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This is kind of awkward but here it goes:
I'm tired of Hardcore porn. I simply am. Before I'd get hard watching an anal scene but now, after all these years, it's pretty much all the same.
I get more excited by watching a hot female in a bikini or short shorts with a nice ass, than porn nowadays.
Has this happened to any one of you guys?
>>17226527
Yup. I just fap to Facebook threads on /b/ now.
>>17226527
>>17226530
You're getting numbed and desensitized after too much of it. The same happens if you take too much of any drug.
If you want to "go back", you have to stop jerking off or at least cut down on it. Switch to less intense porn if you have to do it. You might want to check out yourbrainonporn.com
I quit watching because I found my tastes getting more and more specific.
It's easy to forget that there's a real world out there. It's easy to get too consumed with the virtual one.
My gf and I used to have some discussions about dick size in the beginning of our relationship since I watched too much porn prior to dating her, and I couldn't get aroused the first couple of times. Sometimes she will joke about it too, and whenever I can't take the bantz and get upset she just plays it off saying she only says it for fun and I should understand it's just humor and not true.
Whenever I asked, she always told me she thought my dick was fine and that everything was okay. Also, lately I've made progress, and sex appears to be great for both of us.
Anyway, this morning I spied on her phone, something I normally wouldn't do, but she told me not to look at it when I first grabbed it to play a game on it, and that just sounded like a huge red flag to me.
Anyway, as I was scrolling through her recent conversations I found one with her best friend, in which she was telling my gf how the guy she's with now "is packing" and has "girth of a yoghurt cup" and a "huuuuuge" one. As I said, I never cared about size before, but I still have an average dick, so I felt kind of uncomfortable reading that, specially because she answered "OMG" "marry him!".
After seeing that I just got REALLY upset at her, yelled at her, and stormed out of the house. Now we're on semi-good terms, but we got in a very heated fight over the phone, and the worst is she called the friend herself to talk about it, so now I've been ridiculed in front of her too. I've had fights with her about similar stuff in the past, that usually end with either me saying I'm going to kill myself or her saying she's going to leave me; luckily it hasn't gotten to that point yet.
I've talked to a friend about this, but he keeps telling me I'm just too paranoid and insecure, that I've got to calm down and let her be, otherwise she'll just drop me in the end.
My questions are: did I overreact? Does she think my dick is small? Is my friend right?
Any and all help appreciated.
Yes you did overreact
She was most likely just saying that shit to get her friend excited over this new guys she's blabbing on about
Just trying to be excited for her friend
Didn't sound like anything more
> since I watched too much porn prior to dating her, and I couldn't get aroused the first couple of times.
Does this really happen?
What has this world come too?
>>17226517
You're an idiot, and you overreacted.
She was trying to be excited for this friend. It didn't sound like anything more.
>After seeing that I just got REALLY upset at her, yelled at her, and stormed out of the house.
> I've had fights with her about similar stuff in the past, that usually end with either me saying I'm going to kill myself or her saying she's going to leave me
I would dump you for this kind of thing. You sound like a bitchy drama queen.
Tell her you're sorry, never read her conversations again and seek therapy if you're this unstable.
Your friend is very much right.
Because of circumstances this girl and I don't have a place to fuck. She does have a jeep with lots of room in the back. Besides getting a windshield cover, what do u /adv/isors have to recommend so that we don't get caught? I'm stumped as to locations especially. Thanks.
>>17226501
Not sure why you guys just can't get a hotel or in a bathroom late at night but. In terms of places you have to get creative. You never want to go in a forest or wildlife area because the 2 times I tried that we got caught by a gay park ranger who told us (the second time) that if he caught us again he would give us a fine. Which I don't believe he can do but whatever. Get creative with your area that's all I can tell you
>>17226559
Not really necessary. As long as it's dark out, he can get away with parking in a Walmart parking lot. Just park further away from where other cars are. No one is going to walk by if you're not near other cars. Just don't park so far away at the back of the lot that it's suspicious.
>>17226567
See, that's great in theory, but something about a Walmart parking lot seems like it'd be a huge turn off. I know beggars can't be choosers... Why does this stupid fascist country prohibit a man from gettin his fuck on at the beach after hours
I want to learn Russian all by myself.
Any tips?
Do as the Russians do.
They learned Russian when they were only 2 years old!
