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How do I better my weak (read: almost nonexistent) jawline?
Lose weight.
>>17228498
Get confident and charismatic
>>17228503
Already have that, but I cringe every time I see a profile pic of me.
>>17228502
Point taken. I'm about 22 pounds overweight
>be me
>5'4" adult male
how do i not give up on line?
>>17228048
Move to Japan?
>line
buy better stickers
>>17228048
Stop giving a fuck about being a manlet and get good at something?
>Guy I know is 5'2", fat, sounds like a woman and is married and has 5 kids with a 7/10
>How to know somebody is a terrible human being
>they unironically cheat when playing board games
post little things you see people do that makes you instantly know they're a piece of shit.
Throw trash out of their car
>>17227711
Treating bad to animals
Expecting kids to behave like adults
Be honest, would you date someone with a lot of scars?
Depends. Are you a hot girl?
>>17227373
not self inflicted scars. I don't have time for that mess.
>>17227373
It wouldn't matter to me. In fact it would probably make me feel less alone to date somebody else who understands that kinda thing
I plan on confessing (just telling her I am interested in being more than friends - not in love) to a good friend, I have known for more than 5 years. I have reasons for thinking she might mirror these feelings.
She is a very important person to me and we share many mutual experiences throughout secondary school.
But we currently live 45min apart (via bus), and have different time schedules at different universities and subjects.
We both are often very busy, with university projects and (in my case) study associations. We both are in demanding study programmes
I am not sure how a relationship/dating would play out in our situation.
In case she is also interested:
>Is it ok to start a relationship, when already living apart?
>Is it even a good idea to confess in such a situation (I really feel that is time, as I have been thinking about it a lot.
>Do I still need to do the 'dating routine' with somebody I already know so much about?
>How to go about it?
Please share your opinions and experiences (with LDRs).
Don't! You will confuse her. You will hurt your self.
Just facking end collage and start dating once you are out of the child pen. When settled in a city then start dating,
But if you just want to fuck her brains out while the short time you got together , go for it. But don't expect something good....
>>17226710
Thanks for the opinion.
>confuse
In what way?
To me, knowing all the hurdles, i would not be phased by a rejection.
But i dont know about her.
>end university
That would be 2 more years. Didn't get laid throughout secondary school. She is among the only few girls i have felt genuine chemistry with.
>child pen
Just to clarify, we both live in own apartments far from home.
Hook up
>regrettibly, she is not the hook up 'type'.
45 min is not long distance. My girl is one hour away.
The important part is how much time you can dedicate to it. If you're busy with school, you shouldn't look into it. We're able to see each other 1-3 days a week, between one of us or the other driving and stuff.
Let's say im a socially inept shut-in but willing to do something about it so hold your horses.
Let's say I'm trying to figure out the rules of the "game".
From what I understand - the reason we bother at all is we all have an inherent, inbuilt NEED for companionship - much like hunger. When it's not satisfied nasty things happen. Another reason is that it's simply easier to manage things in life when you don't do everything on your own. We also do it because we like it (when it's no longer a need, when not needy). Some of us socialize because we feel like losers if we don't - but I don't think this reason ALONE (opinion of others, self-esteem) is good enough to fuel and justify all this effort, hence I mention the previous.
What I'd like to get clear on is the specifics. How many human connections is healthy? How many friends and how many acquaintances? Does it even matter? Why? Does gender make much difference? I see people sticking to their own gender more often than not. Would your partner not get jealous if it was otherwise? I don't make any distinction for "family", you don't always know or are on good terms with each and every member so they count to me as friends/acquaintances in your "starter pack" you get when you're born. How much time do you dispense to each chosen contact and why that amount? How often do you contact/spend time with them and why? What decides it's time to drop them completely?
I think probably as with everything eventually you get a "hang of it" and manage these things intuitively. But people like me who been out of the loop for too long I think need this extra bit of introduction. If you're "in the loop" you may see this as pointless/annoying/pedantic/stupid. Feel free to link me to resources if you don't feel like writing lengthy answers - as long as they're on topic.
If you respond with insults or criticism which is not constructive - expect the same in return. The last bit sounded a bit gay but had to say it, faggot.
>>17226412
>Let's say I'm trying to figure out the rules of the "game".
