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Okay guys soo, I need help. I don't really know why I need help but I do. This is going to be a super lame super boring story. But anyways, so awhile ago my boyfriend had lost his job and he had a good job that paid for everything, our apartment our brand new car . We were doing moderately okay. Only able to pay the bills not really able to put food on the table, but my job(which is at a restaurant) was able to do that. Back in November though him and his manager had a falling out and my boyfriend ended up being forced to walk away from this job. But he didn't have another job in place for him, he kind of just got stressed out and left. which helped nothing. But 5 or so months later and he's working a job that only gives him 6 hours a week and we are stuck living at his grandparents house. They plan on moving out once there lease is up end of July and he tried talking to his mom about us moving in with her but I don't know how that's going to turn out. So I guess I need help in a lot of ways.
One, our car got impounded a while ago and I just recently had time of from my job to be able to go and get our stuff that was being held at the impound lot only to find out that not all my stuff is there, I would assume(because I had these drawingy little sister did for me on some scrap paper) that they tthrew that away, I'm missing jewelery that I know was in the car because I don't have it. And by the way, a lot of our stuff was in the car. Once he lost the job and we moved in with his grandparents we weren't really comfortable staying here all the time so we practically still had half our apartment packed in the car. including more than half our clothes and some boxes. Well I also had this cross that my grandma gave me that was like baptized and all that holy mama jama. Well they cut the necklace.
And I've had that thing for 15 years and I was waiting till I got a car to hang it from the rearview mirror to sort of honor her(I know they couldn't have know that but they still cut the beads that made up the necklace) also I had a garage opener in the car that I didn't get back and my boyfriend is still missing clothes. So I don't know if they stole this stuff from me and if when I call and they tell me, ' oh we don't have it.' What should I say? And then the other thing I need help with(to who ever is still reading up until this point,...
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There's nothing to be done about the stuff that was lost/damaged/stolen. The only advice I can give regarding your situation is to find better work for you both. You have to make more money to move out again. Plain and simple. He can go work for a pipeline or construction company. They will train him and everything, but he needs to go get a TWIC card. I have no clue how much money you make as a waitress, but I work part time as a bank teller and make $13.25 an hour (started at $11.15). Neither of these jobs require more than a high school diploma or GED.
How hard is it to get into medical school?
I'm a good student, have been volunteering at my hospital for 8 years (since highschool), shadowed several doctors, participated in several anatomy/physiology competitions, and took all the medical classes my school had to offer. Yet still, I fear rejection. Is it as rough as everyone says it is?
>>17217621
If you've really done all of that and you're still asking this question sincerely, you might wanna reconsider.
>>17217621
I know a lot of med school kids and they're high-strung as hell so I could never roll in that career. Honestly they make me want to kill myself. But to be honest none of them strike me as brilliant, they're just super hard-working and quoteunquote "smart", as in they studied a lot and did well on the MCAT
Honestly your resume sounds impressive, if you've been studying hard as fuck, getting great grades and do well on tests I would keep going for it. But this is my outsider perspective.
>>17217633
I am serious. I just didn't know if anyone here has similar experiences as me and have been rejected.
I just want to make sure I take the right steps
Maybe that's just plain weird, but lately I've had the severe urge to get in a fight and mess someone up. I've forced confrontations and been more aggressive in public, but nobody has picked a serious fight with me yet. I get these flashing images in my head of me fighting someone whenever I'm outside, I imagine in great detail how I would hurt them and what I'd do to them. I can't turn this off and I seem to be on auto pilot whenever this happens.
Weirdly enough this has made me more confident and more outgoing as well, I don't have a...
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Of course it's a bad thing you fucking idiot
>>17217582
Sincerely, I am not joking here:
Are you a teenage boy? How old are you? What gender are you? Do you feel frustrated about a specific thing? Would you consider yourself "edgy"?
I know a lot of these sound like memes and jokes, but you may have bipolar disorder or something similar. I know because I have it, and while I don't take meds for it anymore, treatment has gotten it under control.
>>17217588
But it has made me more extroverted and I can finally talk to people.... Isn't that the goal?
>>17217598
I'm male, 20. Not really edgy, no. The exact opposite, extremely polite and introverted and usually trying my best to not be noticed or not be in the way. I know how that sounded, I understand why you're asking these questions. I don't feel frustrated about anything special, just the usual stuff really.
