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I'm in a weird and most certainly peculiar situation and I have no clue what to do
My friend is regularly beaten by her father, and last night she got fucked up pretty badly as he both beat her and pulled a knife on her this time, even "accidentally" cut her, afterwards he threw her out the house
I would without a doubt take her in since I'm 18 and the people I live with would understand but she's 1.5 years younger and lives in Turkey where all of her family in unison agree that her dad fucking her up is OK because "he's the man of the house"
What could I possibly do besides just talking to her which I already do? I don't wanna lose a friend here, either her dad is gonna kill her eventually or she'll kill herself if things continue like this
Remove the dad from the equation
>>17212328
Sounds like you already have a plan.
Take her in. See if the dad comes after her. You might have to confront him. Hope your ready for a fight. If not, call cops and cower under your bed.
you can notify the Police from abroad
like honestly i get so fkin depressed when i try to talk to complete dipshits, which seems to be a rapidly growing number of people FeelsBadMan. but the point is that i need to be cheered up
>>17212256
Because you dont realize you are part of the problem
>>17212256
It only takes one candle to light up a dark room but it takes a lot of darkness to hide light. In other words, you try to be that candle and give off light in a dark world.
>>17212256
you dont need humanity. you only need a select few people. doesnt matter what people do if they arent around you
broke up with ex a couple of weeks ago.
..just texted her if she thinks we have any shot at a life together... really scared of what her answer might be.... how do I handle a breakup... and did I just fuck up?
>>17212240
why did you break up?
>>17212240
>and did I just fuck up?
yes
just leave nigga
>>17212247
she was unsecure of her feelings
Is it possible to not enjoy several art forms / mediums as a whole? I've watched many movies and TV shows, and played many video games, but none of them have done anything for me since I was a child.
Is this common?
Common in depressed people.
>>17212215
Maybe you need something more intellectually stimulating as opposed to creative.
they're not supposed to do anything to you, its just entertainment
Hey
I'm 24 and virgin, duh. I've never had sex though I did have a girlfriend sometime in the past, whatever.
Tomorrow I plan to get an escort. I'm not some depressed schmuck who thinks sex will change my life, I'm not terribly ugly but I don't feel good about myself. I don't feel adequate. I don't want to, when eventually get a girlfriend, embarrass myself by being a virgin at 24/25/whatever age. It's just not alright and I don't expect any girl to actually understand me and my life and decisions.
So I'm doing this to sorta just shove it out of my way and take my mind off at least 1 thing.
Anyone else did this? Am I in for a lifetime of self pity and crippling depression? Or am I just gonna have a chill time, get my virginity out of the way and continue living my life, feeling a little better?
If anyone wonders, Ima get me a nice, plump, petite redhead with glasses. If I'm paying for sex, I might as well get exactly the girl I dream of fucking.
>>17212202
>plump
>petite
pick one.
that being said, you have to remember that virgin does have some 'spiritual' aspect to it. or perhaps more of a 'cultural' aspect to it.
while you will get off, its not much different than using a fleshlight. i mean she may be active and mamke it great, but thats just a robotic fleshlight.
it doesnt prove anything and you will walk away feeling worse after awhile, cuz you felt like you lost it 'wrong'. like imagine everyone in town hunts, and you want to hunt to so you pay someone to bring out a deer they caught and hold it down while you shoot it.
imagine someone challenged you to a fight and you pay someone to beat em up for you. imagine you asked a girl on a date, she said no, and then you paid her to go on a date wtih you.
thats what that is. yes you wlil experience a penis in a vagina (though with a condom whats the fucking point?) but you will still be a virgin in any way that matters and when you do get with that girl you are waiting or, you will think You are even more pathetic than before cuz you had to pay to lose it.
im sure you are capable of getting a real girl.
>>17212202
I know your feels, OP. I'm a 28 year old virgin and I consider hiring a woman all the time. Except that I'm ugly and depressed unlike you. Anyways, you should consider the risk of getting a disease when hiring an escort. Also, for me, I'm not sure how bad it would fuck me up mentally for the rest of my romantic career of I hired a whore.
