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hey, to any of you who've ever fought a speeding ticket or just know law, I'm interested if I can do anything here?
So, I was parked on top of a hill that is about a football field and a half wide, maybe two; and as I pulled out, I rolled down on my 98' accord and about five seconds later, maybe less, I get pulled over. Sirens started blaring about halfway down and than closer to the bottom we stopped.
He said I was going 43 in a 30. I didn't ask him if he could show me it, it seemed weird, but I suppose it's at least possible.
It just seemed incredibly predatory and wrong to just watch me get in my car at the top of the hill, roll down on an incline for a couple seconds (5), and than immediately get a ticket. I just don't think that's reasonable.
To anyone with knowledge of any of this, I'd appreciate it to hear what you think; if I should challenge/have a case or I'm just retarded.
>>17218815
>if I should challenge/have a case or I'm just retarded.
If those are the only two options, I'm afraid I'll have to go with just retarded. You might get a judge to be sympathetic to speeding in some circumstances (I was bleeding out and on my way to the hospital, my speedometer was broken and I've had that confirmed by the mechanic and since had it fixed) but "I just got in my car a few seconds ago and was going down a hill" is almost certainly not one of them.
Were you speeding though?
So you want to contest it, even though you say yourself you don't know how fast you were going? top kek.
Also if you knew he was watching you, why didn't you take more care?
So there is this chinese student that I've become friends with recently. I'm not trying to pursue a long term relationship with her, but I just want to fuck. She does seem to like me. There has been subtle signs.
I need advice on how I take it to that level or close.
She's 22 (i'm 20) and a 7/10. Her english is 7.5/10.
>pic not her
WTF !!
I have the same problem !
>>17218765
It's a sucky situation huh...?
The first problem is actually knowing if getting to the stage is even possible. She's a foreign student. I cant exactly read if she plays those games. And ofc, im not someone who knows how to initiate them.
>>17218762
Guys, if you are in a decent tier nation (Europe, UK or US) you have to realize that people from shit tier nations will jump at the chance to marry you or have your baby because it will mean getting out of their hellhole.
It doesn't mean they love you.
Part three of the sister thing I guess thanks for sticking around guys
Old stuff >>17208077 >>17213248
Is my sister trying to fuck with me?
We're both women the difference being Im 20 and shes 16, usually we sleep in separate rooms but this week my aunt and some of her kids are staying here so my sister is sleeping in my room as theyve taken up hers
For the past three nights she seems to have taken the habit of masturbating furiously right next to me in bed like half an hour after we go to "sleep.' Im clearly not asleep but pretend I am and I dont know how she wouldnt see that. She also moans fucking right next to me and yesterday I nearly screamed as she groped my leg while orgasming but kept pretending not to wake up.
Why is she doing this? Shes not a lesbian that I know of and were sisters. How do I stop this?
>>17218740
You guys here again?
Is she still sleeping?
Just wait until she's doing it again and go for it. She'll be so horny she wouldn't dream of saying no and you'll get to live out a wild ass fantasy
I'm in love, I can't have her, If things were different we could be together which makes things worse than her not caring about me. How am I supposed to get over her? Especially if I have to socialise with her?
>>17218730
You allready know what to do anon.
> If things were different we could be together
Yeah well, if things were different i'd be an astronaut
>>17218730
>>17218804
There's always a way to make things different.
Defeat is a choice, the claims of >>/r9k/ be damned. There's always a way.
Being friends with your ex. Do or do not?
Preferably not, may mess up future relationships.
Nine times out of ten I'd say no. Just because it can cause unnecessary drama and strain in your relationship. Also, some girls/guys won't be okay with you still keeping in contact with your ex unless you absolutely have to. It's just usually more work than you think it would be, but I don't know your situation.
Yes...
But we came back together after 1 month of being friends... We talked about what made us break up and forgave each other...
We've been together for 5 years now.
What are the best Pre-Code movies?
PS: /tv/ is full of millenial newfags, that's why I am here.
The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari
Precode or early movies in general?
Not precode, but an excellent early movie is Sunrise by F.W. Murnau
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pre-Code_Hollywood
>>17218729
Early great movies are ok, but Pre-Code ones are especially welcome. I want that feeling of freedom before the Puritans ruined it for all.
>>17218705
Checking right now, thanks!
This is a boring story, so stop reading now if you came for entertainment. I just want a second opinion on this generic question of mine. It's not all that interesting. I'm going to overexplain so anyone who wants to respond can have a full understanding of the situation.
A few days ago I posted a slightly racist rant on this forum, where I talked about how I hated multiculturalism in the US. I gave examples from my own life in the story, identifying myself as a half white half japanese male, 19 yrs old. I talked about the problems racial diversity has caused in my life, and how I felt disadvantaged in dating. I linked statistics from various dating websites and polls to support my claims.
