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What does legitimate "depression" feel like? Is it really a "disorder" or is that something companies use to try and get you hooked on drugs. Is it something I need to just beat by will? How do I know if I have a real problem?
Sometimes I wake up and I feel like I smoked some kind of "sad drug" or am on some kind of high of self loathing and pessimism. I don't do drugs often, in fact I haven't bother with weed for years, but this is what I feel is an accurate comparison. It's as if I am reverse high, I'm not sad for any...
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>>17217080
You sound more bipolar than just plain depressed. See a professional.
You're one seriously messed up person OP. Seek help
>>17217113
>>17217133
What would they even do?
why can't i post a reply on this board ?
it seems that i can only create threads but not reply to them
wtf ?
>>17217074
Turn off adblock
>>17217074
Do you have adblock installed? I had a similar problem and it got fixed when I disabled it for 4chan.
There is algorithm that weeds out people too dumb to give advice
Well.
I don't know what's going on.
Girls where never interested in mE , im not a really handsome guy, im pretty tall but i don't think im atractive.
Well this past 3 months have been extremly weird for me.
I've been going to partys with my friends,i've been going out more now and after every fcking party 1 girl comes and flirts with me, and i had like 4 relationships in 6 months.
Which coming from a guy who gave his first kiss last year, its pretty weird for me.
I never asked a girl out and i was worried about my life and i didn't...
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enjoy your temporary chad status, girls are dumb and only follow their groupthink. you're just the latest fad
Is English your first language?
It's not.
Soo yeah there are some mistakes.
My bad... xD
Do anti depressants work ?
What re the side effects ?
Are there different brands with different side effects?
No
None
No
I take citalopram it works for me. Not sure what the side effects are other than possible weight gain.
>>17217050
for some people
nothing serious. Sometimes loss of sex drive.
yes.
Is there anyway I can make myself get over my hate for women?
>Beat constantly as a kid by my mother
>Father was an alcoholic and usually just watched
>Then my sister and her friend who were both 6 years older than me molested me when I was 7
>Then I ended up in a relationship from ages 18-21 with a girl who has borderline personality disorder, who manipulated me at every turn, and turned my best friend against me
>Then...
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>>17217025
Stop blaming other people for your problems.
Go see a femdom Disciplinarian for some intense spanking therapy that will leave you bawling like a very very sorry lil boy each session
You can ask someone you know put an ad on CL travel too see one etc
>>17217031
But women, at least up until this point are the root of all my problems.
>>17217039
I'm going to pass.
So i know a 13 year old kid and he learned to program c++ after he learned python and he uses ubuntu any advice for him
>>17216949
https://www.intelligencecareers.gov/icstudents.html
check out the programs for high school students and start grooming yourself for one of them.
>>17216949
Not /adv/ related.
>>>/g/
>>17216949
At least you didn't come out and say your underage like most of them do...
My advice, if you use ubuntu...learn bash. And if you want another language, learn java or c#.
I met a girl recently on tinder. We've been talking the last couple of days and planned on meeting up on Thursday to hang out.
I had a meltdown I guess earlier today and deleted all my social media including tinder & snapchat.
I knew this would close the door with her.
She just texted me assuming Thursday is off. Should I explain what happened or just forget about it?
A meltdown? You shouldn't be dating. Work on yourself and your life right now.
>>17216940
so do I just ignore her texts?
>I had a meltdown
>that picture
Hello my autistic /xivg/ poster. OP is a fucking low life man child.
How do i become a NEET i don't have a house or apartment i live with my parents and im 24 help also NEET only thread
>>17216891
>quit your job
>quit your education
>quit any training
you are done. if you are asking how to get your own place as well, you dont. not unless you win the lottery, get an inheritence, or have parents rich enough and dumb enough to let you do it.
most NEETs live with their parents.
>>17216895
Cool so im half way there now i just need to make NEETbucks
>>17216904
NEET bucks isn't a thing. theres autismbux but you arent going to get them.
Has anyone here ever dated someone with Borderline Personality Disorder? How did it go? How did you deal with the outburts, clinginess etc.?
I just got out of a relationship with someone with BPD. To say it was stressful was putting it lightly. But at the same time it can be addicting because when they are in a good mood they make you feel like the king of the world. I tried to justify it by saying the bad times were worth it for the good times, but in the end it was too mentally taxing. Now I'm emotionally exhausted and probably won't be dating for a few months.
>>17216874
My ex said her doctors wanted to diagnose her wih it just before she ended it with me.
I don't think she had it, but she had traits in common for sure. The good times were worth the bad times. I feel you on not dating for a while though.
Dated a girl with diagnosed bpd for 2.5 years. At a certain point you start feeling like you have a mental illness as well. The good times were so extreme, constant compliments, feeling like I was the best person in the world, literally being put up on a pedestal. But the bad times. Shit. Nothing I ever did was good enough. I would wake up to her calls at 3 am on worknights because someone on the internet said something mean and she was having a panic attack. Her problems were ALWAYS worse and more important than mine. She made me break down sobbing once on my birthday because...
