cops that HE beats her and rapes her and shit
>Want to make a record without their knowledge of said abuse incase she really does go to the cops
>Dont want any legal action done because I wouldnt want to ruin a marriage if they eventually do make up (yea right...) and never fight again.
She already fucked up the marriage by abusing him. Abusers dont magically stop abusing people. You don't want any legal action done?
Put hidden microphone on your brother to catch her. Get him to put a hidden camera in the house, 'for security'. You have a duty to protect you brother. You're not protecting him now. Someday he might snap and kill her.or she'll get him thrown in jail and put on a sex offenders list with her lies.
>>17230911
Why do YOU have to do something?
Tell your brother to either record their interactions or get out for his own good.
BTW - are you only hearing one side of the story?
If you've witnissed this first hand then you can go to your copshop and make a statment without any action.
And in the future if things get out of hand he he decides to report the abuse or she tries to fuck him over it will be on record from a witness whats been going on prior.
Should I get a fringe or something to cover it up. Sorry if this is in the wrong board. Pics of me n my 5head
>>17230898
Your head is literally, L I T E R A L L Y, an eggplant.
Yes, cover it.
>Inb4 told to go to /r9k/.
Truth hurts assholes. Don't like the answer, don't ask.
It's bad, but not as bad as it's made out to be. a little bit of a fringe could help... Worked for Zoey Dechannel.
So I'm attempting to stop watching porn. But I still want to fap. What can I watch to get off to in the mean time without it being porn
Imagination
>>17230901
This. Are guys just generally not really interested in fantasizing?
Camgirls maybe? Could mean spending money and is close to porn though. But it would be closer to reality than porn.
Alright /adv/, I’ve never come to you before but I really need help now more than ever:
should I break up with my girlfriend to see if I have a shot with *our* former girlfriend?
Let’s call them T & A. A and I have been dating for a little over two years, and for seven months of that we also dated T. Polyamory is harder than prosex blogs on tumblr would have you believe, and T broke up with us because it was too hard for me to balance my time and emotional attention between what were in effect my sister-wives. No hard feelings or judgment anywhere, but with direct comparison, I think I like T’s company better.
T Pros: She’s funny, intelligent, athletic, and of surprise greatest importance: talkative. I’m pretty quiet myself so I prefer it when my partner can fill the noise. She also is just generally in a good, can-do mood and I feel like she’d inspire me more to pursue my passions. We have more similar values and life goals than I do with A, and she finds my bullshit charming.
T Cons: She’s had a boob reduction which makes her tits look a little deflated, but they’re still huge and turn me on. She also probably has moved on in the month we’ve been broken up, so there’s absolutely no guarantee she’ll be down to be with me – especially since the emotional trauma to A will be a huge turn-off romantically. Finally, she’s a bit of a slut and has never demonstrated any real prioritization of emotional needs of others, though by the nature of our open polyamory she was never asked to do so. We all live together so going after T is going to be a complete shitshow almost guaranteed to fail.
A Cons: She doesn’t excite me anymore, she’s obsessed with her job which has prevented our life from developing the way I’d prefer, and she’s quiet and mopey. We have more similar indulgences and impulses than I do with T, and trust me, that’s not a good thing. We’re kinda just getting fat and depressed around each other. She’s also cheated on me twice, but only kissing and only when completely smashed so I mean, I’ve done worse. She also has a cute lesbian friend she would probably go date if we break up in which she may prove happiest of all.
A Pros: She’s still attractive and I love her dearly. I have no idea if my boredom/fantasizing about life with T has to do with us having dated for two years, which is embarrassingly my longest relationship. I really don’t know if now is the time to buckle down and start refining the relationship into something more meaningful or if these doldrums are a sign it’s run its full course. Also, I am definitely an equal contributor to our laziness, so I can’t really blame her for that and probably won’t fully escape my bad habits even if I’m dating T. Finally, she truly dearly loves me, we’ve been more open and honest than in any other relationship I’ve had, and she does endeavor to take care of me whereas T never really bothered.
Don’t do polyamory, kids. It muddies the waters too much.
So, /adv/, what should I do?
(yes, T&A were chosen for their defining features)
>>17230894
So wait, by your own admission, it seems like T would make a horrible girlfriend, cuz she just gives no fucks. Why is this even a question? If you're not happy with A then break up, but it sounds like T is just bad news waiting to happen.
>>17230937
Well, she expressed at times a desire for us to be a long, meaningful relationship, but by nature of the thing prioritized her own ambitions. I honestly have no idea what she'd be like dating 1-on-1.
I don't want to break up with A per se, but I'm resenting her for holding me back from T.
I'm aware all of this makes me the bad person.
Serious question here
I've been saying this girl for 2 years. Recently she just started to get into the habit of clubbing. Her girlfriend took her to a few clubs and she thought it was fun. Initially she asked me if it was ok for her to go, I didn't think much of it and said yes. She wore sexy clothes and put on a lot of makeup. Recently she told me she wants to go by herself.
Is this normal? Should I be worried if she ends up fucking someone in the bathroom?
Trust me she will
I asked her why she wants to go clubbing she said she likes the lovely atmosphere. She's not interested in having sex with other guys
imo it's kind of weird to go to a club alone unless she's really trying to meet new people.
Why don't you offer to go with her?
See how she acts and if she's checking out other dudes.
Is it weird to enjoy food more than sex?
>>17230836
Probably not. I enjoy cuddling 100x better than sex.
>>17230836
If eating some calorie bomb releases more endorphin into your brain than orgasm, than you have problem OP.
Are you female?
>>17230845
Confirmed female.
Hey /adv/ I want to get a tattoo of my dog soon cause hes getting pretty old now. I'm gonna start saving money and doing some research, but I wanted to know which picture to get of him. I'll post the ones I have in mind.