So, just the usual stuff. Go kill bears with your bear hands, drink copious amounts of vodka, perform outrageously dangerous acts and post them on Youtube, and sing the national anthem with pride every day.
>>17226449
It all depends on what languages do you know and what do you want to learn russian for.
There are tons of study materials online, listen to audio, learn grammar.
Talk with russian speakers on the internet or irl.
I'd advise you watch classic soviet films and maybe tv shows (modern ones are mostly shit or western remakes, though good exist). Russian isn't as fast as French, but the word order may be hard to understand.
Have no idea how easy to find videos are in the english segment internet.
There is some kind of meme in Russian circles that many Russian tourists abroad are rude and obnoxious as fuck, so prepare yourself if you're gonna meet them. Like many other foreign language users they'll teach you to swear, when you didn't ask for it.
Many are good, i just warned.
>>17226449
What I do is that i pretend to learn the languages. Learn 21 of the most common phrases, and say those over and over. Then mix it in with random russian accents. I've been a translator overseas for about 11 years with 9 different languages like this. I really only speak romance languages, but i've been hired to do Russian, Chinese, Japanese, and Lithuanian.
I'm completely serious.
I'm working toward a computer science degree, and I enjoy working out, working in my job etc but I know men could do everything better than me. It probably isn't helped by the fact that anti-woman mentalities is a pretty common rhetoric on some of these boards.
It leaves me feeling worthless and extremely self hating, and I realize this kind of sensitivity is also a fairly female-dominated emotion, so it makes me feel even worse.
What can be done?
Fuck it, do whatever the fuck you want. Society has your back
How about you stop trying to be a sub-par man and discover what being a woman is supposed to be about.
>>17226415
Because if I don't work and make lots of money I'm a gold digging whore and that's not something I wanna be
I am going to preclude this by saying that my husband and I have been married since last October. I'm 21, he's 29. We're expecting a child this October. It was planned and he was the one who wanted a child.
We live with my MIL and FIL. They work full-time and we have a great relationship. My husband and I work part-time; me because I'm pregnant, him because he gets paid well as a coach. That being said I have lots of time and rightly so do the vacuuming, cook lunch half the week, take care of all our fish, make our bed, occasionally dust, and do the dishes. My husband does chores as well, but I want to point out that I don't laze around the house all day. During my whole pregnancy I have not lost my temper, have never cursed him, or been malicious. I can confidently say I am a superb wife. If he is angry or frustrated, I will apologize just to keep the peace. I value a happy home more than being right, and this has worked against me.
My husband had an absolute hissy fit when he picked me up from my PT job. I asked for a piece of cheesecake. He thought I had enough sugar for the day, but I'm pregnant so obviously I disagreed. I should point out that I mostly had bread and fruit. No sweets or candy.
I don't want to make this long but he called me annoying, stupid, retarded, a bitch, a motherfucker, and so much else. I'd been verbally abused by my stepmom earlier on, and this shit gave me an anxiety attack which made him angrier. When we got home my MIL was pissed to high heaven and tried to cheer me up, took me for a walk, told me she loved me and that I did nothing wrong. Husband sulked on the computer playing LoL. Slept on the couch.
I thought today was Father's Day so I bought gifts for my FIL and my husband. It annoyed me but I love the holiday. I gave them both a rose and some great wine. My husband gave me a hug and a kiss but that was about it. I really wanted to start Game of Thrones but he was too tired to watch it? So he played LoL for 3 hours instead.
>>17226394
What is a FIL and a MIL?
>>17226394
Your narrative sounds heavily biased.
Gotta communicate m8 if it's not a shouting argument I don't see a problem with telling your thoughts and feelings. Plus you're fucking married and pregnant he should be more considerate
>25 in a few months
>been neet for 4 years
>no job experience
I had to drop out of school due to lyfe problems,
I had the possibility to go back a couple of years after
but I was in a bad place and started wasting my days away.
Sometime ago I get the change of landing a job thanks to an organization that's trying to solve the neet problem.
I fuck it up and don't get the job, go back being a neet with no future.
Age limit for the program is 25 years and I might not be elegible if they do it again.
I really don't want to waste my life away, I know I have potential to have at least a normal life.
Right now I'm just hoping I'll get in the next chance.
I'm afraid that the fact I didn't complete my education will haunt me forever tough, pratically AND as a matter of pride.
