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I'm in a relationship in which I can meet my girlfriend once a week at best. I completely fell in love with her. She's eighteen, I'm twenty. We've known each other for two years and we're in a relationship for three months. Turns out she lost her virginity to a boyfriend of ~six months when she was sixteen. It completely shattered my trust, - since we've been talking in the meantime and I haven't heard even half word of him - my image of her in my mind and my respect towards her. How am I supposed to swallow this pill and keep going? I'm...
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>>17225960
I don't understand, how does the fact that she's not a virgin make a difference to your relationship?
She's not your property, bro.
>>17225963
Because the way she acts with me, the kind of person she is with me and that I fell in love with wouldn't do that. I know it's my fault for creating such an image of her in my mind but I didn't do it by myself out of thin air. Having sex for the first time with somebody she claims she didn't even love while being sixteen at the time is not normal in my experience.
I need some help.
tomorrow I have an interview for a PhD scholarship.
How do I talk about myself ? What should I say ?
Should I say my name at start or what?
I suck at interviews. I don't want to miss this chance.
Any advice is really appreciated
Explain to them that if you get this scholarship it will go a long way towards you being able to whip your dick out while exclaiming "the doctor is in the house" non facetiously.
>>17225939
>I suck at interviews.
1) Go sleep early.
2) Take shower so you don't smell.
3) Don't forget to put on some clothes, especially pants. Man without pants is man without respect :-D
4) Don't be late, enter the right place / room, say what you want, who you are, sit down and wait for instructions...
You should know why you want to become PhD, because they will most likely asks you this. You can't fail this.
I've built a robot in my finale year project. Should I take it with me ? Or would I be a show off for that?
What are your opinions on cousins dating? I mean 2nd or 3rd cousins. There is a theory called the Westermarck effect, which states that relatives (siblings, cousins, etc) living in domestic proximity during the first years of life are desensitized to sexual attraction (i.e. If they grow up together they will not find eachother sexually attractive), however if they are brought up separately and meet later in life as adults, they may find eachother extremely attractive. I have personally experienced this, before learning of this theory in a tv show, and then researching it in...
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>>17225929
If you do, don't have kids, their genetics will be messed up.
>>17225929
Can confirm the Westermarck effect as if I hadn't grown up with one of my cousins I'd be head over fucking heels in love with her because she's fucking awesome. However, I don't agree with the whole cousin love thing in general so it works out. However, if it works for you and your cousin, OP, who am I to judge the person you love?
>>17225929
>opinions
Opinions are subjective and therefore doesn't matter, because everybody have different one.
But having babies with blood related partners is proven to have higher risk of passing up some genetic disorders. The chances are still small even if it is mother + son or father + daughter, but still exists even in cousins case.
>http://www.yourgenome.org/facts/what-are-dominant-and-recessive-alleles
Look at it like this:
Both...
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>Meets guy from online dating irl (we are both at uni)
>Met him three times irl for meals
>We seem to get along pretty well in our first date
>Gave me his Facebook
>Says he hardly ever uses it
>Only has two girls there whom he has met online
>Googled his full name
>Can't find any info except for how he won a swimming competition...
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>>17225878
Why don't you ask him to see his student card you nut?
>>17225880
Ah true lol. Thanks
>Says he hardly ever uses it
>Only has two girls there whom he has met online
Yeah no it sounds like a burner fb. he either doesn't use his full name irl amongst his real friends etc or gave you a fake name/fb
I got some fucking annoying warts, they are around the finger and even under the nail. Very persistent.
Went to the doctor to freeze them (5 times), just got back from a appointment he says there's not much they can do(since part of it is underneath the nail) and a dermatologist will probably say the same.
I'm getting really annoyed it used to be just on my indexfinger but it has spread to some other fingers as well.
Is it worth trying 'natural' solutions, or just go to the dermatologist anyway. Any people who had the same. I don't...
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I had warts for a good year or so because I bit the skin around my fingers. Using apple cider vinegar every day for like 3 months ended up getting rid of them but just saying its super fucking painful and can kinda ruin your nails. Not sure what you can do about the warts under the nail tho :/ Eventually your body should fight them off.
