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So in high school I was on myyearbook.com, never really took it seriously but there was one girl I met on there and we used to talk all the time for months. Junior year came around and I stopped caring about that website. Fast forwards to my sophomore year of college. New girl get hired at my workplace, holy shit its her and she go so much more attractive. WE instantly recognize each other and hit it off so damn well, the amount of chemistry we have is insane. But she has a bf. I try and ignore my feelings but eventually we hook up. Tell her i cant do this anymore until she...
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It took me the whole summer to get back on my feet but I still wasnt myself and I put my whole life on hold for her, i was so behind in school its not even funny cause i couldnt focus when i was with her. September comes by and she texts me she needs to make things right with me cause she knows she did me so wrong. I accept her back in my life and she atones for all the wrong he did. None of my friends are happy and i hide her from my family. October comes by and shes moved into my place completely rent free, but i was happy she treated me like a human being that i deserved...
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I want to abort it she wants to adopt it. I see her a few times a week with out telling anyone just to be on her good side so i dont get fucked with a kid that i dont want. 2 months pass and its like we are dating again. WE agree to try again. Keep it a secret from everyone in my life. Month passes and she has a miscarriage, feels weird man. Relationship continues but she has a whole life im not allowed apart of she wants nothing to do with my friends. I support her, lend her money. feed her. Lose all of my sanity in the process. She realizes that she killing me and agrees to...
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so here i am now 8k in debt cause of her, should have graduated a year ago but failed so many classes cause of her, and beyond depressed with the herpes she gave me. We are gonna meet one last time so i can get my stuff from her, a part of my wants to fight for her cause for the last 2 and half years all ive known is trying to make her happy. My life feels pointless, i fucked up in school, im in debt, hate my roommate, put my whole life on hold and i just dont know what to do anymore. I feel like i just exist and kinda wanna kill myself. She ruined my life and still love her,...
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I'm 20 years old and balding. What's wrong with me /adv/? Advice on how to improve hair quality?
>>17209226
you have a shit hair line. same start happening to one of my friends, he nearly has a nest head now. sorry.
Been there
Shaved it
No regrets
>You will have to start going to the gym though
>>17209226
Cut it really short, if you try to hide it then people will think it's pathetic.
So... I'm kind of a semi-newfag and I've been here for a year and a half, but I've noticed no matter what board I go to or how much I try to make my posts interesting or serious I always get bombed with people talking down on me, screaming newfag, or something like that and it's not really starting to bring back my social anxiety and depression. I mean I have some really thick skin, but it just seems people on chan just always ruin me. What I don't understand is how I can read threads with people all being so nice, considerate, and funny yet mine are...
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>>17209216
This is some next level bait.
Oh you
>>17209216
same op. im kind of a new fag. i have started to learn what triggers people though. some people on here use it as an opportunity to get pissy at
people because its anonymous etc
What are some things I can do instead of eating? I eat when I am depressed, which is weird because I used to do the opposite. What habit can I relpace with this? I am gaining weight fast already gained 17 lbs in the past two months. That may not seem like a lot but I am very petite so it looks like way more on me. I look gross and its adding to my depression.
>>17209209
I also used to drink green tea to lose weight in the past but I cannot consume caffeine because it gives me heart flutters so that is out
>>17209209
Exercise when you're depressed. Boom, no more depression plus you lose weight.
Could it be an oral fixation? Try putting something else in your mouth: water, gum, dicks, etc.
At what age does it become too difficult for a guy to date girls in their early 20s?
I know very well that there are always guys dating girls way below them in age, and that everyone can date younger if they stay healthy and work on their appearance, but realistically when does age start to hurt your odds and when do people start to think you're creepy or the girl's got problems because she's dating you?
I'm only 26 right now but I'm considering joining the military. I'm assuming I won't be able to date while I'm in and I'm...
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>>17209201
you should be fine. women love older guys (obviously to an extent). and you will be fit and well disciplined due to your training, women should be causing tsunamis over you, dont worry.
