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My gf had a mmf threeway before she met me. She was in an abusive relationship and her bf at the time made her do it, according to her. It bothers me to this day that she was also a bit slutty. She's changed and says she regrets that life she had. Any advice to get rid of my constant feeling of anger and disgust I have about her past life?
How long have you been together?
Easy, kill yourself OP. You are the one with the problem.
>he made me do it!
>ok, maybe I was a bit slutty but I've changed for you!
>I only love you anon, he's just a friend
LMAAAAAO bro, never trust a roastie
I had an operation to help lessen tinnitus in my right ear around a year ago which went really well and I am extremely grateful. However, I have recently started cutting my hair shorter and the asymmetry between my ears has become quite apparent.
No one has commented on this but I've become a bit insecure about it, nothing major though. Is this a feeling that will pass in time?
Pic related.
its all in your head. everyone has asymmetry. you only notice yours because you see yourself everyday and analyze your face.
people on a day to day basis, dont analyze other peoples faces. its not even something that if you did notice it, would be worth mentioning or thinking anything about at all.
the feeling will pass when you finally accept yourself and become comfortable in yourself as a human being.
also, if your problem wasn't your ears, it would just be something else. just live your life man, stop worrying about the superficial stupid shit
>>17227184
no one gives a fuck except you
Stephen Colbert doesn't care
>lost front top tooth when I was younger
>long story
>have a fake tooth that i have to take out when I eat
>until i can get surgery implanted in july
>last night
>go to restaruant after the gym
>with my brother, my friend and his girlfriend i havent seen in a while
>get food take fucking tooth out
>start eating and say one thing and he asks about my tooth if it fell out
>start sweating and have to explain the whole fucking thing
how do i avoid this this makes me so unattractive but when i have the fake retainer in nobody can tell it is fake.
bump....
>>17227176
you don't. july is not far away. after that this will not be a concern.
>>17227176
I would play some jokes if I had a tooth I could take out at will.
>someone bumps into you, go "Oh god" and spit the tooth into your hand
>remove it, put on your best Canadian accent and tell people you are a hockey player
Pic related is wifes 4 month old belly button piercing, the infection has been there since almost 3 weeks. Sometimes it got worse, sometimes better, right now it's worse than ever.
The piercer plays it down and is way too optimistic.
She also cleans it everyday multiple times with a q-tip and the recommended desinfection solution.
What do?
Go to the doctor you stupid fucking retard
Doctor. I also had an infected navel piercing, some oral antibiotics cleared it right up. All that sea salt shit didn't help at all.
What is the piercing made of? She could be allergic to whatever material it is. It might be best to just remove it for now.
Anyone else here have any bowel issues? I just graduated high school and honestly it really messed up a big portion of my senior year. I didn't go to any parties and I would always have to go to the bathroom at least every other period, and always after lunch, even if I ate something light. Teachers would comment on how frequently I left, and any time I got together with friends or to finish a project outside of school, I would always go to the bathroom a few times. Now I'm scared to commit to anything that would require me to stay in a room for a few hours because I might have a problem with that.
I talked with my doctor and she said it sounds like IBS, but apparently that's really hard to diagnose and she said that we'll have to "wait and see" during the summer when my stress is lower to see if I'm impacted differently.
Does anyone here have anything similar or have any ways to cope? I've been taking over the counter probiotic supplements recently and those haven't helped much.
>>17227102
Medfag here. Your symptoms are not normal and your GP (like most of them who get complacent wiping runny noses and prescribing azithromycin 30 times a day) is blowing off your concerns like they do with every other patient.
You probably have Chron's disease. Have your doctor refer you to a gastroenterologist for a colonoscopy. If they say no, find a new doctor. Make sure you have them note in the medical chart that they refused the referral, and give specifics as to why. Then, when you're later diagnosed with Chron's, you can sue. (:
Doctors are not nearly as smart or competent as they think they are, or as everyone else thinks they are.
>>17227102
Yeah it's awful anon. I've been to three different doctors and havn't had a proper diagnosis, they did give me some medication but it just didn't work for me.
I usually get by day by day by using imodium as soon as I feel the familiar twinge in my tummy and drinking at least 2 litres of water a day. I don't get it everyday, on average 4 days a week, but on days where it's bad and I don't have any immodium I need to be within 5 mins of a toilet or I'll be in real nasty pain until I can get to one.