I have a dilemma about undergrad college choice. I plan to be a lawyer and go to law school, which means first I have to get a baccalaureate. Now I have a number of considerations:
Going into my senior year, I have a 3.3 GPA and a 1500 (new) SAT. I'm planning on retaking the SAT in October to up my score though. Because of my GPA, I can't expect to get into any good schools, but luckily that isn't so important because I have to go to grad school anyway.
Now I have a number of choices for where I can go for undergrad and what I can major in, which...
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It's all a matter of money. What can you afford and what are you willing to pay?
>>17217579
Latin is a dead and worthless language.
Study german, spanish, chinese, anything but Latin. Being a functional bilingual speaker will give you a client edge if you make if through law school.
If money is a factor , do 2 years at the local community college and get your core undergrad year 1 and 2 curriculum out of the way. There's literally no benifit for taking freshman courses at universities.
You also need to tailor your undergrad coursework and possible major to compliment your law school...
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>>17217579
If you can afford it, definitely go to the state college. It'll be a much better springboard to a great grad school, and given how saturated the field is right now, every little bit helps.
Otherwise, if you can't afford it definitely don't, because it'll be hard enough to get a job afterwords that you don't also want to be in debt.
Pic unrelated
Is hentai, loli, or animal sex images (I'm not into some of that but I find it in some of my collections) illegal in USA or any specific states?
>>17217569
Animal stuff I specifically mean hentai type
Yeah dude, you'll probably get jailed for being a pedophile and bestiality images
Are you literally retarded?
Months ago, my ex took the dog she got when we were together to the vet. I didn't want a dog, so the agreement was that it was her responsibility. Weeks later, she goes off her meds and just leaves me. I get left with the dog. There's an outstanding balance on the vet bill and it's in her name only. I get a call from the vet today and they said they called her, but she said it wasn't her dog and gave them my number. I said I wasn't going to pay it and gave them her parents' address (where she is currently living). They said I might still get a letter...
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>>17217555
Right now I'm more concerned for the dog. It's a living animal fucksake and you're treating a piece of paper as more importance than it.
How much is it? Is it a significant amount or are you squabbling over nothing out of spite for your ex?
>>17217609
That's not advice
OP didn't even say anything about not taking care of the dog. It's about a responsibility and large bill that was dumped onto him
Got engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years, I'll be 21 and he'll be 22 in two months. I'm so happy but scared about ringing my parents tomorrow. I have to call them as I am over 150km away from home. My Mom can be emotionally abusive and I have depression and anxiety so I feel I need her approval. My Dad isn't like her but he's likely to agree we are "too young" to get engaged even though getting married will be down the road a few years. I'm actively seeking work where he lives so we can save up and move out from his parents' house who...
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>>17217508
>my age shouldn't be the deciding factor.
When you grow up you will realize that it is.
>>17217508
My parents eloped at that age if it's any consolation. They had pretty mental parents. They made it 25 years before my dad's fucked up childhood caught up to him and he ran off.
I wish I could get married but probably never will so at least you're getting married young.
Honestly tho there's no softening the blow. Just gotta do it outright. if it feels right i guess it's right but yr young and probably have a lot of life left to experience. But if it's right then maybe yr...
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>>17217508
Why does every 20-24 year old brat think they're so special and older folks know nothing? There's a reason people are saying you're too young: it's because you are. People with much more experience in these affairs than you have are trying to stop you from doing something retarded.
girlfriend just broke up with me, advice?
>>17217459
move on
chill senpai, you don't need her you are better off without. move on and re-connect with those friends you lost because of her
>>17217469
>re-connect with those friends you lost because of her
Why do you assume he lost friends because of her?
Sup /adv/, I need your help. My girlfriend got diagnosed Bipolar a few weeks ago, then later got rediagnosed as depressed, and we're really confused. For months my girlfriend has been struggling with her emotions, going through mood swings and crying all throughout the day. Personally, we are thinking its Bipolar disorder, but the meds they gave her (citalopram) made her feel completely hopeless, suicidal and completely miserable. As a person with severe depression and anxiety myself, I understand it taking multiple med testing to see which ones work, but I'd like...
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>>17217424
> gave her citalopram for bipolar
uhm. WHAT? No. I believe you're NOT supposed to give bipolar SSRIs because that makes mania worse. Maybe they thought it was depression at first?
I'm not a psychiatrist though, so anybody with more knowledge can let us know.
>>17217424
But at this point, if citalopram made it worse, I'd guess it's bipolar. Lithium??
I'm really sorry for your girlfriend. I wish she has a quick recovery.
