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Accidentally likes some chicks picture on Instagram (non nude fully clothed mirror pic) and my girlfriend is pissed off and trying to guilt me about it and giving me shit.
Any advice on how to handle it? I care for her but these childish games of hers piss me off and I kinda think it's over and I feel like dumping her. Only thing is it's her birthday and I don't want to ruin her special day. It's just so stupid a girl flips out abou a liked Instagram pic
>>17211593
You've already ruined her special by liking other girls photos.
Might as well finish the job off completely.
>>17211601
This. Do it OP
>>17211601
No bro not going to break up with her on her birthday. Even though it's childish as hell to get mad over a liked pic
Why are Americans so jolly and happy and how can I become one myself?
I mean, yesterday at college I was told that I sound like a robot and that I don't know how to have fun. How do I start having fun and enjoying american banter?
Are you American?
>>17211583
It's all fake, no one wants to be with a sad person so everyone just pretends to be happy. Some seem happier than others
>>17211657
Is this true?
Hello, anons!
Be me, 27 yo virgin.
Fantasise about getting laid by a mature woman.
Found this 42 yo single, childless woman on a dating website
We have a small talk, she wonders why do I want to "talk" with her, because she's older then me bla bla. I say that girls of my age are immature, unexperienced etc. Then she asks me to describe myself and she tells me that I am way taller then she is (almost 30cm - I don't give a fuck) but I try to joke about.
Anyway, she said we would talk again more but she has to go now.
Help me, guys, how should I continue this?
>>17211521
>I say that <girls/guys> of my age are immature, unexperienced etc
LOL. Funnily enough, that's verbatim what everyone who's younger says to everyone who's older. And It's also how you know they're full of shit/incredibly immature themselves. (I'm about your same age and a guy, and I've heard the EXACT same words come out of 17, 18, 19 year old girls when I ask them what's up and why they're hitting me up)
No advice on this one, just a heads up for the next.
>>17211541
Yeah, I know, but what the hell could've replied to her? Telling her I have fantasies with matures? I couldn't come with something better, I admit.
Shameless selfbump
I'm not depressed, I just hate my life and myself.
Can I even get help for this? The power to change is ultimately in my hands. I don't know what to do.
>>17211473
Let's start with step one: what don't you like about yourself and your life?
>>17211479
yeah what this guy said, it's the root of your problem.
>>17211479
I'm ugly and uneducated, I hate my job but can't quit, I get so exhausted from work that on my days off I can only sleep.
My stepfather (who I work with) is an alcoholic who hates his life too. My brother is a neet conspiracy theorist who just gets fucked up as much as possible and always let's me know how much I fucked up by rushing into work at 18.
There's also the issue of not knowing what to do with my life, but I haven't thought about it at all.
This is too much exposition, or not enough, but I suck at writing things like this and usually delete them.
>a girl adds me
>we soon start talking, and we quickly develop a friendship
>we talked almost everyday
>One day, I messaged her, but she didn't respond
>Tfw, she didn't respond for a year and a half now.
>Tried to contact her, in december during 2015 to ask what happened, if I did something, does she need help with any of her problems etc.
>She still didn't respond, so I ended up blocking her
Can you tell me what was the problem? Like, we were good friends and all, we talked a lot and got close as friends, and then she just ignores me. Without a reason, why? Does someone have experience with this to explain her behaviour? I'm curious as to why she ignores me to this day, there never was some sort of fight between us, we didn't even argue much. I considered her my friend, I opened up to her, and this really hurted me, because she was my only fem friend that I was so close with.
A year and a half? Holy shit, get over it OP wtf
>>17211460
Was this just an online friendship?
If so there is no real rules in online friendships.
>>17211465
I'm the sort of person that needs to have his questions answered. I really want to now why she ignored me like this. She could'ev at least told me "Anon, here's the problem I have with you blah blah, that's why I can't speak with you anymore blah blah..." or something like that, then I wouldn't really mind it as much. I got over it, but I still want to know why she ignored me.
