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How to make a guy who is attracted to me (I know this much) go crazy for me?
It looks like the more I text him the less he cares about me
>>17222250
Be attractive, be interesting, don't be desperate. You may come off as wanting him too much and that will make anyone feel slightly less interested. Stop coming off as so easy.
Id advise you to not put on too much of a character because you'd have to always act like that if you two start dating.
>text
if you really want him to go crazy for you, do it in person.
>more I text him the less he cares about me
nah, try to think of it from his perspective. You're running out of things to talk about
You're better off doing it to his face
Okay this is a long one but I'm so lost, I don't know what to do, whole story might be two or three separate posts:
>be me
>never been in a relationship before
>year ago
>see girl i have feelings for
>never talked to her until 2 months ago, surprised she approached me first, have a conversation but it was a awkward conversation because I'm too shy with women
>think nothing of it
>fast forward month later
>she told someone about the conversation, said she thought it was funny how quiet I was in the conversation and how I didn't say much
>somehow one of my friends hear about this and tells me about it and wonders why I never asked for her number
>made a whole bunch of excuses said she probably wouldn't be into a guy like me, it wouldn't work, etc
>one weekend he asks me again if I asked her anything, I said no, then he texts her saying I want her number
>WTF_MAN!!.jpg
>get paranoid because she replies saying I have to ask for her number myself, so now I'm pissed at my friend and feel like I have to ask her myself now
>don't say anything at all for two weeks, friends keep telling me to do it
>one night hanging out with friends, they mention the girl again and had this idea that I could surprise her with flowers around 10:00 pm because she works in the afternoon
>I don't want too because I've never been in a relationship and I'm afraid it wouldent work out
>they keep reassuring me that she liked me and showed texts saying she was interested and the typical (just be yourself bro XDDD)
>so they all grab me and force me into my friends car to go to a florist to buy flowers and as they keep driving I keep saying (I can't do this)
>they all ignore me
>we stop of the parking lot of her workplace
>push me out and drive to the other side of the building
>after like five minutes she sees me
>oh_fuck.jpg
>>17222248
contd.
>for some odd reason I actually hand her the flowers and tell her I've been think about her for awhile and hand her the flowers
>can see how red she is and looks surprised, takes them and I chat with her more and I introduce myself to her
>eventually my friends drove back up and apparently texted one of the that she was so happy and that was the sweetest thing anyone has ever done
>know now that I have to give her my number now
>next day
>she sends them a text saying she still didn't get my number
>out of nowhere my friend sends me a screenshot of him giving her my number
>start panicking because I've never texted a girl before and I get a text from her
>in my head I'm thinking all sorts of stuff, I'm furious for letting my friend make me do all of this and me not thinking sent out another text saying i didn't expect my friend to give out the number
>out of panic and me not thinking straight I sent her another text saying this probably won't work and give a weird excuse saying I like her but I didn't know how to approach you properly and that I jumped the gun with the flowers (even though that was all my fiends idea) they told her that was all me
>my friends suddenly text me that they are furious I didn't give her a shot, because she told them everything
>feel like shit the whole day because I gave her flowers then I pussied out literally the next day
>She then replies with I guess
>I reply saying I feel terrible for everything that happened and I apologize
> she says it's fine no worries
>now my "friends" are this whole time they were trying to prop us together and I ruined it
Currently I feel miserable and I can't stop thinking about it, I was thinking about text her back and saying I changed my mind but at the same time at the moment I'm trying to sort things out and get myself situated before I can star dating
bumping cuz interested
>>17222253
I'm afraid the damage is already done and now she probably hates my guts now which suck because I still have feelings for her and I felt like I ruined my only chance of a relationship but I didn't feel ready at the moment, so /adv/ should I text her back and say I changed my mind or should I just leave things be?
So do guys enjoy when a girl is texting them a lot/initiating contact a lot, or do they find it tedious or pathetic? I'm friends with this guy but I very rarely message first because I don't want to bother him or seem clingy.
If you're close, it's fine to do it often.
>>17222228
Depends on the guy. Nice guys won't really give a shit or enjoy it. Chads might get annoyed if the view you as unattractive. It helps to be hot.
Girls love the attention. So even if you're clingy, they love it. It doesn't mean they'll fuck you though. You have to find the sweet spot of texting enough that she knows you exist, but not too much so that you can keep her waiting a bit. It's an odd game to play if you're new to it or autistic, but it's necessary if you don't want to come off as desperate.
so i cant seem to hold a job, i seriously have never made more than 900 usd in any job i have had, i was fired a week ago, with my boss telling me i have no initiative, but the last two weeks there i was doing almost everything on my own. i dont understand what is wrong with me, im almost about to turn 20 and have yet to buy me a nice car, like the rest of the kids my agr, i seriously dont even know what to do anymore but an hero
>>17222211
bumping because why not
>>17222211
You won't get sympathy points for being a lazy worker; take your bosses advice and do your job.