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>>17216874
>probably won't be dating for a few months
oh man
its been almost a year for me and every time i even think briefly about it i nope so incredibly hard. the thought of being in a relationship or anything that is not strictly physical repulses me. im not currently nor was i ever upset about the breakup, it was my idea and im happy as hell that it happened. but im still disappointed in myself for even being in that situation for 10 minutes, let alone 2+ years. i have no advice...
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i'm afraid of people and what they think.
how do i leave?
Wear a disguise
>>17216815
won't they look at me more if i do that?
>>17216806
if you went outside, did what you needed to do, and came home, your life would be EXACTLY THE SAME as it was yesterday, no matter what they 'think'.
How am i suppose to say to this
>bestfriend, might have cancer finding out on sunday
>snapping at me for shite like this
U no speakie engrish?
OP here The nickname was his idea
Chat translation - How am i supposed to know
Please dont be like that if u cannot be bothered talking than say. But please dont be angry about it.
I've been out of a job for 2 years. My resume isn't the issue and I've paid professionals to help me make it better for the Applicant tracking system. My career center doesn't help me. I couldn't get a job/internship while as a student because I was gravely ill. I've been taking courses and learning new skills but it's all for naught. Coffee invites and lunch invites for networking leaves me cold. I cant deal with this anymore and want to end it all for good. This is a nightmare that doesn't want to end. And I want to end it for good by...
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>>17216794
Get a job that doesn't require as much credentials.
>>17216822
I do and I still get turned down
>>17216794
No one will give a fuck if you kill yourself. Except for your family and friends, who you seem to be giving little consideration to. Wanting it to go viral is hilariously misguided, and if that's one of the driving forces behind you wanting to do it you need to seriously reconsider.
People kill themselves every day. Yours will not be special. Even the ones that people are forced to pay attention to like jumping in front of a train are treated as mild annoyances, and only because they interrupt peoples...
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19/f/5'3" around 100lbs
i want to get fucked something fierce but i feel like it's dangerous looking for a stranger to tie me up?? my sex drive dies and flares up every couple of weeks which was fine when i was getting fucked regularly but now i'm in a different city and itching to check out my options. how to i strengthen my willpower and keep myself from heading into some inadvisable shit
Nothing you can do about it. You were born a whore and always will be. It's in your blood. Just embrace it and have fun with it
>periodic sex drive
It's called hormones, and get a boyfriend. Trusting strangers in a way that you give up control to them is unsafe.
>>17216803
i usually have a great time when i do! but there's really a time and a place, not everywhere all the time
>>17216810
my last relationship with a boy ended w him.... trying to kill our tropical fish and i'm just not ready for that again
Recap:
Full bald people say that balding sucks.
Incels say that having no sex sucks.
Now, people with hair and a decent sexual life say that hair and sex don't matter.
Why are they so delusional?
two answers:
first, it can be both at the same time. it sucks not being able to fly but it also doesn't matter.
secondly, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. people tend to magnify the benefit of things they don't or can't have. it's like that thought experiment where most people would rather earn 120k a year and live in a place where everyone else makes 100k, and pick that option over making 200k a year and living in a place where everyone else makes 400k. when someone else has something nice a lot of people get envious...
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>>17216769
>implying that the experience/opinion of a few bald people/incels = the same experience/opinion that all bald people/incels have
I'm mostly bald and have never had sexual intercourse. Balding doesn't suck. It would if i was a girl but balding is normal for guys. Basically it sucked for 1 day after i realized i was going bald but then i started seeing tons of bald people around me on tv in movies etc and nobody cares.
As for no sex, that doesn't suck either. Sex is messy and gross. Masturbate is nice and clean and porn turns me on a lot more than real life
I genuinely have begun to start feeling that there isn't anyone out there for me. I may be calling it way way too early at 22, but I feel so far disconnected from everyone, so far gone that something has to be wrong but I can't figure out what.
I'm at that point of my life where we're (My friends, and the people I know) are becoming full grown adults. Most people I know (excluding myself, have another year) are graduating, getting real jobs. Along with that, many are developing relationships, some are having kids and getting married.
And here...
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bumping with the standard advice
get off 4chan
stop jerking off so much
consider the possibility that you might be a homosexual
lower your standards
see a therapist
become more financially and psychologically secure, so you don't have to be as defensive around the opposite sex
>>17216739
How can people who have had sexual relationships, have friends they like being around, and have an active social life consider themselves to not "fit in" with people?
I'm legitimately confused by this.
I'm like you OP, except I'm 15 years older. I basically just went from wanting a wife and kids to embracing a life of being single and made peace with it.
