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I'm not great at reading these types of situations. I recently got the number of a coworker of mine from another coworker (if that makes sense). We've been texting non-stop about work, other people we work with, some stuff is borderline flirty but nothing overt. The weird thing about it is she keeps telling me "you should date _____" so far she's suggested 2 different girls that I should ask out or make a cute couple with. At the time I just assumed she was just acting motherly and trying to set me up, but then something weird happened....
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>>17218493
Could mean a couple different things buddy.
1. Wants to be friends
2. Doesn't want to go alone, and you'd be decent to take
3. She's hungering for a great slice of your dong and you need to make some fucking moves.
Honestly dude, it wouldn't hurt to go and become friends with the grill. If nothing happens, fine, but if shit does, hell ye niga. I'd recommend you make moves and see where that leaves you. Never know until you try.
>>17218504
Let's be real I'm a big guy and she's quite attractive.
So I'm thinking she just wants to be buddies. That would explain why she keeps trying to set me up with other girls. But when she went out of her way to ask several people in the middle of the night to cover me. That's weird, right?
>>17218527
Eh, not too weird. Friends, or people hoping to be friends, tend to try and help each other out. Especially if they both want to do a thing and one has an obstacle in the way.
Though in the middle of the night.. That's interesting. Could be that she reaaally wants a yoga buddy.
>C is my half-sister's half sister, so we're not related by blood
>is weirdly eager to hang out with me even though we only see each other at family functions
>get the impression her husband is a douche
>family dinner, she says I should come to her house to make cupcakes with Misty (her daughter)
>give one of those absent-minded, half-assed "yeah sure totally"
>texts me...
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I'm inclined to think she wants a good male figure around for her daughter if her husband's a douche.
It means she wants you to come to her house and make cupcakes with her daughter. Have fun raising a douchebags kid.
>>17218453
Thanks, this sounds about right. I'm the goody-two shoes in my family. C has literally been on America's Most Wanted and my half sister dropped out of high school when she got knocked up.
>>17218457
I wouldn't, but I do feel bad for C and Misty.
>Be male, 24 years old
>Have trouble growing up, bullied, unable to formulate relationships
>Raised by a single mother
>Drop out of university after being taken into police custody following a tip off by a student I was planning suicide
>Things get worse, relationship with my mother deteriorates to a point where I cannot stand even simple conversations with her
>Had some savings inherited...
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>The only reason I have maintained being around her is because it is a free room until I leave for school in a few months time
>Have savings to cover my ass for the time being plus can always find temp work
>Feel completely okay with the idea of never seeing her again
So, I am torn. Abandoning your parent as a reality is a pretty extreme thing to do, but I have never once felt any kind of love from her. At times she even jokes that "if I don't like her opinion, I...
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>>17218424
I was going to tell you to DeFOO already but you seemed to have reached the conclusion yourself.
Now try being in a similar situation but also being broke and having her and her cuckoo actively prevent you from ever getting employed.
>>17218424
Sounds justified. Single mothers tend to be pretty toxic, I know your pain.
I've got the most important exams of my life in 2 days
I've been studying "hard" for the past week (3-4 hours a day, while 6 hours just staring at notes), but now I just feel demotivated.
I fapped twice yesterday for the first time in a week if that's the reason. Eaten a lot of junk too. I keep telling myself that this break is necessary for the memory absorption of my work
Am I being delusional or is it right to act like this?
I mean. I feel confident for my exams, even though when I do past papers and examples I convince myself I don't want to waste any potential mental energy that could be used for my exams.
I feel confident in a "get it out the way" kind of way, not a passionate, determined optimistic way, but at the same time convinced that I'll do well based on the fact that I've worked for long hours.
I haven't been getting the best quality sleep either, and have quite a disruptive family.
I keep on ruminating on these past days as well, thinking it'll improve my memory of these exams.
I really don't know what's wrong with me? Maybe I'm depressed and afraid of crashing during the exam? I don't know. Help anybody?
Anxiety, I imagine. You know how much these tests mean to your future and you're afraid you'll underperform. The best thing you can do is assure yourself that you can ace this test. I think I can I think I can etc.
Friend I like and I had a fight. Blocked me on FB. She flew somewhere to review for her licensure exam and won't be back for 4 months. We didn't make up before she went away.
So basically, no contact with her for 4 months.
Is there any hope?
Well what was the fight about first.
>>17218356
If she is acting so childish then she didn't deserve you in the first place!
>>17218356
Red flag she's a psycho and you need to get out more
I went out to a concert and this really ugly girl kept harassing me. Like she kept calling me a meme for some reason, and repeating every word I said. Then she started squeezing my ass. What the fuck am I supposed to do in a situation like that?
pretty sure this didnt happen
>>17218355
Literally did though. I've never dealt with someone so basic & autisitc and I asked her multiple times to stop.
