1) No, they can't fantasise because it gets boring after a while
2)No, personal contact can't be substituted by imagination. If you are actually so afraid of getting intimate with people that you have to throw up, you should see a therapist.

What? You can have sexual thoughts without getting an erection. I mean, we dont, obviously all day. I remember some retarded myth about guys thinking about sex every 5 minutes or something, which doesn't happen. No fantasies are not an alternative, and if you have fantasies but the idea of actual sex makes you want to vomit...you have some serious problems you need to get sorted out

>>17219761
1) Usually when I have fantasies about it, I just masturbate and they tend to go away. When I don't masturbate, they'll go away after about an hour and a half, but they're often replaced by new ones after a while.

2) Nah. I could pretend to suck a dick all day long, but stuffing my middle finger in my mouth while jerking off will never be a replacement for actually doing it. I can't really relate to wanting to throw up at the thought of getting intimate, though. I think I'd just be...
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No, for that to be true we'd have to all be the same

>>17219755
>Do you think people are interchangeable?
For what purpose?

In some contexts, people are interchangeable. Rank-and-file foot soldiers are the classic example. When the soldier you just ordered to do something suddenly gets gunned down on the battlefield, you need to be able to point at another random soldier and trust that they'll be able to do the same task.

But in most contexts, I would say that people are not interchangeable. The nigh-infinite variability in...
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>>17219758
>>17219772
both of these.

I do believe there's enough people on the planet that if you piss me the fuck off, betray my trust, screw me over, all three, I won't have a problem dropping you. so in some respects yeah people are replaceable.

may be different with family but I've never really had family like most people who care about family do so I wouldn't know.

>>17219737
>Ive spent several thousand $

I went on 3 dates last weekend and spent $130. A shitty investment.

In time you'll feel better and find someone new if you give it some effort.

>>17219737
> throw money at women
> get sex/ relationship

Yeah, not always, buddy.

Maybe ask her to repay you?

>>17219737
Money means nothing and you shouldn't spoil anyone.
You also didn't include why she broke up with you.

I don't think this necessarily means that you are not in love or something like that. Everyone loves differently, all relationships are different.

Some would even say that having the mindset ''I don't know what to do if my SO leaves me'' is not healthy because then you would be too dependent on your SO.

It is really a matter of what works best for you. If you are happy with your girlfriend now and if you can see a future with her. If you want to be with her and you are contend with this mindset, then why should you worry about not...
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As someone who all-too-often falls into the trap of feeling dependent on my SO, I'd say the way you feel about it is pretty healthy.

Often I let my emotions become dictated by how I feel things are currently going with my gf (even moment-to-moment in a conversation) and I have to consciously detach myself from it because I know it's bad for both of us if I come across that way.

In short, don't worry. Your friend's argument sounds like he was (perhaps unknowingly) rationalising a mindset he knows isn't good for him.

Well both of you are right, but at the same time, both of you are fundamentally approaching relationships with a different stance.

He has invested in the relationship with the aim and resolution that he will do whatever it takes to make it work.His attitude, perhaps, is, "I have weathered a lot of shit with this girl here and came out great, I cannot deal with the trouble and uncertainty of having to go through all the trials again with someone else to find that they are not a good fit for me"

You have nothing invested in the relationship because of an...
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The people on the internet won't care, real life people will frown upon it

if it gets you off, go ahead. most of the people looking at pornographic art aren't really prudes when it comes to realism. it doesn't matter whether or not a man could realistically cum a five foot tall geyser and paint the entire ceiling white, all that matters is whether or not the idea of that happening is fucking hot.

but if you are going for realism, and if you are doomed to virginity forever, just look at a lot of HD closeup porn and take notes I guess.

>>17219668
>Can a virgin draw hentai, anons?
Can they? I suppose so. It would be a good idea to consult with people who have actually done the sorts of things you intend to depict, though.

>How will people react if they find out you draw porn?
This is one of those things that people generally find distasteful. It would be a good idea to use an art name.