This P.C lady, an attractive white woman, angrily responded to me and told me that Asians aren't disadvantaged. She accused me of not actually being who I said I was in the story. That I was lying to about my race, my age, etcetera. Usually I don't put pictures of myself online, but this bitchy lady was annoying me with her accusations, so I private messaged her a timestamped selfy to prove her wrong.
After I sent her a picture of myself, she took on a nicer tone. She told me she thought I was handsome, and that she didn't understand why I couldn't get a girlfriend. I ranted to her some more about social issues, and one of my points was that asian women are dating white guys, so there's no options for asian men like myself. To that she responded that she and some of her caucasian friends had dated asians in the past. I go on ranting about more social issues. I won't go into the fine details because it will take too long. The last post she sent me included her trying to refute all my points, and then the last sentence she wrote was that she thought I was intelligent and handsome, and that I shouldn't have problems finding a girlfriend.
I was getting sick of reading her bullshit so I stopped responding. Didn't respond again for 3 days
She normally posts on the forums every day, but for 2 days after we had the conversation, she just randomly stopped posting on the forum. 2 days after the conversation we had, she came back on the site and started posting normally. A day after that I was in a bad mood, so I decided to message her and refute all of the positive shit she said to me in her message 3 days ago in a very long, autistic rant. After I messaged her with that rant, she completely disappeared from the forum again. She hasn't posted for 6 days despite usually being a daily poster.
I haven't thought about this very much, but I see 3 likely possibilities
1.She thinks I have a crush on her, and is ghosting to get me to go away without hurting my feelings
2.Me not responding for 3 days pissed her off, so she's reversing the treatment on me
3.She died
What do you think /adv/? Ya, it's a really petty story, and that's why I warned you all at the beginning. I better not see one of you complaining that you want the time you spent reading this story back! I don't talk to many women, so this mysterious disappearance has been on my mind a lot lately.
>>17218657
are you looking to date this mystery girl or why the fuck do you care?
>>17218667
I kind of want to just message her some more. I don't have many people to talk to.
I'm also just really curious and weirded out. Like, she was a regular poster on the site, posting every day, and now she's just disappeared for 6 days after I messaged her.
Pretty much summarizing my situation to make this quick
Pretty much home life is completely toxic
Still have one year left of school before I can go join the military or go to college
What clubs or anythings of the sort can I do that will keep me away from my house as much as possible (would be nice if indoors since Florida + Summer or really any season = No)
Or should I just make more friends and hang out with them to keep away from home as much as possible?
>>17218615
Chilling with some friends is never a bad idea, shit making them never hurts either.
You're 17 I take it? Because if you're 18 you don't need permission to join the Military and they'll take care of you if you're fit to serve.
Do you have a job? Making and being away from home in your case would help.
>>17218624
>Chilling with some friends is never a bad idea, shit making them never hurts either.
Well Like I said home life is completely toxic and this is not a new occurrence and this spilled into other parts of life
Only have like 1 maybe 2 people I can hang with, so unless I meet someone else or something while hanging with my friend won't really work right now
Gonna have to go out of my way to make friends during my last year I guess, good thing i'm smart, I can probably make friends through tutoring people or something
> don't need permission to join the Military and they'll take care of you if you're fit to serve.
Thedream.jpg
>Do you have a job? Making and being away from home in your case would help.
Nope
Effi on this desu man
But fuck it if It means being away from this shit then fuck yeah, I have literally been spending all my free time on my computer lately so this might help.
>>17218648
> get job
> do something you can semi-like
> get paid
> not at home
> keep money away from family
Shit, after a little shifts you might even be able to put yourself up in a motel or something to stay away if it's gettin' bad at home.
Hi /adv/ , if I don't feel chemistry with a girl right off the bat, should I discontinue seeing her?
So I've seen this other chick about 5 times now, and as much as she's incredibly hot, we don't really seem to have that "chemistry". She's pretty timid because she has an over protective mother (she's 16), and I don't exactly feel enthusiastic to meet up with her again. I'm going to see her again this Sunday. If I don't feel that spark, should I just drop her? Will chemistry come anytime soon?
On the other hand, I met up with a girl I barely knew in high school last night, and we hung out from like 8 PM - 1 AM and it was lots of fun. We had some drinks at the park, went to an arcade, we had really good conversation flow, in general she was lots of fun to be around. Although, apparently she fell into a depression a few months ago and for the most part has no hobbies or interests rn. She also used to have a thing for a close friend of mine about a year ago. They went to prom together, and they were drunk at an after party and the only thing he remembers is fingering her. So he doesn't remember if he fucked her. Also I'm not sure if she still has a thing for my friend.
To sum up all of my questions.
