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I know these threads pop up often, but I still haven't really found a cure, so to speak. Be it a manner of thinking, a faith, or whatever.
I'm not a person with a strong sense of faith. It isn't because I don't want to be or anything, I'm just not. The thought of oblivion freaks me out.
I mean, I've tried justifying it logically. Consciousness is just the self-observed experience of information processing. Life is a form of information processing. Dying loses information, but my fundamental particles have been around since the start of the universe and don't ever really stop existing (or they get converted into energy, which doesn't stop existing, etc.) Even in the theorized heat death of the universe, my physical components exist, albeit in a level of equilibrium across the infinite cosmos.
But that doesn't help /me/, my ego/soul/whatever the mental identity occupying this physical form is called, you know? I know a lot of people turn to religion, friends and family included, but I just can't bring myself to believe in it without some hard proof, you know?
>>17212492
You either ignore it or fool yourself into having faith. But really it doesn't matter if you can accept the reality and finality of your death because it's going to happen no matter what.
>>17212525
There's gotta be some means of finding, at least, mental peace.
>>17212492
A hallmark of science is accepting the fact that you really just DON'T know some things, and until new information sheds light on ambiguous processes like death and consciousness, you're better off saying "yeah I honestly don't know" rather than latching to any firm belief be it religious or cynical. Rather than focusing on existence as a whole, research smaller aspects such as consciousness, death, patterns in the cosmos ect. Exestinstal theory is mainly philosophical with knit-picked chunks of sciences scattered in. Look at the smaller pieces before the bigger picture or you'll be confused, depressed and overwhelmed. Also I would recommend talking about this kind of thing to a community besides 4chan
I'm about to start a new job in a single parent household. And frankly, I am a bit nervous.
I know that I am a relatively attractive young female. The father of the family who hired me is an educated, smart man, but I'm still slightly concerned. I've worked as a nanny before in a family where the father was shamelessly flirting with me to the point where it was border-line sexual harassment. I'm not traumatized or anything, but I guess having that experience has made me extra cautious.
So how do I keep my boundaries and avoid giving out any false signals? I think that the balance is a bit difficult, since we are both a straight man and a woman living under a same roof, me being a family member yet also an employee. I wanna do my work well and I like the family a lot and the father hasn't given me any reason to be suspicious really, but I'm still worried that things will be more or less awkward between us once I move in.
Suck his dick and you will have him around your fingers.
Dress like shit and dont wear makeup
>>17212429
Project a professional attitude. You're likely doing it anyway, but that's my first choice. You've got it clear in yojr head that you don't want anything more than the relationship you agreed to. You provide a service and he pays for that service, and that is all that should exist. Doesn't mean you can't be friendly (as you are living in the same house, so it'd be weird not to). I also reccomend you trying your clothes on in front if a mirror. See what you feel and look most attractive in, and try not to wear those clothes often if you think it could draw unwanted attention.
I've never flirted with a girl because i'm afraid they'll find me creepy
How do I learn when it is okay to flirt with a girl so I can hopefully try at some point
Not sure OP. I learned from an early age that some people aren't "allowed" to flirt. Getting /fit/ doesn't seem to change anything
>>17211605
try it on your sister/mother as like a test then flirt with a real girl
>>17211642
this
if you happen to be succesfull, you could also get some kissing/sex practice with them
Why should I keep going?
>>17211550
You might as well beat life campaign mode.
>>17211557
But what does that mean?
>>17211561
It means do your best while you still have a shot.
You know what to do.
Last thread: >>17203866
My gf said sometimes it takes me a long time to cum
>>17210749
I don't want to go to college. I did one semester, I hated it, it was stressful and depressing. I don't want to do 4 years of it and jump through all their hoops so I can get an boring office job and have a kinda big house in the suburbs, a slightly newer car than my neighbor, and extra tv channels
I don't want to do trades it's for retards I can achieve better than that
There are no good career paths
I've only ever had sex with fat girls, as in chubby to obese. they all felt the same pretty much, and I just figured that's how most women felt. I just had sex with a skinny girl last night, and what a difference it was. everything was so tight, and smooth, and bouncy. is this what I've been missing? are all skinny girls this way? or just girls with some muscle tone, less fat?
