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I fucking just walked out of my house because my family were pissing me off so bad, fucking couldn't deal anymore. One member in particular is pissing me off and my friend suggested I murder this person, and in my current state of mind I am seriously considering it. Any possible suggestions as to how I could get away with it, make it look like an accident and never be found out?
Yeah, there's absolutely NO way they'd ever suspect that it's somebody with an emotional connection to the individual.
You and your friend sound so very smart.
Obviously they would suspect everyone ya thot, that wasn't the question.
>>17229418
Um, I asked what I could do that wouldn't make me suspicious, of course they are going to look at everyone anyway.
>>17229425
Thank you, my thoughts exactly.
Any advice on how to get a normal sleep schedule back on track? Going to bed at 4 in the morning is killing me.
Eating breakfast helps reset your metabolism and thus your sleep schedule. Just set your alarm early and eat a good breakfast and don't take a long nap during the day, go to sleep when you feel tired that night and repeat in the morning. Breakfast helps a lot, swear it
>>17229520
I already answered your fucking question yet you're still awake.
>the first step is wanting to go to sleep at a regular time
>>17229523
Not op. Breakfast don't do shit.... Especially when it's 1:53 in the morning
no one read it so i am jsut going to copy scumm it
part 2
>>17229373
you're like the most bizarrely delusional creature I've ever seen.
what is this insane mind hell prison you've created for yourself.
this board sure does get weird late at night
So I'm feeling anxious right now. I'm not sure how important the reason is, but I will include it at the end. Basically, though, I'm not panicking. I'm not having a panic attack. I just feel anxious and on edge and I don't know how to make myself calm down.
>How can I calm general anxiety? How can I reduce my current levels of anxiety?
Backstory (unimportant):
I have been taking OTC sleep aids to sleep for about 3 years and I've been meaning to get off of them but I finally started the process tonight. I have taken a smaller dose than I am used to and I am anticipating difficulty sleeping. In the past, insomnia has caused me panic attacks. I've been better about it lately but the prospect of being unable to sleep is very unsettling to me.
>>17229313
Go for a run. Come back, take a warm shower.
Might be a little late for the run so maybe just the warm shower. Chamomile tea helps a bit. Watching nature documentaries keeps my mind off it. Other than that it's just a bio feedback thing. Try to be aware of how tense/relaxed your muscles. Keep your body and muscles relaxed. Some soothing music in the background.
Some of those can help out.
>>17229323
here.
Also masturbating always helps out.
>>17229323
Thanks man.
Yeah, I just did my crunches and curls for the night and that kind of helped. Don't think I have any tea.
But music seems to help.
I mean, I'm usually okay with dealing with panic attacks, because I've had so many. But this is just like, a lingering thing. Different. I know, I just need to get the hormones out of my blood and it will pass.
Is not wanting to look at penises being not comfortable with your sexuality? I told my friend to stop posting penises in our group chat and she said that I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality.
Not a clear cut answer. If she is just posting dicks for shits and giggles, that's pretty immature and diaturbs the conversation, so it's legit to want her to stop. If you have a problem to see a dick that isn't yours in general, then yes, you should remove the stick in your ass.
are you M or F?
>>17229231
>are you M or F?
Hello /adv/. I'm 100% not gf material. I've accepted this, and am fine with it. Guys who hit on me though never seem to take my cautions seriously.
How do I get guys to not even try to gf me.
become an whale
Just stop talking to guys period is your best bet
>>17229124
Stop putting yourself down.
Clearly your self worth is very low. You also want someone to tell you this, don't you?
What makes you think you aren't worthy of a committed relationship?
hI /adv/, i'm going to try to keep this short and simple. A week ago i had a threesome with my boyfriend and a mutual friend of ours, all three of us were excited by the idea. I've never had sex with another girl before but i found myself paying a lot more attention to our mutual friend rather than my boyfriend, and only kind of brushed off my bf a little bit. I have been thinking about her all week, What does this mean? I love my boyfriend to death and would never cheat on him, that is simply not a option. Will this crush go away? I always thought girls were kind of attractive but I've never been so into another woman before. What do i do? Ignore it and wait for it to go away?
