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I told the boy I like that I liked him and all he said was okay
Okay
O.K.
Alright
I've been dating this girl for 3 years. She's my personal 10/10, and I love everything about her. We're both mid 20s, college graduates and starting promising careers in IT. We have a lot of stuff in common, and we both have a great relationship with each others families.
The problem is she apparently has a medical condition where sex is incredibly painful for her, and in addition she has zero libido. In the entire relationship, we've had sex less than 10 times and every single time it was awful and she starts crying and has to stop because its so...
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If i was you i wouldnt care, but my libido is empty so whatever. Just do what you think is the right choice, if you love her then show her by overcoming this obstacle. Dont listen to beta fucks telling you how sex is literally the only thing that you need.
Pic related, dont be the spongebob
she probably has vaginismus
get it treated
dont live like a monk it's awful
>>17215882
you arent a jerk for wanting to have sex.
imagine if someone called you a jerk cuz you wanted three meals a day. imagine if someone called you a jerk for wanting a bathroom break at work. imagine if someone called you a jerk cuz you wanted to average 8 hours of sleep a night. imagine if someone called you a jerk cuz you didnt want the apartment with a giant fucking hole in the ceiling where rain and bugs and shit got in.
the whole point of relationsihps is that you get to have sex. otherwise you...
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I'm 18 I'm in high school, going to be a senior next year. I've had to take low level classes because I have get migraines that keep me out of school, 120 days absent freshman year, 80 soph, and only around 40 this year. as a senior I am taking lower level classes as well just in case. I'm pretty alright with computers, friends and family come to me when they need help. my plan is community college to get autism classes out first 2 years then Rutgers for cs next two. what should I be doing to prepare myself for that, and also is this a good plan? I'm...
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That sounds like the best course of action OP. If you're dead set on CS, there's a lot of materials online that will help you get a understanding before you take college courses. If you're interested, check out the /g/ sticky. I assume you've looked into medical treatment for your migraines?
>>17215946
if you are still there yes, we went the holistic route and I am doing much better then shoving meds down my throat as you can see by the decrease in absences
>>17217030
Did you actually try the medicine or are you just bashing it because you're a hippie?
Hey! If you suspect someone is testing you by not messaging you or replying, what's the correct response? Do you message them and fall into the trap to keep them sweet, or do you just say fuck that game and wait for them to inevitably come to you?
Model is Leah Dizon in case you were wondering
>>17215426
I wouldn't really give a shit about someone if I suspected they were the type to play games like that.
if someone is not messaging you stop messaging them
i'm playing this game with an ex right now, basically if you want to maintain a position of power it's imperative to be patient and wait for them to break the silence
>5" penis, 5" girth
>erectile dysfunction
>clinical premature ejaculation
>refractory period of hours
>honestly don't like giving oral
Anyways, I may have sex this weekend, and I have two options:
>take an antidepressant that delays ejaculation but may not help, or even worsen, erectile problems
>have also never tried said antidepressant...
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If you know her well enough buy her a sex toy.
>>17214433
We've never had sex, so I cannot buy her one just yet.
>>17214438
You can finger her then. Look up techniques for that. It can be very effective.
Or if she already has a sex toy use that.
I've just started having sex with my bf, I tried giving him a blowjob, but he didn't cum or enjoy it. I want to improve my bj skills.
How to give the perfect blowjob?
Virgins need not post. The more cumdrinking slut you are the more respect to you. All my love goes out to sluts. Please post your experiences.
I suck my own dick and have came from it, can I throw in my two cents? Make sure your mouth is hydrated (no one wants sand paper giving them a blowjob), where the base meets the head is a very sensitive area and feels good when licked and focused on.
He'll potentially never cum from a blowjob alone and it's not your fault or a reflection of how good it is.
>>17213700
are you a girl? If you are a guy you already know what you should do
New thread for the sister thing, image is a random one sorry
Old stuff: >>17208077
Is my sister trying to fuck with me?