My spouse and i have been together for almost 3 years, in the beginning of our relationship he told me he had been with mulitple people i was honest told him i was with one other man. 3 months pass into relationship tells me he loves me and that he lied about the women he has been with and that i took his virginity. I find messages of him and this girl (cousins gf) taljing about them fucking and how his cousin would feel about it. I ask him why he lied about me taking his virginity tells me she only went down on him that he cant remember. I let it slide bc they were on pills. Things were good for that year. In the middle of our 2years he starts acussing me of cheating and lying about who i have been with and that im cheating bc im staying with him (he starts becoming verbally abusive) he starts chatting up other girls bc he says im doing it when i wasnt. I went to college and he lived with me at my house. Anyways we end up having a baby and getting engaged. About now on he says he wants to have sex with another female bc i took his virginity that he only knows what i feel like. He is the one that lied about his sexual incounters not me and know im getting the backlash. I told him let me pick the girl if i can go through with it and he agree'd. Im afraid. Im not bad looking and neither is he but i have become way more better looking since the beginning of our relationship and he has acussed me of cheating and lying about the number of guys i slept with even more now. I cant work a job without him checking up on me. When i lose weight he gets mad and makes me eat more but then yells at me for being chubby. What do i do with this man? He tells me he cant wait to marry me and wants another baby. Everythings just confusing, help advice?
You sure can pick 'em.
>>17211447
Right? I dont know if we should try and work things out or let him be with another woman. We have a great sex life, he gets what he wants and when he wants it so it makes me feel awful.
So, you're a baby momma to a piece of shit. Welcome to being Statistic #21782342342. You're not going to drastically change your life until you leave him and stop dating horrible men, but we both know that's never happening. Enjoy your abusive relationship.
Have you ever had to hide your relationship? Why? How did it go?
My case
>she's 19, arab
>dad left when she was a baby, mom raised her
>typical "women have to be watched but guys can do whatever they want"
>every sister has so far fled the house when old enough to take care of themselves becaus ehouse was oppressive
>every brother is over protective
>she's hiding me since she isn't allowed to have a boyfriend
>every activity out of the ordinary makes them suspicious
>last year she went to the museum every sunday and they thought she had someone
>we have three months ahead of us until we both leave town to two different places
Any opinion or advice on this is appreciated.
>>17211423
Nerve gas will do the trick
Tell her family that you're Jewish.
>>17211427
I'm half black.
Actually half of my black family is muslim and the other one is christian.
I already asked :
>what if I tell them i'm muslim
>what if we pretend I'm gay
Nothing will get a pass.
It could probably not be a big deal but she's unsure of her ability to lie, and today her brother called, asking where she was (as he usually does) she made up a lie, but it got her stressed out and leaving early.
Hey /adv/ I've been with the grill for a few years and I started dating her when she was under 16 (britbong) and I was over 16 - she looked and seemed my age. And my parents think she is the same age as me and they get along with it and they like her but I have a problem. I want to get married and have kids with her in years to come but I'm scared my parents will find out and disown me for lying about her and then my relationship with them all will die. What do?
You can't have kids with a grill
>>17211344
Same anon how old are you?
>>17211347
I'm 23
im in a real dark place right now and just need someone to talk to.
just found out my girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me last night. her reason for dointg it was because she didnt feel happy with herself her family or our relationship. im breaking up with her and she says she needs her space. i just wish she hadnt done this i fucking feel so bad. i just dont know what to do
>>17211311
That depends. Are you good with women? Can you go out and get laid with a girl of similar attractiveness with a bit of effort or not?
weve been dating since fucking highschool i was 15 and she was 15 and now shes gone and fucking ruined it all. she keeps saying she lopves me and that shes sorry and i cant fucking handle this
>>17211311
Sorry to hear this man first things first fuck her she's a whore, if she's unhappy with basically the three most important things in her life i.e herself, her family and her SO then there's no point in wanting to be with a inconsiderate fuck like her. Take a week for yourself man do what you love doing catch up with your best friends, drink, eat, watch your favourite tv show just do anything that will keep your mind off that ho. You got this man
My girlfriend is really pumped about going to art school, and she got accepted. However, it's just a decent one in a really small country. I'm afraid she'll be unemployable. This is a huge step and I want to make sure she doesn't fuck it up. She LOVES physics, and I'd rather have her study that instead.
What do I do? She's so hung up on doing this and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm already telling her to start pursuing applicable skills while she studies (Photoshop+Illustrator, webdev, etc), but I don't want to come off as arrogant and condescending to her.
Clearly you don't your gf that well if she LOVES physics yet chose to do art?
Even to me it clear she loves art more.
>>17211195
Tell her to do what makes her happy and be there to catch her if she falls is my only advice.
