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How good does management experience look on a résumé? I just turned 18 and all the managers at the McDick's I work at want me to be one too. Is this a good idea or am I just digging myself a deeper hole?
The fact that they want an 18 year old to work as a manager says a lot about the position.
>>17221268
it couldnt hurt it, but down the road fast food positions dont mean shit on a resume unless youre going to another fast food place
Depends on where you want to go.
If you want to be a tech boy, then it doesn't mean much.
why do guys act like theyre doing a community service when they buy a girl lunch, but girls buy their whole friends group shit? i do that all the time.
Because guys feel entitled to sex because of it. Girls are just being nice.
>>17221219
>generalizing men
get off your high horse cunt
>>17221227
so u would buy a girl lunch and not expect anything back?
Anyone else ever feel like an intruder in your own life? In the lives of your friends? Like you don't really belong, and your mind is always reaching for some "elsewhere" that probably doesn't exist?
Sort of this constant discomfort? Like everything is..overwhelming or too much somehow. Even just sitting alone sometimes, and going out is like sensory overload.
Like being static in a chaotic world that moves just out of touch, a place outside of you that you'll never fully connect with. What do? I feel this way everyday.
I have the same problem man unfortunately i haven't found a solution yet
It's pretty despairing at times, sometimes i just don't know what to do and not doing anything also makes me feel uncomfortable so i just freeze for 4 hours feeling like shit
Been thinking of seeing a therapist this year so I hope that helps
>>17221277
OP here. Therapy is never a bad idea IMO. Sure they'll probably push normie shit on you but there's bound to be some actual useful advice too. Worth it if you have insurance or something for it, I'd go if i wasn't a poor Amerifag with no insurance.
I used to go to therapy when I was a kid, after my parents got divorced, but all they did was prescribe me meds for "my ADHD" and call it good.
>mfw i chuckle a little clicking the "i'm not a robot" button while feeling exceptionally robotic today.
>>17221298
Yeah, normie advices are the thing i'm most afraid of, I just can't understand how you "fix" a person
I can just imagine going in and saying that I have problems with my appeareance and how it has fucked up my confidence and the therapist just saying something like "Oh but we are all beautiful in our own special way, just bee urself" or some bullshit like that
It's weird as fuck, luckily I'm from Argentina so I can get it for free but for some reason I'm still scared or not looking forward to it
Sorry i can't help you out man so all i can tell you is to hang on for a while and see how it turns out, if you wanna talk i'm up for it if you need something else
am I in the wrong or is my friend?
ok so first of all she had plans with this guys shes been seeing and said she would wanna hang out if he bails. he did bail, so I said okay I can hang out at 730. she rushes me and says she wants to hang out earlier and kept like trying to tell me what to do it was rude.
anyway, the guy lives an hour away. he has blown her off for three weeks. clearly not interested... but he said he just couldn't see her because he has to take care of his grandparents, which is why he always blows her off. I was in a kinda good mood and she asked me if we could go hang out with him so I said ok. we planned to maybe grab a drink at a bar or something, but he says he cant.
so I eat and everything and we plan to get smoothies and go on a walk. I'm on a healthy diet and I ate enough for the day and I didn't wanna go out for drinks. so I pick her up, and we head in the way where he lives just because I kinda wanted to go to the smoothie place there. she tells me he can hang out and he wants to go to this fancy restaurant/bar or whatever. i dont want to go for two reasons. i already ate everything i wanted to and i was looking forward to getting a smoothie and going on a walk. i wasnt really into going to a bar/fancy restraunt so i can buy food i dont want to eat and drink 10 dollar beer that i dont even like that will make me fat. second reason which is more valid is that Its my first day of work at a new job tomorrow morning, and I wanted to leave there by 1030 I so I could get home by 12 because I also have to drive her ass around because she doesn't have a liscense. she isn't okay with this, and says she'd rather drop me off with him and she'll find a way home.
I told her she was so rude, dropped her off, and told her basically that I was done with our friendship.
am I being a bitch, or is she just fucked?
>>17221095
also, I was totally done with still seeing him, like I told her id be fine with just going for a quik walk down town or getting coffee, but I had to leave in an hour and I didn't want to go to a restaurant/bar (other times when ive had short time she convinced me to go out to eat and I was always late) because I have my first day of work in the morning, I don't want to pay money for food/drinks I don't even want to begin with. she would not be flexible about what we did. it had to be this fancy restaurant this guy wanted to go to.
