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Recently graduated highschool, found a medtronic contract assembler opening. Shift is 5 a.m. to 1 p.m. Im going for an skills assessment in a few days. Is this something I should do? What is contract work? Are there better jobs for highschool grads?
Is it something you think you'd enjoy?
>>17228271
Possibly, but I'm mainly interested because of how fast I would be able to get the job. And the fact that it's a full time job.
Coming out of high school, just pick a thing you think you'll like and do it. Don't feel devoted to it, and remember that you can always change to something else. You're in that spot where all things are possible, so as long as you do SOMETHING you like you're gonna be ok.
How do you substitute romantic relationships when prostitution/casual sex/just having really close friends is not an option?
>>17228241
masturbation
>>17228241
lots of masturbation
>>17228244
>>17228246
No can do for the same reasons as no prostitution/casual sex. I can only make love to someone I love and I fucking hate myself.
So I'm having a problem with a coworker at work. We used to be good friends I guess, we would sit together for lunch all the time and talk about whatever but then we had a falling out kind of, she was telling other girls at work that I got along with that I liked them and causing me problems with them and ruining my relationship with them. I had no interest in any of those girls or the one I'm talking about. After having problems with those girls I told her I didn't want to talk to her anymore and just started treating her like a coworker you never really talk...
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>>17228215
cont.
She has tried to get along with me a few times and I've tried to get along with her again a few times but if I don't help her or talk to her enough she starts getting angry and upset, she is really obvious with her body language and her expressions when you talk to her. Recently I tried being really nice to her, going out of my way to talk to her and help her but she also does this thing where she avoids me and it just makes me feel like I shouldn't even bother her because I'm not...
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She likes you, bro. Don't matter if she's married or not. She might not be too happy with it and might be looking for someone to distract her.
Why else would she (let's say intentionally) sabotage any potential you might have had with the other coworkers, even though you had no interest in them or her?
Why else would she get angry and upset when you didn't give her your full attention?
Your coworkers are right.
>>17228243
How would I bring up something like that to her then? Do I just straight up say I'm not interested or something? Or what if she really doesn't and I just look stupid?
For some reason I have a much harder time making friends with guys than I do with girls. I'm completely straight but I just connect with girls better than I do with guys. I probably need more friends of my own gender, but what's stopping me?
>>17228194
Why do you think you need more friends of your own gender? I only have one male friend, who's quite the jerk-off, the rest are women. I'm doing just fine. Gender doesn't really matter, does it?
>>17228201
Oh man I bet I know what kind of guy you are
Tell me what your male friend does that makes him a "jerk-off"
>>17228201
> Oh man I bet I know what kind of guy you are
That's sounds rather exciting. What kind of guy am I?
> Tell me what your male friend does that makes him a "jerk-off"
He disagrees with you, for the sake of disagreeing. Continuously asks for advice, but never listens. Believes his time to be more precious that that of others. The list goes on.
If you're able to see past all of his flaws, he's actually a pretty great...
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I went out with a girl and had a good time, but she later asked if we could just be friends, I struck out hard on that curveball, and she hasn't spoken to me since despite a few attempts. Last I tried talking to her was 10 days ago. Last she spoke to me was 15 days ago. Am I ever even gonna see this chick again? We met online and don't live in the same city. Even so I'd really like to see her again. I wish I knew what I did wrong, she seemed to enjoy our date well enough, and we held hands and kissed goodnight and stuff. But then I'm not the most expert with...
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Let it go. Best thing you can do is delete her number.
Drop it and try again. You don't want to end up in a cringe thread by pestering her. She "wants to be friends" so dont press the issue
>>17228240
just sucks that she won't even talk to me, I thought we could at least be friends but I guess not.
When is it considered okay to leave a job?
I work as a software engineer. The place I work now, at times, I feel is pretty bad. My boss insists that we absolutely must use one specific framework for everything even if it makes no sense.
I've been working there a year and the final product is not _fully_ complete. When is it okay to quit the job?
>>17228183
>When is it considered okay to leave a job?
Two weeks after you have the new one lined up. Immediately after you have the new one lined up if you don't give a shit about where you're leaving.
Are you part of a team? Do they need you? Would you be fucking them over if you left before the product was finished?
If yes, finish what you started. If no, just follow the terms of your contract. If that means 2 weeks notice, give them 2 weeks notice.
And this should go without saying, but it's a bad idea to quit a job if you don't have another one lined up already. Start looking/interviewing BEFORE you quit
Lots of factors in play here.
Before you do anything, make sure you know what your non-compete claus is. A lot of software companies have employees sign non-competes which prevents them from working with other companies for about 6 months to a year, usually this isn't enforced unless you leave on really bad terms.
Second of all, it depends how crucial you are in your position. If leaving might damage the project you need to be a long advance and offer to train someone to replace you, not doing so may bite you in the ass if you use this company and experience...
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How do I meet new girls? I spent all of high school with one girl, only for her to cheat on me and leave me in the dirt. Now that I've graduated, I've been horribly alone for months. Something needs to change before I put a bullet in my skull. Also, I have no car and no one to teach me to drive. Help me?
>>17228156
Just go out into the world. It's a pretty big place and there are a lot of people.
I recently met a woman in a pet store. She was an employee, who I ended up talking with for about an hour and a half. We've been meeting up a few times and do pretty great together. We're getting together again this Wednesday.
My point? It doesn't matter where you go. As long as you're friendly and approachable, you'll meet new people and make new friends!
>>17228156
>>17228156
>no car
This is one reason America sucks dick. If you don't have a car and don't live in a small set of cities then you're basically not a human being.
