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If a male friend caresses you while acting silly, and when you get upset says that it's a joke, is it safe to say that they're gay and hitting on you? Should one break off contact with them if one isn't interested in men?
>>17219113
Don't do that or else people will think you're HOMOPHOBIC.
If he keeps doing that ask him what his deal is and tell him to stop.
Gay friends are kinda cool if they don't act like complete faggots.
>>17219118
But why was he doing what he did? Was it some kind of a joke, and I'm overreacting?
>>17219113
Let him clear your sexual orientation . It is best for your friend no false hopes done and neither confused.
My boyfriend is an incredible guy and gives me everything I need, and more. He's incredibly respectful, reasonable, never gets angry when we have small arguments, thoughtful and sweet. I want to marry him. He would make a great father.
One thing that annoys me a little though, is that he's so apologetic for being a man. I want him to feel welcome to take my clothes off and have sex with me whenever HE wants, but he almost always waits for me to initiate. I want him to come home every day and eat the dinner I made him without treating it like I've done some...
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>>17219110
Or you could accept that he doesn't believe in traditional gender roles and respect his right to an opinion, you dumb bitch.
>>17219110
does he personally identify as a feminist? if so, how actively does he propagate these ideas?
>>17219110
Can I have your boyfriend? Lol
In all seriousness communication is your best option. Talk to him about it.
When people look at me, they think I'm successful. The thing is, thats just a mask I wear in public. I feel emty and I just don't have strength to continue anymore.
All that people see is things I have. I own fully loaded Mercedes-Benz and 7 series bmw, I look really good, always dressed up nicely, my body is ripped, I'm 6feet tall and I have plenty of other perks. Girls are looking at me with interest, guys are always asking me how can I have this all and so on.
But here comes the tricky part. No-one sees that I work 7 days a week up to 12h a day...
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duuuude try to relevate or something.
>a life like hell
If you're feeling bad you're feeling bad I'm not gonna tell you you're feelings are wrong or stupid, but I think you should look at all the things you do have instead of what you don't. Read a book about mindfullness or budism or something.
I'm going to help you out with some advice on how to live super comfortably. Live below your means. That means instead of trying to get a two bedroom apartment, go for one. Trade in the BMW for a Honda. You're literally dying, physically and mentally, because of luxury items.
Save the money. Relax. Find a girl friend after you take some time off. You need to step down and take a breather. Also, look into getting on anti depressants. There's no shame in taking medicine. Good luck.
>get bleach
>drink bleach
>???
>profit
Halloo, any suggestions on how to advertise a yt channel?
Basically we have only 5 subs who know us irl, and have no idea how to show our content to a bigger audience
What is your content?
If it's relevant to specific communities, you could try pandering it to them.
Once you achieve a large enough following, you can start making use of tags and keywords to generate more exposure to your content, and possibly sell yourself out to an extent by covering hot topics.
>>17219079
Casual talk over gameplay.
Really simple stuff.
We have plans to make some better videos (philosophical discussion), but that stuff has to wait after finals.
Covering hot topics is not really our style, yt is more of an hobby than anything else, but I'll keep for sure in mind the pandering to specific communities (e.g. some forums for alpha games)
>>17219092
Dear OP
Youtube channel and channel revenue will take you a long time to grow. You have to treat this like a job. It isn't a lick and a prayer.
You need to have a worthwhile personality, decent equipment for recording, a good popular variety of games , etc etc
You also need to set up a twitter, twitch, facebook, Google +, pintrest, tumblr etc etc. Regular updates on all social media platforms.
You're also going to have to work at it for several years. You will need to hit 200k...
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Mfw I realize I ate only fast food yesterday
>learning to cook /adv/?
You should explore your favorite foods
Chicken is easy to roast and a whole chicken is both cheap and good for leftovers.
Man and just buy spinach, eggs, and bacon. It's a well rounded breakfast and easy to make. Just put the eggs on top of the spinach or make breakfast sandwiches.
Save your chicken bones and use them to make stock. Just simmer the bones covered for a few hours and strain out the bones and viola. Soup base. Grab some noodles and leftover chicken and you have chicken noodle soup
>>17219061
boil a cob of sweetcorn. Then make butter mixed with shlimz of garlic and chilli, with some salt. It will make you shwifty nifty. Also, take some vegetables and cook them in the oven, marinate them with oil and herbs. That will spock your shavels!