>>17221109
down with still seeing him*******
If she calls and apologizes forgive her because she's a friend. If she is in the wrong she will forget about you until things don't work out with her new friend. In which case turn out to be right about her and don't take her back as a friend.
I'm in love with a girl who already has a boyfriend .
The problem is that I 've never seen her in person , although morarmos only 30 minutes of each other .
she's an amazing girl. Catholic , I follow her life and I'm sure she's the perfect girl for me . I am willing to have it with me , just tell me the next step..
>>17221084
Realize that you have an infatuation for a stranger.
Cut this shit out and go meet available women who are appropriate for a real relationship.
>>17221092
believe: she's amazing.
Whether it will last a month or a year, I just want to be with her, man. Believe me
HELPPPPPPPPP MEEEEEEEEEEE
Here's the story:
A couple months ago I was in dire need of some money (school loans were pressing), so I took a job doing something I had zero interest in. Initially I was depressed about having to work at such a place and didn't really try at it. I'd hate to say it, but I felt the job wasn't worth my time or effort and therefore I messed up a lot or perhaps even came off as a complete idiot. Now, I'm gotten an attitude adjustment (made some friends and changed my outlook) and now I realize how fucked I am. I've been slowly trying to get better, but sometimes things out of my control have legit happened (Machine randomly shuts down, etc). I feel like I've gotten a terrible reputation and I'm not sure what to do. Should I talk to my boss? Should I say nothing and just try and make up for my rough start?
Say nothing and just do the best you can. To be honest it's pretty hard to overcome your first impression, especially at work. Just be the best worker you can be and hope someone notices.
You haven't been fired so your good man. Just keep workin hard and it'll reflect well.
>>17221063
I'm not sure how well this'll work, I keep getting the feeling that my supervisor and boss think I'm a lost cause or someone incapable of working alone.
>>17221064
I'm pretty sure the reason I haven't been fired is because replacements are pretty hard to come by. It isn't exactly a place where people are lining up to apply for. Plus I hear from old co-workers that it's incredibly hard to get fired.
so here i am
>3 yr ex blah blah blah
this just happened
>saw me
>told me shes done with me
>time to tell the bf
>texted him and said
>"ask femanon whos dick she was riding on thursday"
>tells me hes gonna beat my ass
>now the ex is saying we havent fucked at all
what do
so shes trying to make him believe she hasnt done anything so i just texted him screenshots talking about us fucking. hes 17 so i cant send pics..
bumpp??
Gross
I have had this visual noise in my vision since I was a child. I have seen doctors, and most simply say its a non-issue.
Has anyone ever successfully gotten rid of visual snow in their eyes?
I have this too, and also tinnitus.
There is no treatment for these things presently.. they don't even understand what causes it for sure.
>>17221010
some of the causes are depression and stress, try to reduce that i guess
>>17220992
Had this sorta and tinitus, stopped when i slept better and had less stress.
Also anybody know what the bubbling sound in my ear is?
what's the best way to solve a fight with your bf or gf?
I believe my gf made a lot of drama over nothing,
Usually you talk about it and come to an understanding about what happened, isn't that solved enough?
Some people have different personalities and come with a load of weird emotional quirks and tricks, I avoid those people.
1. Be right
2. Ask her to drop it
3. ?
4. Be on your best behaviour, or either have sex or walk out the door
should i just let her burn?
How do I accept that I'm the ugliest one in my group of friends and I can't pick up shit. At parties, for example, I'm the one with no chick. I feel like shit.
I know the problem is to lose weight, but I can't for few weeks because I have my final exams and even the current exercises I do aren't making that much of a difference. While I'm losing weight, what can I do? I feel like shit being left out
>>17220941
You don't have it as bad as me anon, at least you can lose weight and be normal
I'm 5'4" so most girls are taller than me + they wear heels so I'm pretty much like a little kid around parties
>>17220941
You lose weight in the kitchen, not the gym. Stop making excuses for eating too much
>>17220941
make efforts to improve yourself. if you still arent happy after that, rinse and repeat until you are
I used photoshop skills and painted her hair red. And it seems it could look really nice on her.