Best of luck, OP. If you do go through with it I hope it is a good experience
>>17212221
>28 year old virgin
>my romantic career
my absolute sides
i asked for help a couple of days ago and got some answers, want a few more opinions.
this is my first serious relationship. this is her first serious relationship. i'm 25, she's 21.
my gf started summer classes recently. i've been interning at a hospital which takes up most of the week. this is the first instance of our relationship where we can't see each other as often as we'd like. usually our schedules weren't this rigid and consuming.
she has begun doing something a tad odd and i'm trying to shake this feeling of insecurity/jealousy. over the course of roughly two weeks since she started class, she has texted me about her male classmates without any provocation. a few examples recently:
>wow, my lab group if three macho dude bros. send help
>one of the guys in chem asked if i wanted to study together and i'm going to go since i need the help and he seems to know his stuff
>i met a nice guy named jake in lecture
i was actually in the middle of typing this out when she called during her break. since our schedules don't line up well, we haven't been able to talk much on the phone either so i eagerly picked up. while we were catching up i picked up on a few things.
>she and one of her lab partners (mike) have other classes together and talk
>she and jake do homework together
>jake has her number, texts her
i think i'm overreacting. our relationship is good/healthy. i think it's just my imagination assuming the worst. i just don't like the way she compliments these guys ("macho" or "beefy" mike or the "intelligent" or "smart" jake) when i'm never asking about them. her giving her number to jake is also an issue but they're classmates and this is pretty normal. i've given my number out to plenty of lab partners and such during school.
i don't know. again, i feel like i'm fitting that cliche jealous boyfriend mould with the way i'm thinking and it has only been two weeks.
>>17212139
it's odd she never mentions any female classmates, hmmmm
>>17212157
she hasn't mentioned any female classmates by name, no.
i don't even ask about her classmates. just how class is going and how she's handling the coursework. the way she has mentioned these guys over text are, again, without provocation.
i haven't addressed any of this. when i noticed the remark about jake texting her i didn't say anything. i didn't acknowledge the text she sent about her studying with jake. i wanted to assume she was just being honest/transparent with me.
>>17212186
since she never mentions female classmates she isn't interested in study with them and likely they guys are all over her and using the old study together to be together. I think she's telling you to get a reaction to see how far she can go. I'd just ask her if she has any female classmates or study partners you never mention any.
What would you do if you knew someone liked you, and you liked them, but you knew there was no hope for it in the long term?
I think me and this girl could have like an amazing year or two dating, but at the point of getting serious it would fall apart. Shes to in to god and having a big family, im a science minded agnostic and want maybe one kid. We debate big topics and keep it civil, both of us seem to enjoy having our views challenged. Honestly we would be a good fit for each other, but we just want different things.
Is it such a horrible idea to date someone when you know there's an expiration date? What if you haven't had a date in 4 years?
>>17212131
Those two differences are the two biggest differences that make or break a relationship. They're incredibly serious, fundamental differences.
That being said, people change. You have no idea what you will want or who you will be in 5 years, let alone 10. Around that 8-10 year mark is when you should start thinking of ANY kids, multiple or just one. So chill. You might change your mind. She might change hers.
As for religion, if she doesn't give a shit that you're not religious and doesn't ask you to participate, then whatever. That's fine. My mom is not religious, my dad is hardcore Catholic. They do their own thing.
You're trying to plot out every step of a process that takes years to go anywhere. Stop it. Take it day by day. Have fun, love one another, see where it goes. If it ends in disaster, who cares? You tried. You enjoyed it while it lasted. No one is meant to leap and commit fully to the first person to come along in a long time. Date without goals. You'll be happier that way. After a few years, then it's time to set some goals for your relationship.
>>17212131
been there it doesn't work and one of you have to be the adult and call it what it is. It's sad. What about agreeing to be just friends?
>>17212131
id date her. are you really at a point where you want your next girfriend to be your last?
I'm losing motivation for entering the job market. The whole process of selling yourself, networking, building your resume, interviewing, and then getting rejected for a job anyone could do... The whole thing is starting to annoy me.
What should I do for money is this case?
>>17212093
>what should i do for money in this case?
get over it.
>>17212101
I'm not over it. Hence the post
>>17212106
yes, which is why i said
>get over it
as opposed to
>got over it
I no longer enjoy my life.
I lived through midschool and highschool thinking that being adult is way more fun and then things will get interesting.