>wanting to fuck a bony angular skeleton
how the hell could anyone enjoy that, you should stick with the soft and plush fat girls
>>17210223
but it was so different. I do like bigger girls, but her tits were literally bouncing, and her legs were tight and her back felt so smooth and contoured.
>>17210241
Yeah fat chicks are gross
They smell bad probably and you would feel your fingers digging into fat the whole time and they're body is all lumpy
How do I move away from having sex with hookers and smoking weed all day?
I enrolled in school because I thought going to school would snap me out of this but it didn't really help. Honestly I feel like the same person who just changed their situation
Would kill to be a well rounded normie with a gf and plans for the weekend.
Fuck this life bro.
>>17214818
>I enrolled in school because I thought going to school would snap me out of this but it didn't really help.
probably because most people in school want to just party and smoke weed. maybe getting a hobby and decent friends would help? but that is easier said than done.
If you want to move away from a negative behavior then start by limiting it.
>>17214839
And use friends and money as my new coping mechanism?
fucking hell, why is life so gay familia
There's a girl who I like so much cuz I always have fun with and she's sweet as fuck, like I'd want from girl that I'd have a serious relationship with.
My real problem?
She's not that beautiful, and... I feel like people would judge badly...
I've been in other relationship and always my ex-gf have been fucking hot chicks with perfect boobs and asses, so used to be "judged well".
How can I change this shitty mind-set?
I am feeling so fucking weird guys...
Do it, endure the weird, grow a pair in the process.
Fuck man, why do people care so much about what other people will think of them?
Be yourself! Be yourself around her too, and just have fuckin' fun. Instead of some peice of ass, try having something substantial for once you turd.
Also, fuck you anon for thinking you're better than her.
>>17214670
What if I don't want to walk around with her in populated places? This society is shitty af and... ffs.
Will I really grow a pair?
I have really bad anxiety and my boyfriend pushes me to do things that increase my anxiety.
He doesn't understand and thinks I am being difficult.
I don't know what to do. I am pretty sure he is starting to hate me.
you guys do not sound compatible. try explaining to him how serious it is to you. if he doesn't even try to understand that, he isn't gonna be good for you.
What does he pushes you to do?
>>17214650
He wants to go to a new restaurant that just opened in town. I can't do it yet because it will be so new and busy and outside my comfort zone. It's so selfish, I know. I just can't do it.
>Just finished my masters
>Now I feel like killing myself
Is this normal?
>>17214619
Masters in what?
Why do you feel like killing yourself? This needs elaboration.
Yes it is. Just keep going with the flow for a while and don't think much. A year or two at work and you will get the feel of it
well you have pretty much ended a chapter in your life, take some time off and have fun doing something else, like drinking away your life or eating junk food until you no longer can move---
also congrats on your masters!
Serious question: How do I into Jewish cronyism? Specifically with regards to job/money/social connections. I am of 100% Jewish ancestry, but my parents are poor and have no connections. My mother attends Shul at a tiny Chabad centre with mostly other lower class Yiddish congregation and I can't get her to join an upscale temple in the rich neighborhood or the country club where all the rich Jews play golf. I myself am non observant and NEET, so it would be weird to just join those things on my own- the thing about Judaism is its fine for you mom to bring you places and introduce you to people.
Be observant.
Go to a good college with a lot of jews.
Don't leech off your parents you worthless neet.
>>17214613
Fuck you my parents made me I can leech off them all I want as long as I don't have kids of my own, which I can't since I'm still a virgin
>>17214599
you stupid Jew, you're probably a mizrahi
Just hang out with rich Jews aka Ashkenazi
At my job there was a guy I really liked for the longest time. I'm too much of a pussy to do much about shit like that, so long story short one of my friends because his fuck buddy(he doesn't do relationships. She went super crazy over him. He and I became friends after. A year later here we are. We had hung out before this so no big deal. I invite him to my place to watch a movie.
>he sits really close
>he starts rubbing his knuckles lightly against my leg
>after movie he asks if he can kiss me
>went to banging pretty fast after that
Afterwards, I joke about texting him at 3 a.m. that I have feelings for him. We laugh about other crap.