At the age that they run out of money.
>>17209201
>I'll be 30
>lost my youth
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KcdSWfWSqGE
What do you call it when you hit a rock bottom in your life, and then decide that you've had enough and start working hard to get your shit together and become successful?
>>17209177
A delusional fantasy.
>>17209177
Life. You're gonna make it.
>>17209177
A comeback.
I was in the bus, a guy was sitting next to me and we never talked because we don't know each other, in the moment he stands up to get down the bus, he gives me a paper with his number, that's badass.
I need something funny to tell him, I was thinking of something like "You're the first guy that gives me his number without asking for it first" Idk, something that could give him a good smile.
>>17209176
>seriously considering contacting someone you met on the bus
ishgydgy
>>17209176
Ate you a girl?
>>17209176
Want to date or fuck?
Either way:
When and where?
Busgirl
I am in conflict with my emotions. I'm in therapy and i liked a girl that was following the same therapy. We saw each other a few times and after the last time we kissed and had sex. Thing is... she has a boyfriend for 5 years. She's clearly not happy in that relationship. Although she did choose for him and told me so. It felt great to be with her but now i feel like the lowest piece of shit there is. It's like i'm worth less than that guy. He looks like a crackhead. He doesn't understand her and he doesn't do shit around the house and she has...
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>>17209168
Hey buddy, been there myself. What youre going through is partly chemical and unconscious. You had sex and enjoyed the pleasure/warmth of a female. Yhe animal part of your brain rewarded you for mating by making you feel good. Now that ita been taken away, ita punishing you for losing it by making you feel like shit. Normally this would spurn you to take back what you wanted but we dont live in a world like that anymore. Best i can say is dont make a descision while those shitty chemicals are circulating through...
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>>17209229
I just don't get why the loneliness is killing me inside. I really wish i was dead right now. Everyone says: you ll find another one. It's bs. I don't like most girls because they lack so much in personality. It's been 7 years from relationship to relationship and dating all together. I am feeling so helpless right now.
>>17209274
True, women can be lack luster. But most dont even share their true personalities.
Let me tell you about the last 3 girls i was head over heals for:
We'll start at the most recent, tall, thick blond with blue eyes, wide hips, and the most perfect breasts/nipples ive ever felt. Big beautiful lips, round cute face. Geeky, loves all the nerdy shit i like, loved to have sex, cums quickly. Her teeth were bad, she was over weight, and she loved taking pictures of herself too much. She sucked at communication.
One...
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Girl I've been really good friends with for about 5 years watched fifty shades of Grey the other day. I've pretty much had a crush on her the whole time I've known her. Anyway she told another mutual friend that I remind her of Christian Grey. I asked the mutual friend to investigate and girl said Grey and I are similar in every way. She just got out of a not so great 3 year relationship and she has mentioned to our mutual friend that she wants to bang, but doesn't know if i like her,and also isn't ready for another relationship but would want a friend's...
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>>17209087
>How should I interpret this?
>she wants to bang, but doesn't know if i like her,and also isn't ready for another relationship but would want a friend's with benefits thing.
>>17209087
duh. She said exactly what she wants. Fuck with no attachment. That means fuck with no attachment. She likely knows you have a crush on her so it complicates everything.
>>17209119
It's not as simple as I let it on to be. Her bf and her ended < a month ago, and she is really vulnerable, emotionally and physically. I don't wanna seem like an ass hole and take advantage of her. Because we are really good friends and I don't wanna fuck anything up between us. But at the same time, crush
So I just graduated from college and I'm trying to find a job that's relevant to my degree (applied mathematics), but I need money in the meantime. I've applied to a few grocery stores because I have 3+ years of experience working in a grocery store, so I figured it would be pretty easy to get back into it.
Just today I was told that I basically have the job, I just need to come in and get paperwork together/do the drug test, and I'm assuming they will discuss wages. Seeing as the minimum wage is $9.47/hr in my state, would it be reasonable for someone...
