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How can I retaliate agenst JW always knocking on my door.
The tell the to go away but they always find me here.
Are they following me?
Do they want my soul?
PLEASE HELP!
My aunt once let them talk, then proceeded to make them listen to her talk about her religion. They never bothered her again.
Just something to consider.
>>17208272
Troll them.
Answer the door naked holding a severed goat head and ask them if they'd like to come on.
Lol that's to much.
But what if instead if them knocking on our door I knock on their door.
So how far on a 1-10 scale am I friendzoned when the person I fancy and am friends with sends me quotes about friendship and tags me in 'tag your friend who' stuff?
Really deep.
>>17208234
New high score!
Here's the rule I follow:
>are you friends with a girl?
>then you're 10/10 on the friendzone scale
Never be friends with girls. It's weak and not a good look.
I'm thinking about starting my own blog on which I'd upload my movie reviews, which I'd share with my friends, and in movie related groups. Need writing tips, help /adv/.
Pic unrelated.
>>17208152
You couldn't make more vague question, could you OP?
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=writing+own+blog+101
>>17208163
I want more than just normie tier advices, so I posted the question here. It's better than your average "hurr durr my gf left me, how do I get back with her", "whee, I want to kill myself, because I'm a miserable human being" etc.
>>17208171
Please specify your question and I might give you some hints. What do you need advice for?
Hey guys looking for some input...
I have a 17 year old son and he has a girlfriend, my son wants to be able to have his girlfriend over alone. I know they will be fooling around but should I let them do this? I am not really sure. Thanks.
>>17208015
not alone in the house and bet her parents wouldn't want that either
They'll probably find a place to fool around either way. I'd hope you've had the "talk" with you son unless you want possible grandkids soon in case they mess up.
>>17208021
Why not alone in the house? If its drug related I am 100% sure he wont consume any. As for sex i don't think he will either.
Basically when my best bud and gf broke up, I naturally didnt talk to her and was pissed at her.
One day we reconciled while I was in a legit bad place and we've talked pretty much everyday since, and I'd say we're pretty good friends.
I'd never ever go out with her or anything out of loyalty to my friend, but I'm worried I may be catching feelings, since I do genuinely value her now.
The fuck do I do guys? I don't wanna cut ties because she's actually a good friend, but I don't wanna end up catching feelings.
>>17207942
Just go out and start looking for a girl. Go out with your friends and go hangout more. Put some distance between you and her.
>>17207998
that's the thing though - I couldn't be any more social at this point.
I should look for a girl though.
>>17208037
If she wants to hangout just make up shit like you have a birthday to go to, or something stupid that you think she'd fall for. Again, just dont see her as much
I need some advice and there isn't a medical board here so maybe someone can help steer me in the right direction..
I'm 22, turning 23 in exactly 1 week, There are a lot of changes in my life happening right now, and Anxiety and Depression are catching up to me to the point I'm staying the in the shower 2 hours to cry and I can't sleep. Today I skipped work because I honestly cant handle being near people, and I've been borderline fighting with my wife and family nonstop for the past week.. As much as I hate taking medication, I don't have time for anything else, and I really need to do something about this before I really hurt (not physically) the people around me. I can't schedule an appointment w/ a psychiatrist because I never have time during business hours, I work. I honestly have no idea what to do, I tried searching medications on my own but all I get are ads for miracle medicines and fucking yoga.. I just need an over the counter medication for anxiety & depression.. does anyone have any recommendations, stories or resources I could use to find something like this?
>>17207933
Antidepressants really can help, but you may have to try a couple different kinds to see what works best for you. I've tried sertraline 50mg (zoloft) and it gave me a lot of side effects, but Prozac 40mg works for me.
It's the only thing that has made my depression marginally better. It's not a magic cure, but for me it sort of numbs my depression and anxiety to where they don't overwhelm me as much, and I can somewhat function in society. I still battle with it.
Therapy is pretty much bullshit, unless you can find a decent one (which is nearly impossible). The ones I've been to just gave me printed off papers about how to change your thoughts, manage anxiety, and bullshit like that. As if I didn't already know?
You don't necessarily have to make an appointment with a psychiatrist to get on ADs. Any MD can prescribe them, so even if you mention to your primary physician that you're feeling this way, they'll likely prescribe it.
>>17207933
Try to take a day off work to go see a doctor. Call some doctor offices while on a lunch break.
>>17207961
I didn't realize my pcp could prescribe psych medicine, that's really good to know because I could see him before work some mornings. I take is prozac is prescription only though right?
I recently found out my wife had an affair with her boss. When confronted she broke down and confessed all and we are working through it. But I really want to make this asshole pay, he used his money and power to control her (obviously she is to blame also) but I just want to ruin this guy!!
What can I do to mess with his life, business,etc?
Growing up would be a nice first step.
>>17207920
Getting revenge over him won't make your wife less of a cheating slut.
Either stay with her and forget about this, or dump her and move on.
He doesn't need to "pay" because he didn't do anything wrong, he isn't committed to you and he didn't rape her.
Revenge is childish.