>>17222227
im not, i always tried to do my best, do as much work as possible, and do it as quick as possible,i was always praised,and even the manager told me i could one day be the manager, if i keep it up, yet i was let go
I am not very attractive (5/10) so I don't get a lot of flirting or date requests from guys. I know given the odds, I could easily get a casual boyfriend if I took initiative, but not being single seems very weird to me. I have never been in a relationship before.
I get lonely sometimes, but for the most part I'm fine being single for now.
Should I pursue a relationship through actively playing the field, or just let it be? I feel like since I've never had a relationship, I don't know what I'm missing, but is that for the best?
Might be worth trying, to get some experience. If it isn't right for you, then you can just go back to not dating.
Don't think of it as "missing out." If you want to date, do it. If you don't, don't.
Just don't waste other people's time if your heart's not in it.
>Should I pursue a relationship through actively playing the field
end me pls
This may sound weird, but I(20m) never in my life had a crush of any sort. The thing is, because of that I never really had any motivation to get a gf\ hit on a girl. I'm not even bad looking or anything. This even goes so far, that in highschool there was a rumour that I was gay, cause I ignored some girls, that showed interest in me.
So /adv/ what should I do?
Maybe you just want to wait for the right girl, that is really for you, not just random bitch. If it's true i can say that this is pretty normal?
>>17222158
Just be patient nobody really cares about your reputation if we talk about love,they care about what you.
Btw ignore those people,trust me you wont regret it.
-Pic not related
>>17222187
They didnt say that to bully me or something, they honestly thought that I was gay lol, more in a accepting way.
Had brutal depressions combined with anger issues when I was younger. I drunk every night by myself just to blunt the feelings. It usually degenerated to self-mutilating and even stronger selfhate then when being sober. After some time I got myself into this circle when I just had to drink atleast a bottle of wine before sleep or I'd get crazy.
Edgy shit. I got to college and the depression and self hate got out of a way, atleast for most of the times. Got my shit together but the scars unfortunately didn't go away in the same way as the shit in my head.
It's shit, I'm afraid that someone will see this - it's pretty obvious where I get it. I was thinking about getting a tattoo over the scars, just black scars over the scars, how would it look? Any ideas for a cover up tattoo? Any other ideas what to do with this shit?
>>17222109
Tattoo it for sure faggot. Get anything, a Greek god. Maybe atlas holding the world, or Sisyphus pushing his rock up the hill. Bitches love that.
>>17222149
Nice b8, m8.
I always loved these, that would fit you almost perfectly I reckon.
So after being together for a year and a half and living together in a different country working both us us she broke up with me.Nobody cheated I just am too quiet and not good enough for her and while she tried it didnt worked out.She brome up with me a few days ago but we need to live together for 3 more months.Also she likes someone else now and tslks to him everyday and we fight and she tells me she will fuck him and wants to be with him.I cant move out cuz I need to save some money but it hurts and I have no one and O dont know what to do.She started talking to that guy after brrsking up with me.For the last months she has been getting over me slowly becoming more distant and I still suffer like an idiot
>>17222076
See if someone can take the lease. Ask her respectfully to be fucking cool for 3 months or maybe go to his place if they fuck.
You sound extremely insecure OP, and with lots of low self confidence. Try exercise
>>17222076
WOW nice job u fag now u gotta listen 2 some guy fuck your girl in the same house i pay rent for
Yes you can move out. And you must move out. If you don't you're just clinging to the ghost of the relationship. Get a roommate and move the fuck out.
Is it weird for a guy to prefer having a daughter over a son? Almost every time I see someone talking about specifically WANTING a daughter over a son they're almost always a fucking pedophile or something. Most of my guy friends ONLY want sons, but I find myself not necessarily ONLY wanting daughters, but I'd prefer having more daughters than sons. I feel females are much easier to raise. Pretty much just teach them to not be sluts and to not marry a shitskin and you're golden.
>>17221999
>I feel females are much easier to raise
Already failing
>Pretty much just teach them to not be sluts
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
> to not marry a shitskin
I'll give you that, most girls are not attracted to niggers or Arabs anyways even they themselves don't atract themselves not that they can compare themselves to Northern and Medeteranian Europeans
Yeah it's weird
I want to teach my son how to hunt and make him grow up to be Chad.
Don't be such a fagg OP
>>17221999
>Is it weird for a guy to prefer having a daughter over a son?
No.
Its also not weird for a mother to prefer a son to a daughter.
>>17222004
>Teach him to be like Chad
notsureifserious.jpg
At least, I hope you aren't.
>>17221999
Did you honestly feel the need to make a thread asking for advice over this? Stop worrying about whether you're weird or not you absolute pig disgrace. I hope your future son brings home a black boyfriend.
>be a failure at life
>finally give up trying to socialize tonight
>decide I'll become a NEET
>in my depression I decide I won't get out of bed to pee
>decide to piss in a bottle for the first time
>grab a Gatorade bottle nearby
>can't get dick into the hole
>start peeing anyways
>start peeing on everything
>whole room smells like piss now
>mfw I can't even be a successful NEET
How can I give up when I have nothing to give up?
>>17221983
>whole room smells like piss now
You're right on track at being a successful NEET
>>17221983
You could always give up your life
>>17221983
On your way! Try pooping in it next.
