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How to be a mentally strong person?
I think I'm destroying myself with addictions and emotional weaknesses ..
I'm addicted to masturbation, I have social phobias, wide study to be watching television or stressing me with xbox .. mistreat people by personal problems sometimes, I dont eat healthy food and to eat cookies ... I just want to be someone better.. I just dont know what I can do useful, but I know I have much free time. I just want to use in the best way and do not know where to start to do so.
I believe that almost all this is resolved...
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I just want to be productive and learn to live like that day after day .. like an autopilot.
And not for addictions .. for procrastination ..
she has a boyfriend wtf
>>17215334
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Check that out OP
I have 23 matches with uninteresting women that dont give me any information in there profile or anything to break the ice. Maybe yall can give me neutral ice breaker that is better then just saying "Hey"??
Ps fresh on the market, it has been 6 years since I pursued a woman so I am a little rusty.
>You got my number, text me =P
>>17215346
>>17215363
>alright hun
>10 hours ago
![onii_chan_notice_me_by_aliddell-d7zzah3[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/0yJwLJz.jpg "onii_chan_notice_me_by_aliddell-d7zzah3[1].jpg")
is it bad that i want to fuck my sister?
well actually, im sort of in love with her, it started as kind of a kinky fantasy but damn shes cute, and were basically best friends, tough she's a normie i got her to watch anime with me and its been our thing since like 2 years or whatnot, we often do sex jokes and sometimes she calls me "onii-chaaaan" and my heart/dick explodes
shes everything i want a human being to be, and it completes my life,i think the only reason i didnt try an advance is because shes got a bf.
this week ive been contemplating to tell...
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simple course of action
>>17215331
When she tells her boyfriend you're a creep he'll beat the shit out of you.
How the hell do you think she'll take it? She'll be creeped out and she'll start avoiding you. And she won't call you onichan again.
How do I tell my girlfriend to blow me, in a romantic way? She's become decent at it and I love it, but she only very rarely does it on her own.
Note to virgins from /r9k/: don't give me any macho, "just tell her to suck it, if she doesn't obey you, she's fucking someone else" bullshit.
>>17215302
Just ask for it man
"Heu babe will you give me head?"
There you go
No need to coddle her
>>17215302
^ Agree with that guy, just gotta ask her and she'll start doing it for you
>>17215307
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My brother is a renowned liar, manipulator, and abuser. He was once friends with my boyfriend, but my boyfriend got upset with how trashy my bro acts when he is using, and they had a falling out several years ago. At multiple points in my relationship with bf, brother has made false claims to try to make me break up with bf (i.e. he's addicted to porn, goes to strip clubs, etc.) All his lies did not add up or make sense timewise, so I ignored it. Like he'd say my bf was at strip club on night when I was with bf.
More recently, my bro made accusation that my...
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>>17215290
Also, my mom got involved in this, and trusts my brother more (she is also in denial about his addictions). So she also believes my brother more than my boyfriend. Which is really tearing me apart, because emotionally/instinctively I want to believe my family, but my brother has lied so many times that I also don't.
Thoughts of doubt will always linger. Did I turn the oven off? Was the email sent to the right address? Does this make me look fat?
From what you've said and how his schedule sounds, I really doubt that he is cheating on you. I'd do some research into this supposed other woman though, if you really want to be sure.
But if your brother is using then tells you something, take it with a grain of salt. People say a lot of weird shit when fucked up.
>>17215298
The girl is almost off grid. She has a facebook, but never goes on. She's in a relationship for several years, and has a child with her boyfriend. But, I know she has a thing for my boyfriend. We went to high school together.
I have an interview on Monday for a program on Monday that's supposed to encourage diversity... I really want to get it, but unfortunately I'm a FUCKING WHITE MALE... Would it improve my chances if I play a gay character during the interview?
No but if you cross dress and act like a female it will. Everyone is looking for trans workers.