Ending the relationship should be the one and only thing you do desu
I hope you don't lose half of your belongings, though
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rutETGoFHk0
These are 3 surefire ways to know they're cheating on you. If you like the video please share it!
>realpartykid
Yeah I didn't even watch the video. Come back with a less retarded name, and I might watch your shitty clickbait video.
>>17207892
Title? Don't judge a book by it's cover. The video is going viral.
>>17207885
Thanks for this sjw feminism bullshit. It's literally the stupidest video I've ever seen in my life
Anyone here gone through social anxiety disorder therapy?
My social anxiety got better in last four years, since I force myself to social situations a lot, but it's still far from great, and takes opportunities from me, so I'm thinking about going to a doctor.
So, if you did the therapy - how did it look? Was it just "role play" situations? Did it help you?
Thanks.
>>17207777
Nice quads
Social skills are like a muscle that need to be worked. If you don't interact with people, your social skills disintegrate.
I have a friend who never comes out to anything because he has "anxiety". The reason he has anxiety is because he never comes out to anything. He doesn't see anyone else other than me and 2 other friends once a week. That's not enough, we're social beings and we need real interaction.
By thinking you have some sort of disorder will only make it worse. Your social skills are weak because they aren't worked enough. Apply the "fake it till you make it" mentality and work your social skills. Try not to be too analytical of social cues and behaviours. Spend enough time in social situations and they will come naturally. Just remember that if you want others to like you, remain positive and try not to be offended.
There's no doubt that you want to be around other people. You're just uncomfortable at the moment because you lack the social skills. If you're anything like my friend, you are comfortable only around certain people. That's because you've spent enough time that you've learned how to act in front of these people. The key is to learn how to act in front of new people. By doing it a lot you will become better and eventually you will want to meet new people.
>>17207830
I agree with this. I'm still not good socially but have gotten so much better after getting a job where I'm forced to interact with people (after spending years interacting with literally no one, ever). I went to therapy and it did jackshit, it just made me feel worse because the therapist literally kept treating me like I was some sort of retard. I still have insecurities, anger, and anxiety from that experience. But putting yourself out there works.
>>17207830
>He doesn't see anyone else other than me and 2 other friends once a week
not op
dear god, that's way more than I do...
outside university, where I have no friends nor collegues I rarely see anyone within months
the ironic part is, that I do not feel myself being shy or having anxieties, it's just that I never had friends or a social life.
Throughout my school time I have been bullied heavily for nearly a decade.
I guess I have never learned how to act or preform "socially".
It makes me sad, every attempt within the last 4 years to obtain relationships (friendships) failed horribly. I do not know what to do.
Reading books and internet articles or psychology guides did not help either...
So I'm probably high and overthinking this.
But I was animating at a lightbox at uni, when I heard this really loud hiccup.
I looked up and caught this really cute girls gaze and smiled at her and she smiled back but then looked down really quick.
So I kept animating for a bit and then went over and asked her what she was working on but she said she was shy and didn't want anyone to see until it was done.
I said I understood and asked her if she was doing it hand-drawn and we started talking, and she was laughing a lot and playing with her hair but she could have just been nervous.
Then this super auitistic guy came in and started talking about anime in the middle of our conversation, and I humoured him until he started talking about specific timecodes in naruto episodes.
So I said "leave", so he left and I kept talking to the girl and then I realised I'd be late for my train so I told her to add me on facebook since my phone had died.
But then she said she didn't have facebook because they sold your personal information to china, but that she would be there tomorrow.
But I don't know, I think she's into me but I also know I can misread shy girls sometimes.
Also I'm super high, sorry for rambling.
You're overthinking just chill on it
>>17207763
Do you know her name at least? Be there tomorrow with a fully charged phone
>>17207783
No, I was so tired I forgot to ask.
But she said my name when I left and smiled.
Oh god, did I forget her name?
How to stay up for 48 hours in order to study? Tips?
>>17207756
Bad idea.
Better schedule your time to study.
sleep at 12 am, wake at 8 am, start studying at 9 am take 30 min break every 2 hours, take 1 hour break at 4 pm, at 10 pm review what you've studied, repeat.
>>17207756
First tip: don't.
If that's not an option, the main thing is to go to non-stop library, or some shit like that. Seeing other people work motivates you, and the bed at home is tempting. Don't overdo energy drinks, or you'll just have caffeine crash, and feel even worse. And reconcile that there's gonna be times that you're not gonna learn shit.
Tried not going to sleep?
Hi adv 22y/o male here struggling to see the point of living a "normal" life.
From my experiences in life I'm beginning to realise that what we knows as "wrong" only includes things that do not directly or indirectly preserve the human race and anything that's "right" does the opposite.
What I know as "right" is actually extremely selfish, people like to take moral high grounds when they believe they're arguing or pushing for the "good of something" when it's actually for the good of them, it's selfishness masqurading as alturism...
Again from my life experiences I've noticed that humans, us, as a collective are extremely selfish and cold but as individuals we cling to the hope that we aren't.
