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So every time I drive I get tons of anxiety, but I don't know what do do about it. I've already got my license but I've hardly ever driven after I got it because of my fear for driving. I know I'm not that bad of a driver, but whenever I think about driving I think of all the times that I did things wrong when I first started driving and I'm afraid that I might do something wrong when I drive now. Any tips/advice?
are you a woman?
>>17226833
I got over my driving anxiety by just driving more. Driving to and from work/school every day will ease your anxiety.
Also put on radio/music.
You're probably an ok driver.
>>17227228
Nope
>>17227255
Alright, will try getting out more, thanks.
I have a massive headache but no pills to alleviate the pain. Is there anything else I can do?
>>17226832
Make a hole in your head.
>>17226859
Hhehehe that was so funneh and witty! Upvoted
>>17226832
try a benedryl or some nyquil and go to sleep.
Dear /adv/, two choices
>Do test tomorrow with 50% of passing.
>Do test in September with 90% of passing.
>If I fail on any of them, I can't do the test again until December.
Choose wisely, as it can't be changed later.
What kind of test
>>17226819
These choices are vague but I would just do it tomorrow and get that worry out of my mind, but that's just me.
>>17226822
Last test in college. If I pass, I graduate this month. If I don't pass, I can't graduate until December. If I wait, I'll graduate in September. It's a language test btw.
I'm sure a question like this has been asked a million times before but I want as much insight on this as possible..
A female friend of mine that I've known since I was 3 (she was my only friend in school with a class of only 11 kids) is now single after breaking up with a long term bf. The thing is I recently broke up with my long term gf and we have been hanging out a lot recently and talking about our breakups. I wanna know if there is a 'casual' way to ask her to give us a shot because of these coincidental circumstances. I don't want to...
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Anyone?
Just start transitioning into more "date"-like activities, and if it seems like she's still eager to spend time with you, you've probably got a pretty good shot. Watch a movie on the couch and go in for a kiss if there's a good vibe. The usual. Treat her like any other woman.
>I don't want to come across as if she has been my oneitis for my whole life cause she hasn't been
Just put that shit out of your head. That type of thinking can ONLY sabotage you and make you afraid to try. Just make a move...
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>>17226980
Yeah definitely don't want to come across to strong. I kinda wanted to just ask her where we stand in a really casual way so as to not make our friendship awkward. You think going for a kiss is too much?
how does one avoid falling in it?
how does one get out of it?
>>17226794
Realise that it doesn't exist.
There is no friend zone, you're just unattractive to him/her, stop being delusional.
>>17226821
Yes it certainly does. It comes from inaction and not being upfront. Also following a girl that isn't worth it.
What are some good entry-level jobs that are fairly anti-social? I have a difficult time talking to people and I'd rather have something where I can just work my shift in peace and clock out. Any help?
>>17226765
quite a few entry-level jobs do not require much interaction with other people
fast food - look at food prep, not order taker
groceries - look at shell restocking, not cashier
retail - warehouse work
construction - general manual labor
good luck !
Any sort of administrative job involving data entry, check processing etc.
>>17226856
this is super easy work with the bare minimum of interaction unless you have the misfortune of sharing an office/cube.
>tfw gonna be 26 in a less than two months
>tfw suddenly old
>tfw overnight it seems like everyone is getting engaged, married, or having children
>tfw I finally learned what I was doing wrong as a teen
>tfw I can finally get sex on a consistent basis from girls age 17 and up
>tfw finally get to live that teenage chad fantasy I always wanted
>tfw I was weird...
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Wait wait wait what was it that you were doing wrong as a teen?
You're seriously crying about your age at 25 years old?
Yeah. Get it out of you system and then move on asap. It's pretty cringey if you still fuck around at that age.
how the fuck im supposed to study in a dormitory
>live in dorm, roommates are huge football fans and they arent going to quiet it down a bit
>dormitory has only one study room which is filled with three groups of some yanky sluts doing group projects
>cant study outside because allergies and shit
>no friends in vicinity
>uni library is now closed
so this is how I fail my studies, right? because I have a fucking...
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Try ear muffs instead. Either that or negotiate/confront the football guys
It's not sensitive hearing the problem, but your sheer lack OF FUCKING CONCENTRATION.
Get dedicated and learn to drum out the annoyances. Believe me, it will help you also in real life.
>>17226725
concentration lessons:
1. YEAH BRO JUST TRY REALLY HARD
How can I introduce my partner to these fetishes in a way that won't scare him? I'm female.
Just confront them. If you're in a place in your relationship where you're comfortable, ask them how they feel about fetishes. Gauge reaction. Then, suggest the fetish and provoke them to voice how they feel about it without suggesting it's your fetish. Go from there based on how they react. You might need to be a little smooth with your language but thats how id do it.
>>17226714
So a bit like the whole "my friend has this problem" thing? I hope its not too transparent...
When he mentions anal you're supposed to say "you first." If he's not outraged, that's a maybe.
A question to older/more experienced anons, if there are any.
How long would it be wise to date someone before considering marriage? How about living together before marriage? Basically, how long and what stages of a relationship it would be good to "pass" before marrying someone?
>>17226681
I wouldn't call myself old, but experienced may apply.
Personally, I knew I wanted to marry my gf within days of meeting her (eventual outcome, not immediately.) I let her know, and she felt the same way (that eventually we should marry) and we have sat on the idea since then. At 2 years we started living together, and now at 8 years into the relationship we are revisiting the idea (first we want to save a little more, make sure we don't get into debt etc.)