>>17215287
Better yet, suck the interviewer's dick. That'll really help the gay angle.
You might try putting on some black face as well, it'll probably be just as convincing.
I am wondering because I am a male and I just don't have what it takes to attract a female right now. I have no dating capital. Anyway, what is sex like? I guess this is a attempt to live vicariously.
I am kind of fearful of sex too. Seen lives ruined by one orgasm.
Anyway, what is sex like? Am I missing much? It seems difficult to even get to that point in a relationship.
>>17215245
if you have a shit life already it won't change much
>>17215245
> lives ruined by one orgasm
the fuck
And honestly dude, don't go out looking for women unless you're just trying to get some ass. Let them come to you, after you work your life out. Things just fall into place.
>>17215245
I'd say you're missing out on a bit. It's pretty good, different to masturbation. I'd almost say it's better than jacking off, but a better word would be different.
The orgasms seem to last longer when I'm having sex too.
here we go.
>seeing a doctor because I'm depressed
>4 months in and I'm already feeling better
>7 months and I'm feeling great
>meet girl, didn't even want to have a relationship at the start
>fall in "love"
>she straight up Mosbys me the third time we see each other (I love you, we will stay together, I never found anyone like you etc)
>happy...
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Shit like that isn't always worth getting worked up about. Sure relationships are fun and interesting, but they're not always going to be THE relationship that changes your life.
I'd say just focus on yourself and what you really want anon. One month isn't very long of a time, nor is it a good sign that by the third date she's acting SUPER into you.
Do something unrelated to all that, something that would make YOU happy. It's okay to miss her and the distraction she gave you, sure. But don't let THAT define who you are.
You're...
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Theoretically therapy will keep helping you if you keep going. It's normal to feel like shit after a 180 turn like that- It might take a long time to get over it though. If shit ended in a month though..things probably weren't gonna last. There's no "What could have been" only "What is", and that's simply that you can't let yourself get so down over something so fleeting as other people. Accept happiness when it's there- But you have to build up a solid foundation for that happiness to rest on, or you'll find yourself here...
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>>17215233
Allow yourself time to mourn your ended relationship. even if it was only a month, you clearly had a lot of energy and hope invested in it and it's normal to be angry. Just stay strong dude you'll get over it.
How do you deal with immoral and honorless SO? Can I teach him to be a better person?
He is constantly doing immoral and criminal shit, cheating and abusing other people, while remaining completely safe and hidden. He always justifies his actions like "Life is a competition" and "I do it for me/us/for everyone's well being" and shit like that. Nah, you just have no honor and you are selfish. You should think about other people.
Break up with him you dumb fucking retard.
He won't change and you can't make him.
>>17215206
That's not a "solution".
>>17215211
It's a resolution you should take asap.
So Im trying to live a more fulfilling and exiting life. My main goals as of now are to make make more friends, sleep with/ date more women(their are a few I can peruse but tend to want what I cant have), and become part of a social group. My dilemma is I that I dont know which mindset to have when doing this. Do I act sincere and caring about other peoples experiences, emotions, and problems whilst sharing mine with them? Or do I take the sociopath route and not give a fuck attitude and live my life with selfish tendencies only looking out for myself? You would think that being...
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>don't be gross (fat, smelly etc)
>don't talk about anime
I dunno, man, if you are attracted to sociopath route, you may stick to it.
Though I advice you be true to a number of friends. It's important to have good friends.
I tried faking what i like to fit in and fell into deppression, you mightn't be that weak.
>>17215187
I act like I care about other people because I actually care about them, not because I'm pretending because I think that's how to get them to like me.
I don't really give much of a fuck if other people like me. What I care about is if I like them, and those are the people I choose to spend time with.
So, I've been bitching about some back pain for awhile now, and I finally saw my first primary physician earlier in the week. While I haven't had a follow up with him since I saw my test results from the samples he took.. I had some questions I asked him and am waiting for a response on.