What you think? Votes @ http://imgur.com/4l1IS81
>>17220940
>red
That's straight up orange. It matches her shirt
LOL XD
>>17220940
ayy it's my boy
you where asking for opinions on our profile pic or some bullshit a while back XddXd!!!
I think I'm going crazy, I believe everyone conspires against me. I hear people faintly talking and I hear my name and it feels like they're mocking me and I'm being manipulated. Every time I try to ease drop the subjects change.
I sometimes notice random coincidences and feel like it's all connected. Am I in the early stages of psychosis?
>>17220934
Doesn't sound like it just yet. Maybe you should sleep and go for a run and have a full breakfast and see if you feel better.
>>17220939
Hopefully it's just ridiculous paranoia, I sometimes feel like I'm in a less exciting Truman show.
>>17220943
Go get a massage. Slow your brain down.
Also are you female?
There's a small lump in my mouth on my lower right jawline. It's right at the connecting point between my inside-cheek and the gumline. There's no noticeable discoloration, but this location is my prime point for chewing tobacco. I've been chewing for the past half year.
Is this a reason for concern?
>>17220923
Yes. Chewing tobacco causes cancer. Run to get a biopsy.
>>17220931
I might just be looking for false hope but this lump doesn't have any coloration to it. I won't be able to get it looked at until Monday. I guess there's nothing I can do right?
Bump?
> Be away at uni finishing up my degree
> My Dad died end of 2014 (raised me single handedly)
> He had a girlfriend, but frankly it was only for company (said she would only marry him if he signed over the house to her - he told her to fuck off; still stayed together)
> she had access to the house whist i was away (said she'd keep it looked after etc)
> She loots the place
> Sold family heirlooms, his clothes, shoes, computer parts, ornaments and even some of my stuff on ebay (she said she "donated it" but i knew her ebay username and have a log of it all)
> She took all the medication he had, a whole suitcase full of tablets (tramadol etc) - all with his name on the prescription too
> When confronted her that i knew she sold stuff, she dropped back some of it (she's still listing stuff on ebay to this day of his) - asked her to donate the money she made off of it to charity - she didn't
> She even took my dog and wont return her ( i couldn't have her with me in my uni house during finishing my degree)
But tonight what's really set me off is that she had also taken his Dictaphone with all messages on there (I'm cant recall voices) - there's nothing of importance on there just that its him. I want to kill the cunt.
What do I do?
>>17220905
Go to the police?
Police...you should have already done this. After that sue her ass for all she's worth civilly.
There are some issues regarding contacting the police due to something my dad had left me
I feel like I can't talk to anyone close to me about this, so here we go.
I'm a very reserved girl, I've never been great about expressing my emotions. I definitely HAVE emotions. I love my family, have a few good friends. For some reason, though, it never shows. This isn't to say that I neglect the people close to me. I remember birthdays, give the occasional gift, call them etc. But for some reason, people think I don't care. I am not quick to smile or cry or be angry, and for that reason people think I'm a robot or something. It hurts my feelings a little bit when people say things that are sort of mean just because they think I can take it, because I'm outwardly unemotional and don't speak about my emotions often. Well, I'm not about to get all bent out of shape about it, but it does hurt my feelings sometimes.
5 months ago, I had a baby. naturally, it was one of the happiest days of my life and I love my baby more than anything. But everyone keeps asking me if I'm okay because I'm not happy smiling at the baby all the time, and now I'm worried I won't be a good mom. I don't want my current and future children to think that I don't love them like the rest of my family seems to. I definitely want to be the best mom that I can so I need to fix this somehow.
Can anyone relate? How do I become more open with my emotions? How do I change what seems to be a hardcoded aspect of my personality? I just don't know what to do.
Placid looks are fine, you should just say you're ok, just don't show emotions non-verbally. And end it off with a smile to deflect them.
you seem like a fine mom, BUT please smile a bit for baby. There was a study done with newborns, where the mother showed no emotions. This in turn caused saddness in the baby and in some cases the babies died. Babies and children don't understand complex emotions and learn a lot from socialcues and nonverbal language.
>>17220904
Thanks. I didn't know that about babies. She definitely doesn't seem sad, she smiles when I talk to her, which is super contagious and also causes me to smile/laugh. But I will definitely try to initiate the smiling more often.
Thank you again for the advice.
I will bump one time, then let the thread die.