>>17229031
embrace polygamy, as nature intended
>>17229031
tell your bf
if he's willing to have a threesome with you i don't see why he'd be angry at you fucking another girl sometime, as long as you don't straight up leave him.
just wait it out homie, and don't overthink it. attraction is attraction but if your commitment to your boyfriend is unwavering then its totally no biggy to have a crush. its new and exciting just ride with it.
I "manipulate".
I make people feel bad for shit they didn't actually do that involves me. Somehow I fuck up my personal relationships by guilt tripping (or manipulating) others. How do I fix this shit, guys?
Realise ur doing it and control urself
>>17229008
You clearly know when you're doing it. So stop doing it. When you notice yourself starting to be an asshole, stop being an asshole.
>>17229008
Channel that ability into your career and use it to climb the ladder.
Or just stop fucking doing it
3 year relationship. any advice / insight.
It's been a great relationship. I'm just getting to the point of "wow is this it?". I find our attitudes / goals can be so different.
I feel in my life I have so much I want to do and go after and be on top of. work, friends, job, new music, doing projects and exploring life.
just feels like for my gf it's the following.
im tired, cold, my stomach hurts, I need to change, I need to change my attitude towards money or anything in between.
I thought relationship were suppose to be fun and exciting. where 2 people can grow together. Be awesome and do awesome things.
at this point we haven't moved in together, no vacation together cause this chic doesn't have a full time job. makes up excuses and over all I have no idea what shes doing / thinking.
then it gets to this point of... okay.. well I'll be more patient. After 3 years I'm not sure how much more I can take. Shes hot, cute and we get along really really well. I just find myself thinking.
Well I don't want kids at the moment. I don't see marriage happening any time soon. soo what's the point. but once the weekend comes I guess I crawl back to a comfort zone of being with her. It's my first gf and I'm sure that has something to do with it.
in b4 dump her faggot. just looking for advice / guidance. I really like her but at times it just feels really off.
Married anon here.
The spark does eventually fade. Your life does fall into a routine after a while. You see more problems in the relationship, and it becomes more work to maintain. That magical "think about them and everything is perfect forever" is gone.
However, in a good relationship, this does not mean the love has died. It's just a calmer, quieter love; the kind of slow burn that can endure. You're best friends, you trust each other absolutely, you communicate and work together and tackle problems for and with each other.
There was some quote I read a long time ago, that went something like this: Love is not two people staring at each other, it is two people looking together towards the horizon. As cheesy as that is, I'd say it's accurate.
Relationships are not all fun and exciting. A lot of people expect them to be and that puts a lot of pressure on people to always be fun and exciting. And it also means some people are always chasing the honeymoon period, that magical drunken love at the beginning that always fades with time. The end of the honeymoon period, though, is often where most relationships end, because when the magic fades people often realize there isn't enough to stand on anymore.
Long story short: honeymoon period is "think about your partner and everything is magically better". But the love that endures beyond it is more like "I am with this person and the way they help me / the way we work together makes everything better."
>>17228991
thanks for your kind wisdom.
I understand what you are saying. I'm at a point of . okay well. is this going to work long term?
I find in the relationship I am running circles around her. I feel as if I don't have a choice in the matter of things. Having a job, staying healthy, expanding my learning and going after goals. I feel with her all that is more a choice. Sure she has to have a job. but it's going to come with excuses / complaining.
I've listened to her intently throughout the relationship. Been patient and really tried my hardest to show her what I think / my attitude. and hell sometimes I just listen.
It's frustrating to date someone that wants things. But doesn't do much to go after them. She is progressing but in a slow slow manner. As time goes on I feel there is more pressure on me to commit / make more decisions. Okay what does she expect as time goes on VS what I expect.
I feel my expectations are very basic. Have a job, pay off loans, stay healthy, and go after goals.
Her expectations tend to be more of a "girly" type things. moving in, vacation, and some sort of present / gift. (shes not an air head person).
I like buying her things / doing things for her. but it all falls apart when I don't get the basic things, and what I want in a relationship. Is basic shit for her. full time job, pay off loans etc.
at time shes freaked out and been like
"if you were the one you would move in with her."
