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Who's being hypocritical here?
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a month. She came over early yesterday morning, and I told her to get in the shower with me. I got very into the moment and ended up fucking her with no condom on (she was fully aware that I had no condoms and also told me she expressly came over to have sex). I didn't cum inside her, and I don't even think I precame, but I cant be sure on that front. It's possible. She is not on birth control.
This morning, I got her a Plan B pill. I apologized for not using a condom, and told her I wouldn't do that anymore, but so we were both safe she should probably take this. We met and she took the pill, but wasn't very happy about it. When I asked her what was wrong, she said the "darkest time in her life" was when her ex had her take a morning after pill. Apparently this is because she's religious.
However, she's cool with condoms, and cool with going on birth control once she moves out of her parent's house. I explained to her that Plan B wasn't an abortion pill, and couldn't stop an existing pregnancy. She got defensive "I know how it works"
I don't understand why she would be cool with having sex before marriage, using condoms and birth control, but for some reason has an issue with Plan B pills and is now probably going to be sad/mad or a number of weeks and not want more sex.
Am I just at fault for not using a condom in the first place, or is her point of view nonsensical?
>>17216188
she's an idiot IMO. You don't have anything to do with whatever situation made her upset last time. She should realize that.
Any form of abortion fucks people up psychologically because of all the what ifs.
>>17216195
>any form of abortion
By that logic she should feel bad for all OP's sperm that has gone to waste and died in a latex prison
Help!!
4chan I need some help and advice.
I was really horny and decided to masturbate with an egg. It popped inside me. I tried to fish everything out. It was a slightly bloody yolky mess. I still have eggshell particles inside my pussy and I don't know what to do. If my husband wants sex I have to decline. He'll get scraped up and I'll have some explaining to do.
I don't want anyone to know. I need help to get the rest of this mess out of me.
I'm not joking. Thanks ADV
>>17216162
You might give birth to chickens. Happened to a friend of mine.
just wash your cunt out
is that really that difficult?
just get up in there with your fingers
also if your gonna masturbate with an egg hardboil it next time ya dingus
Can you take a shower?
How do I into therapy, /adv/? I'm in my mid-twenties and super anxious. I don't have a general practitioner, but I've tried to do research into what kind of counselor/therapist/whatever would best suit my needs, but I don't know how to even approach someone about getting the help I need. Is it really just taking the plunge and calling or emailing about setting up an appointment? Sorry if this is too vague.
A therapist is going to be a worthless money pit. A Psychologist is what I think you're looking for.
And, yeah just call up a practice, ask if you can get an appointment as a new patient, and go from there. Helps if you know your insurance and if they accept it before hand, you can usually check online.
>>17216150
assuming you have insurance its as simple as calling said therapist's office and aksing if they take your insurance then booking. go in knowing what oyu want tos ay even if its just 'im sad all the time and dont know why'.
i also recommend not going back if they immediately go for pills. you want someone who is more of a 'coach'. who talks out what the issue is, advises you on how to fix it, then lets you have at it
>>17216150
Search for psychologists in your area. Choose one that takes your insurance. You will need to call around to find out.
Then you just go. They'll pry stuff out of you. You don't need to know what to say or where to start. They know.
Sold a PS4 just a few hours ago, buyer pays with paypal and for postage as well. Then asks to collect it.
Is he trying to scam me? He only has 8 feedback.
>>17216133
When you get the money is when you ship it.
>>17216142
He's already paid with paypal, if he collects it can't he claim it wasn't delivered?
>>17216171
did you ship it with a signature confirmation required?
I think there is something wrong with me. When I try to interact one-on-one with a person I always think that I'm not entertaining the other person, as if I'm being boring.
In groups I'm not really the conversation starter, but I always make the jokes or I'm the funny guy, but when the group dissolves and it's just me and other guy I don't do any of those jokes, I just have a normal conversation, something I think isn't enough.
Is there something wrong with me?
>>17216113
You're insecure and have anxiety
>>17216113
Why you really care about this? If you feel like you could talk about something then do it and that's it. It's not like 100% of the time YOU have to entertain people. Chilll
>>17216113
dont give off the impression that it is your job to entertain them. if you act like its your job to serve everyone in life, your job to keep conversationg oing, you are going to be miserable and people are going to treat you the way you act: like a slave.
be your own solid person content in your space and other people will want to talk to you. or they wont. its not your job to keep everyone entertained anon
I want to have sex with my aunt.
Any advice?
I'm 100% serious.