1. Should I drop girl with no chemistry? (desu everything feels kind of forced, even the flirting. cringe.)
2. Is girl w/ depression red flag?
3. Am I cuck if I want to continue seeing this girl because of the possibility of her having fucked and still having a thing for my close friend?
If you want to get rid of her just do it. In fact maybe you could do her a favor by formally setting her up with your friend. That would leave you open to play the field without interference with either.
Get drunk and have sex a bunch then dump her
Depressed girls are the easiest
>>17218607
I'd be down, but my friend doesn't have any time to date rn, plus he's cool w me fucking around w depressed chick. So I guess I'll just drop her after this Sunday.
>>17218609
I would also be down. But. I think I might be in the beginning stages of actually liking this girl?
How do I get people to take me seriously as an autistic person?
I always get the nagging feeling that I'm being treated like a child, especially within my family. It's not straight disrespect or condescension, and I'm willing to entertain the notion that it's just babying because I'm comparatively young and have sort of been the darling for a long time, but I just can't shake this weird vibe. I feel like I'm not always entirely filled-in on things, and as though people in general just recognize that I'm different and treat me differently because of it. I can be an amazing student, aid adults with very adult endeavors, be the single thread that keeps an entire household afloat, help raise children, stare death in the face and carry it on my shoulders, help bring in money, save lives, human and otherwise, face people's dragons with them and help them slay them, be recognized as a fucking genius, and be self-sufficient before I even graduate high school, and it STILL feels like, on some level, I'm not ever going to be treated like a full-fledged adult because I prefer cartoons and Sour Patch Kids over Mad Men and beer.
>>17218572
(CONT)
It's not like I can hide it, either. It comes out in my voice and in the way I move, and I experience the world so fundamentally differently that it's just going to bleed through, one way or another. I know I mature and grow slowly and that I arrive at a lot of things very late. I know I'm naturally very clumsy, and I work very hard to change that about myself because I despise weakness. And I am admittedly childish enough in my interests and mannerisms that very young children tend to treat me as a peer rather than as an adult, but I feel like being all tryhard about being grown-up would be palpably fake of me and no fun, and I feel like being able to relate with kids horizontally is a virtue of mine that I wouldn't want to lose.
Sometimes I even feel like my accomplishments only make it worse. People are entirely willing to that I'm capable of a lot of things, but I feel like that doesn't translate into them caring about my actual perspective on things. I'm valid in a purely utilitarian sense, but my ability in that regard just seems to translate into my outlook being seen as even more alien and thus not taken as seriously.
Sorry for the blog post. I wouldn't really want to broach the topic with anybody IRL, anyway. I just want people to treat me like the sum of my actions and not according to some shallow measure of adulthood or personhood.
Just live ur life bro
It's not what other people do it's what you do and you have to be comfortable in it, and if you are that's the only thing in life that matters
>>17218590
I'm entirely comfortable with who I am, though. I'm a fucking badass. This isn't about my self-esteem. I want my perspective to be taken seriously because I think it would enable me to better help others, and example isn't always enough. I can help fix social and interpersonal problems as well as I can help fix anything else. I really do understand people as well as I understand academic subjects.
My grandparents have been the people my family have looked to for help and advice for decades, and they're on their way out at a time when we're faced with some of our worst problems yet. As conceited as this might sound, I know it's my destiny to be as much of a leader and a patriarch as my granddad is and to hold all this shit together like he did, and I can't fucking do that if people think I'm just a very talented special-needs baby. I want a place in the conversation, not just doing people's homework for them.
Hello /adv/. I already posted a little bit of the story on the get it off your chest thread but this is getting out of hand and I'm freaking out because I don't know what to do or feel in this type of things.
Around two months ago I broke up with my first gf, we only lasted for about 3 months because she wasn't in love with me and both of us felt like it was a waste of time being together as we started arguing a lot. Before the break up I promised her I would go to the prom party even though I didn't want to; since I paid for it I went anyways when we broke up. The day after the prom she texted me asking how was I doing after the break up (it had been a month since then). She told me that she had really not been in love since the beginning, which hurt to hear because she totally acted like she was and she had long term plans that you usually wouldn't have with someone you wouldn't be with in a long term relationship (or so I think).
A month later (this month) I thought I had finally moved on and then a friend told me that in the party, just when I left, she started dating one of my "friends" that told me that she was pretty crazy and that she wasn't worth any time among other things when we broke up. Not only it seemed hypocritical from his part but it also hurt me how she started dating a guy who she never talked to and going so easily with him.
The fact that she had quite some hook ups before and how she suddenly "fell in love" with me so quickly after ending another hook up should have been a small red flag but I was dumb and went for it anyways thinking it was going to be a long term relationship. To top it off today I dreamed again with her, this time was about having sex and about how happy we were together again even though I just wan't to move on.