I just wish I didn't fuck up so badly.
i mean, a job is a necessity, it allows people to survive their lifestyles.
Have your parents been paying for your lifestyle until now? I mean like rent and food and such.
>>17226391
Get off your ass and do something.
It really is that simple. There are no secret formulas for de-NEETing yourself. You just have to decide to do it and get out there.
Ah, you say, but I am psychologically/spiritually crippled by my NEETdom and can not make myself get off my ass and do something.
Bullshit. It will be hard and it will be scary, but the only way to do it is to do it, and the only one who can make you do it is you.
>>17226391
Isn't hard at all to stop being a fucking NEET.
Stop being a lazy fucker and go find work. It's literally that simple.
A good friend of mine broke up with the guy she was seeing 2 days ago. I plan to ask her out on Thursday, because we've planned to hang out then, so I'll ask her then.
She was barely seeing the guy for a month and a half. And I've known her for about a year. I've already comforted her about it and she seems nonchalant about him.
(He was needy af and trying to pull the "where is our relationship going" card)
How do I not get pic related?
Be really, really attractive.
>>17226382
Well, fuck
>>17226369
Two days is way too soon.
Also, been her friend for a year, not having made a move, she clearly thinks of you as friend and the fact she agreed to go out with that normie proves it.
You deep in the friendzone fag.
Still, you can break the cycle.
Ask her out freely, but should have been done sooner. If she says no, never come back.
And never do this kind of shit again, or you'l give cancer to other people as well.
...it's too late for me, cancer got me as soon as I started reading
Just discovered that my bf use 4chan. Should I be scared that he will find the relationship threads about him on adv?
I used to catch my ex talking shit about me on here all the time, it was always distorted and made me out to me the worst of assholes
How do you know it's he/she ? She is anon ...
Unless he tech savy, no.
Also, leaving another trace like this is quite dumb if the subject has recently come up between you two.
>b me 32m scandic in home country
>b her 29f scandic in south east asia
I'll try and make it shortish
>met 6 years ago
>official since new years '11
>LDR 1st she cheats with classmate
>I find out and ask her to choose me or him
>she moves back, we live together for one year
>she suffers from anxiety and panic attacks
>wants to break up twice, but still together
>she moves abroad again, breaks up after three months
>I continue to fuck her behind all her friends' and family's back whenever she's visiting home, which is several weeks at a time
>we skype every day
>she says it's starting to feel like we're a couple again
>she fucks someone while on vacation in S.E.Asia
>I tell her we can't continue promise eachother anything
>this continues, both sleep with other people, but say we love each other
>she moves back temporarily to save money for backpacking
>starts dating guy from work, and seeing me in secret
>I've had enough, go no contact
>she reaches out a couple of weeks before leaving, I tell her to break everything off with everyone else if she wants to see me
>she does, it ends on a good note, we fuck, she leaves for six months, I tell her no contact
>she continues to write me every other weeks
>I write her a long letter explaining how I can't go on if we can't set each other first, and officially
>I don't hear back
Cunt'd
>she comes home four months later with new bf
>we meet at a party, end up alone in front of her house, she tells me she still loves me, I tell her I can't have anything to do with her
>two months later she's broken up with new bf, reaches out two weeks later
>I go over to her house to talk, fuck and whole thing starts over again
>I sleep with other women in between meeting her
>three months later she finds out I'm seeing someone, so she starts dating another guy from work
>eventually don't want to fuck any more, I tell her off for making things hard, we fall out
>she moves abroad two weeks later
>I continue to date the other woman for two months
>write her to just level things out, and we're both fine, she's got a new bf in Asia, and I mostly don't care
>continue no contact for five weeks, but she likes a lot of my social media photos in that time
>writes me two days ago and asks how I'm doing, and if I can send her photos from surgery I'm having on my leg in two days wtf
Why is this still going on? We live half way around the planet from each other, and aren't we a bit too old for this shit? Out bf/gf-relationship ended three god damn years ago.
>inb4 she's using me for attention and emotional needs
Do you believe that some people just belong to each other, /adv?
You both need to get your shit together and just marry one another already.
I don't want to think about how many stds you both have. Along with all the people you fucked.
So used to work at Walgreens, at the front register. I made 8.50 per hour, hated it.