We're both women the difference being Im 20 and shes 16, usually we sleep in separate rooms but this week my aunt and some of her kids are staying here so my sister is sleeping in my room as theyve taken up hers
For the past three nights she seems to have taken the habit of masturbating furiously right next to me in bed like half an hour after we go to "sleep.'...
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Are you guys from the previous thread here?
>>17213252
I'm here. Cooling down but still very much interested in this whole thing.
>>17213252
Here
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Going to a music festival for a few days soon, can i pull off the bandana? Im usually pretty shy and not good with girls but i think the amount of drugs, music, alcohol, and sleep deprivation will change me.
Should i get a better bandana, do molly, and talk to festival girls?
>>17212206
Doesn't look too bad, but with full hair like that I wouldn't hide it if I was your stylist or your mother.
anyone else has anything to say about >>17212172
Do all girls care about penis size?
>>17209913
Sorta, if you're like 6" and above you'll do fine. 5" is doable.. but you'll really need to know how to use it.
Additionally girth, around 5" girth and you should be fine, less and you'll have problems
>>17209913
Some girls are low on the spectrum. They're glad to have any guy with any sized dick want to fuck them.
>>17209926
I'm like 4 inches and I know my girth isn't great as well. I mean my dad managed and so does my brother but I don't know if we share the same size or whatever I'd guess we would be around the same sort of sizes though.
Welcome to the NEET rehab thread
Looking for a job? Education? Training? You have come to the right thread
Invited: Helpful non-NEETs, NEETs
Not invited: blogposters, Truckerfag (filter him), shitposters
Some resources:
>http://pastebin.com/ygPwDUk4
What do you guys plan on accomplishing this week? What have you accomplished so far in the past seven days?
Does anyone know how many applications it takes to get an entry level job?
>>17205568
All of them. Literally all of them.
Then you have to physically manifest in either the store or a fucking group interview and HOPE TO CHRIST that you don't fuck up too badly and expect either hiring or another interview (that can hopefully lead to hiring).
Neither of these things happened to me. Only 4 one-shot interviews happened and nothing came of them.
>>17205568
What sort of stuff have you been applying to? When I was first starting out I checked Craigslist twice daily and sent my resume to anything that I was qualified for, mostly just dishwasher and retail jobs. I noticed that there were a lot of listings for security guard jobs, so I got a license and then applied at the security agencies Securitas and us security. Had a job with both by the end of the week.
Moments ago my mother chewed my ass out for trying to talk to her about some comics after we discussed politics. She said comics, movies, and videogames were rotting my brain, making me unsuccessful, and that I need to talk about stuff normal people do.
I asked what that is because just moments ago I told her about politics about why Muhammed Ali is famous, and all she did was just leave.
So /adv/ what do normal people talk about?
Don't fucking change yourself for other people. You're not normal, im not normal, nobody is normal.
Tell your mom to get fucked. She's the one with the problem not you. If you don't share interests with someone, that's fine, but trying to make someone feel bad for enjoying something you don't is bullying, and not even in the 2016 everyone is triggered way. Legitimate, bullying. Fuck her mayne. I don't like comics, anime, or vidya, but if that's what you enjoy, so be it.
I like to be an ass and bring up a subject my mother has in interest in. I'm generally knowledgeable in a lot of subject, and I can infer well. All I end up doing is baiting my mom and rationalize an argument to the point that she's just wrong.
That's me and my problem. I wouldn't suggest that, but maybe make more intelligent conversations? Tie it in with comics, I was amazed with Civil War for a long time, and liked the idea of tensions between being a registered hero or not. Watchmen is a good one too, to discuss how society stabilizes itself against...
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Let me tell you a story, /adv/. I'm an incoming sophomore at a small University. The first day of school I met a really really cool girl. We hit it off immediately and became instant friends. At the end of the semester, I told her I had feelings for her. She said she only saw us as friends. I was like, "aight". And we stayed friends.