How do I become a man? I mean like, really fucking manly?
I want to do a manly job but that doesn't seem possible anymore with feminism
I could work out, that's pretty manly right?
>>17230802
your post doesn't make it clear if you're a man or woman.
I'll assume man, work out but more importantly do yard work and hands on shit like making benches and chairs out of wood.
Be yourself and don't apologize for being a man. Bond with other men. In our feminized society men are supposed to view their worth through the eyes of females. This is not only unrealistic, but unhealthy.
And yes, head over to /fit/ and start lifting!
Stop giving a fuck what anyone thinks. That's it. Stop caring about being manly it's a never-ending quest.
On Craigslist I keep finding 2br apartments for 750 and and 3br for 800-900 dollars but every time I search for a room in an apartment with roommates they're all 500-700 dollars.
Why?
>>17230773
solitude is expensive
no idea. You could rent apartment yourself then look for a roommate to share the costs with, if everyone is overpricing you should be able to find one out easily. Or you could just look for a roommate first and then rent an apartment with him/her. Surely there's some place online where you can find people who look for roommates in your area.
>>17230773
I'll tell you. Those ads on Craigslist are more than likely scams. What city do you live in? I'd bet anything those ads are way below market average in your city.
How can I be more motivated, /adv/ ?
I literally have no desire to do anything other than just sleep. I'd rather be doing something productive like reading or doing homework but I find myself browsing threads and sleeping instead.
Any suggestions?
What thing do you care about fixing in the world?
>>17230752
Nothing really... I really only care about myself now that I think about it
>>17230788
Her isn't wrong in not doing anything, as long as you arent leeching off others and putting extra strain on those around you.
Get a small job and a place and no one can tell you that you aren't making your way in the world
I need help to figure out what to do with my life. I'm completely unable to deal with stress, have some mental issues and have been hospitalized twice within the past 2 yrs because of it.I need help to make a plan on how I can live on my own without my parents.
They could never really diagnose my mental issues(i got bipolar, anxiety) and my mind would go in overdrive. but I've calmed down a lot and people just think I'm eccentric. I get too excited about stuff sometimes, depressed sometimes, but overall people do come talk to me friendly and I can make friends, so I'm not 'stay away' crazy. But if you know me, you will know something is off, just not what.
I managed to get into a hippy liberal arts school and have been doing good there. I can deal with deadlines and work, just not things involving people.
My parents support me a lot and they love me but I don't want to live at home forever. I'm not currently seeing a therapist but I will try to see one
I will graduate next year with a liberal arts degree that may be somewhat useless as a bachelors so I'm thinking of trying for law or grad school. I am also thinking of maybe fuxking off and finding a cabin in the mountains, but I might also get stressed because it would be lonely? i'm also a 100lb female so there may be safety issues too
> law school
only do this if you're really passionate about law. Many lawyers are miserable, and it's really hard to find jobs. It can be a great career if you love what you're doing, though. Consider taking an internship or low level job at a law firm just to understand what a lawyer's day to day life is really like.
> grad school
make sure you're in a program that will pay off, otherwise you're just flushing money down the toilet. This will actually take some research, because the results are surprising - for example, for aspiring journalists an MA is actually totally worth it despite journalism being such a risky profession, because it establishes you that much more in the world of journalism. On the other hand, a master in criminal justice is pretty much completely useless.
> fucking off and finding a cabin in the woods
Depends on what you mean by this. Are you actually interested in nature? You could pursue a career in forestry. You could work on a co-op. On the other hand, if you are planning on just dropping off the grid, beware of what you're committing to - when people have "holes" in their resumes (extended periods without formal employment) it severely limits them professionally. Even for women who decided to be stay-at-home mothers or homeschoolers for a period find it extremely difficult to re-enter the workforce.
What are your actual interests?
>>17230757
Hi I am op. I am actually interested in law and signed up for the lsat . I find it easy to understand legal stuff/documents and like reading them. and have no problem reading through terms of agreement shills. But you are right I will look around for internships I can do.
I will look at grad school stuff. Most of the people in my major went to grad school after graduating because knowing more does open doors and you can teach too.
I meant sort of dropping off the grid...but you are right. When I want to come back, it will be hard. Maybe a coop is a better idea. Nature is calming for me. Forestry might be cool. I do care about the environment. I think I will see if I can get a forest job without a forest degree
My interests are music Composition(my degree) and I've played in school ensembles before. People hear me and ask if I'm a concert pianist. But its still hard to find a job like that. I think if I could do law, I would like the structure.
>>17230791
With music composition, it might be worth looking further into ways to break into commercial music composition for different media (jingles, ads, TV, etc.)
As for nature, look into low level positions with the park service. If there aren't obvious openings, look into programs like Americorps or the Peace Corps. The Peace Corps will take pretty much anyone in its agroforestry programs and give them basic training and experience, plus having the Peace Corps on your resume will get you into top grad schools.
I've always been pretty existential, but had no real problem assigning meaning to my life. Lately, it has been really difficult to find meaning. I haven't felt motivated to love anyone, go to work, or do the things I used to enjoy. I have been pushing myself to try all these things, but it's not registering emotionally. Money is just a necessary evil to avoid stinking and not having necessities. Partners are the best we can do at the moment, to help us on this life journey that is supposed to be meaningful. All the things I used to enjoy feel like going through the motions now.
I know one of you might suggest suicide, but that's stupid. Does anyone here have experience with this and know what to do?
>>17230624
have this problem too
Same here. Besides playing games, watching movies and reading books most things I do are pressured by other people. I work because I should. If someone asked me on date I would just go because I don't care either way.
>>17230624
more like no serotonin