Someone told me I don't enjoy clubbing because I'm not an attractive girl and therefore if I want to enjoy clubbing I have to make an effort to talk and interact with people
But I don't know how you can socialise with people when there's extremely loud music and everyone sticks to their own social groups
Advice?
This is also a mystery to me. How do you interact with people in clubs?
>>17219057
people are different. You don't have to enjoy the same things that anyone else.
Is kind of sad that you can't decide what you like or don't like but your own but let others decide what you should like.
As a UK university student, I wish more people knew you don't have to enjoy clubbing. I also wish more people knew that people don't want to socialise in the traditional sense, the question is do you want to meet friends and talk or hook up?
How to turn down a girl politely and without hurting her if possible?
This girl at my work place asked a coworker for my number, she apparently have wanted to talk with me for months now.
She added me on whatsapp and we had some short conversations, mostly she's asking me how I was and how I was doing.
She also mentions that I'm "really cute" a lot of times, she likes my face particularly.
The thing is that our conversations go to no where. She's the one always initiating conversations and when I try to ask something to start widening...
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This texting shit is just pure cancer. Ask if she wants to hang out, go grab a coffee or whatever, and see if you click irl or not. This wish washy bullshit can stop and you know if there's any point in talking to eachother.
>>17219043
Namedrop "my girlfriend" into one of your conversations. Tell her you think she's really sweet for asking you about your day as well btw.
>>17219055
That's the issue really.
She is the one that approached me in the first place already saying things like "I like you" and such.
Besides being pretty, she doesn't have much else going for her in my eyes.
She 'likes' me for really superficial reasons and she knows nothing about me.
For example, I hate going in out when I doesn't have to, I like to be indoors all the time, if she had taken her time to get to know me first, she would have realized that.
I won't ask...
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Pretty sure I just figured out the meaning of life.
Everyone wants a strong a frame, everyone wants to feel secure. So they do things to help reinforce their frame of reality.
A drug addict takes drugs, because he is a drug addict, such is the cycle of life.
pls rape my fucking face
>>17219023
People actually figured this out in the 70s. Google "rat park".
>>17219023
>A drug addict takes drugs, because he is a drug addict, such is the cycle of life.
Sorry... Explain?
It sounds like the summary of what you're saying is that people like being alive, and feeling shit.
I uh.... I thought that was obvious.
>mfw people think you become addicted to drugs because you develop chemical dependency, not the other way around
You become addicted to something because the high fills a hole that you have in your life. If you aren't ready to be a slave to something, you can do all the drugs and then be perfectly fine without them.
I want to make my ex feel extremely guilty about leaving me in a sense of that he will be afraid he's responsible for me being miserable. I thought of faking a hospital stay or being in an abusive relationship. Any other ideas? Inspire me.
>>17218985
I hate you and hope you get raped sick bitch.
>>17218985
Why did he leave
>>17218985
don't become that crazy ex story, every guy has one
Hey, what does it mean when attractive coworkers smile and wave at you, then audibly gag when you walk by, then giggle with each other? I can't tell if this is flirting or if they actually think I'm a weirdo.
I'm 27 and married, and pretty open about my wife, she comes into the store a lot, so I'm not asking from an "interested man" perspective, but it makes me feel like I'm in high school all over again trying to guess what people are thinking, and it's not a good feeling.
What does this mean?
they were faking deepthroat noises
they want to suck your dick man
>>17219008
I don't think this is true.
>>17219012
then they were implying you do deepthroat noises
they think you are gay man
Story short, friends excluded me,
got a girlfriend again but got lyed to and heartbroken for the 4th time
I'm 21, sitting in my holiday seaside appt
New friends don't give a shit about me
dont respond to messages..
Only when they need transport or money.
I hate and im numb, don't even give a shit if i live or die anyore
i drive reckless for a kick but it doesnt even work.
>>17218936
I'm gonna get some coffee and smoke a fag
talk to me please...
Do you have anything you like to do that doesn't involve hanging out with friends? Spend time developing a hobby or skill and then find other people who like to do that.
>>17218955
Not really, I'm not interested in anything anymore except for making money.
I just wan't people to hang out with at least twice a week. Just chilling, talking or go do whatever.
I've been dating a guy for 2 years now. We are very close and I feel really lost when I'm without him. However, in the first year of our relationship, he was really critical of little things. At first this didn't bother me much because sometimes he was helpful, but most of it just came off as rude, and it was happening more and more. Things like "What the hell are you doing" because I was breaking down cardboard boxes "the wrong way," etc. After the year marker we got engaged. These were happy times. I still don't know if I'll ever...