/adv/ - Incest
>>17216022
Why not?
Please, anybody...
Guys, I think I'm addicted to spending time with people. I'm realising I'm basically a keyboard warrior when it comes to talking to people on whatsapp and shit, and I legit feel really lonely without people, to the point where I'm actually down.
I also get paranoid in some cases when people don't reply to my shit.
Obviously this is a problem, because now I'm personally feeling like I have less independence.
What do I do? Is this actually a bad thing?
Internet psychology proposes dependent personality disorder,
>>17216012
can you elaborate a little?
There's also maslow's hierarchy of needs. It's normal for people to want to socialize and be accepted, but I guess it's causing you some mental doscomfort.
I dont know what to do with my life... i've been with this girl for the past 6 months and we basically planned our entire life together... ive never met anyone like her and... im lost..
Then get off the computer and fight for her
>>17215934
Carry on and hope it works out?
She's moving abroad by the end of the year... i don't think i'll ever see her again...
How should I break it to my girlfriend of 2 years that she wants me to give up things that I am basically not willing to?
Earlier this year, I gave up drinking for her, and to be honest, I really regret it. We used to go out drinking all the time. I also did it for mental health reasons because I was close to having a breakdown back in January, and think I have a better handle on that stuff now, but I think the only reason I still abstain is because I promised. One beer with a friend at a BBQ or a glass of wine at dinner is not going to spiral out of control.
Anyway, she thinks I shouldn’t smoke weed, which she had no problem with before (especially given the stories I've heard about how much she used to do in college), and also thinks that looking at porn or even just masturbating is cheating.
I don’t really want to break up, we just got an apartment together, but I just can’t see myself moving relationship into marriage unless she can accept that I will do these things when I want. I’m not even a stoner or a huge porn addict. Even before we were together, I would masturbate maybe once a week. Same frequency for smoking.
I want to talk about it but she is so insecure, I don’t think it will be productive, if I just begin with, “so… I want to talk to you about how I’m gonna get high and jerk off pretty much whenever I want and I don’t think you have the right to tell me not to.”
Pic not unrelated. It's me slowly dying on the inside because I feel like my individuality is being stolen from me.
>>17215928
>I don’t think it will be productive, if I just begin with, “so… I want to talk to you about how I’m gonna get high and jerk off pretty much whenever I want and I don’t think you have the right to tell me not to.”
i mean dont say it like that
but do say it, and reassure her that porn has literally nothing to do with her
as for getting high, just tell her you know what you can handle better than she does.
dont give ultimatums. if she does, ditch her.
>>17215944
>but do say it, and reassure her that porn has literally nothing to do with her
I don't know what to do about this specifically. She cannot wrap her head around watching porn not being the same as literally wanting to have sex with other girls. I would turn down any porn star if propositioned, but I will use it as a visual aid in the privacy of my own home to have a sexual release when I don't want to have sex or it is inconvenient. She also doesn't get why is would ever just jerk off instead of having sex. It is difficult to explain. It's like I don't want to do foreplay and romance then fuck for half and hour. I just want to cum in 5 min and get on with my evening.
How open are you about both of those things? Do you make it obvious you are high or about to go smoke weed / do you jerk off in plain sight of her or during the day?
Some people consider porn and weed forms of "escapism" and while it might seem harmless, both of them are purely hedonistic activities that are exclusively for your enjoyment and have nothing to do with her. She might think that you haven't grown up if you still depend on these things, even if you believe that they're harmless and you shouldn't have to give them up.
I personally don't think that giving those things up cold turkey are necessary, but you should make an effort to separate it to your own "personal time". You can either look at it as being robbed of your personal freedom, or you can see it as getting rid of personal dependencies.
How do you deal with knowing you'll never date or sleep with a hot girl? (unless you pay)
Well that's fucking pathetic, it's not impossible to get some female attention. Just start from the smallest of changes, for example hygiene and haircuts, better clothing and all that shit. Try and chat, talk with women on social media or whatever, improve on the things you suck dick at. Just get your shit together you piece of shit.
>>17215919
never really had that issue. i mean im no chad, but the girls i sleep with are attractive enough and once in a great while i end up scoring some mega hottie and having no idea.
if you really cant bring yourself to work out, be a good guy, and possibly get plastic surgery, then consider that life isnt about banging or dating hotties.
if you are fine settling, settle. you'll always feel a twinge of jealousy. no denying that. my girlfriends hot as fuck but there are still other girls with bigger butts i find myself lusting after.
but ultimately she is fulfilling, as were most of the girls ive dated.