>the "game"
>"game"
I realized everything after this would be whiny bullshit and I quit reading.
>>17226425
Thanks for that answer, truly insightful.
Why don't you suck a fuck and kill yourself?
>>17226465
This is like the core issue of almost the half the threads here. Nobody here has anything close to advice. It becomes so much harder as you get older.
Anyone ever have to cut off a close long time friend? What did they do for you to cut them off?
after he tried to influence my relationship with other friends in negative ways it was an easy decision to cut off contact.
>>17225380
Yeah, my best friend was secretly dating with my gf, ruined my life and he will marry her. Then he had a great idea: sent me a wedding invitation.
Sorry for my english.
Looking for me when she needed me, but turning me away when i needed her.
So this girl with a boyfriend is into me.
I'm into her too, and I really don't know what I should do.
She wants to hang out tomorrow. If I pull out, I'm a pussy, but if I continue forward and she ends her relationship for me, then I'm an asshole.
I really don't want to take the "moral high-ground" and white knight my way out of this one, but I feel like it's my only way to dodge the moral and emotional fallout, especially from when she inevitably does the same thing to me.
What do you think, /adv/?
>>17229487
Fuck her right in the pussy and then beat up the boyfriend when he rages. After you're done turning have a face into the consistency of skittles, fuck her again and cum in her like he never got to.
>>17229487
Easy move my friend. Go over and fuck her and don't date her. Of course she will cheat on you- you're watching it happen right in front of you with her current relationship! It's not the boyfriend's fault she is a cheating whore.
>>17229490
I really wish it was that simple, but I can't help but shake that it's a bad idea.
I also know the guy. Not like really well, I wouldn't say that he and I are friends.
Not sure if I could beat his ass either, if I lose would it really matter?
How do I get a bf?
>inb4 are you a girl or a boy
>inb4 are you a girl or a boy
Well, that matters.
I've no idea, meet people probably
>>17229451
Look at OP's pic again, retard.
There is this girl I know who I am madly in love with, and I have been for a long time. She, on the other hand, has never showed any signs of romantic affection towards me, but I like to think that we are good friends. Over Memorial Day weekend, we got drunk together and she, kind of out of the blue, said that she loved me. Being the loser that I am, I didn't know how to react and cried myself to sleep. The next day, she does not mention it and pretends like nothing happened.
Here we are, about a week later. Circumstances have it that I wont be seeing her for at least another 2 weeks. As I said, I love her, and I have not been able to get that night out of my mind.
I am planning on confessing my love to her next time we see each other, just going to throw it all on the line, because I can't pretend anymore.
My question is, has she been thinking about it too, despite not mentioning it? I understand that she might just be sorta embarrassed, but I did not get the impression that this was drunk bs.
What concerns me is that she just has not said a word about it. Come to think of it, she hasn't said a word to me at all... When I tell her, is it going to sound out of the blue or is she possibly hoping/at least somewhat expecting it?
Fuck, any general advice at all would be appreciated. I can't really wrap my head around the whole situation so I need help.
She probably felt scared that you'd reject her, or felt foolish for saying it. Have you ever showed any signals about your love to her? If not then she probably feels foolish for saying it because she's feeling that you don't care.
If you feel like you jeep to say it, and you're sure this isn't drunken blattering, talk to her and bring up that night and tell her that you feel the same way.
If you do decide to go after her, and tell her, come back to us and tell us how it went.
>>17229443
I'm almost certain she knows that I have feelings for her. I'm just not too prone to giving signals to her because i'm scared she'd reject me. She is heavily invested in the fickle-jock-fuckboy crowd, but she was very vocal about how she DESPISED being that way, the night she told me she loved me. So i'm starting to think that, somewhere deep in her heart, she wants to be with someone she loves. And now, I think that might be me.
Can we get some more info on 'that night', like some context
about 10 months ago one of my friends died when a drunk driver hit him. he was my best friend, we talked every night over steam or teamspeak. i still find myself just bursting out cying sometimes. ive never had something like this happen to me before. do i need to see a specialist or something?
Thats up to you to decide. It wouldn't hurt talking to someone about it though.
>>17229391
It doesn't hurt to cry, it helps with the healing process.
