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What does legitimate "depression" feel like? Is it really a "disorder" or is that something companies use to try and get you hooked on drugs. Is it something I need to just beat by will? How do I know if I have a real problem?
Sometimes I wake up and I feel like I smoked some kind of "sad drug" or am on some kind of high of self loathing and pessimism. I don't do drugs often, in fact I haven't bother with weed for years, but this is what I feel is an accurate comparison. It's as if I am reverse high, I'm not sad for any particular reason, I go from wanting to be productive to a sack of shit. I don't get it, it just seems to happen.
I wake up, I look at my sexy-ass self in the mirror, I'm feeling good, I'm making today a good day! On my run I think about all the productive stuff I'm going to do today. Then sometimes, I don't start a single one of those things I'll retreat and waste time, or even literally just lie on the floor waiting for this to pass. I feel like it feels when you are drunk and really don't want to be, like there's something that's been introduced into my system that is being metabolized.
Today I just found myself not wanting to be at home, I drove to Target and found myself wandering the aisle for no reason, listing reasons not to kill myself.
Is depression just a meme? It seems like people try to sell it as some unscientific affliction. Is this just how I am?
>>17217080
You sound more bipolar than just plain depressed. See a professional.
You're one seriously messed up person OP. Seek help
>>17217113
>>17217133
What would they even do?
why can't i post a reply on this board ?
it seems that i can only create threads but not reply to them
wtf ?
>>17217074
Turn off adblock
>>17217074
Do you have adblock installed? I had a similar problem and it got fixed when I disabled it for 4chan.
There is algorithm that weeds out people too dumb to give advice
Well.
I don't know what's going on.
Girls where never interested in mE , im not a really handsome guy, im pretty tall but i don't think im atractive.
Well this past 3 months have been extremly weird for me.
I've been going to partys with my friends,i've been going out more now and after every fcking party 1 girl comes and flirts with me, and i had like 4 relationships in 6 months.
Which coming from a guy who gave his first kiss last year, its pretty weird for me.
I never asked a girl out and i was worried about my life and i didn't care about having a gf, but wtf now i go to class and these 3 girls who actually hated me are fighting for me.
And 2 girls that i had no idea they were into me,talked to me and told me that they had a crush on me.
This is really weird for me and im not saying this like: Oh look at me i fck all the bitches.
Even i lost 1 ''friend'' because a girl who he liked was talking to me, i don't know if this happens to alots of guys, because im not fcking hot im average, im a 4/10 IMO.
enjoy your temporary chad status, girls are dumb and only follow their groupthink. you're just the latest fad
Is English your first language?
It's not.
Soo yeah there are some mistakes.
My bad... xD
Do anti depressants work ?
What re the side effects ?
Are there different brands with different side effects?
No
None
No
I take citalopram it works for me. Not sure what the side effects are other than possible weight gain.
>>17217050
for some people
nothing serious. Sometimes loss of sex drive.
yes.
Is there anyway I can make myself get over my hate for women?
>Beat constantly as a kid by my mother
>Father was an alcoholic and usually just watched
>Then my sister and her friend who were both 6 years older than me molested me when I was 7
>Then I ended up in a relationship from ages 18-21 with a girl who has borderline personality disorder, who manipulated me at every turn, and turned my best friend against me
>Then from 22-23 I was with a girl who was cheating on me the entire time, without finding out until recently where I dumped her, which was about 5 months ago
So I'm at the point now, where literally EVERY SINGLE bad thing that has happened in my life was caused by a girl. I've completely lost my ability to trust them, any of them. I've got like this mental block now, and I just don't see myself getting involved with a girl ever again.
Thankfully my mom and dad are dead, and my sister is a fucking useless junkie. With any luck, she won't be for much longer.
Is there any hope to turn around my anger towards women at this point? What would it take? Should I even bother, or should I hold onto it? I just don't fucking know.
>>17217025
Stop blaming other people for your problems.
Go see a femdom Disciplinarian for some intense spanking therapy that will leave you bawling like a very very sorry lil boy each session
You can ask someone you know put an ad on CL travel too see one etc
>>17217031
But women, at least up until this point are the root of all my problems.
>>17217039
I'm going to pass.
So i know a 13 year old kid and he learned to program c++ after he learned python and he uses ubuntu any advice for him
>>17216949
https://www.intelligencecareers.gov/icstudents.html
check out the programs for high school students and start grooming yourself for one of them.
>>17216949
Not /adv/ related.
>>>/g/
>>17216949
At least you didn't come out and say your underage like most of them do...
My advice, if you use ubuntu...learn bash. And if you want another language, learn java or c#.