>>17211205
I've seen her talk about physics firsthand and how she spends hours talking about theory like it's nothing. She really fucking loves it. I feel she underestimates her abilities because of all the math and prefers to stick to art because she feels it's easier for her instead.
girl flirting with my
boyfriend in front of me..
so here's the thing yesterday I hung out with my bf who I've been with for more than a year, his Best friend, and his best friends date. my bf is more attractive than his friend mostly because his friend is short (like 5'6 or so).
first we went to a field and played football and when I first met her and saw them interacting I wanted to die. I was pissed. we got in a fight after bc I was kinda overreacting and said he's disgusting and was flirting with her ... he said we should break up bc we've been havinh fights for a while and I know he doesn't really mean it but I said I'm sorry for overreacting and I'll work on my jealousy problems and said we should try again a
so we went out to dinner with them and she trying to flirt with him the whole time. her date was trying to talk to her about breaking bad and she turned to only my bf and asked him if he watched it and he said no then turned to me and asked me and kept shutting her down because h knows how I was feeling but if I wasn't there what would happen??
I have never gotten jealous of any of my boyfriends girlfriends btw. it's clear when they talk they aren't flirting with him. she's cute in the way that she's small skinny but her face isn't prettier than me (I'm also skinny but I'm like 5'5 and I always got a vibe my bf likes really short girls, she'd like 5'3)
help ? idk what to do I feel like I'm losing my relationship
>>17211145
I couldn't sleep last night because I just felt like thinking it's not right and yeah he shut her down but only because I yelled at him ... the like I have to tell him how to treat me right and then make him hate me for that when that's just how he should be. I can't break up with him I get too attached in relationships all I can think ahout is finding someone else o know that's bad but jdk what else to do and I think my bf is sick of it cuz every time we get in a Fight wel the last two times he said we should break up and he's never been like that before when we've gotten in fights and I've always felt like he loved me and now I feel that things have changed and I don't know what to do anymore
>>17211145
or just making him really jealous somehow
>>17211153
I've never had a relationship, this must be really hard for you
Been dating a girl for the past two months, we are now exclusive. Kind of think I love her but don't really know what the feeling is, I've had a few flings in my life but have never really cared for a girl like I care for this girl. /adv/ can you explain at all what love feels like so I can at least compare my feelings.
"Love" is just that thing you tell girls when trying to coerce them into sex.
>>17211186
Found the libertarian.
>>17211186
I.. wish this were a lie.
My job has consumed my life /adv/. I don't even have time for playing games anymore. Can't even go out with friends. The worst part is that the people in there are terrible. There is no single redeeming factor about working in there other than if I don't work I'll die of hunger. I just want to quit so bad but it's the first time I've actually gotten something permanent with health benefits and all.
Still I would like something else. But I've already spent years going job after job to only get Seasonal or temp jobs. Is there any way to apply online for a job that is not as time consuming, I can earn decent cash and I can work from home? I can't take anything temporary or Seasonal since I have bills to pay as well as college.
Could any of you point me in the direction of specific companies I can apply to? I have more than a year of experience in customer service as week in banking, accounting and fraud prevention.
Also could any of you guys share shitty job experiences as well?
>>17211030
It's better to have a job and be productive than to play video games. Believe me.
>>17211133
True. I don't feel ok with being a neet either. But I'd rather have something with a little more balance. This job is making me depressed. My relationship has deteriorated as well because of it. I wish I had something I actually like doing though that would be a bonus I guess. I wouldn't mind a job giving customer service for a company from my home but I have no idea of how it works or where to start.
I already applied to a few places but I'm scared of taking them because I may end up worse off than I am right now.
>>17211291
Btw none of the places have called me back.
I met this cute girl in party. Basically it is as good as it might get, but there is a twist - I'm 19 she's 16. Age of consent in my country is 16, but I feel like it's somewhat morally wrong. What should I do - stop this flirt shit I am doing atm, or do I get in her panties and heart?
>>17210988
stop. it is morally wrong
>>17210998
You misspelled "legally".
>>17210988
panties and heart
If I play the confident, alpha male, "asshole" act I score with girls. Nothing after that (I tried).
If I'm myself and actually meet people I'm interested in and talk about the things I like the friendships with my female friends are always "too innocent" and I get "friendzoned" (I tried).
What the hell should I do to actually find a girl I like that likes me back?
Pic unrelated
You're befriending alpha female assholes if they think you're too innocent to date them.
>>17210991
The reason I develop friendships with girls is because they aren't all about mainstream media, being in a group and being nothing but impulsive and thinking about yourself.
I value it when a girl actually has a differentiated opinion on things, has interests and can make decisions on their own. I don't want to be the hero "leader" and hold a girls hand and show her the way. Not the ENTIRE time in a relationship.
Girls I become friends with are also usually older than me. I'm 21
>>17210997
Could you be "trying" wrong then, if you end up friendzoned? Do you just straight up confess and ask them out, or do you slowly deepen the friendship by flirting with them, breaking the touch barrier more and more, teasing them and so on?