I recommend going to the library (or even using online resources if available in your district) and getting books on motivation, self-confidence, etc. A personal favorite is "Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life...
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>>17228156
Drink at bars, go to meetups, take a yoga class, art class
You are a man and must make the first move with every woman you're interested in. Don't be afraid to talk to dudes too. Girls hate guys with no friends, and dudes can hook you up with thirsty hoes as well as nice girls as well as kick it with you for fun.
In short, talk to people more. Girls and guys, they'll both lead to the same end, which is fulfillment of the social and sexual instinct
People don't care about me when they can't see me.
A part from 3 people and my sister nobody ever engages in anything with me when we are not in the same room. Even when we are, some people act like i don't exist, others ignore me and most acknowledge my existence and a few rare exceptions talk to me.
Why?
>>17228136
Maybe they just don't like you? No, seriously, that might be it. I don't intend to offend you, but that's how life is; people don't always like you.
What you're describing sounds like.. life. There's nothing out of the ordinary, other than you thinking there is.
>>17228152
People who are my friends do that. Obviously they aren't close friends but enjoy my company.
I lose every friend i make because of this.
I have tried to be more proactive and iniciate things but after a while i get burned out; now i just gave up...
I don't understand this, people who are just like me have groups of close friends and yet i'm basically alone.
>>17228182
> People who are my friends do that. Obviously they aren't close friends but enjoy my company.
Well.. fuck 'em. They treat you like that? They're not your friends.
> I lose every friend i make because of this.
There's nothing wrong with not staying friend. I don't, with most of the people I meet, but I still enjoy our time together.
> I have tried to be more proactive and iniciate things...
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Is it normal for a woman to be addicted to eating cum?
My boyfriend is happy about it, but maybe Im a weirdo?
>>17228105
Pretty tame compared to pretty much every male fetish
General fetish rule: If you keep it in your private life and it doesn't damage your health, it's normal. Have fun.
you should open up a cum eating bar. that way you can eat cum with other people.
I feel like an empty shell.
Should I let her change me, or should I try to become better by myself ?
Chansey unrelated
Never let someone change you. Become better yourself.
>>17228096
Become something even better than what she wants
And then dump her ass for someone hotter
>>17228100
He'll never change himself, he needs to take what he can get
>work part time in a restaurant/cafe
>we also supply food to a bar just down the road
>often have to deliver food to the bar
>really cute girl, who also lives with a friend of mine, works at the bar
>make her laugh every time i go in there, starting to know her more
>she asks for a dish for herself that we don't sell and i go out of my way to make it for her
>she...
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>>17228017
if someone touches me they are not being work friendly(for instance, the barista doesn't touch you, just flirts).
I'd say she's either into you or using you.Either way you can probably get with her.
Go for it. You'll never really know until you do. Touch that she's a bartender though, she literally flirts all day to get tips. Like, that's her job.
I'd say 50/50 with just going on what you wrote. Better odds than most.
I touch my dog but I don't want to have sex with it.
Sometimes it's hard to get motivated, guys.
Fuck. My expectations always get the best of me.
I'm broke as motherfuxker right now.
No whey or money to buy. Too proud to ask dad to do it (he buys me every week but I always ask him to do it and give him the money even though he hates taking it)
Dad is a irrational deadbeat with fucked up values
Mom is a crazy bitch with daddy issues who says hurtful things in arguments and act like she never done it;
Living in a shitty house right now so I can't have pseudo friends or GF over.
No laptop...
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No one gives a fuck faggot.
Here on fit we live by the code, "don't be a sad kunt, be a sick kunt like Zyzz brah".
Take your self loathing feels to /adv/
>>17228004
>I just got an internship in one of the best companies I could get but they want me to start in 10 days, aka I won't get no vacation. Aka I might not see my girl for sec, Aka I'll miss her birthday
You're a whiny fucking weak bitch you know that
>>17228004
All I read was
>My life is hell
>I got a golden ticket to a better life
The only thing that matters and will matter is your chance to get the hell out and start building the life you want.
And girls come and go, do not destroy your future over a girl.
Is anyone else talented at something, but feel closed in by it because of how others in your life put pressure/expect you to pursue that thing?
I've won some awards in the past and even found a really qualified mentor who let me move in with them for a year while they taught me, but I can't help but feel depressed.
Part of me wants to spend my life doing things that makes me happy, but if I did that I feel as if my talent and therefore life would of been a waste.
>>17227982
I recently decided to drop out of school and chase my dreams, despite the expectations of my friends and family. Every day, I have to defend my decision to those who know, or try to hide it from those who don't. Money is also an issue.
However, all of this doesn't matter. I made a choice and I'm sticking to it. You know what? I've never been happier. I **love** my life, as it is right now. I'm no longer stressed or worried, I'm simply free.
Don't bow down to the expectations...
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>>17228015
I wouldn't feel bad about it if I was only a little good, but I've already been recognized on a national level in a national competition. (I'm not bragging. I only placed in the top 10. Just trying to tell you why I feel sad).
I might be capable of contributing something to others if I work hard.
It sounds silly, but I'd like to do something simple like work with animals and live in a peaceful rural area like I've done in the past.
What makes you happy, and how is it different from what you're good at? Is there a reason you can't do both?
Because honestly, if there's something you can do well, and other people can RECOGNIZE that you do it well, and you're praised and rewarded for it, you should probably turn that shit into a career. Contrary to what 30 years of childrens' entertainment told you, we can't all just be anything we want. You're lucky to have a valuable skill.