>>17215937
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a slob. I work out I'm in decent shape, I'm stylish etc all that jazz, but I'm pretty sure I'll never get a girl like an 8 or a 9
Even women who are 6/10 are super picky these days let alone the gorgeous ones
>>17215938
I'm too introverted to date, the occasional date I get through dating apps is about it and they go nowhere
When applying to a job, Are you required to inform the employer of military service if they ask? Could I check off "no" to avoid questions about this part of my life? is it illegal?
No, man, go ahead. You can also check the box that says you have a college degree even if you don't. Just make some shit up about your educational history. It'll be cool.
why wouldn't you want to inform them of military service? wouldn't they see you as being more disciplined/mature?
>>17215898
OP doesn't want them to know that he killed some people
I have had sex with seven women, and have had two relationships that I think had appeared serious. Yet, I've never experienced love for a woman. I've been thinking about this all morning, and I feel like a fucking waste. I want to meet the love of my life, have kids, and grow old with her.
What do I do? Is there anybody else that has an issue with this? I feel so empty
>>17215798
Believe in memes they will guide us.
I have had sex with zero women, and have had zero relationships that I think had appeared serious. Yet, I've never experienced love for a woman. I've been thinking about this all morning, and I feel like a fucking waste. I want to meet the love of my life, have kids, and grow old with her.
What do I do? Is there anybody else that has an issue with this? I feel so empty
Nevermind what you want, are you the kind of guy that women want to marry and have kids with?
If not, you now have a goal of working towards being that kind of guy.
It's not difficult m8, you've just got to want it and be prepared to give other things up for it, as with all things in life.
My job is crushing my soul.
I've decided to quit.
I've got money for more or less 18 months.
I haven't got another job içlined up, but I feel If I don't quit I'll kill myself.
What do?
IT job. If I don't I feel spineless. If I do I feel like a slacker.
What do?
>>17215783
Quit. People don't live to work, you work to live. If you hate your job, then don't do it. Other things in life are more important and the chances are that you'll find a new job eventually.
>>17215783
Try to send out your resume and get another job lined up first, but definitely quit. You'll regret it and hate yourself if you don't.
>>17215783
>My job is crushing my soul.
Why? Is it the people? The environment? The project? The actual tasks?
>I've decided to quit.
Depending on what exactly you find so soul-crushing, you might be not need to actually quit. If you could achieve the same effect by transferring to another project or location, this would be easier to pul off.
Of course, if it's the company or the nature of the work, then you have no choice but to quit. Same goes if there's only one project or office. You do what you've gotta do. But I don't have all the information, so I need to cover other possibilities.
So its not something extremely intense at this moment but I always had this sort of problem, I didn't care too much but I'm starting to worry for the following: It might be troublesome in the future when I work in what I'm studying, which is electronics so that involves circuit repairing and other tasks of precision, I'm scared of wasting 5 years of my life getting the engineering degree and then find out it was a mistake.
Any suggestions? Is this something treatable? Or that can be controlled with some sort of medicament or exercise? Should I study something else? (I really don't wanna, but I gotta think about my future).
Thanks for any advice.
Does it run in the family?
Does alcohol decrease the shakiness?
I was diagnosed with something similar, and when i whined to my neurogist that i would become a terrible surgeon, he was unimpressed.
Does your hands shake constantly or when you put force into them?
>>17215781
Completely anecdotal, but my friend has an overactive thyroid and that causes her hands to shake. It's genetic, and she needs to take medication for it when it gets especially bad. See a doctor to make sure it's not something serious.
Gonna keep it short.
>meet chick on dating app (she liked me back)
>try to talk to her
>she only gives short, closed answers
>after a whole afternoon talking, lose it and ask her if I'm boring her and why she even liked me in the first place
>suddenly she perks up, gives contacts
>starts calling me shit like "cutie", and "sugar" out of the blue (english not my first language)
>urges me to meet her
This was very sudden, but I still went with it. She's treating me almost as if we're dating. Sorry if I sound autistic, but what the fuck is going on here?
You come off as insecure. Don't ask a woman if she thinks you're boring. You should know if you're boring or not. And if there's a chance you might be boring, make yourself not boring
>>17215772
I just got fed up with her lack of effort. I guess I should've just stopped talking instead of saying that. But still, why did she respond like that? I though she'd just tell me to fuck off
>>17215760
women often do this at the start, and even when they start talking more, its mostly shit what they say anyway.
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