Something I've been looking at today is probiotics, some people say a course of symprove can help. Kind of pricey so I'm saving up to try it in a few weeks.
>stop eating wheat and sugar
>take this daily
How many of you are quitting cigarettes at this moment? What brand did you smoke? How many? How many days are you in? cold turkey or not?
I decided to quit for 100 days, 101 days ago. I had smoked for 5 years from 15 to 20. Always lucky strikes, up to 2 packs a day about 4 years in. The last year i smoked about 1 pack a day. Quitting for 100 days was pretty simple for me desu since i knew exactly when i was allowed a smoke again.
I bought a pack yesterday and the first smoke was really good. Since then i smoked 2 more cigs and i dont really like them anymore.
Telling myself i was going to quit for ever wouldnt work, but setting a goal like 100 days or a year or w/e is pretty helpfull i suppose.
>>17227071
I quit cold turkey 2 years ago. All my friends switched to vaping and I just decided to say fuck everything. I didn't feel like messing with those mods like they did and it seems just as expensive as smoking anyway. For them probably more so because they fuck around with fancy mods. ROW ROW FIGHT THA POWAH!!
I find that fasting always works to stop the craving at first. Then, when you're body starting to tolerate the uneasiness, if you light one cig, it tastes like totally shit. The first week of stopping the habit is fucking difficult.
Currently on 40mg prozac, 900 mg of lithium, 150mg of wellbutrin, all just for depression. How bad would it be if I started taking xanax semiregularly?
>>17227062
depends on why you're taking the xanax(recreational xanax is a stupid idea). Whomever is prescribing it should know of any harmful interactions, and if they don't the pharmacy you pick it up at definitely will.
>>17227081
I'm not getting it through my psychiatrist. I want to take it because I feel like my anxiety contributes to my depression. I sort of spiral out of control when there are social stressors and it almost always leads me to concluding I need to kill myself. The drugs I'm on currently aren't really doing anything and don't feel like they're working (I've been on them for about 2 months). feel like my psychiatrist won't prescribe me anything like xanax because of its recreational uses, and because I have a history with abusing medicines
>>17227062
That shit doesn't actually make you less depressed. Just turns you into a zombie with no emotion. Changing your life for the better is the real anti-depressant.
I'll never fucking forgive my sister. She deserves no sympathy. She's been spoiled and sweet-talked all her fucking life. She is a terrible mother and I'm ashamed to call her my relative. My grandmother has done EVERYTHING for her. When she got in major trouble with the law, she spent thousands, THOUSANDS of dollars on a lawyer to defend her in court. My grandma works 60 hours a week at a very stressful job. My sister had a baby and no where to live, no where to go. Her boyfriend is a dopey loser with sense of responsibility. My grandma let her stay at her house for FREE for over a year, gave her a FREE car, and babysat at least 2-3 times a week, often at night. And how does she repay my grandma? By going out with her friends, getting high and getting drunk. Then she comes back home at night and screams at her baby, telling her to "shut the fuck up", calling her a bitch, not even putting a fucking diaper on the child. I've never seen anything like it.
1/2
So finally, my grandma calls her out on it, and I got involved as well. The problem was, she was so fucking doped up on weed and mushrooms and whatever the fuck else she does, that none of it registered to her brain. She was a god damn zombie. Like fucking clockwork, the day after this all happens, her brain returns to 'normal', and she remembers the fight, flips out, and accuses us of "judging her", and decides to move out. Then she tells all her friends about it, like we brutally attacked her or something, when all we were trying to do was HELP her. Because not once in her life has anyone called her out on her bullshit, but when someone finally did, it completely shocked her system. But yeah, she decided to move out.
Yeah, fucking right. Where the fuck are you going to go you? Why are you subjecting your CHILD to your stupidity? But there's nothing I can do. No matter what I say, she will always be the same. That's what I've learned about people; people don't change. She'll be just like my mother. Her baby will have an extremely rough life. I tried.
There's simply no use in reasoning with someone whose sole hobby is to watch the fucking Kardashians and Housewives on tv all day. I feel like I'm going to be sick to my stomach. How could anyone be so shortsighted? Are there really people out there who have ZERO self-awareness? Are all women like this?
2/2
Contact the child protection agency in your country asap. Dont even hesitate, just do it, think about the baby.
No offense but she sounds like a 50IQ wanna b Kardashian girl.
Since both you and your grandmother knows about her use of drugs and alcohol you should both contact the child protection agency together.