I met a girl recently on tinder. We've been talking the last couple of days and planned on meeting up on Thursday to hang out.
I had a meltdown I guess earlier today and deleted all my social media including tinder & snapchat.
I knew this would close the door with her.
She just texted me assuming Thursday is off. Should I explain what happened or just forget about it?
A meltdown? You shouldn't be dating. Work on yourself and your life right now.
>>17216940
so do I just ignore her texts?
>I had a meltdown
>that picture
Hello my autistic /xivg/ poster. OP is a fucking low life man child.
How do i become a NEET i don't have a house or apartment i live with my parents and im 24 help also NEET only thread
>>17216891
>quit your job
>quit your education
>quit any training
you are done. if you are asking how to get your own place as well, you dont. not unless you win the lottery, get an inheritence, or have parents rich enough and dumb enough to let you do it.
most NEETs live with their parents.
>>17216895
Cool so im half way there now i just need to make NEETbucks
>>17216904
NEET bucks isn't a thing. theres autismbux but you arent going to get them.
Has anyone here ever dated someone with Borderline Personality Disorder? How did it go? How did you deal with the outburts, clinginess etc.?
I just got out of a relationship with someone with BPD. To say it was stressful was putting it lightly. But at the same time it can be addicting because when they are in a good mood they make you feel like the king of the world. I tried to justify it by saying the bad times were worth it for the good times, but in the end it was too mentally taxing. Now I'm emotionally exhausted and probably won't be dating for a few months.
>>17216874
My ex said her doctors wanted to diagnose her wih it just before she ended it with me.
I don't think she had it, but she had traits in common for sure. The good times were worth the bad times. I feel you on not dating for a while though.
Dated a girl with diagnosed bpd for 2.5 years. At a certain point you start feeling like you have a mental illness as well. The good times were so extreme, constant compliments, feeling like I was the best person in the world, literally being put up on a pedestal. But the bad times. Shit. Nothing I ever did was good enough. I would wake up to her calls at 3 am on worknights because someone on the internet said something mean and she was having a panic attack. Her problems were ALWAYS worse and more important than mine. She made me break down sobbing once on my birthday because she "had a bad day at work" and why wasn't I being more considerate? Not to mention her threatening to commit suicide the couple of times I did try to break up with her.
I've been out of that relationship for over a year, but I'm still pretty fucked up over it. It was so exhausting, like constantly walking around on eggshells. The bpd diagnosis basically gives people leeway to be abusive partners, but you're a bad person if you say anything because "muh mental illness, I can't help it!"
Would never, ever do it again, no matter how good the highs were.
>>17216874
>probably won't be dating for a few months
oh man
its been almost a year for me and every time i even think briefly about it i nope so incredibly hard. the thought of being in a relationship or anything that is not strictly physical repulses me. im not currently nor was i ever upset about the breakup, it was my idea and im happy as hell that it happened. but im still disappointed in myself for even being in that situation for 10 minutes, let alone 2+ years. i have no advice for you, anon. i just hope you have an easier go of it than i did.
i'm afraid of people and what they think.
how do i leave?
Wear a disguise
>>17216815
won't they look at me more if i do that?
>>17216806
if you went outside, did what you needed to do, and came home, your life would be EXACTLY THE SAME as it was yesterday, no matter what they 'think'.
How am i suppose to say to this
>bestfriend, might have cancer finding out on sunday
>snapping at me for shite like this
U no speakie engrish?
OP here The nickname was his idea
Chat translation - How am i supposed to know
Please dont be like that if u cannot be bothered talking than say. But please dont be angry about it.
I've been out of a job for 2 years. My resume isn't the issue and I've paid professionals to help me make it better for the Applicant tracking system. My career center doesn't help me. I couldn't get a job/internship while as a student because I was gravely ill. I've been taking courses and learning new skills but it's all for naught. Coffee invites and lunch invites for networking leaves me cold. I cant deal with this anymore and want to end it all for good. This is a nightmare that doesn't want to end. And I want to end it for good by hanging myself.
What can I write to my parent? Should I make an article/post on LinkedIn describing my troubles, my hate for my university and the people that rejected me (some of which I found out to be discriminatory), and sign off?
I want to leave a note for both my parent and the public to see; to different notes pretty much. The question I'm asking is
What can I write to my parent to let them know I love them but couldn't take it anymore? I got into a fight with my parent and my parent said there was nothing to do.
And what can I write to the public to make sure it goes viral? I don't want a cringe manifesto. I want people to read how hard it was for me, how messed up some of the rejections were, and why I ended up hanging myself
>>17216794
Get a job that doesn't require as much credentials.