Do I have a right to be angry? After so much time I should have been able to brush it off and move on but I feel like I have been backstabbed and lied somehow. Is it normal to be still mad at the situation?
I feel like a huge crybaby so feel free to give any kind of feedback if it's helpful or ask anything. I just want to move on nut I need help because I don't know what to do after all this.
Find another pussy and stop being a bitch
You won't give a shit as soon as you kiss another girl
This was your first girlfriend. Naturally you're going to be invested in the idea of the relationship, and disappointed when it ends. Have you been in any other relationships afterwards? I think the best thing to do in this situation would be to be with as many girls as you can, to familiarize yourself with the idea that there are many fish in the sea.
how to change the time of birth control pill?
i'm taking my pill at 3 pm. every day. i need to take it at 9 pm everyday for a month because of ramadan.
pls no bully
Is the world going to end if you take a pill during ramadan?
>>17218547
i'll be fasting, you can't swallow a pill while fasting. i'll be breaking my fast around 8 pm, then i'll take my pill at 9 pm.
Not sure what it's like in your part of the world but here in Aus you have a 12 hour grace period where you're still fine. Taking it at the same time everyday is just to maintain habit.
I use Levlen ED if that's what you're on
How hard would I be giving up if I bought a masturbator/onahole? I've been having a really long dry spell, and doing it with my hands is getting boring.
Would getting one mean accepting total defeat? Is there even a point to them?
waste of money tbhfam
next time you jerk it, make the decision about whether to get one immediately afterwards. if you find that you no longer give a shit after you've blown your load, you probably don't need to get one.
Find a girl
>>17218691
I'm trying. I've become so autistic that I even brought a girl home but forgot to even try making a move.
>>17218576
I haven't jerked it yet, but I guess I won't get one.
How do you keep up your momentum?
Deleted steam like 3 times and I think this is the last time
I need something to keep me occupied to I don't relapse so I have been memorizing the Europe map
Problem is whenever I think of gaming I only think of the good parts when I know in reality it just makes me sad in the long run as is not productive at all, I only remember headshooting people 5 times in a row and don't think about he fact i'm alone in my room and just distracting myself with something that does not help me at all
Also I will never get a gf if I keep up this shit.
Also how the fuck I learn to accept "lonelyness" again, been shitposting everything to get social interactions wasting my time a little bit like I am doing right now every few hours for months now that it's a huge habbit I need to stop.
I'm just trying to make it bros
>>17218509
Just keep it up. Do something productive. Start by "acting like an adult" and keep yourself busy by making things happen. Eventually it won't be an act anymore.
You can still play some games, but it's tough to limit your "intake". Example: I'm a borderline weeb, so when I watch chinese cartoons I end up binging. I limit how often I let myself do that (no more than once a month), because when I am unproductive for more than 2 days I feel down.
Try a hobby with tangible results; some art, music, or even fishing (why not).
(The no 0 day subreddit is almost like a cult and too strict, but they have some good ideas.)
>>17218509
>have been memorizing the Europe map
That.... would keep you occupied.
Buy yourself an egg timer and allot yourself a certain amount of time in your day for each thing you like doing. Incorporate a part-time job in there when you feel like it. If I could find an egg timer I'd do that.
so my girlfriend got into a fight last Halloween with a friend she made in college. Long story short someone was called a slut and they stopped being friends.
The problem is it has been 8 months since this occurred and my gf still has problems with this girl coming over to converse with me or me going to hang out with this girl. My gf wants me to sever all ties with my friend because of Halloween.
the problem gets worse as even if I wanted to sever ties I couldn't because my family is financially supporting my friend and I have to meet her and buy her groceries, gas, and pay her rent to ensure she is okay.
Basically how do I fucking fix this? My gf said to be patient about this but holy shit I wasn't expecting it to take a god damn year. And she keeps pushing for me to stop being friends with her when I tell her it's not possible.
What happened at Halloween?
>>17218496
>because my family is financially supporting my friend and I have to meet her and buy her groceries, gas, and pay her rent to ensure she is okay.
Why would this be? I imagine in such a situation there must be some sort of bond. Do you like her? For that matter, how much do you really like your girlfriend?
>>17218501
college town so the friend that my girlfriend hates had some friends come over. One of them I had dated for 2-3 months which made my gf nervous because an ex of hers cheated on her.
basically I was the DD because I had homework and shit and they went out partying in the frat and sorority houses. I came to pick them up at 3 in the morning and I was stressed as all hell. my ex came up and said she missed me and my stupid brain panicked and I talked with my gf about it afterwards. She proceeded to talk about how my ex was hoeing it up evidently. This pissed off my friend who said some not so nice things about my gf. This went on for 1-2 weeks before I managed to coordinate them enough to get them to apologize. My friend has gotten over it from what I can tell and doesn't give a fuck. my gf not so much.