>>17219631
nigga it's calling sweating dont bring your science shit in here put on some antiperspirant

>>17219700
excessive sweating, not normal one. the products i have mentioned are antiperspirants, but stronger ones

are you morbidly obese?

Red

Black

And for gods sake wear a belt

Judging from that first sentence you're either not female, or you've never had sex and you just completely don't understand anatomy.

That's the problem with your generation.
Sex is just all physical with you people.
You see all this porn and sexualized media, and all you see is the physical aspect of it all. You see some denial based reward system designed to lure in pubescent children and maintain their attention.

It's no wonder you find sex boring.

>>17219609
I'm female. If someone has sex with me I don't get any pleasure from the fucking, I have to rub my clit while they fuck me, so the whole thing seems pointless

no
why would u
get a life loser lol

Eh, probably not worth it. Also if he had his head on her shoulder he's probably a homo imho

>>17219566
he's not gay and he jokingly said he would rape her since he broke up with a girl with the same body type as mine who he really misses
sounds worse when typed out...
i don't know, he's a good person and i doubt she would cheat

i don't know since i'm in the same boat

Why did you get married to a woman you feel less for? You essentially settled early.

Oh well

>>17219571
As I said, I am totally incapable of feeling affection-type emotions like I used to be able to. I married a girl that I love (true love, respect, trust, communication, etc.) and who is better in every way (or almost every way) than her (and other girls.) Trust me, I married the right girl.

What I'm talking about here is just some emotional noise and 10-year resentment that I'm trying to deal with.

Wake up OP your coffee is getting cold...

She's thirsty as fuck, but be careful of that. I personally would never have a roommate of the opposite sex. For all you know she might be trying to pull a 'room and board for sex' deal with you

>>17219550
she most probably wants to bang u bro
test the waters out blad

No, you can also suck dick.

>>17219536
The English equivalent is kiss ass (he is an ass kisser, or she kisses the bosses ass, etc.)

And I don't see why friends woyld need to be slimed up to in order to like you. If they don't like the normal you, thats on them.

>>17219541
But everybody 'kisses ass' in the start dont they? to show they like the person

You're right, she is a bad mother. And unfortunately it's not a lack of skill or something that can be fixed. It's a lack of empathy, which isn't exactly something I believe can be taught. Chances are she might always be 'that' mother. Just be the level headed, good dad to your child, maybe lead by example? Tough call

>>17219479
She is a bad mother. She should have ignored the tantrums even if he was a 15 year old. All she does is undermine his respect towards her. If she can't control herself, the kid will never respect his mother or take her seriously because she doesn't behave more mature than he does.
The only solution to the problem is that you as the father earn your son's respect by showing self control and acting as an adult. Be an authority and only give him attention when he deserves it. That way he will have...
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>>17219496
It's sad that this woman I love so much hurts my baby so bad. I think in her home as a child she was never tough how to display love/empathy. Not entirely her fault but it is as if she does not realize it. Anyway, thanks for your reply. I'll defiantly be the level headed one.

>>17219456
Also, I do not have any issues or problems that would be a reason to check up on me daily.

That does seem a bit extreme, but you also have to consider the fact that she loves you and misses having you around. Get her to call you less, but take some time like a weekend to go stay at her place.

I'm 28 and about once a month I go visit my parents at their house and we have a great time for a couple days, they only live 1.5 hours away though.

>>17219467
We do meet 2-4 times a month, unless I am away, either at my, my brother's or her place.

Also, she is employed, she lives with her husband, I am not the only person she could speak to.

Give up. You're not mentally prepared to do anything to help your situation, in reality you're just fucking yourself in the ass with a cactus.

Heal your mind and soul first, then consider your academic future, since you're not currently taking it seriously.

>>17219421
Well, if I don't retake them I'll be kicked out of college for good, so it's my only hope for my academic future.

Yeah, I too would recommend some rnr. But go see your school's psychologist. Obviously you need to work shit out.

sauce: me on academic probation for the 3rd time in almost 4 years.