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He had an icepack on my head and he said he didn't realize I had been hurt. He'd cleaned everything up. That was the worst thing that had ever happened between the two of us. Everything has, for the most part, been fine since then. Life has been good. He got promoted at his job. We got a new apartment.
This morning I had set an alarm for 9:30. He had asked me to make sure we got up because we have housework to do. But it's nothing on a deadline. I woke up at 9:20 and, still tired and knowing the alarm would go off, I reset it for 10. He woke up at 9:45 and...
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>>17218923
He has unresolved issues- and it looks like you triggered his psychotic episode.
He doesn't want to lose you, but the way he acted was extremely ridiculous.
I'd recommend seeing a therapist together if you value your relationship.
His behavior will escalate if you don't confront him or leave.
Sometimes people lose it, sometimes they're controlling pricks.
>>17218929
Also, are there any other stressors in his life? People tend to lose it when they're under a lot of stress.
The nitpicking will happen eventually in every relationship- just gotta make it clear that it bothers you and he'll stop.
I was seeing a girl for a couple months. She broke it off last week. It was on good terms, obviously I wasn't happy with it but I accepted it and began to move on with my life.
We have mutual friends, so we ended up going to the same party a couple nights ago. Everything was fine between us. We talked plenty and had a good time and it was normal. No hard feelings. Until she hooked up with one of my friends.
Am I wrong to be mad about this? I personally think that a week is way too short a time to be hooking up with other dudes, but the main issue is that it...
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She might have done it to try to hurt you, she might think it's enough time.
If you had feelings for her, it's normal to feel hurt or angry.
Just keep putting it behind you, you can't do anything about it either way.
A great way to see this:
You're lucky and you deserve better than someone who hooks with your friends one week after dumping you.
>>17219321
Yeah I just wish she would say something. I don't even know if I'd respond. I just wanna know how/what she feels about the whole situation. Whether she thinks she's in the wrong or not. Whether she wants to rekindle things. I don't know if she's just giving me space before apologizing.
I mean we're gonna see each other in the future, we have mutual friends, we can't hide from each other.
Mm
My mom gave me this poster for my new apartment..
What does this mean?
She thinks it's pretty, and can't see how someone would disagree with the decision to put it up.
>>17218898
she sees all of your weeb shit like anime and swords and thought you would like it since it's a chinese scroll image poster thing.
She thinks you're gay.
So, I'm passing over to adulthood.
I'm 27 and have lived a pretty good youth imo. I experienced teenage love, had a 16yo girlfriend. Had a cool gang of friends. Traveled abroad and got drunk. I've done some drugs and had some wild nights. I even topped it all of by having a gay experience, because nothing says young and wild like boys love.
Thing is: Every season has its flavor. I feel it is time for me to be a man. I'm to old to have bisexual experineces and teenage girlfriends. That isn't experineces that defines a good period of being...
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Find a Yogini and experiment with tantric sex, and then spend hours upon hours building something with your hands.
>>17218889
I have thought about it a little bit myself.
I guess being young is about exploring things. While being a man is about leading and owning. As a young boy you're about exploring sexuality, experience different types of situations. I mean, really boys love is the apex of adolescant experience, it is an amalgamation of everything essential about youthful identity crisis and intimacy.
I've even looked to Eriksons sosiopsychological model, he says it is a period about productivity and stagnation....
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>>17218900
For some reason I did wish for lego last christmas. I got it too, and I thought "Grown up gifts are fucking lame, fuck clothes, fuck money in a jar, I am one hundred percent satisfied with this pack of star wars lego, fuck yeah!".
I also do enjoy painting and drawing. I like teaching. I like teaching people kickboxing, but I'd rather learn MMA and teach MMA because it is superior.
But what I don't see, and this is really different from being young. I don't see the demand for future experiences. When I was young it was all very clear to me. I wanted that trip to Amsterdam with friends and drugs, I wanted that teenage girlfriend, young love experience. To some degree I even found being a unpredicatable, flexible enough to all of a sudden to things with a boy, to be exciting and something I just "HAD" to do, before I became an boring old fart sitting in a rocking chair, so that I can sit in my rocking chair and go "Yeah, I'm an old fart now, but man my youth had a good run. I even made out with a boy, we were all so pretty back then.".
What I'm wondering about now is what I should do, so that when I am an old fart sitting in a rocking chair, I will say to myself "I had a great run as a young man, I really did the shit out of that X experience, I know I had a good time as a young man because of that!".