The end of the second semester came around, and both of us were still single. Stupidly, after we had both gone home for the summer, I texted her, again confessing my feelings. Once again, she said she still only considers...
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>being a girl's emotional tampon
>2016
bruh...has /r9k/ taught you nothing?
She just wants to be your friend. She's told you multiple times she's not interested. She wanted male attention from you, and she got it. She doesn't want anything more than what she took. I would move on from her.
cuddling? dude, sorry to break it to you, but this isn't some next level 007 into her panties shit.
girls cuddle. all the time. with their friends. of either sex.
did she touch your penis? did she rub your leg? no? wow big surprise.
she doesnt want you. get the fuck over it.
Why do I feel that most people are assholes in general? I feel a rhetorical barrier with most people I meet and it really is uncomfortable trying to be myself around them in fear of being criticized like I am walking on eggshells and shit.
My mother brought in a family member to live with us and this exact relationship with them is very shitty thing I'm talking about and I can't become comfortable around them. My mother is trying to force us to be close relatives because she does not want the family to fall apart, but he literally does not give two shits about me.
I don't want to suck up to an asshole to impress my mother. I really don't get along with most relatives because they come off with the same vibe.
Is there any way to get over this without being that guy that hangs with a group of people just to say he has friends, but in reality is being made an ass of by the same group of people? I've been down that road years ago and don't want to visit it again.
Most people are assholes in general. Get a job and move out of your moms place.
If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.
I hope this helped
Grow up and learn to be alone faggot. Welcome to the real world.
Should I go to a psychiatrist or just keep toughing it out? Is it worth the price?
I've been having suicidal thoughts on and off and it feels like they're getting more severe. Written notes, found out how to buy a gun and what caliber I'd need, etc.
But I'm worried that nothing will really come of seeing a doctor and it will just make it more likely.
Sorry this is probably a stupid question but I'm probably not the most stable person right now.
>>17217790
Well, just so you know if you go to the doctor and tell him you have suicidal thoughts, you'll have to go to the hospital for a little bit until you don't have those thoughts anymore.
>>17217799
In america? fuckin shit maybe I wont go then
>>17217790
I would go to the psychiatrist if i were you.
>>17217799
is misinformed. as long as you tell them that you're having suicidal thoughts but leave out that you "have a plan" they won't put you in a hospital. I know this because i've been down that road.
OP, if you're still here: if you don't want to go to the psychiatrist, i understand. it's intimidating. it's scary to admit that there's something so fundamentally "wrong" with you.
but for most people, it will help. and everyone can overcome suicidal thoughts if they put their minds to it.
I tried psychiatrists. they personally never worked for me. that's not to say that they won't work for you. i was always just too stubborn to have someone tell me how i "should think".
what worked for me was this: i did a lot of research on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and the Greek philosophy called "Stoicism". Basically, these schools of thought teach you that your emotions are nothing more than your body's natural reaction to your thoughts. If you think sad thoughts, you'll be depressed. if you think optimistic thoughts, you'll be happier. I know that depression seems insurmountable, but the truth is that YOU. and ONLY YOU can make yourself not depressed. You have the power to do it
Once you accept the theory that our thoughts control our emotions, it becomes easy mode to beat depression. You know why? we control our thoughts. So if you are thinking something depressing...stop. Think of something else. anything else. Literally. What you're eating for dinner tonight, How awesome it'd be to fuck that chick in accounting, How to beat that Candy Crush level you've been stuck on. Literally anything as long as it's positive or productive. I swear to god it'll help you.
I'll keep you in my thoughts tonight OP. If you want more correspondence, i can make a throwaway email so we can keep in touch.
TL;DR you should go to a shrink, but if you don't want to, look up CBT and Stoicism.
How do I stop sounding like a faggot and shit?
>>17217628
Stop sucking cocks and you'll notice a change within one to two weeks.
>>17217628
You mean literally sounding like a homosexual or just generally being a faggot?
>>17217674
My voice is kind of feminine. I don't sound like a literal fag but it's not very manly.