>>17217434
Shit, that's my bad. Just confirmed with her it was for when they diagnosed her Depressed. They WANTED to give her Abilify or Lamictal for the bipolar diagnosis.
At what age should you kill yourself for being a semi-virgin failure who never had a relationship?
30?
150
>>17217320
I'm in a relationship and still feel like killing myself
The ride never ends
You were either born normal or you weren't
>>17217335
This. If you don't sex by a 150 years old then it's too late.
/adv/, I don't know if I can do it anymore. I have no problem talking to women. I'm one of the funniest people to hangout with and I'm the life of the fucking party. But, no matter how hard I try, I can't get a woman to sleep with me. I'm not ugly person and I'm often told that I'm a really good guy. I'm at wit's end and absolutely terrified of never meeting a woman who will want me. What do?
>>17217307
Try surrounding yourself with sluts.
>>17217311
I've dated nothing but sluts (which I feel wrong to say). I'm not sure if it's my personality or what.
>>17217307
Maybe you're being really obvious in only really caring about getting laid.
I want to become asexual. Rid myself of all sexuality.
If I didnt have a physical need to want to slam my genitals inside of a females genitals to reproduce this would be so much better.
No more struggle when a girl advertises her body wearing ripped rage bairly considered "clothes"
No more hours spent on porn
No more competition between animals judging eachother based on what and how much money and objects they have or how physically fit their body is.
No worrys about the manipulative slut trying to trick me into legally robbing me.
No more...
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willpower is all you need
if you want it to be asexual more than you want to be sexual, than you can do it
It will take time and you will mess up but you can do it if you really want it.
>>17217259
I was taught when I was a pre-pubescent teenager to repress all my sexuality. At first I resented that, and let it go out my first year of college, but I quickly went back to repressing it because I wasted so much time. So for the decade or so of repressing my sexuality, even through my horniest years, I didn't think of sex until a friend brought it up. How? I focused intensely on hobbies, which dominated my mind even when I wasn't working on them. This is the way.
>>17217259
> that photo
HAHAHA omg that's the funniest thing I've seen all night. Is this a Japanese made porno?
Are Japs after black dick now?
I made it. I have a girlfriend. However, I remain an autist at heart - which is making waiting for her while she visits her parents for a week unbearable and lonely as fuck. All my best friends moved away years ago so I have no one to hang with, except for this other grill who I asked out but got turned down by months before I met my qt3.14. We stayed 'friends'. I want to ask her to hang and come with me to the movies, but I'm unsure if she will take it as another attempt at a date. Is it socially acceptable/ok to ask her to hang out as friends? I'm afraid that if I see noone this week I'm gonna devolve back into my old self and I can't let that happen. I'm almost a normie. Tell me your thoughts friends. You've helped me before and I trust your judgment.
>>17217237
you got a gf and you want to hangout with a girl you asked out before, fuck you OP dont do it. play vydia or go to the gym. if you ask her out to the movies and your gf finds out who knows how she will handle it. dont do it.
You need to get some damn hobbies, and friends. Focus on those when she's away and you'll be good.
i left town for a week and my slut 3 yr ex found someone else.
Why is it always when i like something, i want to show it to people, but noone cares?
eh, people have different taste and opinions but sometimes you will find ones with the same but not usually everything.
>>17217213
Are you just posting stuff on your facebook and expecting "like" and validation comments from your peers? Is that the only thing that gives you pleasure is knowing others "like" your taste in whatthefuckever? We all want to fit in but you're doing it for all the wrong reasons
>>17217213
Try being subtle about it instead of waving it in their face and screaming LOOK AT HOW FUCKING GOOD THIS IS, LIKE IT HAHA XD
Why do people think suicide is selfish? I'm tlaking about when people say "it's selfish you have family that cares about you etc" that kinda shows you are sheltered. There are some people who don't have anyone who loves them or any firends ( anyone to miss them at all) the world doesn't work like that.
Did your parents finger your butt when you were little too?
There are both sides to it and you just answered yourself.
Its selfish if you off yourself when you have people who came about you and its not if no one knows your alive.
>>17217098
I don't think it's selfish, but it's still wrong. Generally, when a person feels suicidal, they do not feel good enough for the world, maybe that they are doing the world a favor by no longer existing.
I feel like calling a suicidal person selfish just causes this depressed person to be even more depressed. But I feel like it's a phrase people use to alienate themselves from that problem. That it's all your fault your depressed and I have nothing that will help you.