Don´t let her raise that child, you should already have contacted them...
Not all women are like this. Also weed and mushrooms don't make you a shitty person. Being a shitty person makes you a shitty person. The issue is that she has had everything handed to her and idolizes spoiled whores. Contact child protective services and get your niece/nephew a better life.
Also I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that she's never actually worked or lasted at a job, eh?
>be me
>very attractive girl throws herself at me and wants to go to my place
>I hold her in my arms and can't bring it over me. I reject her
>I feel more lonely in that moment than I've ever felt in my life
What the fuck is wrong with me? Is it depression? Is it the heartache over a short-lived relationship with a girl which probably meant nothing to her but alot to me?
I always thought when you're intimate with a girl you don't feel lonely but holy shit
>>17226970
You still miss the other girl. Song related.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J87vtrC_JBM
>>17226979
But why? It probably meant nothing to her since she was so well-adjusted. And even before this new girl wanted the D I was attracted to her but I just couldn't do it. Why did I feel even more lonely and pathetic?
>>17226990
>But why?
You already said why. It meant a lot to you but nothing to her, making it all the more hurtful and unfortunately memorable. Let me ask, when you rejected this one broad was the other girl on your mind?
I got asked out by a girl a few weeks ago. At the time, I'd had a few drinks, we were having a nice conversation, and I figured why not?
So, I told her the truth - I really didn't have time for a date right now since I have a lot going on in my life and I won't be home on a weekend for three weekends, but when I got back we could go out.
Now that the three weeks has passed, I'm not sure if I want to do it. She's slightly chunkier than I'm normally into (kinda like pic related) and I don't know if I'm going to be into it long term. What should I say to let her down?
What makes this complex is that she's a bartender at one of my favorite watering holes... screwing this up ruins my time at the bar. Best way to let her down?
>>17226953
just go on the date? people have bad dates, it's not the end of the world if they happen. plus "chunky" girls are very appreciative, if you know what I mean.
>>17226953
1. The girl in the pic looks really nice.
2. Telling her to wait 3 weeks for you when you weren't even interested in her was a huge dick move.
3. You said that you had a nice time with her , so all you care about is looks then... dick
4. If you are not interested in a long term relationship just tell her that and apologize for being a dick telling her to wait 3 weeks
Sorry for calling you a dick but from what you wrote that is how I feel about you OP atm
>>17226981
What I don't want to do is go on the date and have it go well and get her hopes up when really I'm just not that much into it.
I have a hard time getting it up for chunky girls. My last girlfriend was about the size as pic related, maybe a little bigger, because I was trying to "not be shallow," and I just wasn't enjoying our time in the bedroom. Or how much she constantly ate.
>>17226982
1. If it was actually Milana Vayntrub, with the same face and everything, yes, I'd be all about it. But it's not... I just needed a body size comparison.
2. It's not that I wasn't interested, I've just thought about it a little more and I feel like the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
3. Better a dick that acknowledges looks are important rather than pretending that it doesn't matter and we can just be "best pals."
4. It's not even a "long term relationship," she'd probably laugh at me if I phrased it like that. It's just that there's a lot going on in my life and why lead her on?
But I don't want to hurt her feelings and make life awkward at the bar.
Hey, /advice/
I'm not particularly familiar with this board, but I figured that it's the best place to ask for personal experiences with a common medical issue.
I'm currently experiencing what I think is constipation. I havn't had a satisfying shit in the past couple days and my lower left side is hurting me pretty regularly. If I sit still it's relatively painless, but stretching provokes a dull stabbing pain as well as breathing too deeply.
I've been constipated very few times and had to be hospitalized for a particularly bad case so I've got some anxiety about the experience and I'm leery of doctors and the hospital system due to a pretty traumatic experience wherein they thought I had cancer.
The part that bugs me the most about it is the pain when I breathe deeply, but my girlfriend and mother assured me that they've had similar experiences.
If the issue doesn't get any better by tomorrow I'm going to schedule a doctor's appointment despite my wariness. Just wondering if you guys can confirm that it is a normal side-effect.
I'm a 6'1", ~150 lb male. Twenty-four years old. Thanks in advance for the input!
Just looking for a bit of comfort and to avoid catching shit for this post.
Guess I'll just go to the doctor tomorrow after work. Can't afford to miss because it's 100 dollars a day if so.
Really just need someone to pop in and say a "Yes" or "No" if this is regular or not.
>>17227275
Of course not!
