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How do you do this for multiple essays? Would the info not start getting jumbled up since you're using the same house/palace over and over?
The theory is that you can keep adding rooms. The architecture doesn't even need to be logical. You can imagine a door that leads to a gigantic room that wouldn't fit in a tiny space. It doesn't matter at all.
>>17215007
I was thinking of just using my house for some topic and then using my local area for others. A landmark for each essay. That's proper practice of Loci apparently.
>>17215005
Why do you need to memorize essays?
Also, do you take any nootropics for this?
How can you reassure a girl that this time things will be different? That you have changed your mind on certain aspects of your relationship, of her and of yourself? How can you show her that this time things will work out?
I really feel this, to the core of my bones, that things are very clear for me now and that things can work. I would never try to get close again to a person I know I caused pain if I did not feel love for her
>I would never try to get close again to a person I know I caused pain if I did not feel love for her
That is not correct thinking. People can feel love and harm someone. It's sad but true. It happens all the time. It's not because you love her that you've changed. If it's the argument convincing yourself that everything will be fine then you aren't ready.
You can't.
I beleive you've changed man. I'm in your shoes, and I feel you.
She's the one who decides whether or not to take you back though. Ultimately she won't know immediately either. She has to choose to take a chance with you.
I hope your girl is more forgiving than mine.
Good luck man.
>>17214979
how long has it been - 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years.
If it's anything less than years, you haven't changed, you're just trying to get her to fool herself along with you.
How do I be come more attractive to men? I'm gay but don't currently dress stereotypical gay, the gayest thing I have are thongs but that's more for me than other people. Are guys looking for guys who display confidence, or should I be dressing a certain way? I want someone who doesn't "act" gay and would otherwise be seen as straight. Maybe I'm asking too much, thanks
It's hard to give a definite answer. There's the obvious advice that you should try to be a decent human being but it applies to every relationship and every gender. For your specific case there's no telling what will be the preference of the person you like. You could find someone who matches your preference of not acting gay only to discover that this person does, in fact, feel attraction toward stereotypical gay traits. Perhaps /lgbt/ can answer your question better about the statistical preference of the gay community.
>>17214894
Tighter clothing?
>>17214934
is that something that guys actually look for? I mean I don't see how it makes you look better, if anything i think it makes you look silly
I am Colombian-American. A close non-Colombian male online friend of mine said how he saw a webpage article titled "how dating a Colombian girl allows you to learn about a new cultre". Is he into me?
Ask him if he is into you. Don't be a mind reader.
>>17214874
I asked him if he likes any girls at the moment and he said none
>>17214866
A long time ago, a male friend said "I think you'll be an amazing girlfriend. I mean it's not that I think of you as my girlfriend but that was what I actually think of my "perfect girl" based on my hobbies at the moment. I'm sure perfect girls can be different and my image of what a perfect girl is like will probably change over time."
He was talking about what his perfect girlfriend was like (listing how she should share his hobbies) and I said I don't fit in the...
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Also to any atheists, I don't give a shit what you have to say so don't waste your time.
I am 24, almost 25 and in this time i have dealt with all kinds of mental and physical struggles. During and in-between times of serious problems, i have been growing more and more skeptical of Gods involvement in my life.
Even when i do get what i prayed for, I get it in such an exhausted lame way that I don't even think God had anything to do with it. I just look at other people/medications to be the real helpers in both physical and mental hardships that I have had.
I have watched heaps of miracle videos of people suddenly being healed from major untreatable problems after it was prayed for and i have seen other videos explaining just how complicated, intelligent and perfect the earth and our own bodies have to be to keep us alive a second longer.
I do know a genius creator has to behind all of this instead of it being a stupid chance all coming from the le big bang theory.
I believe that God is real now, at least a lot more than i used to, but im still full skepticism when it comes to how connected him and I are. I doubt i was ever baptized as a baby and this holy spirit and how that all works confuses me too. I don't truely know whether I'm doing anything correctly so that he and I are able to connect.
What would really help me right now is if someone understands how im feeling and were able to feel more connected with God and end all skepticism they had about whether he was really beside them or not.
(Sorry for all the spelling, grammar errors)
I stopped believing after "risking" myself and my family by seeing what happens if I stop praying for our health. I was very scared that God will be upset with me and serve me punishment. Years afterwards, everyone is healthy and stable as much as it has always been. I never prayed again, and my belief has diminished to 0 on the faith scale.
You realized something, that perhaps what you say and want don't align with reality, and don't delude yourself into thinking you got by some degree everything you wished for - you most probably ignore what you prayed for and didn't get. Perhaps what you get IS by mere chance. and what everyone else around you gets by mere chance. Are starving african children less worthy than a prayer in the US? Don't oppressed and abused muslim women pray for God as well? Think about it. Perhaps a little more belief in yourself and thankfulness is worth more than trying to connect with mere chance.