Where I can only respond with.
"you need a full time job, I don't feel comfortable moving in with someone that relays on part time work".
There tends to be this feeling of "I told you so". in the relationship. I'm not even the type to wanting to be right all the time. just basic shit.
>>17229029
at times it feels like im dating a little girl.
I hope for the day she becomes a woman and understand.
"damn if I want these things with him I'm going to have to work hard and stop complaining / making excuses."
I get no one is perfect. but fuck sometimes I feel like she doesn't think beyond her own dumb emotions.
life is what you make it. just seems like shes all excuses and wants things to magically happen for her. or "someday" things will change.
/adv/, my gf recently confided in me that she has been suicidal for years. It seems pretty bad, but she's calm about it. She doesn't want to get help, but she has made plans and everything since years ago. I was so angry and scared but I don't want to upset her and make her do stupid things.
I want to report her to the police and get her committed in the hospital, but I know she's going to despise me if I do. I'm the only person she's ever told, outside of the internet, so she'd know it's me. I really really don't want to lose her since she's my first girlfriend and she's the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Bumping for you
Bumping again
Is she currently seeing a therapist? Is she on any medications/seeing a psychiatrist? Also, has she set a date for her suicide?
If the answer to all three of those questions is "no," you may want to encourage her to seek therapeutic care. She may respond well, may not.
If not, you really have no choice but to call the cops if you care about her life, OP. If you're scared that she would do something rash in response to you calling the cops, don't tell her when you do it.
She may be angry with you at the moment, but you simply have no choice if you want to save her.
Former NEET Here, getting a job at walmart. How bad is it? Is it difficult to get used to? Never had a job in my life. Im 18 male. Im trying to not be a NEET for the rest of my life.
Dont have walmart here but would equate to a bunnings or something.
So long as youre not an absolute dumb cunt it will be piss easy to learn.
Worked at Walmart as a cart pusher and technician. Make friend with a manager and stay out of the way of asshole managers and don't give then a reason to hate you.
Other than that it was a really laid back job depending on what you work and they give you 40 hours
>>17228763
That's a pretty good starter job, as it teaches core structure and job values pretty early.
They're very professional, and when you take your skills elsewhere later in life, Walmart will always be a great stepping stone to announce where your productivity and ability is core from.
A job like that is really great to have for a first job, you learn things right, and the job gets done.
It's truthfully a pretty seamless transition from not working to working.
And, the friends you'll make will be quick and spontaneous and forever change your life in a way that feels natural.
You'll go to work parties, you'll end up sleeping with a few of the cashiers, you'll probably get a promotion or two.
I started as season help in the Toy department one christmas, then they put me on a cash register, and then a little bit later they moved me to be a TLE technician because I mentioned I liked working around vehicles and know how to change oil already.
Now Walmart wasn't my first job by any means, but I can see how it would've been a very great first job if I wasn't a punk ass kid who thought he knew everything already because I used to manage a McDonalds when I was 18.
I
m 18. My girlfriend is 17 and has been talking to her 24 year old ex quite a bit recently.
I've been dating her since February, they broke up in January after dating a year; from what I know they broke up because the distance was getting to be too much for them (He lives in a town about an hour from us) and she dumped him.
After they broke up, she didn't tell him we started dating, but he kept trying to get back with her. To her credit she denied him every time and told him "stuffs changed", which I always assumed meant she no longer has feelings for him. They've never seen each other since they broke up.
She was spending the night with me the other night and I noticed around 1 in the morning she was texting him while were watching Netflix. Curiosity got the best of me and when she was asleep I read through their texts.
It was mostly innocent, talking about work and their days; but towards the end of their conversation I noticed the following
Her: It doesn't matter anymore since you're over it
Him: Who said I'm over it?
Her: Seems that way.
Him: Are you over it or does a part of you miss us?
Her: I'm not quite sure. Her: But it doesn't matter. It's in the past. You're over it.
Him: Let's say I'm in the same boat as you.
Her: That's helpful.
After that, they agreed what they had was great and the only bad part was the ending. He ended their conversation with "The ending we had doesn't have to be our ending."