Any customer that came in that looked like he did work, like carpentry, painting, plumbing ect, well I asked what he did and after he told me I'd ask him if he needed help. Had two different guys say yeah, even exchanged numbers and that turned into nothing, they'd just say next week so on and so forth.
Finally one of the customers said yes, I worked a day with him, made sure he had enough work, was legit ect.
He pays me $13 cash (under the table no taxes) which is a big raise to me. My brother , however, keeps telling me to find a union, that I'm worth more, that this guy should be paying me $18 per hour if he's paying me cash which is what it'd cost him if he paid me $13 properly, with taxes, workers comp, and unemployment insurance.
Should I ask my employer for more money? Oh, I refinish and repair decks and piers btw. I'm still learning also, he wants to get me to the point where I can do everything on my own, which will be soon.
>>17226277
Work hard first, build a reputation that you are worth $18 first.
>>17226298
This.
Also, it's a cash under the table job, you ask this guy for more money and he's probably just going to find someone who will work for that, or even less. Find a legit job if you want the benefits of it.
>>17226315
He's been working by himself for a while end he's 56. It's hard to find reliable, hard-working people who are sober and don't have a criminal record in south Florida.
A big part is the fact I worked a cash register means I had back round check done on me, I can be trusted.
I have a balcony facing the south, its 1.2m * 3.7m (d * b)
What could i fill it with?
Anyone got some good ideas?
drugs and vaginas!
small table, two chairs, vertical garden, bird bath.
Singapore flag.
>Met this local girl while travelling Asia
>Took her out just looking for a fun night and a hook up
>Everything went as planned
>She told me the first day she had a boyfriend
>I was like well if you're okay with this not my problem
>Met her a few more times, started doing stuff daytime too
>Turns out she's an amazing girl
>We ended up staying together for 3 months, she basically moved in already
>Her boyfriend comes back from overseas
>She's in tears telling me she really loves me and she's so sorry but she has to go and stay with him
>I'm like wtf girl you dont even like him
>turns out he's an old dude who's taking good care of her family (thisisasia.jpg)
Now we obviously both wanted this to be more but thinking about it rationally it probably never would have worked. I tend to stay in her country quite regularly but I can't stay there forever. We are great friends and we got a good thing going, she's really into me and I know whenever I go back there she's waiting for me at the airport eager to spend a month or two together. That's an awesome deal for me and I should accept that's all it's going to be.
Anyway, my question is how do I proceed now that she's staying with him (for probably around 2 months). On the one hand I'm pretty disgusted by the thought she's staying with this old guy just for the security of her family and I really want to say to her I'm going to cut contact until her "boyfriend" is gone - which would drive her nuts.
On the other hand I have to admit she has never done anything wrong to me, she has told me the deal straight away and she has not once lied to me about anything I asked her or tried to hide anything from me. It's neither her nor my fault that we got involved too deeply and maybe it's time for me to shut up, grow a pair and just talk to her as the good friends we are and go see her again when she's "free".
I understand that you're disgusted by the idea of her being with him just to support her family, but you need to put yourself in her shoes, maybe that's the only choice she's got, or maybe the easiest, stay friends with her, have fun, have your moments, and don't overthink about it, good luck buddy.
>>17226274
Thanks anon. It sounds weird but you made me a feel a bit better already.
Hoping for some more input.
>>17226331
Can you provide for her family too?
Would you feel comfortable giving her an ultimatum like that?
Yo quick question:
I'm too lazy to talk to any actual university representatives about this so I came here instead
Anyway, I'm registered for a community college near me. And while the cost is great and all of that, literally all the classes I have to take are full. The college has multiple classes, but the ones that are open are too far away from me.
There's a much better university with higher cost near me, but I can definitely squeeze into some of the classes (since I've been there before).
I'm already registered as a guest student at the community college.
Do you guys know if it would be possible to register as a guest student at the university? Do you guys know if I can withdraw my registration at the community college? Is it worth all this trouble?
>>17226178
The college has multiple campuses*
>>17226178
Check with your guidance counselor at the community college, really. You don't have to unregister from a community college. There are probably online versions of the classes you want, even other community colleges that offer them online.
>I'm too lazy to talk to any actual university representatives about this so I came here instead
Yeah, no. We don't know how this particular university works.
someone who is experienced with acid and MDMA please help me
>>17226161
Here
>>17226161
Not a veteran but um here too