Few days later I ask if he'd like to hang out. So we go eat and end up back at my place. We listen to music together.
>Sit in front of record player
>Tells me I can sit with him
>He holds my hand
>Tells me I can rest my head on his shoulders and taps his fingers along to music
Literally one of the best experiences in my life. We didn't do anything else. I drove him home and we held hands the entire way. I honestly don't know if he likes me more than just a friend/fuck buddy. Like I was prepared for just sex and that made me catch serious feels. I feel like there's no way I'm reading too into it. We've been texting and I feel like I'm already acting fucking weird. That shit is not fuck buddyish right? This is new to me
*so long story short one of my friends became his fuck buddy(he doesn't do relationships)
Be upfront and all him. You know he's a fuckboy, so don't get your hopes up.
>>17214688
I really wouldn't say he's a fuckboy. He's told me a lot about himself to where I think not being in relationship is a safe guard.
>Got the grades back from previous semester
>Got D- for one course
>Coursework consists of group essay and an exam
>Suspected that someone plagiarized as I don't think the exam was that hard
I want to ask the people Ive collaborated with to see what mark they got for this course to see if it was really plagiarism. We created a Whatsapp group for our essay group. How should I phrase my question?
>Hey guys, what did you all get? I think proffesor so-and-so didn't like my essay (or some lame excuse like assignment, tardiness or something)
???????????
Is it hard to ask?
>>17214538
Well it is OUR essay not just my essay
>>17214564
>>17214564
I was being general. For me it has always been discussion on our final essays, which happen to be in class essays or research papers.
Posted yesterday, no advice was given.
I have a profession issue:
I've been working at this dream job of mine (Rollercoaster technician)
Well the job is awesome and it pays well, or well, it should pay well:
I've been doing this for almost 18months under doubble extensions of the original 6-month "try out contract" wich pays me about 1000€ less then my fellow technicians.
I mean at the end of the day, I do the same if not more work then my collegues and I still make so much less money!
The idea of the "try-out contract" is that I work 6 months for a smaller sallary while they get a chance to see me in action: "If Im a good fit for the position".
I should, after those 6 months, get a full time contract with full pay but instead the "people holding the cash" decided to just extend the try out for another 6 months! And then when those 6 months were up they did it again!!
I have bills to pay and shit to buy! + I'm trying to find a better apt and "I don't have a full time contract" usually don't sit well with the landlords.
Anyways..
My current 6 months are almost fulfilled and I really want to get the full time contract this time!
I want to send some pressure up the chain of command and make them atleast think about it.
>What do I do?
Also: My boss isn't the problem, he wants to give me the contract, it's higher up the chain where they're being cheap.
I love this job, I just can't walk away. After this any other job will feel dull so...
I'm sorry to hear that anon. This happens a lot in Mexico too, but sadly I'm not from there and cannot give advice. Any form of legal help or a union to turn to? It's really fucked to get renewed for a contract meant for beginners. I think it's best not to sign, but you could also not be guaranteed a job elsewhere.
so there was a contract involved?
sue. fuck em, you've been fucked three times now and they haven't even sucked you off.
>>17214518
But if I sue them = Very unlikely I'll get the job.
As a guy who usually don't like to work, I've found what I want to do: This shit!
I was so bored working production lines (Original education: Industrial Technician) but I know I want to work with Technologies and it doesn't get much cooler then climbing coasters!
I can't just leave, not when Im this close to getting it, there's no guarantee that I get a chance to work with this kind of thing again.