Have you accepted that he is gone? Are you crying so much that it impairs you in your daily activities? Are you developing anxities?
If yes, go see a therapeist. If not, it still doesn't hurt to see a therapist. Talking about it with friends/family also works great as a therapy.
My best (online) friend died January of last year. He lived across the globe but we talked everyday for almost 7 years. We were pretty much soulmates. 1.5 years later and I'm still fucking depressed and cry at least twice a week. He was closer than any of my irl friends. I feel you OP.
Recently you I've been doing allot of thinking, and I might tell my family something about me. I just don't know how to go about it or if it's a good idea to even do. Also I'm a senior in highschool.
Depends on your family and depends on what you want to tell them. But if you feel like you can trust them then just be honest.
>>17229329
Well I dont think most people think these days are willing to accept it.
Anon, you're family doesn't and never will need to know that you like loli. Don't be stupid.
hanging out with a grill tomorrow. really sweet but short of words. said shed like to just chill. i dont know what to talk about. how do i stop overthinking. its been 1st grill in long time since breakup
>>17229289
Fap before you go out and meet with her. It'll help significantly.
You know what she likes ? Or maybe do something you enjoy to open doors up. If worse comes to worse , movie/dinner.
>>17229307
yea we have mutual interests. i want to talk her lke just as if she was friend, which is what i do anyways, but i dont know how to make it clear id be interested in something more
is the key to just stop thinking so much aobut it
>>17229299
ok
So say .. theoretically, one just hooked up with an old crush from school after not seeing her for like 2-3 years (Having hooked up before once) even though she supposedly has a boyfriend in a different state.
How should I proceed? I saw her at a family friend's event completely randomly and to make a long story short we stopped by her house on the way so she could pick up her swimsuit..
Literally the biggest lay up I've ever had. solid 8/10 short soccer girl
When I walked her out in the morning I asked when I could see her again and she said before the 15 which is when she is going to said state to see said long range bf ..
So should I just keep banging her low key and just take what comes and have no expectations
Or should I tell her that she needs to make up her mind and that I don't need dis shit
I was thinking if I banged her and then tell her that I have some stuff to do and cut it short right there that she would be all like omg I'm not good enough or something because she seems to respond to that sort of thing.
So should I just go full dick mode and keep banging her but kind of ignore her at the same time a little? Because I actually do like the girl but also she scares the shit out of me and I don't really want to get fucked over by her however many months or years down the road if she'd do this with her current bf. But at the same time she's bangin and all acting wifey so I'm kind of torn.
You guys should have seen what she was wearing too when she showed up like this short white minidress with high heels an shit.
Sorry for the rant but I've been thinking about fucking the shit out of her all day and just want to bro out and talk about the scandalous bitch
Advice please !
Cheating isn't cool man.
>>17229281
I mean, yeah I know it's a dick move. But I do have a history with the girl and also I don't know the guy. So as far as I'm concerned that's her problem.
The point is that I want to fuck her and keep fucking her. So what is the best way to go about accomplishing that?
I thought this was an advice column.
>>17229297
Just keep fucking her
Who cares about the relationship because she obviously doesn't.
Hi /adv/,
For about 4 days now I have started taking my new medication of Adderall and I have not slept even for a moment thus far.
I have always been a night person, or maybe an insomniac, but it has been impossible for me to sleep at all, and it is starting to worry me. I am hearing and seeing things around my apartment a lot, and I keep on finding stuff in my hands for no reason (for instance I was at my table eating some food and I realized I had been clutching my toothpaste for I don't know how long). My heart sounds like it's going to explode and I have a lot of stuff I need to do, so I can't stop taking my medicine (I cant concentrate without it) and I need to be able to work and stuff, but I am starting to get paranoid.
What do you recommend for me? I would have gone to the doc already but I need to be able to work and go to school and whatnot. (22 yrs old, engineering college and intern)
Dude it's been four days... You have to stop taking the pills.
Take a benadryl and go to sleep right now. Whatever you're doing or want to do is far less important than sleeping right now.
>>17229290
What should I be worried about? I tried taking some melatotin and it made no difference. I almost feel like I feel more wired as time goes on.
I would have gone to get more medicine but I don't trust myself to drive at this point.
Don't take any more medicine