>>17225858
OP here my warts are probably caused by the same reason. I have to quit that shit
bump, looking mostly for what other people have done/would do
How do you deal with a shitty roommate?
I recently moved in with my GF and her cousin also lives there. Problem is she pays rent late, never cleans up after herself, is rude in general (ie we both work nights and she is loud as fuck during the day when we're asleep)
My GF constantly complains to me about it and I get sick of it at times because it's like why not just fucking kick her out if you're going to complain about her all the time? I guess this is a double advice thread, help.
>>17225844
if you aren't paying at least as much as she is toward the living arrangement, there isnt really much you can say.
>>17225860
I'm 100% equal to her in living here, if anything I do more since I am constantly cleaning up after her.
>>17225844
Ask her for a threeway.
Well, I'm in love with my friend's ex girlfriend, and also she is in love with me. The thing is that we're not together because of 2 reasons: first, she is already living in another city and second: SHE WAS MY FRIEND'S LOVE, they fucked, they kissed, every damn thing. I don't know what do I have to do with my life. Do you guys think that I should tell him about my new relationship? I'm really scared because I don't know if he stills loving her. If he says to me that I have to leave her I will be fucking sad.
if someone stops you from loving then they don't love you.
I also forget to say that he's in another relationship right now, but my new girlfriend was his love for 3 years, that's why I feel awful inside
Well, there's nothing you can do but tell him. What do you want to do, date her behind his back? This all puts you in an awkward position, I understand. I'm sure you've dealt with being in awkward positions before.
My girlfriend keeps complaining to me over me being 'closed off' ever since I had to temporarily move out of her area (coming back in a week though) and I have absolutely no idea why she feels I'm closed off. Can anyone help me figure this out?
>I send her a romantic message expresing my love for her and how much she means to me every day for her to see either when she's waking up or when she comes back from showering/dinner
>I talk to her, as in actual discussion and conversation, for at least...
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The only thing that's different at all since I left is that I don't have that much to talk about. My life right now and probably until I return in a week is basically work and in my free time talk to her and maybe listen to music for a half an hour and watch a few youtube videos. I still make it a point to think of topics to talk to her about so we can have nice conversations.
>>17225768
Look, you're far less closed-off than most guys, so I'm not sure either what the hell your girlfriend wants.
If she won't tell you, there's not much you can do about it, other than telling her that ("i want to improve the situation, but you have to help me understand what exactly is wrong so i can fix it").
Otherwise, just wait out the week until you get back, since it'll probably resolve itself when you're back to interacting in person (i'm guessing that's...
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>>17225883
She has told me about this before and that she mentioned that I was giving her too much affection as opposed to conversation (which is understandable, when I'm tired or exhausted while talking to her and I have nothing to say I have a tendency to shower her with love and affection, both as a natural urge and so there isn't silence), and that I'm not very talkative over the phone (which was true, I was extremely exhausted from work in the weeks leading up to that conversation), both of which I feel...
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Hello /adv/ I have a simple question. Not expecting a simple answer though. I'm a 22 year old male that has been fairly feminine all my life, and I've decided that its time for it to show more on the surface. I feel like I have to bottle up my personality because I look like a guy. Also would be awesome to have some tits.
What are some recommended ways to get started on transitioning? Ground zero here, body hair and all. Diving further into this I'd like to know what advice y'all would give on self-medicating hormone therapy, as well as any support...
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are you actually transgendered, or do you just like the idea of looking like a girl? can't really tell. either way, you'll probably find a way.
>>17225655
See a psychologist first
>>17225655
Not going to tell you how to live your life, but if you're not sure about your gender I'd advise you to avoid anything that's irreversible. All of the trans people that I know have always known or felt that they were born in the wrong skin. I'd say to test the waters with the gender queer thing and see if you like it.
I'm in an open'ish relationship for the first time, and have been for about 4 months now. People keep warning me to not get too invested, and cautioning me that while this sort of thing might be a lot of fun, it won't last. I'm really enjoying it, and it seems like a natural fit for me. I'd really like to take things to the next level, and get a place together, but a bunch of my friends are acting like I'm crazy. I'm really happy with this guy though, and want to move things forward.