In short, as long as you both want...
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My girl and I have been dating for a few years now, and I'm still not all the way convinced she's the one for me.
But, ultimately I'm going to end up proposing in the next 2-3 years, and we'll get married another 3-6 years after that.
>>17226728
If you're not sure, why get married?
I got a new cell phone a few years ago and when I connected it to my computer for some reason it automatically downloaded all photos that had ever been downloaded from my gmail account.
I didnt know this until I got home from work one day and my bf was fuming because there was a picture of a BBC on my computer. I told him I deleted that ages ago, it was before we even met, but he didn't believe me. It is true, I was hooking up with a BBC but when I met my lovely white boyfriend I deleted the dick pic and never thought about it again.
Now... I have always wanted to find a man with a large uncircumcised white cock. This is the only acceptable dating/marrige material for me, but I went through a period of random hookups after getting out of a 6 year relationship. The BBC was one of them and who I was hooking up with right before I met my boyfriend.
It is still having a bad effect on our lives. My bf is jealous and paranoid and has lost a lot of confidence day to day and in bed.
What can I do to make things better??
Break up. He sounds like a whiny insecure manchild.
If he's not willing to compromise, then dump his sorry ass.
If you really love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then you should probably spend time with him.
Travel with him to places you haven't been (or take him to amusement parks or something like that if thats what you like)
Talk to him about what you want to do in the future and stuff.
If you keep doing that Im pretty sure that he would start to acknowledge that you really do love him.
So I'm having little bit problem.
As I can't have credit card or bank account. I don't know how to setup Paypal without it any help?
>>17226589
Pre-paid visa?
How are you planning on moving money through your account without a bank account or credit card though? Seems pointless.
>>17226592
Can't you pay on internet just by Paypal account?
What are you trying to do OP? Just get (free) money? Your money has to be taken from somewhere (bank account or card) and you can also recieve money into paypal that you can later withdraw into your banking account.
Sounds like you're trying to use paypal without really using it's main features.
/adv/ I'm constantly searching for some sort of pleasure to relieve me from life. I cannot go very long dealing with the suffering of doing things I don't like. I feel stuck in a shitty job and I can't move up because when I get home I want to relief my stress by drinking alcohol or wasting time 'relaxing'. I might smoke weed and gorge on food as well. I also I might even get into arguments online about things I care about but that nobody else cares about, because I'm searching for the feeling of reward if I win or prove something.
How do...
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Just go for a walk, do something ambitious that gets you out of the house. go to educational courses of some sort.
I drink and smoke like a mofo but know I shouldnt and it just makes me more depressed.
My answer is to go out of the house and do shit I dont want to do, but I havnt quite got there yet. I feel like escaping is bad. I'm not incapable of it, but it becomes less and less appealing as the years go by.
>>17226583
Meant to put this in the first post but actually my problem is I choose to succumb to wasting my time. The pain I get in my chest when I even think of doing something constructive is pretty intense. I am constantly in a state of stress and my objective is always to relieve it.
>>17226572
Weed is probably the least harmful escape (assuming you use a vaporizer and aren't smoking it) short of actually trying to turn your life around.
I'd consider it an absolute last resort, but it can definitely be one.
My boyfriend fixes phones on the side for extra income. It's always made me feel weird. It'd be a girl at the bar he knows through a friend or as of late complete strangers on Facebook. Twice now it's been two women who wear lingerie in their Facebook profiles.
One girl even asked him to come over at midnight to fix it. I obviously made sure that didn't happen but he blamed me for a loss of sale. I told him she can come to our place during the day. Apparently that doesn't work for her. Or him. Literally every picture of her was in some cheap...
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Fixes phones, huh.
Not only is that not easy, but it's not worth it.
100% shade.
Bug his clothes with a micro-voice recorder and see what he's up to, I guess.
>>17226564
This is copypasta
Saage
>>17226588
Not copy pasta I swear.
I don't do anything with my free time other than read and shitpost and everyone's always saying "get a hobby to be interesting"
I don't really care what since eventually women force you to give up your hobbies anyway, so if I was faking it from the start it's not like I lost anything
And don't give me that "it doesn't matter what, it's how passionate you are that's attractive" - because that's not true. Video games, anime, magic cards and things like that are unacceptable but sports and motorcycles are so hot.
But I'm also on a really tight budget, I work full time support myself and that, I'm not some high school kid. Not like I can just go buy a fucking mustang to "tinker" with.
So what's a cheap, masculine hobby to get into? I was thinking football, my state has an NFL team so I could start following them, read about the players and watch the games next season... what do you think?
>>17226554
Yeah, that'd be the most "free" option barring any sort of TV investment.
You're right about vidya, anime, etc but only if you're trying to get normie girls. If your ideal gf is someone like you who likes nerd shit, then those hobbies you listed are huge pluses and they're likely to be turned off by "manly men" who are into traditional male hobbies.
If you want a normie girl, then yeah, pick up a normie hobby. It doesn't even have to be masculine. Hiking/biking...
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DIY with salvaged items. It's manly, it's cheap, AND it's a valuable lifeskill that will signal you as a good provider.
Do a parkour, or a cycling.
Cycling would be easier to relate to, though. Gives you a lot of freedom of choice depending on what kind of person you are, too.