>>17216822
I do and I still get turned down
>>17216794
No one will give a fuck if you kill yourself. Except for your family and friends, who you seem to be giving little consideration to. Wanting it to go viral is hilariously misguided, and if that's one of the driving forces behind you wanting to do it you need to seriously reconsider.
People kill themselves every day. Yours will not be special. Even the ones that people are forced to pay attention to like jumping in front of a train are treated as mild annoyances, and only because they interrupt peoples daily lives. The only way you could possibly make it go viral is by championing a noble cause and hoping that your parents will pick up enough pieces of your shattered psyche to make a coherent enough PR campaign for it. Which probably won't happen due to the emotional turmoil they'll go through because of your suicide.
Of course you could make it go viral if you livestream it and post the link here. And no I'm not recommending that you do that. What is the message you want to convey through your suicide? Why not talk to someone here about it?
19/f/5'3" around 100lbs
i want to get fucked something fierce but i feel like it's dangerous looking for a stranger to tie me up?? my sex drive dies and flares up every couple of weeks which was fine when i was getting fucked regularly but now i'm in a different city and itching to check out my options. how to i strengthen my willpower and keep myself from heading into some inadvisable shit
Nothing you can do about it. You were born a whore and always will be. It's in your blood. Just embrace it and have fun with it
>periodic sex drive
It's called hormones, and get a boyfriend. Trusting strangers in a way that you give up control to them is unsafe.
>>17216803
i usually have a great time when i do! but there's really a time and a place, not everywhere all the time
>>17216810
my last relationship with a boy ended w him.... trying to kill our tropical fish and i'm just not ready for that again
Recap:
Full bald people say that balding sucks.
Incels say that having no sex sucks.
Now, people with hair and a decent sexual life say that hair and sex don't matter.
Why are they so delusional?
two answers:
first, it can be both at the same time. it sucks not being able to fly but it also doesn't matter.
secondly, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. people tend to magnify the benefit of things they don't or can't have. it's like that thought experiment where most people would rather earn 120k a year and live in a place where everyone else makes 100k, and pick that option over making 200k a year and living in a place where everyone else makes 400k. when someone else has something nice a lot of people get envious for no good reason.
be happy with what you have. you wouldn't get pissed off because you can't fly, don't get pissed off because you're bald
>>17216769
>implying that the experience/opinion of a few bald people/incels = the same experience/opinion that all bald people/incels have
I'm mostly bald and have never had sexual intercourse. Balding doesn't suck. It would if i was a girl but balding is normal for guys. Basically it sucked for 1 day after i realized i was going bald but then i started seeing tons of bald people around me on tv in movies etc and nobody cares.
As for no sex, that doesn't suck either. Sex is messy and gross. Masturbate is nice and clean and porn turns me on a lot more than real life
I genuinely have begun to start feeling that there isn't anyone out there for me. I may be calling it way way too early at 22, but I feel so far disconnected from everyone, so far gone that something has to be wrong but I can't figure out what.
I'm at that point of my life where we're (My friends, and the people I know) are becoming full grown adults. Most people I know (excluding myself, have another year) are graduating, getting real jobs. Along with that, many are developing relationships, some are having kids and getting married.
And here I am, never been in any sort of committed relationship. I've had a few tinder hookups, which is how I lost my virginity several months ago, but it all has felt empty, and shallow. I really am unfulfilled. Yet no matter how hard I try, I just can't seem to get anything going relationship wise. I can't get close or form a real bond. I look around and now more so then ever feel left out and left behind. It's almost like I don't click with anyone.
And while the core "me" has stayed relatively constant over the years, much has changed imo for the better. I'm at an all time physical health, I have a decent (but wish it was still better) social life, I have some good friends, but at the same time, I feel like I don't belong to any particular friend group either, more that I'm inbetween a lot of groups. Couple that feeling with the inability to get myself a girlfriend I really do, for the lack of a better term, feel like a lone wolf. And it hurts.
What can I do? Besides, "Keep going and it'll come." type stuff because I've been told that for years now, and it still has yet to click.
bumping with the standard advice
get off 4chan
stop jerking off so much
consider the possibility that you might be a homosexual
lower your standards
see a therapist
become more financially and psychologically secure, so you don't have to be as defensive around the opposite sex
>>17216739
How can people who have had sexual relationships, have friends they like being around, and have an active social life consider themselves to not "fit in" with people?
I'm legitimately confused by this.
I'm like you OP, except I'm 15 years older. I basically just went from wanting a wife and kids to embracing a life of being single and made peace with it.