I'm an oversensitive 18yo virgin, who hates all his friends. I literally can't stand saying "hi" and pretending to be happy about it anymore. I don't fucking care about the music they listen to nor football. And I think that getting drunk isn't the best way to spend time together.
I hate my country, full of nationalistic shits who beat people on the streets for having curly hair.
I've been looking for a hobby since primary school and never got into anything. I just can't enjoy shit. Sports, books, games, movies, shows, collecting stuff, even extreme sports. This shit just isn't fun.
And the only reason why I haven't killed myself is that I'm worried about what would they think about it. "wow, what a faggot, he killed himself because he was weak!" or shit like that.
What do I do
>>17212085
>beating people up cuz they have curly hair
considering curly hair is my type i find this really sad, what country is this?
that being said i highly doubt the entire country is shit adn you're the only cool kid in it. you need to open your mind more imo.
>im looking for hobbies
>they are all lazy downtime consumerism with the exception of sports
stop consuming, start creating. also, move?
>>17212085
>the only reason i havent killed myself is that i dont want people at my funeral thinking 'what a faggot'
people already think that, and anyone who is going to your funeral wont think that, and anyone who DOESNT isnt worth worryingg about in death.
im not saying kill yourself, cuz obviously you dont want to. just pointing out how stupid an excuse that is and even you know that. you are no better than those assholes who are like 'I DEFINITELLY REALLY DO ACTUALLY WANT TO DIE BUT I CANT BECAUSE THERE ARE NO TALL BUILDINGS TO JUMP OFF OF NEAR ME AND GOING 20 MILES TO THE NEIGHBORING TOWN WOULD COST TOO MUCH GAS XD'
>>17212094
>considering curly hair is my type i find this really sad, what country is this?
Slavlands, I'm talking about my little city which is full of typical slavic football fans.
>stop consuming, start creating. also, move?
That's actually a good idea, but I lose interest in whatever I'm writing/drawing after a couple of hours.
>>17212098
Ugh, also I'm too much of a pussy to actually do that. I'm so emotionally unstable that my mood can change in seconds.
HOW DO I UNDERSTAND THIS GIRL, /ADV/?
>be me, kv in college
>fall hard for girl from camping trip
>seems she's into me she always comes out of nowhere with random hugs and grabs my hair and made a joke about how I'll probably have a bunch of girls following me around
>eventually ask her out (by text unfortunately I'm sorry but I never saw her around campus at that time)
>"Hey so nice to hear from you again sorry I'm busy that day"
>figure that is a nice way of rejecting me (even had a thread on /adv/ about it)
>try to move on
But now I'm confused because since then she has not changed how she acts towards me at all.
Every time she sees me she still just jumps in with a hug
What is with her, /adv/?
Was she actually just busy but never proposed another time???
Is she just physical and huggy with everyone??
Can she detect my beta-ness (only really happens around her) and therefore views me as like a 'gay best friend' or something (I have a bit of a feminine personality)
I'm afraid it's the last one because other times girls give me random hugs out of nowhere too and I doubt it's because they're into me lol
Zriend fone
>>17212095
It's so weird though.
Wouldn't she realize that I asked her out because I was getting some signals?
If she didn't mean for it to be anything more than platonic then wouldn't she stop with the random hugs if she thought I was getting the wrong idea???
>>17212108
Ask her out again, OP we believe in you
I hate eating vag. I just can't stand it, regardless of how clean it is and I did force myself to do it to keep my girlfriend happy several times but I decided to tell her I'm not a fan of it and how it's not at all her fault. She said she didn't want me to do anything I don't want to do and felt really bad that I was doing something I didn't want to do (this is why I love her, isn't that the nicest?) But she said she's gonna really miss it.
How do I get myself to tolerate it? She was so sweet about it and I don't want to deprive her. It wouldn't be so bad but she likes me going at it for 20-40 minutes before we have any other sex. If it was just 5-10 minutes It wouldn't be so bad but she has had trouble getting off her while life and needs extra time.
Do it in 69 and it's much more fun and erotic.
Just eating it is pretty boring and uninspiring no matter how well you do it, unless it's a quickie to get saliva to get things moving.
>She said she didn't want me to do anything I don't want to do and felt really bad that I was doing something I didn't want to do (this is why I love her, isn't that the nicest?)
>But she said she's gonna really miss it.
>How do I get myself to tolerate it?