What the fuck hahahaah
Is it actually possible to make money online?
I got laid off earlier in the year and have so far had no luck finding a new job. Bills are piling up and I'm looking to make some income online, even if it's just a few dollars a day. Unfortunately, I don't even know where to start. I have experience working as a technical writer, but some cursory research tells me to stay the hell away from bid-to-work sites like Elance. I keep hearing about sites that pay people to take surveys, but some of them look pretty sketchy.
Not looking to get rich here, obviously,...
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>>17218353
Sure, Nigerian prince style. Or with a very original business idea...
They're always looking for people in the skilled trades, if you are manly enough
>>17218376
>Or with a very original business idea...
Assuming you have the resources to launch it.
Bumping this cause Im in a similar situation.
I was an oxy addict for 4 years, I'm now 9 months without taking any drug but every dream I've had since going clean has either been me looking for oxy or me eating oxy, I wake up everyday with it on my mind. Have any other recovering addicts been through this and when will it stop? It's extremely demoralising for me.
I don't have any experience but I hope you keep up your sobriety and find effective ways of coping with your thoughts and dreams about oxy.
I have found that accepting the feelings is a great way to work through difficult thoughts or feelings. Just breathing a bit, and letting myself feel uncomfortable has worked really well. It can take a long time if the subject is sensitive but being able to have difficult thoughts without them being crippling is a good skill to have.
All the best.
>>17218346
I have never been addicted to narcotics but I've had my issues with alcohol, and in the weeks that followed my quitting drinking I would also have crazy dreams but they were all about the anger + fear that underlies my mentality, and also which made me drink.
I think in this same regard your brain is suffering and it knows 100% that the end to it can only be drugs; however when you get up and feel demoralized from having this dream I think that is your subconscious feeling like you have failed - which...
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I drink quite a bit more than the average person, and sometimes I have dreams where I realistically get drunk in them. It's pretty bizarre, the brain seems to be able to reinact the sensation almost perfectly.
I'm always scared that my partner will leave me, I always feel like I'm on a knife edge and I have to try my best to keep their attention by being entertaining/interesting/sexually attractive/worth their time
At some point they'll be bored of me and they'll leave me, which would break my heart as there's no one else in the world like them
How do I deal with it?
I guess it's insecurity and i feel that too towards anyone.
Normal people would feel this instead as 'I want to push myself to be my best person, for this person' , but, since you have zero self esteem, you've turned it into 'I'm not good enough woe is misery'. So you need to learn to be ok with yourself as you are.
>>17218344
>I have to try my best to keep their attention by being entertaining/interesting/sexually attractive/worth their time
This is actually true of all relationships, it's just that most never know it.
>At some point they'll be bored of me and they'll leave me
You don't know that. At any rate, we can work on it.
>there's no one else in the world like them
Totally untrue....
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I've been studying in Moscow for the past few months, but classes ended and I'm leaving in a few days. My family came today to hang out, then we're heading to Finland for a week, then back to the US. Anyway, I've started moving out of the dorm (since I'm staying at a hotel now that classes have ended), and I'm just getting super depressed. I don't even know exactly what it is, but I was excited about seeing my family for weeks, and now that they're here I just feel uncomfortable. This is the weirdest transition I've ever gone through, including leaving for college the first time, and I haven't even gotten back to the US yet.
So, basically, what can I do to make it less shitty?
Are you anxious about everything?
Agree with >>17218309
Sounds like you're anxious about something. You're feeling unfulfilled that you don't want to go back yet.
How the fuck are you paying for all this? Holy shit.
I've been with the same girl for almost 8 years now and she's also my first, which adds to my problem as I've got no one else to compare to. I'm having a hard time enjoying sex with her because most of the time it's like I feel nothing at all by penetrating her and only in some specific positions I can feel the friction for really short amounts of time. I have stopped watching porn and focused on avoiding the infamous deathgrip at all costs. Also I don't suffer from a micropenis and we narrowed it down to her having a high production of natural...
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Anal
yeah anal
make her feel bad about her shitty vagina and that she owes you some butt action
Are you using a condom? If so lose it
Is it possible to have the mind of a cheater but never cheat?
I mean, fucking anything's possible. But why would you?
Lots of people have the mind of a killer but, a minority of them actually kill.
Its not impossible if you have the will power.
>>17218252
Most normal people are capable of cheating.
Those that aren't: compulsives, dependents, some schizoids (the ones who have it as a negative in their moral code, such as myself), and maybe a couple others that i'm forgetting. Probably the paranoids and maybe the rest of cluster A too, since they have extreme trust issues and will not trust anyone enough to cheat with them until an extreme amount of familiarization (more than with the primary partner).
Basically, most sane people can cheat, just...
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