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bump nigga god damn
>>17209074
What position are you applying for?
If you applied for a minimum wage job you're going to get minimum wage pay.
>>17209074
At a shitty job like that wages are usually non-negotiable. There are plenty of people in line behind you that will gladly take the job if you refuse it
Is this cheating? Did he cheat, he said he felt no sexual attraction to her but I don't know if I believe him. my boyfriend looked at my friends feet multiple times and he has a foot fetish, he says he was nust looking to see if she was trying to flirt with him and he said he wouldnt like her if she was trying to flirt because he thinks she knows
>>17209025
If looking at peopels feet in a photo is considered cheating than you cheat everytime you talk/touch a man in non-business related situations.
>>17209034
No it was in personp
>>17209035
then just scratch the photo part.
My statement still applies.
Had a rough patch with the girlfriend due to circumstances regarding her parents divorce, her injury (car crash resulting in constant headache and pain in shoulders) and her job (as a result of her injury).
five weeks ago, I had a talk with her about how we had been pretty distant with each other and the lack of physical interaction as well as us communicating less. She asked me how I felt about her and I told her I loved her. I asked her the same and she said she didn't know anymore. So I broke up with her, think it was mostly due to my ego.
The past five...
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No one? :(
>>17208990
>she said she didn't know anymore
you did the right thing OP and at least she was honest with you and didn't force the relationships end by cheating. Why be together unless both are equally invested?
>>17208990
Regardless of wether she loves you romantically or not, you should be there for her. She's probably going through some stuff.
I'm not a relationship expert, but would maybe not rush getting back together. Just help her, comunicate and figure it out together. You sound like a nice guy therefore i wish u good luck
For context, I am trying to find a job so don't knock on me
I've been spending several months since I graduated fapping and shut in at home. I have no friends and a gym membership that's wasting away. I feel I'm not getting anywhere in life
Other than getting my ass to the gym, what else should I do?
You should start to enjoy it.
I was just like you and after getting my life back on track I found out that the life of a person that has friends, a job and a gf is all about pretending other people are funny and pandering to their interests and likings.
I cut all contact and got back into being a NEET.
>>17209048
You're wrong about that anon. When you say pretend it sounds like you are having trouble being yourself in social situations.
I have that same problem of feeling this unyielding pressure to just act through the social situation and not be myself. But you have to realize that is a problem you have that you must fight. The reward of doing so is that you will over come this eventually and have a rewarding comfortable experience in a social situation eventually that will make you love being around people.
Don't give up and go back to NEET land. The comfort it brings is a lie.
>>17209095
Being yourself around people is a good way to slowly get dropped by everyone.
Don't forget, everyone is selfish and all about their pleasure and self-indulgence. Nobody will ever care about you for you, life isn't a Hollywood drama.
Do women care if the man they're with loves them, or do they only care if they love the person they're with?
I think I may have noticed a pattern in the woman I know...
>>17208952
Interesting question
I might be retarded or that question doesn't make sense. Can you rephrase it?
>>17209027
I think I noticed that most women will stay with a man that they know doesn't love them, as long as said woman feels something for the man
I'm not saying that a woman wouldn't prefer to be with a man that loves them, but what I noticed is that most of them don't really seem to care
How do I stop being needy in an online long distance relationship?
Hey /adv/. How can I stop being so needy in a new online relationship? I'm finding that lately my moods are so affected by whether or not he messages me. I feel pathetic. I lead a pretty busy life and so does he, but I can't help that I want to talk to him all the time. When we don't talk, tons of insecurities flood in and I don't want them to come in between us or drive him away.
How often should I message him? Are any of you anons in a long distance relationship? How often...
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Break up. Online relationships are terrible and break you. (Talking from experience.) It's also clear already that he isn't as invested as you are.
>>17208948
Yikes. We live close enough to meet eventually so hopefully it won't be online forever. How can I gauge his investment other than messaging. Some people aren't good at texting. What were your experiences anon?
>>17208948
This OP
You can't get that pussy online