She only replied with "mmm yeah maybe"
I really don't know what to make of this. Since that night her and I spent every waking moment together but I have a bad feeling.
If he was asking for advice here I think everyone would tell them she's just liking the attention from him and has no real intention of meeting up but...her birthday is coming up soon and I know the age thing and distance were her biggest qualms and neither of those are factors anymore.
Someone talk me through this?
Surprise! You're a rebound!
>He's 24
>She's 17
dude what the fuuuuck. At best your gf dated a sexual predator and at worst, your gf dated a sexual predator AND IS STILL TALKING TO HIM. He fucking straight up told her he wanted to get back with her and she didn't tell him to fuck off. Why are you still with her?
>looking through people's phones to read their texts
Dude this relationship is doomed. if you mistrust her enough to do that you should just get out. She's gonna fuck him
>>17228707
Not OP, but my friend's parents started dating at those ages and 30 years on, they're still together.
You are the main character—the protagonist—the star at the center of your own unfolding story. You're surrounded by your supporting cast: friends and family hanging in your immediate orbit.
Scattered a little further out, a network of acquaintances who drift in and out of contact over the years.
But there in the background, faint and out of focus, are the extras. The random passersby. Each living a life as vivid and complex as your own.
They carry on invisibly around you, bearing the accumulated weight of their own ambitions, friends, routines, mistakes, worries, triumphs and inherited craziness.
When your life moves on to the next scene, theirs flickers in place, wrapped in a cloud of backstory and inside jokes and characters strung together with countless other stories you'll never be able to see. That you'll never know exists.
In which you might appear only once. As an extra sipping coffee in the background. As a blur of traffic passing on the highway. As a lighted window at dusk.
So /adv/ give me your input... Do you have days in which you realize this? That you are just part of the city/town scenery in other peoples lives? Give me your thought on this whole matter of "Everyone has a life as vivid as you."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkoML0_FiV4
Yes, I've thought about it quite often in recent years, more in the context of how becoming good friends with someone makes both of you "absorb" a good part of each others stories.
Also imagining my life as a story in a book or a movie and me as its protagonist really motivates me.
>>17228681
My wife and I had a good long run as the stars of our own shoujo manga. Kickass manga, too. Just one problem: the best shoujo manga are the ones you'd least like to live through. We got our happy ending, though.
Now we live on as supporting characters in the various and sundry spinoff series centered around the people who were supporting characters in our own series. And truth be told, we both prefer the support side of things, for the moment. Get some rest from the limelight.
yeah and sometimes I think of how many years of experience I see walking on the streets
>19
>Parents moved us to Melbourne, AU from America
>Can't find job
>They don't care about my experience in the US
>Can't speak Chinese
>NEET
>23 hr/day in bedroom doing jack shit
>Bf in America
>Hate it here, want to move back
>$2500 AUD to my name
>I WILL have a place to stay
>Mooching off government (centrelink)
>in debt to phone company
Should I just teach myself some basic Chinese phrases for working in retail and then lie and say I CAN speak it? There are too many of them here so I'm locked out of a lot of jobs if I say I can't speak it.
If it's *really* necessary for the job, they'll probably find out pretty quickly if you lied. It's not hard to switch languages in the interview to do a quick test.
I have so many questions:
If you're an adult, why did you move with them? Why didn't you choose to stay?
Why do you need to be able to speak Chinese?
Why are you in debt if you have money?
>for working in retail
Or you could spend some time learning good, marketable skills where you aren't a customer complaint away from being fired.
So this girl added me on facebook and wanted to hook up.
Yeah sure why not, you're a 7/10 and I haven't gotten laid in years.
Go over to my place, watch movies and chill. Then it escalated to us fucking. She told me she was on the pill so we fucked commando.
How the fuck do I know if she was telling the truth?! because I shot a huge load up there, what are my chances of getting a freaking kid??
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/childrens_ikea/baby/
>>17228553
> cumming inside someone you hooked up with off Facebook
jesus, standards.
With a condom 2%.
Pill like 8%
if she lied she will no doubt get preggers.
Wd op you're fucked for life.