Psychological manipulation at its finest.
>20-40 minutes
That's long enough to get tired of any single sexual activity/position.
I have no facebook profile picture or I usually place historical figures instead.
They usually get like 3 or 4 likes by some classmates of mine, I don't have many friends on facebook, only like 55 or so.
I don't know, it just feels like shit and I think it would be cringy to put my face as a profile picture, I have low self confidence sometimes.
Shit, I don't want to look like a loser, I don't want to look like a dumbass either though.
What do I do?
>>17212030
Just put a profile picture geez
You can ask a friend (or family) if it looks ok, by putting a historical figure it looks like your hiding behind a mask
>>17212035
Well I am kinda paranoid with privacy and all
>>17212047
You are just a piece of shit more of a human, just don't put stuff like direction or things like that, just your face with some friends is good, I'm starting to thing people from usa are fucking RETARDED, I'm from south america and this is just too much
Are temp agencies really my best option when I can't find work?
They're the scum of the earth and cut a gross amount of money out of the work you do.
I have some skill, but no references and the economy is shit.
Do I just suck it up and slave away until I find something decent?
>>17212015
Yes
>>17212015
you act like theres some moral obligation here.
can you afford to keep waiting? how long? you decide if its worth it. we dont know any thing about you other than that you hate temp agencies.
>>17212028
I'm on assistance right now, so that's keeping me afloat. But I need to start making money soon- so, I can find a new place for September. Currently renting a sublet. I've been buying and selling things to supplement my income- but it's slow and doesn't make me enough to live on.
Guess this is a venting thread more than anything.
I'm pretty sure that former pornstar Deborah Wells lives next door.
She's got old and lives alone with a dog. I see her many times and I'm sure that she is the pornstar.
Well, not complete sure. What should I do? I dont have much contact with her and she is old but still looks very good. She smokes and drinks alot, I'm not sure if she does drugs but she is most the time drunk. She keeps to her self and her life is far from all the glamour and fame. I have a feeling that she does not want to be reminded to her past.
What should I do?
>>17211948
If you have a good set of speakers play one of her videos loud enough for her to hear for hours on end.
>>17211954
That's just stupid and disssrespectfull.
Please only serious advice.
Thank you.
is there a tour bus operating in your area? give them a call
My ex that broke up with me 2 years ago is now engaged with the guy she left me for. Meanwhile I have hardly gotten past date 1 with a lot of girls. I've been focusing on myself for the most part, I work full time and buying my own condo at the age of 22 but I can't find anyone to date, I'm interested in a long term relationship, don't like sleeping around. I'm on pof, okc, tinder and craigslist but after 2 years on all I don't get replies anymore. I haven't tried bars really because I don't have any friends that could help me out with that sort of social life. I've tried single events hosted by pof but everyone is too old that goes. How do I find a date?
Bumping because same boat
>>17211807
>i cant find anyone to date
your problem is likely that you are looking for ANYONE to date
no one wants to be ANYONE to you. they want to be SOMEONE to you. they want to be special. when you are on OKC, POF, craigslist, and tinder and actively blogposting about how you WANT a serious relationship, no one can take you seriously. and yes, girls (or rather, PEOPLE) can pick up on this.
you are creating an aura of desperation. no girl wnats to go on a second date knowing that you plan to tie em down as soon as fucking possible.
despite this desperation you are also creating an imaginary standard. you have this idea of what a relationship is, an imaginary concept you've been building up for 2 years and girls arent meeting it cuz its not real. its not that its unrealistic, its that you are expecting something caused by random chemicals reacting, and trying to force that reaction.
on top of that oyu may still also be holding to the standard of your ex. wanting to date serioulsy is annoying cuz you are asking for a sort of commitment before anything starts. when you admit you want to have a serious relationship you are setting up that if a girl dates you more than once you expect a level of seriousness, commitment.
they dont know if they want to be serious with you. thats what dating is for.
>>17211807
you are doing all the right things OP and it's really a good thing you didn't fall right into another relationship. Just continue on and try to be patient. Finding a serious partner for a long term is hard but worth the wait. Believe me there are women out there that are right where you are. To expand your social circle volunteer or take an evening class. I volunteered for Habitat for Humanity and worked alongside a guy that introduced me to his equally awesome daughter, we hit it off and dating for over a year.