But, basically the test results indicated that my kidneys are in bad shape. Something about being less than 60 of something, which if constant can lead to kidney disease/failure.
Which leads me to wonder since I haven't actually been told the cause of my back pain,...
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who` quote? start with black canvas since all in the world is black until gets lit
>>17215208
>pain in lower right back
>just off spine, above hips
>dull, chronic, but not consistent
>pain comes and goes, never lets me sit comfortably, or even lay
>had for years, but as of past 2-3 months pain has increased when present
>>17215223
thats definitely kidneys son
So, i've been talking to this girl for about a year. She's a bit younger than me, financially dependent. Living with her parents.
And we talk daily, she has very few friends. And i've been telling her that i really want to meet her, to hang out and whatnot.
She basically said it would be cool, but always had this approach, that maybe later, when she isn't living with her parents, or when she moves to another town.
And she has been to my city several times before, but she told me she's always with her mother guarding her, so obviously...
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Man up and ask what the fuck is up with her not wanting to hang out. If she doesn't want to, get over it. If she does, hot shit.
Don't ever puss out on something like this, or you'll puss out later in life because of this.
nice b8 fag
>>17215152
I'm totally ok with asking her about it. The thing is, how do i ask her about that without sounding needy or butthurt? Image sure she'll say something like "I've been tired, didn't have much time, had to watch my friend" etc. I'm trying to figure out how to say anything without sounding like a beta needy diva.
>>17215180
Dude just ask her. Don't get passive aggressive or anything, just straight up ask if she even wants to hang out. If you have to, tell her you won't get mad or anything and just want an answer.
Don't ever let a woman define who you are.
Any advice on how to have of a quick suicide ? How to get over the fear of death? I'm a lazy 18 year old idiot who doesn't deserve to live
> inb4 they discourage me
>>17215107
Meant to say how to have a quick painless suicide
Stopping your heart would be the quickest way but it is an autonomous body function. You can try holding your breath but it is also physiologically impossible. The next quickest way would be to move yourself to the kitchen and apply the nearest knife to your neck.
>>17215118
What if I have someone smother me in my sleep?
I think I have a problem. Some YEARS ago I had a job at a day care. No idea how a friendless amoral, somewhat of sociopath fuckhole like myself got this job but I held for a couple years. Now there was a girl there that I clicked with pretty well and we got 'close' (for the context our relationship). I used to bring her snacks and shit and share mine with her. I really truly care/cared about her and I can't get her out of my fucking head. It's been YEARS this can't be normal. How do I fix this?
>>17215086
kill yourself, pedo
>>17215086
Was the girl 20?
>>17215115
i knew from like 6-8 ish y/o
>>17215100
not a pedo, its more of a friend thing. i dont give a fuck about anyone but we clicked really well. she sort of tried to keep in touch when it was time to part ways but i blocked it.
I am a 25 year old male and I just don't possess that drive to do things. My sex drive is super weak, I hate traveling, hate going to bars and clubs, hate going to concerts. I feel like I am not living though. Everything seems super boring and the only thing they seems fun is video games. My job feels like shit but it pays decently.
I want to do so much but don't have the drive. I never even had a girlfriend. I feel like age 30 is rapidly approaching and it feels like once you turn 30, your life turns to shit.
Please help me. I feel like I have to cram...
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Your life is shit, and you're worried about it falling apart in five years?
Everybody is different.
Don't buy into the 'OMG 30 YEARS OLD AND I START DYING' bullshit. If you maintain a healthy diet that can be lengthened to 40-50.
Get your life in order, you live once, stop acting as if you're some sort of irresponsible passenger in a body that you have to coexist with. Take control.
>>17215034
Yes, I know people who are my age and married with kids already. I am deeply fearful of marriage and children. DEEPLY. Like to the point where babies make me uncomfortable.
I just feel like I have not lived enough. I feel like I need to go to a strip club and slap stripper ass and do other racey shit.
Am I having a quarter life crisis?