Actually like to workout and learn
But getting myself to do it is torture
Anyone else like this?
I think everyone is like this. You need positive reinforcement in order to keep going, which can be hard to get obtain if you're in a bad place in your life.
>>17221970
>I think everyone is like this
Cool to know.
>>17222007
>>17221970
Also
> You need positive reinforcement in order to keep going
Me, Myself and I
> which can be hard to get obtain if you're in a bad place in your life.
Meh
I need help. I don't think I get along with the 2 female coworkers in my department. They make me feel unwelcome enough to want to leave my department. I don't know what I did wrong, or if I did anything wrong in the first place, so I'm scared to apologize. Dottie's body language and tone of voice is difficult for me to read, but it can't be good. She avoids me all the time and never talks to me, even if we're in the same aisle or right next to each other. The only time she talks to me on her own is to tell me she's gonna take her breaks. Me however I am always stepping up to help her (I am helpful to everyone) but all I'm reading from her body language is disdain for me. Am very scared and idk what I did wrong to warrant her behavior. Especially when I am very generous and helpful to my coworkers. -- Don't feel I get along with the other lady, Susan, the slow and chatty one. She talks A LOT and when she does, it's extremely self centered. It's always about her. She doesn't give anyone a chance to interject. Doesn't give anyone a chance to talk about something other than her. Even if she's talking about work it's hard to get anything in edgewise.
What gender are you anon?
>>17221926
I am female. Age 24. The coworkers in question are both elderly ladies. Old people generally have trouble changing and are stone-set in their ways, so I cant expect them to change...
>>17221912
Sounds to me like your coworkers are kinda assholes. It happens sometimes. Try not to take it personally. If you have the opportunity to transfer to a different department it might be a good idea to take it.
My neighbor has brain cancer and will likely be dead within a few months. She is 68 and a very nice woman, her husband died a few years ago. I routinely help her run errands, carry groceries, walk her dog, and just talk with her because shes lonely. I've known her since I was a kid, and consider her a friend.
So I'll cut to the chase here... Last time I was over there she told me that she wanted to advance our relationship to a sexual one before she passed... I told her I'd think about it and she started crying, saying she felt like a worthless burden and rejected. I held her and hugged her while she sobbed into my chest. Anyway, I told her I loved her, and kissed her on the cheek before I left.
Shes not unattractive, theres just a 35 year age difference... So I have to make a decision here, should I slam her with some young cock or not?
Pic related isnt her, but kinda looks like her.
>have sex with old lady
>heart can't take it, she dies
>with your dick inside her
>but because she's old and cold anyways you don't notice
>you're fucking a corpse
>have to explain to cops why you were fucking a dead lady
>>17221883
If you're single and can get hard for her, throwing a dying woman a sympathy fuck isn't the worst thing you could do.
Most of the women I've had a relationship with who were that much older than me, the relationship ended up feeling vaguely maternal so I dunno that it's something I would feel comfortable with.
>24
>Just got fired from my job by the girl who I have been dating for 4 months
She is technically my boss, but she answers to another group of people, and they essentially axed my department. She was the one to tell me I was fired.
It got really awkward fast, and I just packed my shit and left. She showed up about a few hours after work, and knocked on my door, but I didn't answer, because I am essentially fucked without this job and was sorting of panicking. She left me this note:
>Hey, I'm really sorry it had to happen like that, and I know it really hurts to lose your job, but I hope me being the bearer of bad news doesn't hurt anything between us. Please call me when you can.
Before you say don't shit where you eat, the company actively encourages people that work together to date.
Anyways, what do I do now? I instantly lost interest in her, and I sort of feel bad because I know it wasn't her decision, and she tried her hardest to let me down easy, but shit, this is hard to look past. Should I tell her I'm just not feeling it after she fired me? On top of all this I could be homeless like lightning fast.
Why tyoe of job did you lose ? Why woulf it be so hard to just get another one in the same feild ?
>Before you say don't shit where you eat, the company actively encourages people that work together to date.
And if the company told you to jump of a bridge, you would do it as well?
>Anyways, what do I do now?
Find a new job, start tomorrow. See if your (former) gf can hook you up.
Like you said, it isn't her fault. But the heart does what the heart wants. If you ain't feeling it after this event, even though it isn't her fault, there is no point in continuing. As long as you don't hold a grudge.
>Should I tell her I'm just not feeling it after she fired me?
Yes. And go from there.
>>17221881
You cant really blame her, She was doing her job, put yourself in her shoes. What would you do if you had to fire her?
How do I fight my depression? I'm always distracting myself with hobbies, work, and reading but it keeps crawling back into my life. It always happens when I'm completely alone, ignored, or see all my friends having fun without me. I don't despise them or anything and I don't why this happens this since I've always been a loner/introvert with little to no friends.
>>17221921
Are you seeing a therapist? It's pretty hard to deal with depression on your own :(
>>17221929
No. I'm an american and poor so I'm screwed in that regard.
>>17221936
I'm sorry anon, not sure what to say. I guess you could try reading about effective changes you can make, for example increasing exercise or mindfulness?