Last year around this time I met a guy. It was funny because when we talked I blushed hard and I turned away from him after like two sentences. Even funnier he did the same I think. I got this gut feeling to check his pants. We were at the gym by the way. He does the most awkward thing and turns around, lays on the bench, and starts doing barbells. He does 3 or 4 of them. I instinctively get this feeling to check his pants because I felt like he liked me. I swear I saw a nob in his gym shorts But my memory is so fuzzy I can't trust this memory. He tells me his name before I leave towards the end of my workout moments later, I never see him again for an entire year. I did think about him over the year, almost in disbelief if he existed or not, he seemed like my perfect husband, but I was taking it for granted because he wasn't around and I was busy with college. To my surprise this monday, I'm back in my hometown from college, I get a gym membership, and I am doing a workout looking at the mirror. I thought moments before I wonder if I'll ever run into him again. He walks in the door, I can see him in the mirror, I recognize his body shape, but i write it off and convince myself it was not him. He was kind of blurry because I wasn't wearing my glasses. I just keep doing my workout, and I hear him come say "why arent you driving your BMW today". I never told him what car i drove. I mean it was the only one in the parking lot last year when we met, but still how did he remember me, how did he remember what i drove without me confirming it? Anyways he goes into the treadmill room. And i can't stop my body, i follow him. I just casually mount the treadmill right next to his. He talks to me the entire time before I had to leave to get ready for work like i told him. He is turned towards me the entire time whlie hes jogging on the treadmill. I can't believe anything thats happening, i convinced myself not to think anything of it.
>>17214499
give me a minute to post the rest
>>17214499
He told me where he worked, he told me about his car painting hobby. He showed me pictures on his phone. Like was it too much? Should i be suspicious? I guess it was casual enough to not freak me out? Anyways the part that didn't get me was the fact he talked to me for so long especially because I cant think of any other motive for it other than interest. I tell him I have to go, he stops running and actually walks me out a ways out of the gym, not to the door, but like far enough to make me question what he was doing. We have only just met right? I remembered to tell him my name. God I'm such a robot, I wish I had done something more obvious, but playing this stupid gay game is so hard. I hope he understands why I was holding back. Anyways, I am smitten I go home. Then i feel doom because I want to see him again and I can't wait another day. A day goes by and im on the verge of tears and a psychotic breakdown. I promised I would go to the gym every day at the same time so I would see him again. He wasnt there the next day. I knew this would happen, especially since he told me he just worked out whenever his schedule allowed him to because of his job. The second day, I am on my way to the gym. I had diahrea all morning, and I decided to take a detour to the grocery store. I see his car outside and I park 2 spots from his. I run inside looking through the aisles trying to find him. Theres this lady i almost run into she jumps as I'm rushing through the aisles. Anyways hes nowhere in sight, and I just get my stuff and go to the checkout. At the checout i forgot to bring my wallet from my car, I walk outside in hopes of seeing him at his car maybe in case i missed him in the grocery store. I end up seeing the lady i spooked, loading his car with groceries. It was his mom. I go to my car and pick up my wallet, turn around and ask her "did you paint your car". She laughs and says no her son painted it for her. She then tells me
>>17214499
she then tells me about her son how he was in his late 20s, how he did this as a hobby/business. It was so weird because she then starts asking questions about me: like did i speak spanish too? yes. Are you from around here? yes. And then she says do u want his busniess card? yes. she doesnt have one and asks to write my number out of nowhere? like was this too forceful? i agreed. HEres where im feeling real cognitive dissonance. I was so intoxicated by him, i honestly dont remember what number I gave this lady. anyways she then compliments me on how pretty my eyes were etc etc. and the entire time i got the feeling that the man of my dreams might just be gay because of how his mom was acting. it was so familiar. like it was like she was trying to find a suitor for her son with her questions. I am assuming he still lives with his mom because of how she said she was driving his car because she had to pick him up at work later that day. She then asks me "what time do you want him to call you" im thinking really lady? this is sounding more personal and less professional. but inside i was jumping with joy. I tell her anytime he wants i guess. She then asks me if i worked at the grocery store because i was walking back towards the inside of it. i say no, and i tell her where i really worked, etc. And she left. Anyways, it has been two whole days since i met his mom. And i have not seen him at the gym, or received a text from him. I dont know what to think of all this mess, there are too many coincidences. I have been right before about my assumptions, but the fact he hasnt called me , is really fucking me over. I know i will get my answer soon because i will run into him eventually. But what can i assume right now to keep my peace of mind? I cant confirm if hes gay, i cant confirm if he likes me. All i can compare this to is the fact no one talks to me and the only people who have ever actually talked (cont)
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