There's no reason to hold onto that hope and if there's no reason to hold onto it there's no reason not to manipulate and abuse those around you for self gain, I don't want to live in a world like that.
I work in the medical field and I no longer see any point in helping others nor do I get any pleasure out of it like I used to. I see everyone I help as a selfish leech and I know that I'm a giant fucking hypocrite because when I help others it's also a selfish action, I pretend it isn't but I always did it for myself, just like everyone else who helps others, it isn't altruism it's selfishness, we like the feeling it gives us not the action of helping others..
With all this considered why shouldn't I kill myself?
2deep4me
Why again in short would you kill yourself because you don't like your job and morality is objective?
I think I'm missing something.
Don't worry OP, a lot of people go through this in their early 20s. Current media like movies and songs have conditioned "younger" generations (post baby boomer) that it's okay to feel this way and speak out. We see a thread like yours on a daily basis, for example.
I can only share with you my own way of coping with that feeling. I don't believe there's purpose in life, other than the one we give it ourselves. To me, life is about experiences, and in the end all you have are your stories.
So why shouldn't you kill yourself? Aside from upsetting those close to you (who cares, you're dead anyway, so you won't experience that guilt), there's the whole
>you haven't experienced everything life has to offer
If your job is no longer fulfilling, then quit. Apply for something else. You say you are trained and already working in the medical field at 22, so I'm guessing you're not a physician or a nurse, but paramedics, med techs, etc are always in demand in the best countries, so go find a job somewhere new you'd like to explore. Or just change the field all together and travel for a bit, see what's good. Maybe during your travels you'll find something or someone that can give purpose to your life.
Otherwise then you could kill yourself, once you feel you've had enough.
hi
first timer on this board as i am usually a /pol/tard.
don't know the etiquette here so sorry. i could use some advice so here goes...
>live with girlfriend, she's a degenerate alcoholic
>been trying to "change for 3 YEARS"
>doesn't care about its affect on me
>constantly fight
>she says we need to "make a list"
>so we can sit down and talk it out
>convo begins when i get home from work
>she has list
>and a pint of booze in her as well
how the fuck can i take this seriously?
>tell her again my main prob w her is alcohol
>gets pissed, tells me she doesn't want to see me
>i should move out
>close door, lock it, try to sleep
>this morning, she so sorry
>again
>ask her if she was drinking during "list time"
>she says 'no'
>i could smell her across the room
i care about this girl, but i can't fix her
she doesn't understand what an asshole she is when she drinks, which is about 3 or 4 times a week (not socially, she gets SMASHED and mean).
so, what the fuck do i do now?
ask me some questions if you like.
You videotape her ass being a drunken fucktard and show it to her when she's sober.
>>17207695
What was on the list?
If I were you, I would give her an ultimatum. Either she quits drinking or you leave her. Let her know that you're absolutely serious and that it's her last chance. Meanwhile prepare to leave her because she probably won't stop drinking. It will suck at first and she will most likely clean up her act for a few weeks in an attempt to get you back. But your life will be better off without her in the end.
>>17207717
good idea
>>17207727
my list was pretty much all alcohol and what stems from it. her list was, in my opinion, things that stem from and were created by HER alcoholism. but she doesn't get it. I'm packing my bags as i post this. i don't believe she's sincere. she's a good person, but she's just lost in booze. last night she wants me to leave, today she wants me to stay. i can't fucking live my life like this.
Hey /adv/
I'm really needing some help because it's killing my fiancee but she's a technical support
Officer in the local primary school (or elementary for my American speaking friends) which means she works as a teachers aid for a child that has O.D.D.
Now this child is about seven years old but still physically harms my fiancee and other teachers, now here in Australia you can't physically or mentally harm the children so what's the best way to put the fear of God into a little shit who thinks it's okay to get away with harming women (in particular). I need your help /adv/, you're my only hope.
>>17207687
Shameless self bump to get things to get things moving.
>>17207687
Plz /adv/
Not leaving til I have at least one decent reply.
My girlfriend keeps wanting to talk while I'm playing games.
She got home from work and asked to call, I was in a game but saw the message and didnt get back to her until after another game was done.
By that time it was late so I told her we can skype while I get into bed.
We talked for 5 minutes then I told her I was going to bed and she got upset and kept saying we never talk because im always playing my games.
I think I should be able to play my games when I want for as long as I want and I really dont see this as a big deal. I think shes blowing it out of proportion.
How do I get her to chill out about me playing my games?
>>17207601
You blew her off for video games. You can do what you want. But its her call to decide if you arent providing her with enough attention. Seriously, who picks videogames over a gf.
Im not saying you cant play, but if you know she wants to talk and you only save 5mins for her you are a piece of shit for spending more time on video games.
>>17207601
Do you understand that the problem is not you playing games, but the fact that you're not giving her attentions and taking her for granted?
Relationships require effort. If you don't want to put effort into being with her, dump her and play as much as you want.
>>17207609
I do give her attention. I message her asking how her day is going when shes at work. No need to be a cunt about it.
I was tired thats why it was only 5 mins.
>>17207609
I am putting effort in. I flew down to see her for her birthday.