From what I understand you hold a strong belief in an intelligent creator but you don't hold a strong belief in abrahamic religion. Perhaps you could clear away your confusion by separating these two concepts. They are not necessarily related. You can believe in an intelligent creator without having any strong feeling toward Baptism or the Bible or the Holy Spirit.
belief in god is more of a cultural thing than anything; god is only real if you have been brought up to believe he's real
Probably get this question a lot but how does one get over social anxiety? Such as starting conversations and so on.
You will probably get this answer a lot, but you have to go one step at the time. There is no way to improve without stepping outside of your comfort zone a little bit. For example you can try to challenge yourself to try to start one conversation every day. Positive reinforcement is also very good. For example you can decide to eat your favorite snack food as a reward everytime you achieve your one conversation per day.
>>17214846
Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with; that way you won't be unsure whether you fucked up or not, be polite, be friendly, Hell! Make it obvious you're uneasy, people will generally adapt to make you feel more comfortable.
Do you smoke weed? Maybe give it a break.
Self-sufficience is a good route as well, it can provide a comfort zone and give a confidence boost.
Apathy is another route, ie. Give up worrying about other people. I know sometimes it felt like too many people's unspoken feelings and thoughts were buzzing in my head, "did they mean something else", "should I not of done that?", "What if they want something from me?". Fuck it! Who cares lol, they'll live, you aren't actually hurting them physically are you? Are you stopping them from doing something? Fuck No! You're a friendly person! You literally, probably wouldn't do that!
And sometimes you might just need a safe, quiet place to ask yourself a few questions. I talk to myself all the time, used to do it a lot more. Why? I trust me. It can help sort out some of the things you're a little unsure about and you never have to worry about the implications of opening up. Just try to make sure no one can hear you lol, and if they do, just tell them you were muttering or something, or just talking to anyone who was listening or just exclaiming. Also, you don't have to answer yourself with words. The answers should be in your own brain already, you just have to listen.
>>17214846
Oh, didn't read the question properly
Ask people questions and let them talk. Throw in your opinion and try to let the conversation flow.
The hardest part is going to be topics, thats is: Starting the conversation. An easy one is probably "Anything you like to talk about?" Or make a comment or question about what someone else is doing or mention something you saw or did recently, even if it seems menial or unimportant at the time. Once you open up, the sooner they open up and once they...
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Previous thread got archived by accident, kind of felt bad considering whoever I was talking to never got a chance to reply. So anon, hopefully you see this and if you had something more to add, I'll be here. I'll use the same image as last time.
>>17208757
Hey dude, I'm guessing you're referring to me. I replied, but perhaps you mean someone else. I'm the anon who wrote that I appreciated the thread and could relate to the alienation aspect.
>>17214996
Yeah that's you, I saw your larger post and wrote another one back. Didn't know if you got a chance to read it/say something before the thread died.
>>17214808
>>17214996
Ah, found your reply. Thanks for that.
Your words are pretty much the same advice as I would've given any swinging dick. I know all this, and I'm not really miserable, to tell the truth. The thing is, I'm too familiar and content with being in stagnation. It's been going on for so long, it's become almost a defining characteristic.
It's like I'm waiting for everything to hit the fan, before I begin to really build my life up again, but it never does. The fan doesn't exist. Perhaps I just got some weird guilt from being born in one of the most prosperous nations on Earth, and i know that no matter how much dept I get into, I won't get locked away. I've gotten apathetic about my whole situation, like there's nothing to fight for. At the same time I know there is, precisely because of what you were writing in the previous thread. It's my time on Earth. It's the choice not to look back forty years from now with regret.
The funny thing is that I've been preoccupied with 'positive thinking' for many years, but instead of reaching for greatness, I'm comfortably numb with sitting in acceptance, and I don't neccesarily see anything wrong with it, and I often describe it as being Zen. Reaching for greatness is another way of saying 'wanting more', which I think is rooted in a capitalist delusion. I really just want to make art and be left alone, and I fucking hate that money is a thing, even though I know it can be a powerful tool. I guess I'm just conflicted about making money from my art, and just haven't realised it yet, since I've been selling my paintings for 13 some years. Creating works of art that people liked was always too easy for me, and I was uncomfortable with praise.
Pic related, it's the type of painting I used to make 9 years ago, when I still wanted people to want to buy my shit
How do I, the whitest motherfucker on the planet, go about being curious to date a black girl, without fucking it up?
Man the fuck up.
No, seriously m8. It depends on the girl. The stereotype is that they love a strong man that don't take shit and doesn't get upset at banter. So you can either run with that or whatever else your gut is telling you.
>>17214791
How the fuck does it differ?
Cut out that racist thinking
>>17214791
I suggest smearing yourself in charcoal, dys-learning English, and wearing your pants below your boxers in order to embrace your new identity.
What are some good signs that your fuck buddy is catching feelings for you?