Are relationships like mine really that doomed from...
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Dont do it. You need to think that hes probably fucking other girls too, which might be what hes up with right now.
If anything, talk to him about it. But dont rush anything and think thru it, dont get dissapointed aswell if you dont get the response you expected.
>>17225646
In my experience when people push for open relationships they're just fucking you until something better comes along.
The whole polyamory thing is an excuse to sleep around but to still have a sense of stability in life. If you're not okay with him fucking or pursuing other people it will be a very bad timr and these relationships tend to go up in flames very quickly.
So, use your judgement and try to be open with him about your needs.
>>17225658
Oh course he's with other women. He's done stuff with friends of mine right in front of me, with my encouragement.
So i'd like to become a voice-over artist someday, or at least work towards that end. Trouble is, I have no idea where to start, and as far as microphones and/or filters for recording from home, I have no idea what kinds models i'd ideally look for, I suppose this would be a general resource thread
AT2020 xlr version with a focusrite Scarlett solo, pop filter, shock mount, mounted on a boom arm.
If you have a walk in closet convert that to your recording booth. Otherwise either buy an isolation shield or build one and do it somewhere else.
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Bumping for interest
I actually live in L.A. and wonder how to go about just going to Hollywood and auditioning. I have no professional experience whatsoever, but have been told by teachers and friends this may be an untapped talent of mine.
Have you tried auditioning for open calls over the web? Gotten any feedback on how good your acting is versus sound quality of voice?
There is a girl that I have been very interested in for a long time (fucking years) but she is, on the outside, your basic-white-girl 'popular' stereotype, and i'm a lame blend of goth and nerd. But circumstances have had it that we have spent a lot of time in each others company over the years, and I have grown an affection for her, never once thinking she felt the same.
Then, out of the blue the other day, while we were both considerably intoxicated, she tells me that she loves me. I knew she was drunk and was naturally skeptical, but insisted that she...
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She thinks it was sudden and went full autismo over you and is too embarrassed about how she acted.
No one can tell you what's going on in her head other than the girl herself. If you want to know something, ask her. Speculating is only going to damage you.
>>17225628
lul. I had my best friend basically do this one night.
Except she's gay.
Drunk+horny+lonely+feeling shitty about the life situation you're currently in+more alcohol = you say shit you don't mean and drunkenly connect dots that are nowhere near each other or make any sense when you're sober and rational.
She's still definitely gay. We both have girlfriends, we're both very happy with them.
Go ahead and talk to her if you want, but other anon is right, speculating...
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What do I do if literally no one likes me. Everywhere I go people either treat me like shit or act like I don't exist. I always say the wrong shit and can barely hold conversation for shit but I don't even think that's it. I think I'm autistic because I can barely make eye contact and I'm depressed as fuck and feel tired all the time so it's even harder and I have anxiety.
I sometimes have small acquaintances that I hang out with sometimes and I mostly meet people through them but none of their friends like me and people don't like...
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Hey, OP, everything is going to be okay. You aren't autistic, you're different. Who cares about people and friends, they wont get you anywhere. Find solace in things that actually make you happy. Good luck.
>>17225636
I kinda suck at school and don't have hobbies
Is it wrong to rub one thinking about a third cousin?
>>17225616
Fantasy is different from reality.
So, no- although it can be awkward when you see them IRL.
I've masturbated to weirder.
completely fine, when I masturbate pictures of EVERY girl I am close to passes through my head
>third cousin
dude you have different fucking GREAT GRANDPARENTS. go back much further and you're going to end up related to most every person in an entire country
is it acceptable to ask my boyfriend what his political party is? I don't think he'd care but I'm just worried it's rude to ask.
pic unrelated i just grabbed whatever
Ask him. Where are you from?
>>17225583
In a country were there is no political persecution, yes.
But why the curiosity all of a sudden? What are your pretenses? You sound like somebody who is about to trash is bf just for political reasons.
Bring it up as you're curious and want to hear his perspective
And then NEVER use it against him in an argument