How do you deal with anxiety and being massively insecure when all your friends and family have their own problems and I can't afford another fight with the mental health people?
Watch yoelliot. Hes actually reslly useful.
>>17226960
Who?
>>17226974
Youtube channel: yo elliot. Dont let his muscle look fool you. He's really smart and has a lot if good videos. Also check out his other channel: strength camp.
I specialize in general guidance and volunteer at a men's support center. Ask me anything and I'll see how i can help.
What kind of problems do you usually deal with at men's support center?
Do you tell men to go exercise when they have issues?
>>17226934
>men's support center
I'm surprised this i actually a thing. There mere existence of such centers would be considered sexist and oppressing to women in USA and Canada
Just got braces put on today after spacers. The spacers sucked major ass. But fuck. Any advice on how to handle?
Gonna toke up.
Yay straight teeth.
>>17226915
I advise that you be 18.
>>17227059
Tell my sides I loved them...
Increase your brushing habits.
I had cavities once my braces were removed.
I'm 23. About a month ago I was the first person in my family to graduate college. I graduated with a degree in Applied Mathematics and no idea what I wanted to do with it. The degree cost me roughly $33,000, $5,000 of which I owe to my friends parents who generously loaned me the money so I could start college in the first place. On top of that, during my time at college I racked up around $4,800 in credit card debt that I have just been making minimum payments on (I had a lot of car troubles, and ended up selling the car for less than I paid for parts). So all in all, I have a lot of debt that I would like to pay off, or at least just the credit card portion right now.
My gf's parents are letting me stay at their place rent and expense-free until my gf and I get our own place. She makes pretty good money as a civil engineer, but not enough to support both of us in an apartment. I've been looking and applying for what I would call "real jobs" since February, but I haven't even managed to get a call for an interview. Since I do have a fair bit of programming experience, I thought it would be appropriate to apply for entry-level software engineering, data science, data analytics, IT, and Systems Engineering jobs, but haven't received a single call (only just rejection emails for about 10% of them, nothing from the rest). I figure that someone with a CS degree/background will always get a position over me, so as a backup plan, I have applied to most of the grocery stores near me, as I have quite a bit of grocery experience (it's how I paid for my living expenses in college). I haven't heard much from them, even though I have called the store multiple times.
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I really just don't know how to get my life on track. I want to become a software engineer, but I don't have a degree in CS which would allow me to do so. If I continue along this path, then it might take me a while (a few years maybe) to build up a respectable github account or to contribute to open-source projects in a way that would show potential employers that I am capable. Short-term, I just want to get a job and pay off my credit card debt to get that weight off my shoulders, but $4800 is a fuckton of money when you're only making ~$10.00/hr (which is what I realistically think I would get at some shitty McJob), with bills and expenses to pay on top of that. Not to mention that I'll have to start paying student loan payments in around 5 months.
tl;dr: How do I stop being an unemployable piece of shit who is broke as a joke, pay my debts off, and get a career in the field I want?
Easiest way is to join the military as an officer. They have a loan forgiveness program and you'll be making some decent tax-free money, on top of free housing, healthcare, and food. But you have a girlfriend and the military may not be for you.
A CS degree is at its core a boiled-down applied maths degree, so the degree you have isn't really an issue. Did you do any software-related internships in college? Don't you have some leads from friends or family to get into an entry-level dev job somewhere? Your degree and resume will get you the interview, your portfolio, skills and personality will get you the job.
Fuck working at a grocery store, dude. At least go for some kind of help desk work or something.
>>17227395
Yeah I considered joining the military as an officer. Either Navy or Air Force. Just don't think it's for me.
I didn't do any internships at all in college. I applied to many, but because my degree said "Applied Mathematics" on it instead of "Computer Science," I was not chosen for interviews. My dad's side of the family is either dirt poor, in law enforcement, lives out of state, or just don't work in a field that needs me. Mom's side of the family doesn't work at all, they all just married people who were rich and then left them and took half their money.
The problem is I haven't gotten a single interview. All I have gotten are rejection letters from a few employers, and nothing from all the other ones. I keep thinking my resume is just not up to par, but everyone I show it to says it is near-perfect for an entry level position in what I'm looking for.
Yeah, grocery store sucks, but it's money that I desperately need. I have an interview tomorrow for a produce clerk position but it's about an hour bus ride (and $5 each direction) to and from the store. I'll look into IT help desk stuff as well.
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