Being human
>>17214733
Elaborate
>>17214730
>17214589
hmmmmmmmmmm
I've only ever been able to develop unrequited crushes on people, I want to have a relationship with someone I have an emotional connection with but all the people I go on dates with I can't seem to develop feelings for
Female/24 btw
Advice?
Keep searching.
But seriously, what drew you in to the unrequited love?
Is there major differences between others you have been on dates with?
Wait so you can't feel shit for people or what?
>>17214712
I just said I've only had feelings for people who didn't want to date me
Hi /adv/ Femanon here
My bf and I enjoy having a lot of sex, he gets so turned on whenever he sees that my vagina gets creamy.
Sometimes it gets and sometimes not.
We don't know why.
What should we do to make it creamy more often?
Get aroused more. Mine's get cent when I'm really horny.
>>17214662
Creamy, not cent
Bad auto correct.
yuck! thats gross! its probably other guys semen!
I've often been described as a cold and emotionless person, by both men and women.
Yet I'm still pretty likable.
I get invited to things, people come up and talk to me, like being around me, but describe me as above.
>"You're pretty un-movable in a way that nothing shakes or bothers you." - Friend
>"At least I'm not an emotionless sociopath like you." -Another friend when I said that he's too emotionally invested in any girl that takes interested in him, then...
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>>17214581
>"He's the pure embodiment of indifference" - Friend describing me to roommate (Roommate was asking if some of her behaviors would bother me)
there it is.
control your space and make it what you want. fuck anything or anyone that enters it and doesn't respect it. if you truly have no preferences for how people treat your space I could interpret that as a lack of solid personality, or an acceptance of whatever people do to you. that make sense. it's...
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>>17214581
I wouldn't worry about it too much. You yourself said you get unfazed when you're insulted. I would say they're just being nosy ass people looking for a meaning in something that isn't there.
As i said before, You know yourself the best, don't let peoples half-baked opinion tell you otherwise. Life can't be summed in banter. You seem like the analytical type too, do you notice any weakness?
nah, you're ok as you are. you are already doing good with everyday social interactions, so there's nothing to worry there
just use your time to pursue things and people that are interesting to you. then you'll be tangle in events that are relevant to you and you'll stop worrying about this
Hey /adv/,
So I just got off a relationship with a girl a month ago. It was serious, but I'm already over it. However, recently a discrete "bi" kid offered to sleep with me (I'd top), I told him I'd do it but I'm having second thoughts. I thought I was bicurious, I fap to gay porn sometimes, but I can't tell if I'm nervous or if I really don't want to do it. What should I do?
>>17214546
once you go bi
you regret it till u die
think about that
>>17214546
If you have any sliver of doubt, don't do it. I don't think you should push yourself to do something new, especially if it's as personal as sex and you're nervous about it.
At least wait until the desire outweighs the fear/uncertainty. You homosexual
>>17214568
Why is that?
Everytime someone states his interests even a bit, I feel like being rude, distant and cold towards that person. Naturally I try not to, but can't shake the feeling that I wanna avoid that person from that on.
It's always like this, and I'd like to be a nice and polite person,but I just don't feel good around someone I know fancies me in a romantic way. This is especially since I'm an adult already, people in my age states their feelings more or less openly and I'm way pass the "just holding hands" phase. However any kind of physical...
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Dude you sound just like me. I avoid people who are interested in me, and I freak out when someone asks me out for a date, even when it's just something super casual like having a coffee etc. I don't have a problem with hanging out with guys as bros (I'm a femanon), and when I become friends with a guy I usually try to make clear from the beginning that I'm not interested in any romantic or sexual form of relationship, because I know how I start to act when I realize someone's into me and I don’t want to hurt people.
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>>17214544
See a therapist. You have some sort of issue with intimacy that's obviously scaring you. Reacting so viscerally to the idea that someone is interested in you romantically is extremely unhealthy.
>>17214773
>have good male friend
>we plan on doing some road trip to france with other mutual friend this summer after university exams(we're eurofags)
>anonina drops a few hints that he is into me
>ohfuck.jpg
>"hey…uhmmm… I can't go to france with you, I have to stay at my parents place in anontown babysitting the cat while they're at vacation, and...
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Hey,
So only after i pooped and was wiping, there was some bright red blood appearing.
I do usually take a lot of time wiping, my conceirn is that i am trying too hard to be clean.
this has happened to me 2 or 3 times in a time span of a year now, i do not believe it is hemorrhoids but could it be?
I get it sometimes too. If its bright red, I wouldn't worry about it. Rectal skin is probably irritated and you might indeed be wiping hard, but I understand the desire of complete cleanliness.
If it's "dark" red, or if the bright blood persists for 2 weeks going on 3, go to a doctor and tell him you get blood from your stools
>>17214557
Drink more water or have a change in diet/nutrition to fix the irritation of your inner skin membrane
>>17214557
Alright anon, thanks.
I will buy softer toilet paper maybe that helps.
